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Backstabbing Girlfriend
Okay, well, my ex girlfriend and I have always had an extremely skay relationship. Until a few weeks ago. We date off and on, and all of a sudden, we just like, stopped fighting. And I fell completely in love with her...
Well, I made her make a LiveJournal, because I thought it would help her vent out her problems, because she has a sort of hard life. Her parents like, seriously abuse her, and they might even hate her. So I thought it might help...
But then her best friend commented about how she cut them out of her life. And then she posted a conversation on there that my ex and her had about a week ago. Basically saying how I was a "fucking bitch who fucking bitches at her everyday because I'm such a bitch" and she's telling her friend that she wants to have some days apart and see if I'll come crawling back, because she thinks I'm that pathetic, and she tells them that I bitch at her everytime she hangs out with them...
Truth is, is that I bitch at her because she lies to me about them. I mean, I wouldn't care if she hung out with them or not, but the fact that she has to frikken lie about it is the thing that pisses me off. And another fact is that I tell her at least once a week to hang out with her friends. But she never does. She's so god damned clutchy and possessive (not to mention obsessive) over me. So really, she'd be the one crawling back to me...
So now, she's trying to make a complete 180. She says that she's stopped lying to everyone, and that she really wants me back (because, obviously, I dumped her ass), and that I mean the world to her and how she won't be able to function with out me. But I can't trust her. At all. I mean, the minute I fell in love with her, she backstabbed me. So I decided to give her another chance...
And then she tells me that she's going out with her friend to the mall. She hates the mall. She never goes ANYWHERE with me, let alone the mall. I mean, gah, she hates shopping. So it's like se's been lying to me about this whole thing. Either that, or just neglecting me completely...
So what I want to know is do you guys think I should try it again? Because she won't leave me alone about giving her another chance...
So what should I do?
Sorry it's so long :/
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Well, sit her down and try to talk to her about it, explain that you have given her other second chances and that she abused them. Tell her that she needs to get help. Because, if her parents abuse her, YOU or somebody else needs to tell sOMEONE. And just keep in mind (i know this isnt a good excuse) but she gets abused and things. She probly thinks that thats the only way to deal with it is by doing one thing and then another completely opposite, mayeb thats how she is able to get what she wants all the time. (well, almost) And maybe she gets it from her parents (no offense to her). But that is the best that i can give you! I hope i helped alittle bit!
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Woah kid that was long. Ok here's what I think:
She wants you to want her, badly. She's had a hard life growing up and if it seems as though her parents don't want her then she's obviously lacking attention. I know it's frustrating but try to be patient with her. She can't help it very well, she's craving to be loved. And sometimes when it doesn't work, people will resort to lying because negative attention is better than no attention at all. She says that she wants you to come crawling back because that means more attention for her- it would show her that you obviously want her a lot and she might need that. She's clingy and possesive/obsessive because she doesn't want to lose you (and you're obviously her only source of affection and attention) and although I'm sure she really loves and cares for you, she needs your love and care more than ever right now. you need to tell her more often and maybe give her a chance if she's really willing to change. you really need to be there for her. Hope I helped.. equally long huh?
PEACE
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leave her a lone for a while, see if there are any other girls that you're interested in. try and become friends with her and work on the trust factor. then give it time and see if she still has the same feelings for you, take it from someone who's been there. if she TRULY has feelings for you, then she can wait for you. if you have any questions IM me xSarah Marie 730
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