about

Hi, I'm Courtney. I want to become a pre-school teacher :] and I've been though a whole heck of a lot, so feel free to ask me anything, i'll do my best to help ! xxo.
"i refuse to sink."

advice

I like to pole vault so i want somtin cute with polevault in it but with any thing else

- simplyxpvaulter
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- foreverxxpvault
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I hope some of those you liked or I at least hope they sparked some inspiration ! good luck ! have funn, xxo.

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hey i asked this question that you answer'd this isnt really a question as it is a thank you note because i dont know how to send messages.

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=570334

just wanted to thank you personnaly, i found a way to get her number through the next day and then we went clubbing in town in the evening. then all her freinds had to go and then mine had to go but were too busy having fun to leave.

we talked in a club for a while then we started getting closer and it just happend, we made out for a while untill the club closed in the early hours of the morning which was when we wnt back to my place and talked through the night till the morning were mum found us both asleep hugging eachother on the sofa.
she stayed the day after were we both found out how much we had in common and how she actually had a crush on me the minute she saw me as it was for me about her. we fell asleep togther again that afternoon listening to her favourite jazz track's which must have repeated through and through till she had to go home.

i havent had a girlfriend in 6 years and that was the best time of my life, thank you for helping me its nice to know that even complete strangers out there care so much about helping people.

thanks again

Matt

Awww ! I am so so so sooo happy for you ! You don't even know, this news just made my day, so actually, thank YOU. haha :]
I know this will work out for you :] both of you seem to have such a connection, keep it up !
I'm always here to help you, so it's really my pleasure. anytime, ask me anything.
and keep me updated ! I'd love to know how it all goes ! good luck, have fun, and keep on being awesome.
xxo.

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I'm a Jr in HS. A sophomore asked me to homecoming. He's a good friend but I want a Jr to ask me out. How do I gently turn him down?

Well, first of all, just because he is a sophomore, doesn't mean he isn't as good as a junior hahaa. but okay :] if you want to turn him down gentlyy here are some options as to what you can say...

- "You're a really sweet guy, but I like you as a friend, I'm really sorry. I know you'll find a girl who would love to go with such a great guy like you :]"

- "I really appreciate you asking me to go with you to homecoming, but I'm kind of crushing on this guy right now and I wouldn't want to lead a great guy like you on. I'm really sorry."

You just have to be nice about it, and boost his confidence by saying he's a great guy and that any girl would be lucky to go wit him, and all that jazz. It's not the end of the world :] haha trust me, he won't be mad at you.
Good luck ! Have fun ! hope i helped :] xxo.

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I heard that Lady GaGa (sings Pokerface, Just Dance, Love Game, Paparazzi) was a hermaphrodite or a man. I don't know if any of that is true but when I looked at her in her videos she doesn't look very womanly. Is Lady GaGa really a man?

Those are just rumors, Lady Gaga is most definetly a girl. I can assure you, she is nor ever WAS a man hahaa.
hope i helped ! xxo.

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Ok so i'm 18 years old. And im there's something that's been bugging me for the last 4 years. I don't know and i'm confused. See, i was dating this boy and he wanted to have sex. I was a virgin so i was kinda nervous and kept talling him no. This persisted for about a month where i kept saying no and no. But eventually he convinced me that no harm would be done if i was naked. i was stupid and thought that if i gave in and just got undressed maybe he'd drop it and stop asking me for sex. Anyways, we started making out and u got uncomfortable because i felt his hand gtouching my thigh. Then his fingers went inside me. I didn't say anything because it felt good. Well then he got on top of me and said. "Let me put it in you" i got nervous and told him no no no. But he kept pushing. I started to get scared so i scratched his chest but he proceed to pin my thighs open and he just pushed himself inside me, all the while i was crying and asking him to stop. I mean i know i didn't want to have sex. But, i feel like it was my fault too. Maybe i shouldn't have been such a slut and taken my clothes off. I don't know. But now it's gotten to the point where i can't think. I feel used and dirty. And now, 4 years later, i still can't get intimate with any guy because i'm so scared to think that he won't stop when i say "no." so. i don't know. was i raped? Or was it all my own fault?

