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i can not get over my ex!!!! its been 3 months! and hes still pretty much all i think about! HELP ME!!!!!

The best thing to do is just look for other guys, and you'll forget him faster. Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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Does it hurt? It looks like it does...also does that nasty stuff come out of the hole??

and if your a guy--do you like it when girls get it pierced?

thanks

I've never got it done, but I heard it doesn't really hurt that much, as long as they put the numbing stuff on it. I'm not a guy, but I think they like it, cuz it makes you look hott and have a nice body, I guess. Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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Whenever I'm around guys I get really shy and don't have much to say and then I get insecure and it's hard to be myself. So now all the guys at my school probably think I'm like really snobby or stuck up or something because I'm so quiet. Like there have been a few guys this year that have tried to be friends with me, but I just didn't know what to say around them, so they just kind of stopped talking to me. Help!!!

Hey, I'm like that, too. The only thing you can really do is just talk more. The more you talk, the easier it gets, trust me! Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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ok theres this guy josh and he follows me everywhere, its so annoying, he loves me and wont leave my side for even a second in seems like, but i dont like him at all. it seems like he stalks me, he carrys my book and kisses me on the cheek all the time. he's nice but i dont like him. Help!

You have to tell him this, even if it hurts his feelings. Just tell him you feel uncomfortable when he kisses you on the cheek all the time, and stuff. Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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I tend to get paranoid very easily. For example, I will think my boyfriend doesnt like me, or thatI have no friends or that people are always talking about me. Everyone says I'mbeing stupid but I really believe it. Any advice?

Aw, I'm sorry. I know how you feel, I feel like that, too sometimes, so I know what you mean. It sux. Don't let anyone tell you it's stupid. I'm not really sure what you can do about, because I have the same problem. It just happens at random times, I don't know why. But good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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I have dark brunette hair and fair skin. My eyebrows are really light-colored but I wear dark eyeliner. I wear eyebrow pencil, but I was wondering, what are some ways to make my eyebrows darker without it looking fake? Like I wish there was a way to dye the hair of your eyebrows or something lol.. is there? Thanks, I'll rate high.

You can get them dyed at a hair salon, I think. Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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Can I please have suggestions or recipes for some good holiday treats I can bake, but ones that aren't too hard to cook or prepare? Thanks.

Try the new Pillsbury Ready-made stuff with real Hershey's chocolate! That stuff is so good, it kix ass! Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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Hi does anyone kow where u can get those "live strong" braclets? all my friends hav them and i want at leaset one soooo badly!


Thanx,
ChristmasBaby23

You can get them at www.wearyellow.com!
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~*Erin*~

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alright...well I am going out with this guy and me and him have only been going out since friday (12-17). well he always says how much he is in love with me and I don't understand that at all, I mean I haven't even been with him that long!well we went shopping and got eachother x-mas presents but he only told me one thing he got me which was DIAMOND EARRINGS from this fricken expensive jewelry store. Well he got me something else and he told my friend but she won't tell me but she was really excited about it. I think he went way OVERBOARD and i didn't want him to buy me anything but of course he did. I do not know how to react when we exchange gifts tomorrow because I'm going be like holy crap!! So I have no idea what to do and how to react to that lol!

Well, be happy you're getting diamond earrings! He sounds sweet, but I think he's rushing things. Talk to him about it. Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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I feel like I really need a boyfriend. You see, all my friends have one and I feel so jealous. I can't go to any dances and if I ask a guy out, I'm so sure that he'll say no, because I'm not all that good-looking. I told my friends if they could find a guy for a birthday to go out with, and they said that the only reason why I'm doing this is to get a boyfriend, which is true. And right now, I am obsessed with a guy I like who knows I like him, but he doesn't like me, because of that time I embarrased myself in front of him. So, how do I get rid of my obsession and thoughts of thinking I need a boyfriend, because I know I don't.

I'm sorry. I was like that, but I found someone (luv u soo much baby). But hey, you don't need a bf to be happy. Try being happy for your friends, instead of jealous. I know it's hard, but it'll make you feel better. Also, whenever you get the chance, talk to a guy, and get things started! And don't worry if it doesn't work out, you'll find that someone! Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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theres this girl at my school who really likes me and this other guy. both us guys like her and where like best friends. if 1 of us ask her out she says she dosnt want to hurt the others feeling. so i want 2 know if i should wait or move on. i really like her.

ill rate good
thanks.

Wow, that's a tough situation. I wouldn't go out with her at all, as long as you're friend didn't care. You both like her, and whether you wait or ask her out now, it's not gonna make a difference. If at anytime, your friend says it's ok, or he doesn't like her anymore, then go ahead! Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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Hi, my brother kind of has attitude problems and hes not gettin anything for xmas. My mom and dad aren't gettin anything for eachother and i feel bad for all of them. :( Does anyone hav any gift ideas? by the way my bro is 18. thx bye!

