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My name is "Lucy" Of course that isn't my real name.
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ok, there is this guy, and we been datin for awhile, and his parents nor sister doesnt know, we dont get to spend a lot of time together? His grades arent the best and his mom told him no dating, but we arent going to give up, cuz i really care about him, we go to the same school and we are in the same grade, but when we try to spend some time together, his sister is always around, she goes to the same school, and we are afraid that she will tell their parents and he will get into trouble... we never have time to spend alone, we hardly kiss or hug cuz we are afraid that his sister will see.. he seems like he really wants to kiss and hug but we have to look over our shoulders for his sister, and we dont get to... so how can we change it to where we actually get to spend some time together?
~Kentucky~ (link)
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He could try convincing his mother that he needs to stay after school to work on homework or something. However, If he does go about this at least try to make it seem convincing. I'm not sure how big the school is but unless his sister has a bit of a stalking problem I don't see why there isn't a chance to kiss him. If you two live nearby maybe meet up somewhere. You could also try to say "Well I'm going to the movies with a friend, I wanted to know if you could drop me off" meet up somewhere.
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I just got a new car yesterday. A 98 Nissan Sentra. I have no complaints, except for when I hit on the brake it sounds like part of the car is loose. It sounds like a chugging sound... or like something is clanking or vibrating.
It also does it when I put the car in park.
What could this be? Something with the exhaust pipe or muffler? My brother in law said it's nothing to do with the brakes since it happens when it's put in park too. Any ideas what it could be? Thanks. (link)
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Try changing the brake pads.
If this doesn't work check the muffler make sure its intact.
If this still doesn't work then ya need to have it looked at
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ive had this screen name for a wicked lone time and im sick of it and i just want a new one!
any ideas?
my names megan btw and i hate it when people type like thIS so nothing like MeGaN =]
thankss (link)
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M3gan2010 (You could also have that with your birth date at the end)
MeganBebeGurl
Megababez2010
All my screen names were random, I try to mix it up. Something that doesn't really require my name but something that describes me at the same time.
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i love my sister so much its unbelievable... its just that she is sooo mean to me. But when ever i try to be mean back shes just laughs and i feel really bad. Im so nice to her, like i respect her and do whatever she asks... but then she uses me and rats me out for everything! She even makes fun of me in public and i get really embarrased!!! I dont know what to do or the say but it really hurts me to be pushed around like this. She is older than me and is going to college next year. Im gonna miss her soo much.
i just need sum advice to not feel guilty and not be hurt by everything she says. (link)
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The truth...
Sometimes when people are out to be a complete ass to someone and you confront them with how you truly feel about the person.
Like for example...
Your sister is mean to you, You pull her aside and express how much you love her and care about her. You're sister will simply feel like an ass. Not only has she made a fool of herself but you showed the opposite reaction as she was probably expecting. Clearly, You told her you love her, You care for her and that you look up to her. She might not know how you feel about her, Tell her and I bet you anything you'll get a reaction.
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Everyday (practicly) i go to school with my hair straitend. I have hair thats down to my showlders, i dont want to grow it out, but i want more ideas that i can wear to school, sometimes i put my hair into low pigtails but i want more ideas..? can you help me? (link)
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You can try these
Headband
Clips
Pony tail
Bun
Braids
Braiding in the front
Pull two front pieces back
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Hi!@ well.,. i had 2 get pics off my dads fone 2 send them 2 my computer. n i found 4 pics of my mom n my dad like havin sex. n i also found one video. but i didnt rilly kno wut i was watchin. but then wen i figured out it was lyk sex and it was my parents i kind of got turned on. is dat creepy? (link)
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Yes and No
No, because it was sex, Two people having sexual intercourse is almost like watching a porn video. It is a natural reaction for humans to get turned on by watching porn.
Yes, If they are your parents and you got turned on by watching them have sex...well yeah that is somewhat disturbing. =/
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I havent gotten my period in 2 months and i am afraid! I havent had sexual intercourse! but i have masterbated! Is it possible that i havent gotten my period because i hurt myself while i masterbated? Or could i be pregnant? I think i am bloting, is it because i havent had my period? or because i am pregnant? and when i push on my stomach it hurts!! please tell me what is wrong with me!!! (link)
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If you haven't gotten a period in 2 months... Then you need to call the DOCTOR. If you haven't had sex and never have had sex then NO you are not pregnant. You can only get pregnant if you actually had sex meaning a penis enters the vagina not by masturbation. If you have had sex in the last 3 months TAKE A TEST.