I'm so sorry hun, but yes, you were raped.
This was under NO circumstances, your fault. so don't ever think it was. ever. it was HIS fault, and he should be prosecuted for raping you. even though it's been 4 years. You were young and naiive, and he took advantage of that, and raped you. that's not okay. I'm so sorry that happened to you :[
and for the whole feeling insecure or scared with guys thing ... it's because he scarred you. being rape will do that to a person. you need to seek therapy and then you will proceed onto the road of healing, i promise.
I don't even know this guy, and i hate him. again, I am so sorry. but don't ever take the blame for this. it wasn't you, it was him. and it should have never happened.
if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me. good luck ! hope i helped, and it will get better in time. not all guys are scumbags. i know my boyfriend isn't. he respects me when i say "no" or if im not comfortable with something. they just have to know that it's either your pace or nothing at all. xxo.

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i need some songs to help me cope...

does anybody know any songs about a guy thats a total tool, jerk, cocky, etc??

my boyfriend and i broke up because he's become such a tool.

every song i can find is about cheating and such and he didn't cheat so they don't really help.

Thanks

I have alotttt of songs that fit that haha.

kelly clarkson: dont let me stop you
kelly clarkson: since you been gone
Avril Lavigne: my happy ending
Avril Lavigne: falling into history
Shakira: dont bother
Jojo: too little too late
jennifer lopez: ain't it funny
mary j blige: not goin cry
katherine mcphee: over it
destiny's child: survivor
beyonce: me, myself, and i
fefe dobson: bye bye boyfriend
christina aguilera: fighter
pussy cat dolls: i dont need a man
three days grace: gone forever
pink: there you go
pink: rockstar
matchbox twenty: leave
the all american rejects: gives you hell
alanis morristte: you oughta know

i have tons [as you can see] hahaa, if you want anymore, just inbox me ! good luck, hope i helped ! xxo. :]

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13/F Well I used to like my best friend but then I didn't and I was in love with my friend Elijah because he is so cute nice smart ect but now I found out when I looked at my best friend that I am like in love with him too. So what should I do? Who should I pick and ps I am much to chicken to tell them so dont tell me that I should tell them

There are many different kinds of love, so it really depends on your perspective and feelings, andwer these questions and see which guy come to your mind first..

- who do you think about more ?
- who do you picture yourself kissing more ?
- who do you see yourself being with in a long-term relatioship ?
- who do you see as just a fling ?
- who do you go to first if you have a problem
- who do you tell the most to ?
- who do you trust more ?
- who makes you feel the most comfortable ?
- who has a better personality ?
- who makes you laugh more ?
- who makes you smile more ?
- who is more fun ?
- who comes to your mind first when i say, "handsome" ?
- who comes to your mind first when i say, "love" ?

It could be possible that you are in love with both of them, but you can't have both. you have to choose one. and maybe, when you look at your best friend, it's not the kind of love you are thinking about. it could be just loving him as a best friend, you're just getting confused. those questions should help. and then you'll know.
good luck ! don't worry about it so much, just think about it. make a pros and cons list for both of them, just take your time and youll figure it out :] hope i helped ! if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me, xxo.

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eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeek!

there are 2 girls that im torn between
one ive known longer
and one ive known for a month and she is crazy about me! idk which to choose!
:O
im a 15 year old guy btw


:[

choices, choices hahaa. alright answer these questions...

- who do you think about more ?
- who do you picture yourself kissing more ?
- who do you see yourself being with in a long-term relatioship ?
- who do you see as just a fling ?
- who do you go to first if you have a problem ?
- who do you tell the most to ?
- who do you trust more ?
- who makes you feel the most comfortable ?
- who has a better personality ?
- who makes you laugh more ?
- who makes you smile more ?
- who is more fun ?
- who comes to your mind first when i say, "pretty" ?
- who come to your mind first when i say, "love" ?

okay, after answering those questions, you'll know at least a LITTLE better as to who is better for you. and who you like more. just go with your gut instinct and follow your heart.
good luck ! have fun, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me. xxo. :]

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is it actually legal, if your over 18 to smoke weed?

It's an illegal drug. No age makes it legal.
xxo.

