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Judging Others
16.F / Junior in high school
I think that I unfairly judge others based on their GPA / class levels in high school. I'm a very competitive student in all honors and AP classes and I think, unintentionally, I base people's intelligence based on what classes they are taking (e.g., if another student is taking B-level classes, I assume they are lazy and that he or she doesn't care about school, college, or career success, or I greatly respect students taking many honors / AP classes). How do I STOP judging people based on their GPA / class levels and realize that not all students in honors / AP classes are necessarily intelligent and that not all B-level students don't care about getting into a top university?
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i respect you so much for coming forward and asking advice about stopping youself from judging people.
ok so im not the smartest girl on this planet and people do look down on me because im not the smartest spark in maths or some subjects and i know it. i know they look at me differently and never ask me about assignments because they just assume i wont know or assume i havent been listening but you need to understand that i try just as hard as those who are really gifted in those subjects. i could study till my eyes bleed but i would still be an average student. some people were just not made for some subjects but this doesnt mean that we re uncapable it just means that we re A+ students in another catagory could be arts or Biology or something else. it just makes our lives alot harder when we re being looked down on even if you think we dont know, we really really do and sometimes it makes us cry at night to know that we re being judged...hope this helps you stop judging i know you cant help it and that your a nice person but put yourself in their position:)
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Im in one honors class, one A class, and all B classes. Actually, Im in integrated math because Im not good at math. I have to say honestly, I have met people that judge me (like you) and I have no respect for them, they only bring me down in life. One time my friend told me I wasnt smart, and I went home and cried my eyes out. You might not be verbal about your feelings, but the person you are negative towards can tell still, trust me.
You need to accept people for the way they are, act as if you have no idea what level class they are in. I for one think I am very intelegent, scratch that, I AM intelegent. Just for the record. I still get A's in B classes, and Im perfectly fine with that. You should be too. :-)
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My ex boyfriend was exactly like you. He's in all honors and AP classes and judges people on the level they are in. He judged me also, which yuh know, wasn't fair. I'm not in any honors or AP classes, but that doesn't make me stupid. Some people are just naturally smart, and like the advice given below me, I agree with the point that everyone has different ways of learning and different paces.
You just have to remember that everyone is different. It doesn't mean that people in the lower level classes are less competitive or eager to get into a good school. I know I want to get into a good school, but I can't compete with the people in honors and AP classes because my brain just doesn't work that way. And with that, everyone is smart in their own way. If everyone was in AP and honor classes, the world would be a much different place haha.
With that said, don't think about it so much. Accept people for who they are, not how they are percieved by the level of class they are in, because it's not fair. It's like all of the lower class people judging YOU for being a dork or loser with no life because you're in all of the "snobby" honor and AP classes. hahaa, it's not how that works. :] it's just a bunch of stereotypes. Because you're not like that. You're not a loser or dork or snob or a "no-lifer" and the people in the lower classes aren't less motivated or lazy or not caring. haha get it ?
anyways :] hope i helped ! good luck, if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me, xxo.
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Everyone has there own ways of learning, Some of learn slower than others and others learn visually etc. Instead of judging others you should try and think about their situation first. They could be trying and just might not be as fast in learning as you are. I personally was in under classes myself that didn't make me stupid and there was a reason for it. I am hard of hearing and I'm a visual learner. The way to stop judging others is to stop and ask youself why they might be in those classes, They could very well be lazy and not care but I'm sure that is not always the case.
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