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eghh iffy feeling. unsure.
ALRIGHTYY! So I'm dating this guy, and he's pretty cool. It's only been like two weeks that we've started dating. I just have this really iffy questionable feeling about this whole thing. He has a real good personality....buuut i'm really not that physically attracted to him. I know people say "looks aren't everything" but in my opinion that is complete bull shit, because hell they matter to everyone at my age! (16.) We've hung out like four times, we've done like everything "sexual" to do except sex and oral. That doesn't matter. But I don't know,when he left my house last night and my brother told me he looked like a rat, I really quickly thought i'd break up with him. I know, sounds so terrible! He's a real cool guy, a good personality. It's just I have other guys talking to me, and I feel at this age I shouldn't be tied down to someone that I have an iffy feeling about in the first place! But then again, I'm worried If I break up withh him the next day I'll totally be regretting it. I don't know, so confused! Can anyone help me out here?
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give it a couple days more...and girl it's not all about the looks. it's especially not about the sex. who cares what other people think. ya it's nice to have a good looking guy in you're life, but what matters is if you can have a good time and be yourself around him. I just want you to know something i've learned in science is that more people are attracted to guys with a better personality than there actual looks. I hope i didn't affend you in any way, but i also hope that i helped you out. If you ever need anymore help i'm here for you.
Your friend, lulabell aka lulu
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I agree that looks aren't everything but you have to be physically attracted to the person you are with. It seems that you are too young and not ready for a serious and/or long term relationship which is completely normal. You are only 16 and yes you shouldn't tie yourself down to someone you aren't all that attracted to. If what you want is to get to know people and date different guys then that is fine as long as you let the guys you date know what you want out of the relationship. Tell them look im not looking for a serious/long term relationship I just want to have fun Im young. Guys at this age don't like to be tied down in the first place so don't worry about not being able to find guys to date. Just be honest with your boyfriend so you both don't waste your time on eachother.
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Just because someone calls your boyfriend a rat, doesn't mean you have to break up with him. I think you're looking too much into this, to be honest. I mean, people say things about my byfriend to me all of the time. and they say stuff about me too. But that doesn't chnage our opinion on one of eachother. Despite the fact that I'm in love with him, it wouldn't change my opinion of him anyways what people, say because in the end, it how YOU see him.
If you weren't physically attracted to him you wouldn't have done everything but sex and oral, just face it. You like him. and i think that scares you because yeah, maybe he's not the most gorgeous guy ever, and maybe not everyone is going to be jealous of him, but they will be jealous of your relationship if you have a good one. Because if you like his personality and he's "really cool" then why break up with him ?
Although, I think that if you don't want to be tied down right now, then don't keep him hanging on. Because it's just not fair to him. He's a person to, with feelings, and if you're not feeling it, then you need to end it. Maybe in the future, when you're older, you can have something more serious with him, when you're ready but he might not be there when you actually WANT him.
so think about this..
- if you end it, are you gonna still be friends?
- if you end it, are you gonna miss doing "sexual" things with him?
- if you end it, are you gonna immediatley get with another guy?
- are you thinking about other guys now?
- are you thinking about other guys when you're with him ?
andswer those questions, and you'll know the answer to stay with him or not. you have to do what's best for you. think about what you really want, and not what anyone else wants. this is YOUR life, live it the way you want with who you want. good luck, hope i helped, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me :] ! xxo.
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well it isnt bullshit, looks really arent everything. if you think that, its fine, just go for some guy who you think is really hot. but just remember one thing, goodlooking people can get whoever they want. So why would they stick with you? get it? really attractive people dont last as long as the decent looking people with bigger and stronger hearts. If this guy is important to you than you should hold onto him. Dont just break up with him for a stupid reason. or else you will remember what a great guy he was.
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