jbdreamer's advice column

Well i have a big thing with allergies. I take medicines. Is there anyway to have allergies calm down. Like stop maybe for a second. I would like to know.

Your medications are not right for you if they are not controlling your allergies. Talk to your doctor and start testing differnt medications. It took me months to find the best allergy medicine for me. Allegra.

[view]

I am alwas geting rashes.how do I stop them?

It's sounds like an allergic reaciton. What has changed in your life since they started. A new laundry detergent? New soap or lotion? New Sheets? If so, stop using the product. Figuring out the cause it the first step to the cure. If you are still clueless it may be time to visit a doctor.

[view]

My piano teacher just quit recentely and i am very sad. I have known him for a lot of years. He was great at piano and i liked how he teached. I just got another piano teacher. I like her but i really am sad that my piano teacher quit. What should i do?

Send him a letter telling him how much he meant to you and appreciate all you have learned. It will make both you and him feel good.

[view]

Okay, well, my ex girlfriend and I have always had an extremely skay relationship. Until a few weeks ago. We date off and on, and all of a sudden, we just like, stopped fighting. And I fell completely in love with her...
Well, I made her make a LiveJournal, because I thought it would help her vent out her problems, because she has a sort of hard life. Her parents like, seriously abuse her, and they might even hate her. So I thought it might help...
But then her best friend commented about how she cut them out of her life. And then she posted a conversation on there that my ex and her had about a week ago. Basically saying how I was a "fucking bitch who fucking bitches at her everyday because I'm such a bitch" and she's telling her friend that she wants to have some days apart and see if I'll come crawling back, because she thinks I'm that pathetic, and she tells them that I bitch at her everytime she hangs out with them...
Truth is, is that I bitch at her because she lies to me about them. I mean, I wouldn't care if she hung out with them or not, but the fact that she has to frikken lie about it is the thing that pisses me off. And another fact is that I tell her at least once a week to hang out with her friends. But she never does. She's so god damned clutchy and possessive (not to mention obsessive) over me. So really, she'd be the one crawling back to me...
So now, she's trying to make a complete 180. She says that she's stopped lying to everyone, and that she really wants me back (because, obviously, I dumped her ass), and that I mean the world to her and how she won't be able to function with out me. But I can't trust her. At all. I mean, the minute I fell in love with her, she backstabbed me. So I decided to give her another chance...
And then she tells me that she's going out with her friend to the mall. She hates the mall. She never goes ANYWHERE with me, let alone the mall. I mean, gah, she hates shopping. So it's like se's been lying to me about this whole thing. Either that, or just neglecting me completely...
So what I want to know is do you guys think I should try it again? Because she won't leave me alone about giving her another chance...

So what should I do?

Sorry it's so long :/

Insanity: Doing the same thing over and over, and expecting different results.

[view]

Okay so there is this guy at my school and I have been talking to him on the Internet for a little while and we talk like we know each other, its funny, and then I see him everywhere in school but he never sees me, and He told me to go up and say Hi to him, but I cant! Im too shy...but see today, I saw him walking and I ran into him and i didnt believe he didnt see me! So i screamed out his name and he was like "OH WOAH! DUDE I DIDNT KNOW YOU WERE THER!!!" and we talked for a little while, and all these girls were like dragging him away, but he stayed talking to me, and I always knew he was hot...but o.m.g. from up close his eyes are the most gorgeous thing, but yeah, i REALLY like this guy a lot...but he told me that he likes this girl and she likes him only they want to stay just friends, so i dont know, is there a way that i can get him to get attracted to me?? anyway that I can maybe have him start likeing me a litte??!! I am a sophomore and he is a Freshman...

Sorry, but you can't make someone like you. For now just try being his friend. You obviously are not ready for a relationship anyways if you so shy you can barley talk to boys.

[view]

OMG i friggin dont kno how to tell my mom a need a REAL Bra I mean i tried once but like she is always busy with work and the weekends dont work becuz we are each doing our own thing please help

Tried of Training BRA

If you can't get your mom alone for 1 minute to ask her a question, than you have bigger problems then needing a bra. Really all you have to do is ask, there is nothing to be embarassed about. She is a women, she'll understand.

[view]

My like bff asked me out and I cant picture him as my bf but i dont want to say no but i dont want to say yes so wat do i say?????

Do yourselves both a favor and tell him the truth.

[view]

I am tired of being alone. The person who I have liked for years recently got a girl friend. The person who I have liked for a while likes a girl who I used to be friends with but turned into a slut. Today I was asked out as a joke but I said no anyway. I just really want a person to love. My friends have this dating service and they are trying for me but it's just not working. Its so lonely every Valentines day. I just need some help. What should I do? I'm always so hard and judgemental while doing this. I never know what to do or say. Please, can anyone give me help? I rate.

Don't let this hyped made-up holiday get to you. You do not need a man to be happy with your life. Stop dwelling on what you don't have, and be thankful for what you do. There are a lot worse things than not having a boyfriend.