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so theres this guy that ive been friends with for 3 yrs & we talk a lot, and flirt a lot. we basicully went out last year for about 5 months then we stopped talking becuase i couldnt take it anymore. hes soo good looking and he clearly knows it and gets whatever he wants. then we started talking like about 2 months ago and im like back inlove with him again and he aways says he likes me so much and he wnats to be with me and can see us being together and what not. like he is so perfect BUT the one huge flaw he has is being a player i guess you could say. okay if he likes me so much, why does he talk about hooking up with other girls? like he tells me he fucked some bitch last night, um okay like i care? & he told me theres this girl who is so sexy but he cant get with her becuase of his bestfriend long stupid story but he was all i wish she wasnt so sexy. she jus showed me a picture of wat shes going to wear when we hangout and i think i fell inlove. like wen he said that i jus left & balled my eyes out. i do act like i dont care and i say stuff like good jobbb, and nice one. but it really hurts me so badly. like WHY does he do that, like i honestly dont think he does it to make me jealous becuase he can talk about it so easily. so i cant even tell if he likes me or not. what do i doooooooo? what do i sayyyyyyy? =( help

My thoughts on this are..
Maybe he's trying to get back at you for breaking up with him and not talking to him for a while because "you couldn't handle it" I mean think about it, that must have hurt him alot, for you to break up with him like that. So I think that there are 3 parts to his motives ...
1. revenge on youu. to like get you back for hurting him.
2. to make you superduper jealous [which is obviously only hurting you]
3. to hide his true feelings for you because I think he's scared to like you again, so he convinces himself that he doesn't.
I mean, if I were you, I would be SO upset too. I mean, it's not right. However, you guys aren't dating or in a relationship or anything, so he's free to do whatever he wants and so are you. If you don't tell him that him saying these things bothers you alot because you still have feelings for him, than he's going to keep saying it and doing it. communication is key and boys are dumb with this stuff most of the time. they don't usually think before they act with stuff like this. so you have to just be straight up and spell it out for him. when/if he says it again, you NEED to tel him how it makes you feel. Don't hide the fact that it makes you upset from him or he's not going to respect you and stop.
All you can do is talk to him about you feel, ask him if these girls really mean anything to him, because you love him and you want to know if he feels the same way because you don't want to waste your time on someone who doesn't feel the same way. Honestly hun, all you can do is TALK to him. talktalktalk. or nothing will ever be solved. but in my opinion ? I think he does like you, he's just hurt. so here his side of the story too, okay ? there IS a reason he is saying things like that to you. find out why by COMMUNICATION. not over text. i think this needs to be done over the phone or in person.
good luck ! hope i helped, it will be okay, I promise. and if it doesnt work out, you are a great girl and will find another guy who will love you unconditionally. if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me. xxo :]

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My favorite time of the season is fall. I love it so much that everytime I go to the store I always buy some little something to add to my decorations, all of which are being stored in a box in my attic. My question is, today Sepetember 1st, is it too early to decorate for the fall season? My family and I just moved in this neighborhood less than a month ago and I don't want them thinking we're odd balls lol. I really want to go ahead and decorate, the inside of my home is already FALLtastic lol, but just not sure if it would be weird. Thanks for any help I can get.

FALL IS MY FAVE SEASON TOO ! :] Everyone says that summer ends on september 31st, but personally ? I think it ends september 1st.
Go ahead and decorate for fall. I don't think it's odd or weird at all. I'd do the same thing if I had some fall stuff to put up that my mom would let me put up ahahaa. :]
good luck ! have funn, hope i helped ! xxo.

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16F
I'll ask my main questions about this at the end.
I had a party for my 16th birthday last November and it went well. The only problem was it started out a bit boring because out of the 25 people i invited, only 17 were able to make it, even though 17 still seems big it was just sortof quiet at first and it started to get better once i set up guitar hero in my living room and when we started eating and talking and listening to music and playing guitar hero and stuff. I'm thinking of having another party at my house for my 17th birthday in November and I'm thinking about it now because I like to plan ahead. I've made a tentative list of people to invite and based on the possible date of the party, I'll assume that hopefully 20-25 people will be able to make it, maybe more depending on who I start talking to more once school starts. Now I'll start getting to the point. I need some good ideas to ensure that there's no awkward quietness at all when people show up. There will not be alcohol under any circumstances, it's just not happening, so that rules out any drinking ideas. I want to make my living room look cooler, last year I just made my "L" shaped couch straight and had the regular high-hat lights on, it looked kindof static, and the kitchen and dining room already look fine. so here are my questions

