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hi, im 16 yrs old in along distance relationship and i just need help

Alrighty, well. I totally agree with long distance relationships. I used to have tons of them, with people in chatrooms & crap. But, do you mean like a longdistance like you two were good friends and then he/she moved away, or you've never met before? Leave your IM name, and I'll happily just im you. K?

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As indicated by the subject of this question, this is another one of those 'omg am i in love? or is it lust? or is it... something my mind made up to mock me?" type questions. So please bear with me. this is going to be a LONG question or series of questions. If you don't believe me go ahead and scroll down and look.

My first question would be to the guys: Do you guys enjoy flirting with a girl before making any type of move? It seems to me that guys find it fun to seem interested in a girl then totally shoot her down. Or something to that effect. Do guys believe in real honest-to-goodness true love? Or do you guys just see flings [right word?] as the right thing and see how many girlfriends you can get and then dump before you graduate high school/college? Right now, I would to state that no, I am not biased in seeing guys as heart-breakers and have no feelings. I'm just wondering, since I have no idea what a guy's notion of flirting is. Do guys believe in love at first sight or true love? Or is it that the only love left in this world is more similar to lust? Do you guys have high standards in what you expect in the 'perfect' girl?

Girls. Do any of you girls find yourselves falling in love with every single guy that comes along and makes an impact or small dent in your life? Do you find yourself daydreaming about the cute guy you've never talked to before or one of your new guy friends falling in love with you? Do you believe that out there, somewhere, there is a perfect guy? Do you believe that you'll meet him before you graduate high school or after? before you graduate college or after? I'm the type of person who wants a soul mate before graduating high school. High standard but what can I say? Almost every girl dreams of finding the perfect one before too long. Is it wrong to have too many high standards for what you want in a guy?

Now this section is to either gender. How do you know if you're truly 'in love' and not lusting? People probably have asked this question many times before, but I'm still curious. I've fallen in and out of love faster than you can say "omgimthinkimlove~". I can't really trust my feelings so saying things like "just trust your heart" does not bode well with me. What's the difference between love and lust as in how do you know when you feeling lust instead of love? Can you trust yourself to truly to be 'heads over heels' in love? Can your deep feelings of love be a fabrication of your mind when it senses that you're really lonely? Define true love, give me how you feel when you believe you're truly in love.

Anyone who bothers to read this entire question passage and cares to think deeply about the questions i've asked and answers thoughtfully would definitely get a 5. I would be really surprised if more than three people answer more than three questions or bother to answer at all. Answer more than two questions at least please. If you read this far, congratulations you get a virtual cookie and probably a 5 if you answer all the above questions [depending on if you're a girl or guy] or more than three. Idiots who have no idea what they're saying and are trying to sound philosophical will have a 1 branded on their foreheads or something.

Hey, I'm a girl =P
I do tend to "fall in love" with every guy that makes a small impact in my life. I never realized that until now, like I'll start talking to some guy & then I'll tell him that I love him, and then I meet another guy and tell him I love him and I'll stop talking to the first guy. That's how it is with me, unfortunetly. =/ Haha, yes I do find myself daydreaming about my guy friends falling in love w/ me :) Yes, I think somewhere out there, there's that one special perfect guy, just for me! I'd like to tell myself I already found that special guy, but I shouldn't because I don't think I have, I'm only a sophmore in highschool. How pathetic is that? I'm not really sure when I'll meet him, hopefully soon but I don't know. :/ I don't think it's wrong to have high standards on guys, but I'm not like that at all. So, I don't have to worry if he's like fat or too tall or whatever.

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well i like this guy at my school. Last year he used to be soooooooooooo annoying but this year i think he's really cute! but i cant tell if he likes me!!! plz help!

here's some signs that he might like me...........................

1. he always talks to me
2.he asked me to sit on his lap (being me i said no)
3. really nice to me
4. he usually goes out of his way just to talk to me ( like one time he was late for class because he was talking to me)

-sammy

It sounds like he could potentially like you. It seems like he's flirting with you a little ;D hehe. The only way to actually find out though is to ask him yourself, by IM - notes, or get your friend to ask him for you! =P

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how do you approach a friend who used to be your best friend but now you barely talk ? i have a friend nd we used to be best friends but out of nowhere its like i dont even exist anymore ..