[view]

13/f
today i just found out that the guy i really like and i asked out... well i found out why he said no. my friend told me his mom said he wasnt allowed to have a g/f, and this really sux because i like him so much. is there anything that i can do? or do i have to wait...

If his mom said no, then there is nothing you can do. Just be his friend for now. How different will that really be to having him be your "boyfriend" at your age.

[view]

my ex-boyfriend called me some mean names last week and i don't know what to do about it. i can't talk to him about it because i moved away this summer. i know thats why hes mad, but i dont know how to talk ro him anymore. please help.

He is your ex-boyfriend, and he is no longer in your life. Forget about it, and him. Move on.

[view]

i was going out with my ex boyfriend for 2 years on and off (10 months str8) and around dec-jan he was changing big time.. and i got fed up with it so i broke up with him (he never had time for me, he called me all these names n everything..etc.) and now i love him as friend but im not in love with him, i like this new guy who once was his close friend and the guy likes me, but i would feel so bad if my ex found out what should i do? should i not go 4 the new guy or should i and not tell anyone

You have to move on with you life. You can't spend time worring about what your ex might think.

[view]

Okay i have big boy problem please help...

So i go to winterball we will cal them tennis friends and so theres like 5 of us and i knew all the guys coming except two of them. One of them was my friends date. We will call him bob. Bob is nice and everything btu he blows off my friend for this gurl we wil call a soccer player named Rachel and he makesout with her. the thing is my friend didnt like him very much. the whole resta the night he was hanging and flirting with me a lot sometimes i told him to stop because i didnt want my friend getting mad. Well does he like me or what?? He comes up after his games and is like o hey qt and we cuddle and shit all this stuff. but he flirts with some other gurls too but not as much. WHAT IS GOING ON?! ill rate!!

What the heck does this have to do with cooking! Please pay attention to the topics when asking questions!

[view]

I'm the Wiccan who was being harrassed by that girl, and I want to thank you for banning her, I really appreciate it.
MAd Love,
Victoria

No problem! Let us know if she bothers you again.

[view]

thats not fair. I just wanted to people to give me opinions. I didnt want a debate on it.

I am sorry, this is an advice column, not an opinion poll. Please refer to the FAQ:
http://advicenators.com/faq.php?t=2

[view]

Jb dreamer, did you erase my question about christianity? I asked the questionbecause my youth pastor wanted to know different opinions. He wanted to know what people thought of us, so we could reflect on it + see if we can change.

Yes I did delete your question. You were not asking for advice. This is an advice column, not a place to be having religous debates.

[view]

I want to know different people opinions on christian people. Please share your opinion and express how you feel about christians today. Personal stories are welcome, and any experiences you had with christians/christianity. In general, I just want to get an idea of how most people view christians today. Thank you and I'll rate everyone!

Questions about political beliefs, our favorite colors, or where we live have nothing to do with advice. We'd suggest posting on http://www.misterpoll.com if you just want lots of opinions on something that has nothing to do with your life.

[view]

I give advice on this site, and yes, I'm also a Wiccan, almost on the verge of being an atheist and lately there has been someone harrassing me about my faith, she has left 2 messages so far in my inbox, about God, and I've given her actual proof about why I don't beleive in God like that. What I wanted to know is, have I been the only one getting messages like that? Thanks.

If you feel someone is harrassing you, you can report them here:
http://advicenators.com/abuse.php?mode=list

You don't have to answer to anyone, and for her to push her religion on you is wrong.

*Don't worry, I just banned her. Apparently you were not the only one she was harassing.

[view]

i've kind of been seeing this guy and hes 3 years older then me but we havent really been seeing each other because he has other girls in his profile saying he can't live without them and so on.. and that he loves them and we arent going out.we just kind of hook up a lot. but i really like him and he says he has feelings for me too. and im a virgin and he says he is too. and he doesnt want to be. im 13 and hes 16. i really dont want to lose mine but i sort of do when im with him. but he wants to be my "first" and i dont know if im too young but i feel like im ready. if you do it once do you get addicted like drugs and end up doing it a lot? or can you just do it once and wait a while to do it again? i'm really nervous because hes serious. because i really care about him and i know he cares about me too. should i? plz answer i rate!

He doesn't really care about you if he is still going out with other girls. He is using you because you are young and vunerable. Yes I said young, much to young to be having sex. You say you are really nervous and you don't know. With these feelings it is obvious you are not ready.

Please wait until you are old enough to handle the responsiblities that come along with sex, and also have a monogamous partner that loves you unconditionaly. That way you won't have any regrets.

[view]

ok i know this was stupid of me but i told my boyfriend that i have had sex with 3 guys but ive really only had sex with 1 and it was a long time ago and he was really small so im still really tight down there. im afraid hes going to be disappointed because im really tight and hes gonna have to go slow at first. what should i do? or will he care that im tight? please help

First of all, what is the point of lying to your boyfriend. If you can't trust eachother, then the relationship is doomed. And if he can't except you for who you are, then he is not worth keeping around. Asking a question like this makes it sound as though you don't know eachother well enough to be sleeping together.

[view]

<<< Previous Advice Column

Next Advice Column >>>