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My fiance, tends to be quite the hypocrite. Today, for example, I was doing work for him on the computer, and it had to be done fast. My internet was acting up (my luck), my 5 month old was screaming bloody murder, and my dog was barking, so I was frustrated, which for me doesn't happen that often. He calls on his lunch break and asks how it was going. I replied "fine, I'm just frustrated." He could tell i wasn't in the greatest of moods, and said IN THE MEANEST MOST DISRESPECTFUL WAY POSSIBLE, "I don't want to hear that you are frustrated or mad, I don't have time for that *&^@." Again, ON HIS LUNCH BREAK.
Now, let me tell you about him first.
He works EVERYDAY from 8am-8pm. He is an extreme workaholic.
He and his family don't get along AT ALL.
He hates his job and everyone there.
me?
I'm a stay at home mom with a colic teething 5 month old that i get nooo help with.
Hairdressing on the side.
Car-less right now so I'm home 24/7 and have been for 4 months.
Now, he comes home every night with a frustrated attitude and i am there willingly with open ears to listen and try to make him feel better.?????
Why wont he listen to me when I'm frustrated? he just gets mad when i even bring up something about me!?
HELPPPPP????
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Alright lets backtrack on what you said..
Well, Despite his long hours at work you both are stressed out and have a lot of your plates. Assuming that this child is his also it his responsibility as a father to help and take part in raising this child. I think it was rather rude of him to snap at you while HE called you on his lunch break. I understand the situation is stressful for the both of you but you two need to understand that everyone gets stressed out from time to time and this is why you to have each other, To support and help one another. If your baby is 5 months old and you never get any help and haven't for the 5 months your baby was in this world well dear that is BIG problem that you need to talk over with the fiance. Remember, It takes TWO to make a child and it is just as much his responsibility as it is yours. I would sit down and talk to him, Tell him how you are feeling and what you two need to work on. However, I hate to say this...but if he isn't willing to put in the effort then he isn't worth being with you.
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My boyfriend quit smoking weed about 3 weeks ago and he started hanging out with me more and we were so happy for two of the three weeks. This week,he seems not as happy with me and he told me he needed some "space" ,so we didn't hangout for a day. He told me he didn't "want us to get sick of each other" ... so we got in a few fights and tried hanging out today but he just wasn't the same.He just hasn't seemed interested lately and if he does,its usually only for sex or stuff similar.He said he misses smoking weed but idk! I just want him to want me and appreciate me again. What should i do? by the way,we've only been together for like 2-3 months (link)
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Do you trust your boyfriend? Really think about that one for a minute.
If your boyfriend seems to want to have sex more and that is all it seems to be, Then that is what it probably is. I can understand wanting some space, Everyone needs their time apart from time to time. However, There is a big difference between wanting some time apart and loosing interest. It sounds to me that your boyfriend IS loosing interest in the relationship and just wants to have sex. I don't know exactly how the relationship is as you only gave little detail but I would talk to him ask him if he wants to spend a day with you. Put him up for the test, If he turns it down..Then I would start to back off a little bit. If he does decide to spend the day with you and wants nothing but sex...There is your answer and it might be time to move on.
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Okay, I know that birth control will chill your period ou t a little bit, and I understand that.
But is there something that I can take that'll make me have a period like, maybe only a few times a year?
A shot?
Medicine?
SOMETHING,
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A gynecologist would be the best person to talk to about this. I do know there is a birth control pill that can help lighten up a period. Also, Mirena IUD is a good brand. Again everything works differently on different people but the Mirena is a form of birth control as well and it last up to 5 years. (you still get spotting from time to time) but like I said works differently on everyone.
Talk to your gynecologist.
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people at my boyfriend is going around the school telling my boyfriend friends that im ugly and i really think are relationship is about to end and myboyfriend mom think he need to think about school before he need a girl friend and i really dont want to loose this boy this is my heart and my soul mate i really love him please help (link)
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If your boyfriend loves and respects you then he won't give a damn what other people say about you. If he is listening to what other people say then honey he isn't worth your time. Someone who loves someone will see the good in them. There is a whole lot more to a person than just their looks.