1. What are some cool was I can decorate, to make it a not awkward and partyish environment? and that's not too expensive?
2. What food or drink (not alcoholic, as I mentioned) ideas can I use that would be fun for a party? I know that dinner will simply be pizza but other stuff like snacks and drinks and whatever.
3. It'll be November, but considering it's not too cold would it be a good idea to let people hang out outside if they want?
4. The past two birthday parties I've had, two of my friends slept over. There are about 12-14 possible girl that could sleepover this time. Is it ridiculous to have that big of a sleepover at 17? Should I just stick to the two girls and maybe 2 or 3 others?
5. Any other good ideas like things to do during the party and such would be appreciated. Note that my parents will be home, so ideas based around that. Nothing to cheesy, but nothing too insane either.

alrightt. my 17th brithdaay is gonna be here in 2 months, so i think i'd know what's in and what's outt at this agee :]

1. you can have like balloons. okay not like the weird balloons that you buy at party city, but ones that you just blow up by yourself. its easy cheap and nothing too "partyish" or "babyish" you can have some a little deflated so they are on the floor, and you can have some tied with ribbon hanging from the ceiling. also just putting confetti on the tables and stuff is a nice touch. nothing too fancy, yuh know. keep it simple.
2. have you ever heard of a thing called shirley temple ? and a roy rogers ? you can make it yourself. i found you a link..
http://www.ehow.com/how_1759_make-sephardic-chicken.html
... shirley temple instructions

http://www.ehow.com/how_4112_make-roy-rogers.html
... roy rogers instructions

they're really easy to make. also, you could just get the regular drinks like sprite, mountain dew, and coke and all of that. and for snacks and stuff, just do the whole chips thing. popcorn, dortios, cheese puffs, salsa and chips ... yuh know, the regular stuff.
3. if its not too cold, yeah have some chairs set up and stuff, and a stereo or ipod thing out there, just incase anyone needs a fresh breath of air. not a bad idea, just let them do what they want, yuh know ?
4. yeahh i dont think the whole 14 girl sleep over thing would be such a great idea, keep it down to a maximum of 4 people. that seems better suited for our age haha.
5. you should definetly do a game of truth or dare. thats aways fun at parties and it gets people laughing and socializing. you could also do a test tasting thing. where a few people have to be willing to have a blindfold oin their mouth and people put food in their mouth and they have to guess what it is. [just make sure no one has any allergies hahaa] also just play musci, chill and maybe have a funny movie playing.
everything will turn out fine. parites like this are always better low key and not "out of hand" or "over the top" keep it simple :] and dont over think it. they'll have fun. good luck ! hope i helped. xxo. :]

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iv been smiling like a giddy idiot all through work today haha
(i posted this question a couple of days ago)
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=570025

its the same girl, except after a few hours today i finnaly grew a pair of nuts sucked up my shyness and tried to talk to her. it went great! her personality is as beutiful as her style.
her slightly aussie accent is really cute too

i dont think any one knows that i like her im trying to hide it a bit so i can get to know her better. thing is though iv been thinking out a long term (sort of) plan to get to know her a bit better
after we'v talked in work and if all goes well then how do i think of a cute way to give her my number so that it makes it really obvious or slightly obvious that i like her. im not affraid of rejection .. at least i hope im not.. iv been alone for 6 years and am really rusty at this :s

any advice on anything else you can think of would be appreiciated.

thanks again all of you

Awwww, you sound like a very caring person :]
Okay, so. You seem to be on the right track, but I think that you'll know what to do to get your point accross when the time comes, but just incase you get stuckk, here's some options or ideas to spark your inspiration ;]