Just go up to her & be like, omgosh do you remember that one time we did this, and that. Blah blah. Just relive memories you guys had together, like funny ones. =)

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I'm really, really bored right now. I'm sick of the computer, there's nothing on TV, I don't feel like playing video games anymore and I'm tired of guitar for now. It's about 9:30 PM, so there's no outside activities I can do. Does anybody have any ideas to get rid of my boredom? Thanks.

Talk to me! :) iwas actually foreal, do you have AIM?

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I'm really confused about a lot of things. I think that I may be bisexual, but I'm not really sure how to tell. I wonder if telling myself I am is what's making me that way. I've never done anything with someone of the same sex, but I've talked to people about bisexuality and I think about it a lot. How do you know you're bisexual? I know it's probably different for different people, and please don't say "you just know". Thanks in advance, any serious answers will be helpful.

Well, I'm not bisexual. But I asked my friend and he clearly said this. "For girls, its sometimes when she sees that a lot of guys mistreat her friends or such and starts to find the same sex attractive. Something like that." I hope I helped. Personally, in my perspective, but being straight; I think.. you'd know if you're just around more girls then guys, but I think before you label yourself bisexual, you should try some stuff w/ girls to see if you really think you are. I used to think I was bisexual in 7th grade, but it was just something that lasted a couple of months. I thought I felt more comfortable around girls then guys. But it was just that I was around a lot more girls then guys. :)

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hey, i'm a sophomore in high school and i attend an all girls school. I've been at this school since freshman year and it's a really great school. It's great academically and the activities are great, but their's one problem.. and that's the social aspect. I've been thinking about transferring because I really don't fit in at school at all. I am in honors classes and i take an AP class and i've been in class with basically the same girls and i don't fit in with them at all. They are so different from me and i've given them a chance and it doesn't work. I've talked to a lot of people that aren't in my classes that i'm in theatre with, but it isn't working for me. THeirs another school in my area thats a boy/girl school that i coudl transfer to. i don't know if maybe that would be a better option, i could start over and make new freinds .. i just don't know if its worth risking my good academic standings at my current school and the awesome extracurriculars. does anybody have any advice?? i seriously dont know what to do anymore i've been crying all week. it really sucks and it just wears on me not having any friends at school. please please please help... and let me know what you would do in my situations. thanks. any advice is appreciated-- all advice will be rated a 5.

Personally I think you should transfer, if I were you I definitely would. I know exactly how you feel, I just moved schools & didn't have many friends at the beginning, but got some in the end. =) But I know how it feels to not have friends and it does suck. I think if you have a chance to be able to make more friends & be open to a new enviorment then you should. Being stuck for two years in an all girls school, with no friends would suck. Even though you're doing great academically & stuff, you might even at this new school. But, I would definitely transfer - no doubt. You should atleast try it for your sophmore year & see how things go. If it sucks then maybe you can transfer back to the all girls' school, but I don't think that'll be an option because you'd love going to a mixed school =) Good luck with that and I hope everything goes great for you!

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i was wondering if anyone knows a song with these lyrics:

Because Im waiting for, waiting for you darliiing. Wait for meeee too. Wait for me as i wait for you.

ill rate 5's for best answer

It's "Wait for me." By: Rebecca St. James!
♥ naimee

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I have a boyfriend who is really awesome. He is a year younger than me. His name is *Michael.* My freind always flirts with him and he flirts back. What should i do?

Hey ♥
You should definitely tell your friend to back off of your boyfriend. It's pretty retarded that she's flirting with him + your boyfriend flirting with her is even more stupid!! You need to tell them both right away that it's pissing you off and that you want them to stop. If it continues to happen, dump his ass fast!! A guy is definitely not worth it, and simply don't be that girls friend anymore!!
♥♥ naimee

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Well... There is this boy and I REALLY LIKE HIM!~
Problem is he got really pissed cuz i told everyone who he liked cuz i was mad he didnt like me. Please help me for him liking me and yeah....