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I tried to fake sick but my mum checked my temreture and stayed there while i had the fing in my gob. my tempreture was in the 30's.
what is the blow dryer thing and how do you do it?
how do i get a high tempreture when my mum is checking my tempreture and she is watching? (link)
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The old trick in the book is to ask for a cup of hot tea and dip the thermometer in the tea while she isn't looking.
School is for a good cause, Go and get it over with!
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My boyfriend is a cheerleader and I have a really hard time not getting jealous. I trust him not to cheat on me but it still concerns me that he is always with these beautiful cheer girls (you know the stereotype of most cheer girls). I don't wanna talk to him about it because I don't want to seem controlling or jealous and want to be supportive of him. Any advice? (link)
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You need to trust your boyfriend, Relationship is about trust. I completely understand where you are coming from about being "paranoid" I would be the same way if I were in your shoes. Talk to him, Expressing how you are feeling and your concerns is better than letting it build up into a ticking time bomb. Explain to him that you are feeling insecure about the other girls on his cheer team. If anything he will reassure you that there is nothing to worry about and hear you out it. Go to his meets, Practices get involved. Show the other girls that he is committed by kissing him, Hold his hand. (Don't be ALL over him) but at least get the point across that he has a girlfriend. Cheer him on and support him for what he does. Communication is the key
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Hi There..
I'm just wondering, I know that if a girl hasn't had sex before she's married then she's able to wear a white dress and if she has had sex before marriage she is able to wear an off white dress..
Is it up to the individual girl as to whether she wears a white dress even if she has had sex before marriage? Or is it the 'rules' that she is to wear an off white dress if she's had sex before hand?
Thank you :D (link)
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When a woman gets married, It is HER day. If she wants to wear purple, yellow, orange, white, peach, pink it's up to her. Nobody should or shouldn't tell you what you can and can't wear to your own wedding. Your wedding day is going to be a day you remember for the rest of your life. I have also seen woman get married in red, pink, yellow (I've watched many weddings on television) You can even have your own theme idea. Some people get married in a church or on a beach etc. It's about how YOU want it to be and it is what you make it.
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so my gf started actin really weird when her ex's girl was comming over to see her and her son....she told me there wasnt no one but yes to feeling she was sorry. I went to get my stuff hopin if i took it away it would help her think more...but she rushed me outa the apt cuz her ex pulled in when i was walking out. she tells her roomate i kno i fucked up dont keep rubbing it in. she says she couldnt have sex with her and her roomate said you can tell she hasnt slept and she mopes around and looks like shes been crying. i rode there over the weekend and her exs car was there. if she regrets it why was she there? i tried to talk to her today and she wouldnt talk to me. i kno im stupid for wanting her back i wouldnt jump back into it it would be awhile but whats going on? (link)
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Honestly,
It sounds like she used you as a fall back, Either that or she is having regrets about leaving her ex. I mean it seems pretty obvious by the way she was acting, I wouldn't stand for that. Instead of trying to get her back realize that she isn't worth it and move on. Hey you know what though, If her and her ex didn't work out once well then I can almost promise you it won't work out the second time. That doesn't mean keep trying to get her back, That means learn that she isn't worth your time and find someone else who will want to be with you and only you with no regrets.
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how do i become best friends with my boyfriend. im 20 yrs old and i have been in relationships before but i have never been their best friend. i believe that in a good healthy relationship you should be best friends with your significant other. my question is, how do i do that? maybe some qualities...thank you for all your help. (link)
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I'm best friends with my boyfriend too :)
Some things that we do together is we shop, For example if I need something I'll ask for his opinion on it. We also go out ALL the time, One of the things we both love to do is play pool on the weekends. Since we both enjoyed it so much we recently decided to join a pool league. Little things, Find something you both love to do and take it from there. :) Another thing I do with my boyfriend is sometimes we won't do anything at all (lol) We will simply go for a drive grab a coffee and park somewhere and talk our heads off for hours about anything.
Walks, bowling, Shopping, etc.