- when talking to her, make sure your body language is good. don't fold your arms over your chest or anything like that. always make eye contact, and focus on what she says, basically don't look closed off, distracted, or liek you have somewhere better to be.
- compliment her. not like compliment on every little single thing about her, but maybe like, when she smiles really big, say something like, "i love your smile." or you could say, "your eyes are so pretty ... but you're really pretty in general so... :]" it's little things like that, that will totally get her thinking there's something more you're feeling.
- you can also like touch her arm or something at points when you're talking to her [when appropriate, and you'll know when] its kind of like a sign that you WANT to touch her because you like her. hahaa.
- just smile alot at her, not that i doubt you're ot smiling, but try not to frown unless she's being serious. but, also, don't over due it. look at her intently and just keep the conversation flowing, ask her about herself, be intersted in her and FLIRTY. dont forget to flirt. major key.
- if you want, and you muster up the confidence to do so, ask her out. be like, "i love talking to you. i want to talk to you more than this, how bout we go out to eat or see a movie or something, your choice my treat :] what do you say?" and flash her a smile. she'll know that you are intersted in being more than friends.
alright ! hope i helped, if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me ! good luck. xxo. :]

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so there is this boy in the year above me in my school and i like really really like i might even love him i spmetimes speek to him on msn and ask the usual like how are you an stuff but as soon as i ask him wot has he been doin or something like that he nevr ansers anymore than that he is fine he knows i like him and the other day he added me on facebook as the 5th person the added wich i was made up about an now i dont no wot to do cause he wont say anymore on msn but i dont wont to keep annoying him because he might get abit pissed off with me wot should i say to him

Love is a very powerful word hunn. just remember that. when you are definetly in love with someone it won't be a "maybe" feeling or an "i might love him" kinda thing, it will be a definite feeling. trust me. so I think you just really like him at the moment. It's important to realize the difference right now because it will help you decipher how he feels and why he hardly talks to you on msn.
With that said, he could be saying very little for multiple reasons...

1. he might be bored and questions like that [simple ones/not creative] dont really interest him.
2. he may not like you the way you like him and doesn't want to lead you on.
3. he's not a big talker. [i know my boyfriend is like that, and as frustrating as it is, i deal]
4. he might be pretty busy or stressed latley, so he doesnt have time to talk. sometimes when people have alot on their mind, they keep to themselves.

okay so now that we got down some of the possibilities, here's what you should do...

- talk to him in a more flirtatious way. instead of saying "hey whats up" be like .. "hey good lookin, whats cookin ? ;]" and then in reply to whatever he says be like, "did you like my pick up line? haha" or something like that instead of the immediate, "how are you?" 'cause let's face it, that gets really old really fasst.
- he won't be annoyed by you, if you dont act clingy. like, okay. if he doesnt act like he wants to talk to you, say something like, "alright, i just wanted to stop by and say hey, but i'll catch yuh later :]" and then talk to him in like a day or 2 on msn. he'll think you're playing hard to get and have better things to do, and he'll want you even more.

The key is confidence, like the advice giver below me had said. If you don't have confidence, the guy won't be intrigued by you. so you need to hold your head up high and be as straight forward as possible and i promise, if you try hard enough, in the end, you'll get what you want. but these things take time. get to know him, let him get to know you. and then take it from there.
good luck ! hope i helped ! if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me :] xxo.

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i'm 15 years old, 5'3 and 3/4, 104 lbs, started my period about a month ago, and have all signs of puberty- except boobs. i cant stand seeing myself in a mirror when im getting changed because its repulsive to see my non-existant chest. i dont just have small boobs, im completely flat chested. i might as well be a ten year old boy. every time i look for advice people say theres still time and im just a late bloomer, but i've been waiting to get them for 5 or more years (some of my friends started developing as early as age 9.) i'm so worried i'll stay this way my entire life. is that possible? i don't want any answers if all your going to say is "your 15, there's still time. :)" no. wrong. unless you were in the exact same position as me but still got them eventually you can't say that. every single person i know my age has them and i've already started my period, your supposed to get your boobs before your period. so please no answers like that. and i'm sorry if im coming off bitchy, im just frustrated as im sure you can imagine.