Hey ♥
Ehh, I've done the exact same thing. Except I told everyone that he was gay and he gave this kid a handjob [which he didn't] but, it sucked because he didn't talk to me for like 3 weeks straight! Haha. Your best bet is to apologize, and wait it out about a week. If he likes you he'll come back & say that everythings okay. It's pretty retarded though if he's just mad about something as stupid as everyone finding out who he likes. I mean that's just stupid like seriously. I don't blame you at all I mean, every girls usually like you. =) But seriously, you need to just apologize and then tell him you can't do anything else but that & if he can't even forgive you then he isn't worth it. Because, he isn't. If you like this boy as much as you say you do, you can wait as long as you'd like until he does forgive you. He can't hold a grudge over something as stupid as this for long. Then just build your relationship back up from the friendship level. But, he seems pretty comfortable enough with you to be able to tell you who he likes, so good going. =P
♥♥ naimee

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well i like my brothers friend and he is so nice and
we have hung out alot but i think he only thinks of my as a Friend what can i do do change that?

Hey ♥
Just talk to him more, and hang out with him. You can't really change much seen as; It's his choice who he likes. Just talk to him a lot more & see if he is interested in you. Because, he might like you back!
♥♥ naimee

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I’m 13, in the 8th grade, and have a guilty pleasure. I’ve been raised in an intellectual household, with both parents having a Ph.D. Generally, I don’t watch T.V. So I was at my friend’s sleepover birthday party with 7 other girls, and she rented the First Season of the O.C. We watched 4 episodes---and I liked it! I feel kind of guilty, because I know that technically, the show is for advertising and eye-candy with a plot. But I can’t help it. That blonde what’s-his-face that stole a car and set a house on fire is really good looking. And it keeps me at the edge of my seat. Now I’m addicted! What should I do? Am I shallow for liking this?


Thanks

Cheyenne

Hey ♥
Not at all. It's actually great what you've done. It's just a big change & it's different for you. Change is always good, especially when something like this happens. But, no you shouldn't feel guilty or shallow at all for being addicted to the OC. =P
♥♥ naimee

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i like all these guys like 6 and i can't chose just 1 can you give me advice on picking 1?

Hey ♥
Woah, 6? Well, I think you should level it down to ATLEAST two. Pick them by choosing which one treats you best, which one you'd personally rather have a long-term relationship with, one that suits your interests, has a great personality, won't use you, makes you laugh, & who you've known longer. It depends because personally I like chubby guys, but you might like built ones. Maybe choose ones that have nicer bodies? Stuff like that. It's not that bad liking six guys anyway, just as long as you don't date more then one, you'll be perfectly fine. Just get to talking to all of them, and see which one you like the most.
♥♥ naimee

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My best friend, well, both of us, have dealt with death alot in the past year. and now her mom is incredibly sick! i dont know how to help her or give her advice! i'm so scared, for the both of us,..and her mom is someone that i'm really close to as well and when she dies, my best friend is gonna need me but i dont know what to say,...anybody got any idea?! i need them ASAP

GIVE ME SMARTASS ANSWER, YOU'LL GO TO HELL I SWEAR!

Hey ♥
When her mother dies, give her a few days alone to be with her family. Unless she's the type of person to do harmful things to herself, then you need to be with her as much as possible. I've never had to deal with death yet in my entire life. So I can't give you advice on something that I did, but if I were in your situation, I'd give her a few days to cool off & then about a week later or so, just invite her out to try and take her mind off of the death of her mother. Talk to her and tell her you'll always be there for her ANYTIME, she needs to talk - reassure her that you're her best friend and no matter what happens you'll always be there for her. Just make sure she knows that she can talk to you anytime she needs to. I'm sorry -- I hope everything goes okay for yall.
♥♥ naimee

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16/m. You've probably heard this topic before, and might even be sick of it, but I am curious to know what any and all of you think a 'nice guy' is. Is he a pushover? or is he the one who will lend a should to cry on? I want to know what you personally think a nice guy is, what qualities and personality traits would follow him, if you would want to have a nice guy as a boyfriend, and should there be more of them. Sorry it's a long question, but because too many people have so many different views on what exactly a nice guy is; I think this will offer everyone a chance to see things from a different perspective - nobody is right or wrong in this one. I'm not complaining saying its a bad thing or praising them either, just curious. Thanks