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I need to break up with my long-dist relationship boyfriend. We've been dating 7 months. There's no real reason to break up except..I sent him a pic that wasn't me. I know, I know. I'm too ashamed to tell him the truth, and I'm supposed to be 'visiting' him in a month. I need to end it, what do I say? I don't want to hurt his feelings, so nothing like 'I don't love you anymore' or whatever.
I was thinking of saying something along the lines of my dad disapproves, and I have to end it with you, or he'll kick me out or something. I know, just lying more. But seriously, I just want to get out of this now, it's my own fault and I know now to never do it again. Any help would be appreciated, thanks. (link)
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Hm,
I'll lay out a few help lines :)
"I was thinking about our relationship last night and I come to realize that my feelings aren't as strong as they used to be and I think it would be best it we went our separate ways"
"I've been giving our relationship a lot of thought lately and I don't think I can really be with someone who is so far away, I would really like to date someone closer this long distant relationship isn't going to work out"
Those are pretty straight forward, The original and classic way to do it would simply be "I don't think we are going to work out, The distance is getting to me" Or just tell him you need a break and cut off the contact.
Don't worry about what happened, Nothing I've never done before. lol ;)
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i broke up with my boyfriend of almost two years about a month ago and im still not over him. it didnt even bother him though because he was a total ass to me and even cheated with my best friend on me. i was used, cheated on, lied to repeatedly, he tried to turn everyone on me, used all my money all the time even took it and was not a gentleman, i cant seem to live without feeling me in his arms or his kisses. i miss him so much im crying so hard, iv even ben out with friends all this weekend again and i cant get over him. he is already allover many girls and going on dates. helpp please. how do i get over this (link)
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The fast way to get over someone who mistreated you "in my opinion" is to use the anger he has caused you in the 2 years and use that as a focus to move forward. After so long of being mistreated it becomes natural and we become immune to it. However, You did the RIGHT thing by dumping him. A guy who mistreats his girlfriend is simply not worth a dime. It takes time to get over someone, Everyone heals at their own pace. Crying is normal, It is your way of coping with the situation. The only thing you can do is to keep on focusing on yourself, Distance yourself and cut contact with him. Keep spending time with friends and family because in the end they are all you've got. Make sure you do things to keep your mind busy, Go for walks, clean the house, spend time with friends etc. you will get better it will just take some time.
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I'm a virgin and on friday my boyfriend and I almost had sex. He didn't go all the way in. I'm getting nervous cuz my stomach feels really bloated. I have some side pains that are kinda like period ones but not as strong...i'm really scared...what do i do? (link)
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Stress and depression can delay a period.
The only way to be positive is to take a test, The recommended time is 6-10 days after sex. You didn't mention whether you used protection or not but if you didn't you might want to consider it for next time.
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so im a 19/f and i was talking to this guy. it all started at school one day in the lunch line. after that i added him on faceboook. and we didn't really talk til he messaged me and asked me about my name. well we were talking & then he asked me for my number but i didn't give it to him because i didn't really know him that well. well we started talking more & then i finally gave my number to him. & we started talking on the phone and texting. but our conversations always seemed to be about sex. like how many times he masturbated, & we had phone sex. after that he blocked me on facebook & stopped texting/caling me. and then last night he texted me randomly & i didn't know who it was. he said no one, but i told him to tell me who he was and then said who didn't want to tell me because he thought i would get mad, but i wasn't. then he started telling me how he got nervous to be in a relationship with me so thats why he ignored me. & then he told me it was because he onl wanted to have sex with me. he told me how sorry he was etc. and i asked him if he still wanted to be with me & he told me he wasn't sure. and i told him that im not going to pressure him to be with me. he said he felt bad for just talking to me about sex & then ignoring me all these months. & i told him that i thought he was sweet but im not sure if talking to him still is a good idea. help? (link)
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If the guy is talking to you about sex, Then that right there should raise the flag considering you do not know him that well. It sounds like that is all he might be thinking about, It sounds funny how he would come out and talk about sex but ignores you because he is too scared/nervous to be a in a relationship? Don't take offense here but he sounds like an immature pig. I think you deserve someone who is going to show you the same respect you show them. A guy who talks about sex 24.7 and then ignores you isn't worth it.
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