Welcome to the no boobs club. hahaa. Because I don't have them either, and im 16 years old and I've had my period since I think I was 14 ? I don't remember, it could have been early 15 or late 14, but that doesn't really matter. It's complete bull when people say that "oh you'll get boobs once you get your period" ...uh, NO. That doesn't apply to everyone, let me tell you hahaa. I'm still waiting for mine, although, you might not notice a huge change yet, they are growing. Because during each of your periods, your breats swell and after your period is done they get a little bigger each time. Also, if you put on weight, they get bigger also. I'm not saying like, go put on some pounds, but these are just the facts. It could also be in your genes that you don't have boobs, my mom didn't get a chest until she got pregnant with me my brother and my sister. It's different for everyone. and it's not fair that my sister has boobs and I dont ! honestly, ahaha. But you just have to live with it. If you look around you, you'll see that alot of people are flat chested or flatter than you think.. they just use push up bras and all of that.
I know what it feels like to have everyone around you have a chest and you being the odd man out. But it doesn't mean you're not attractive. I mean, I have a boyfriend, so he must not care :] haha. However trust me, your boobs will get bigger after each of your periods. You probably won't have like the boggest chest and you might become barely a size b cup, but you won't be flat forever. You have a ways to go.
The possibility of having a flat chest for the rest of your life IS possible, I know that's not what you want to hear, but I had to own up to that too haha. You'll get used to it, it doesn't really bother me anymore. I am how I am. But i promise you, you won't be as flat as you are now for the rest of your life. you will get at least a little chest even if it's just a tiny bit. and if it relaly bothers you that much, wear a push up bra or when you're older and done growing you can get surgery, but for now, you just have to try to not think about it. because you are beautiful just the way you are, with boobs or without.
good luck ! hope i helped and dont sweat it so much :] if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me, xxo.

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16.F / Junior in high school

I think that I unfairly judge others based on their GPA / class levels in high school. I'm a very competitive student in all honors and AP classes and I think, unintentionally, I base people's intelligence based on what classes they are taking (e.g., if another student is taking B-level classes, I assume they are lazy and that he or she doesn't care about school, college, or career success, or I greatly respect students taking many honors / AP classes). How do I STOP judging people based on their GPA / class levels and realize that not all students in honors / AP classes are necessarily intelligent and that not all B-level students don't care about getting into a top university?

My ex boyfriend was exactly like you. He's in all honors and AP classes and judges people on the level they are in. He judged me also, which yuh know, wasn't fair. I'm not in any honors or AP classes, but that doesn't make me stupid. Some people are just naturally smart, and like the advice given below me, I agree with the point that everyone has different ways of learning and different paces.
You just have to remember that everyone is different. It doesn't mean that people in the lower level classes are less competitive or eager to get into a good school. I know I want to get into a good school, but I can't compete with the people in honors and AP classes because my brain just doesn't work that way. And with that, everyone is smart in their own way. If everyone was in AP and honor classes, the world would be a much different place haha.
With that said, don't think about it so much. Accept people for who they are, not how they are percieved by the level of class they are in, because it's not fair. It's like all of the lower class people judging YOU for being a dork or loser with no life because you're in all of the "snobby" honor and AP classes. hahaa, it's not how that works. :] it's just a bunch of stereotypes. Because you're not like that. You're not a loser or dork or snob or a "no-lifer" and the people in the lower classes aren't less motivated or lazy or not caring. haha get it ?
anyways :] hope i helped ! good luck, if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me, xxo.

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Me and my friend are dressing up for homecoming week and we need the hair spray color. im not sure if its hair spray but its in all kind of colors and you spray it in your hair. lol.
Where can i find that for cheap?

Party City has them for really cheapp. check it outt, because I just bought some cans of that there haha. i know exactly what you're talking about.
good luck ! have funn, hope i helped. xxo :]

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i met diz guy wit my friend well actually diz guy call me on behalf of my friend who's locked up right now but ne wayz me n him r really getting along n we talk alot on da fone but da problem iz dat he's never seen me n ive never seen him n he tells me dat he really likes me n dat he wants to go out wit me n i dont know wat to say to him if i should listen to him or just forget about him cuz he does drugs n i tell him to stop n not em but he wont listen ni i tell him to stop hangin in da streets n not to do bad stuff but he wont listen so teell me wat should i do

Uhm, you should probably just let him go. You don't need that in your life, and you don't need to be with someone involved with drugs, because that will backfire on you in the future.
There are plenty of other guys out there, and you will find one that is more suitable for you, who will respect your wishes if you ask him to stop doing something or start doing something, unlike this guy. I mean, he's also getting into bad stuff and trouble.. why be associated with that ?
In my opinion ? Just forget about him. Because I feel as though this guy is just telling you what you want to hear. You can be friends with him, sure, but I suggest you just keep it at that; friends and nothing more. But I can't tell you what to do, that's up to you to make the smart decision, and im positive that you will :]
good luck ! hope i helped, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me ! xxo.