Get your mom a candle, mom's love that! For your dad, maybe a DVD he likes? Or a shirt, aftershave, stuff like that. For your brother, maybe a video game, a shirt, or a signed football would be cool! Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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My sister was raped and killed about a year ago ( we havent found out who it is yet but they're still looking)and I lately I have been see her well her ghost and she always says some thing but I cant hear her like she just moves her lips and I want to tell my mom but I'm afriad she will put me in some kind a hospital or something but about a week ago my sister came back and she made me fallow her some how I mean she walked through the wall and I just had to fallow her and when I did it I found an old beat down house and I really really wont to show it to some one because I think it might be the guy that killed her

OMG, I'm sooo sorry about your sister! That's kinda creepy, lol. But I really think that that's where the guy who killed her is. You NEED to tell someone about it, the police will want to know. Don't worry about your mom putting you in a hospital, I'm sure she'll understand. She wants to find him as much as you do! Good luck!
Happy Holidays!
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~*Erin*~

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Ok, so I'm in jazz band I play the trombone. Theres this boy and we share music and stuff. I'm really shy and stuff, like insecure of my playing (when its not totally with the band, and today we were practicing as just sections) and I wasnt play loud and stuff. So then I was in study hall and my sister comes out "aww someone likes you" to me and I was like 'duh nuh uh.' and shes like 'yeah someone from bannnd' so I was like 'whatever.' and she names off the guy who I share music with in jazz band. Well she's like (her friend) was talking to him and he said something about there being this freshman that plays trombone but sucks and just fakes it and shes cute (or some other compliment I dunno) and I've been sitting around for a day and a half just wanting to cry since this. I'm CRUSHED. How could he say this about me? I know I'm not the GREATEST but I didnt think I sucked. And I dont fake it. It really hurt my feelings. I dunno how to get over this...like its hard. I'm thinking about quitting band but I dunno. Any suggestions?

Hey, sweetie, u DON'T suck, I'm sure you're good! And don't let this guy bother you, cuz he's totally not worth it. Who would want to be with him anyway if all he can do is make fun of people?! Don't worry, you'll find that someone! Good luck!
Happy holidays!
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~*Erin*~

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There is this guy in my class [i like him]...i think that MAYB just mayb he mite like me...
Reasons Why...
*Sometimes I see him look at me
*He talks softly round me
*Acts tougher around me
*Smiles when i smile at him
*Trys to make me Laugh
Does this mean he mite like me? plz give me ur best advice!*i rate*

x0x Thankz...
Questions I Cant Answer

Ya, I think he likes you. Say something like, "My friends keep saying we'd be so cute together, what do you think?" And see what he says! Good luck!
Happy Holidays!
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~*Erin*~

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ok im really confused about my sexuality (im a 15 year old girl).... i think i might be bisexual but i dont know. I've hooked up with a girl in the past but that was cuz we were drunk and i did it to kinda like impress these guys that we were with. and i do find girls attractive, but i dunno if i'd date a girl. I'd hook up with a girl again but it'd have to be under the same circumstances (not sober and to impress a guy)... does this mean im bi? Give me your thoughts on this.

It's ok that your confused about your sexuality. A lot of people are. Try maybe dating a girl, and then if you don't like it or it's awkward, then I'd say you were straight! Good luck!
Happy Holidays!
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~*Erin*~

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i feel so ashamed of my self
i let my cousin finger me !!!!!!
we never see each other that was the first time we have ever met... is it okay that i feel guilty?!!?

Um, wow. I'm not saying you're weird, but the situation is. Ha. Um, ya, I'd feel guilty if my cousin fingered me, lol. Just don't do that again. Good luck!
Happy Holidays!
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~*Erin*~

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well, i think i like this Guy named Dan
We like NEVER talk at all . i don't really know himm at all but so far i like him .. i just donno.. how can i get to know him better ? any suggestions

Try asking for his email or his screename and just talk to him! Or be daring, and ask him to hang out! Good luck!
Happy Holidays!
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~*Erin*~

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Here's what's going on...
My boyfriend came over last night at around 2 and he was really drunk. He kept talking about how he had all this money, and he had this really nice lighter with him and he was really drunk. He told me that he took it from his best friend who had just gotten the money and lighter with his paycheck that he had gotten earlier. Well, my boyfriends friend keeps calling me looking for him, and I've been sworn to secrecy. Is there anything I can do to fix this? I really need help fast.

Talk to your bf about it, and tell him that his friend's been looking for his lighter and money. There's really nothing you can do, only what your bf can do, so you need to talk to him. Good luck!
Happy Holidays!
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~*Erin*~

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I just started going out with this guy on sunday, and I really like him, and he likes me etc. But there are a lot of people that don't want us together, and he has been living with me secretly and a bunch of stuff. Our relationship has its ups and downs, like all relationships do, but I just can't get some of these things I hear about him out of my head. He's kind of a runaway right now, but he really is a nice guy. I'm not sure what I'm asking, but I really do need help. So please, anyone. By the way 14/f.

Just talk to him about everything you're feeling. Once you let everything out, you'll feel a whole lot better! Good luck!
Happy Holidays!
Hope I helped!
~*Erin*~

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