Hey ♥
Personally to me, a nice guy is someone who will will compliment me, but tell me the truth if I look bad & not lie to me. A guy that will stick up for me and who will be willing to do absolutely anything to make me the happiest girl alive. Who will care for me and make sure that I'm always alright when we're together. Who will tell me I'm completely perfect the way I am, when myself and others think differently. Someone who cheers me up when I'm down, but is always there when I need that shoulder to cry on. Who will believe, agree, and support everything I do. Someone who doesn't cheat, do drugs, drink, smoke, steal, and get into fights. =P
♥♥ naimee

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last year i lost a rgoup of friends. i met other ppl and i loved my new friends. now they left me and i have no idea why. they tell me that i was bitchy and that i hurt them and that i needed to change and be nice and love them. i do love them and i know i was a bithc and i know i need to change but i cant do it without them helping me. i am hurt and i cant stop crying. i love them all so much but they left. i dont know what to do.

Hey ♥
You don't need them to help you change. You can change on your own. Simple ways that you can gain your friends back are just by doing nice deeds for them. Smile at them all the time, help them & learn from your mistakes. Obviously this is making you upset, you need to talk to them all individually and ask them what they would like to change about you. If you're "bitchy" then you need to change your attitude. If you love your friends, you wouldn't act bitchy to them, right? You just need to be a lot nicer & be there for them. As much as you'd like to tell yourself that you weren't bitchy & stuff, if the group is all telling you that you were. Then you were bitchy - you just need to change your attitude & start being nice. Good luck.
♥♥ naimee

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15/f
I have a good guy friend, and we are good friends. I like him more than just a friend now and I think he may feel the same way. But i am not certain. Should i tell him how i feel or keep it to myself. And if i should tell him..how should i break it to him..like where..when..how..all those. thanks

Hey ♥
I used to be in your exact position. I had a friend for about 10 years - we were BEST friends. But, I liked him since 5th grade, and never told him because I didn't want it to be weird between us if he didn't have mutual feelings. I just moved about 2 months ago, from PA to TX & told him how I felt, and found out he liked me, too. I wish I would've told him because maybe we could've been more then friends, but I was a fool and didn't. =/ Which basically ruined everything. Now he has a girlfriend, and I can't do anything about that. You should tell him how you feel, because he might just be nervous about telling you that he likes you but he doesn't want you to not like him the way he likes you. Basically going through exactly what you are. You need to tell him face-to-face. It may be a little nerve racking, but just tell him, "How would you feel if I told you that I'm starting to like you more then just a friend?" If he reacts to this in a certain way that you didn't want him too, then just make a joke about it. Pretend you ever said it, then you'll know that he doesn't like you back. But he could say, "OHMYGOSH YOU DO? I SO LOVE YOU!" Haha. That's what I would do, but you could tell him via e-mail, AIM, text messaging, phone, etc. But you need to tell him no matter how you do. =) Good luck & I hope everything goes great for you!
♥♥ naimee

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I just bought a new shirt from aeropstale and when i got home i was lookin at it and they kept that security plastic thing on and i heard you can only get it off with a special thing! Im sooo mad i wanted to wear it tomorrow! does anyone have a way to get it off without ruining the shirt??? PLEASE HELP! 5'S!!

Hey ♥
I'm sorry but it's physically impossible, you will ruin the shirt. I was so mad that happened to me once & my dad basically just took a screwdriver and made a HUGE hole in the shirt. Luckily it could be hidden & I still wore it. Took it back the day after I wore it, and exchanged it for a brand new one. It's up to you if you want to ruin the shirt & wear it, but if it can't be hidden then I wouldn't do that. But, Aeropostale will exchange the shirt for their own stupidity.
♥ ♥ naimee

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ok the first 5 people who answer right ill rate 5's. what is this song?

sometimes im right sometimes im wrong
.....something....
sometime my head wants to explode.

thats all i know if you could help i would love it. thanks.

Hey ♥
The song is called "Every other time" by: LFO.
♥♥ naimee

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My friend played a joke on me and I know she was kidding..but I took it too seriously.I yelled at her in class..and then she was trying to talk to me after school but I ignored her and got in my car..I feel so horrible but I'm still mad..What should I do?

Hey ♥
You can't tell her that you're sorry for yelling, because she was wrong in the first place to play a joke on you. You don't need to apologize for anything, you were just doing what you thought was right. You need to wait it out a little longer until you're not mad anymore & then talk to her. But, as for now - just keep ignoring her, until she atleast apologizes.
♥♥ naimee

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