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Is lovsickness healthy? Because I'm really tired of crying myself to sleep and thinking about HIM all the time. I mean, I think I'm suffering from unrequitted love. Help!

That is perfectly normal and healthy. Actually, it's REALLY healthy because some people choose to not think about it and keep it all inside until it all blows up in an emotional breakdown at almost ALWAYS the worst times.
You obviously are still not over him, but in time you will be. everyone has their own ways of getting over things, and if you are crying yourself to sleep and thinking about him all of the time, it's just your way of coping. Over time, this will gradually stop, I promise, you just have to let it all out. Vent to your friends, even when you think they don't want to hear it, keep a journal and write down your feelings ... juts do things to get it out, or the porcess of getting over this "lovesickness" will take much longer.
But it becomes unhealthy if it is making you unbearably depressed and unhappy if you start skipping out on hanging with friends or going out and doing things because of the "lovesickness" and that's when you need to start worrying. I dont know if that's happening to you, but just listen to alot of empowering music, not sad songs like taylor swift white horse or something haha. Listen to like, christina aguilera: stronger or ... kelly clarkson: dont let me stop you or kelly clarkson: whyyouwannabringmedown
You'll be okay, everything takes time, I know I always thought about my ex and was upest alot, but then after like 5 or 6 months i got my boyfriend :] and he changed everything.
good luck ! don't worry and you are perfectly normal. hope i helped, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me :] xxo.

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ALRIGHTYY! So I'm dating this guy, and he's pretty cool. It's only been like two weeks that we've started dating. I just have this really iffy questionable feeling about this whole thing. He has a real good personality....buuut i'm really not that physically attracted to him. I know people say "looks aren't everything" but in my opinion that is complete bull shit, because hell they matter to everyone at my age! (16.) We've hung out like four times, we've done like everything "sexual" to do except sex and oral. That doesn't matter. But I don't know,when he left my house last night and my brother told me he looked like a rat, I really quickly thought i'd break up with him. I know, sounds so terrible! He's a real cool guy, a good personality. It's just I have other guys talking to me, and I feel at this age I shouldn't be tied down to someone that I have an iffy feeling about in the first place! But then again, I'm worried If I break up withh him the next day I'll totally be regretting it. I don't know, so confused! Can anyone help me out here?

Just because someone calls your boyfriend a rat, doesn't mean you have to break up with him. I think you're looking too much into this, to be honest. I mean, people say things about my byfriend to me all of the time. and they say stuff about me too. But that doesn't chnage our opinion on one of eachother. Despite the fact that I'm in love with him, it wouldn't change my opinion of him anyways what people, say because in the end, it how YOU see him.
If you weren't physically attracted to him you wouldn't have done everything but sex and oral, just face it. You like him. and i think that scares you because yeah, maybe he's not the most gorgeous guy ever, and maybe not everyone is going to be jealous of him, but they will be jealous of your relationship if you have a good one. Because if you like his personality and he's "really cool" then why break up with him ?
Although, I think that if you don't want to be tied down right now, then don't keep him hanging on. Because it's just not fair to him. He's a person to, with feelings, and if you're not feeling it, then you need to end it. Maybe in the future, when you're older, you can have something more serious with him, when you're ready but he might not be there when you actually WANT him.
so think about this..
- if you end it, are you gonna still be friends?
- if you end it, are you gonna miss doing "sexual" things with him?
- if you end it, are you gonna immediatley get with another guy?
- are you thinking about other guys now?
- are you thinking about other guys when you're with him ?

andswer those questions, and you'll know the answer to stay with him or not. you have to do what's best for you. think about what you really want, and not what anyone else wants. this is YOUR life, live it the way you want with who you want. good luck, hope i helped, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me :] ! xxo.

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