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i dont get it, does he like me or not??
so theres this guy that ive been friends with for 3 yrs & we talk a lot, and flirt a lot. we basicully went out last year for about 5 months then we stopped talking becuase i couldnt take it anymore. hes soo good looking and he clearly knows it and gets whatever he wants. then we started talking like about 2 months ago and im like back inlove with him again and he aways says he likes me so much and he wnats to be with me and can see us being together and what not. like he is so perfect BUT the one huge flaw he has is being a player i guess you could say. okay if he likes me so much, why does he talk about hooking up with other girls? like he tells me he fucked some bitch last night, um okay like i care? & he told me theres this girl who is so sexy but he cant get with her becuase of his bestfriend long stupid story but he was all i wish she wasnt so sexy. she jus showed me a picture of wat shes going to wear when we hangout and i think i fell inlove. like wen he said that i jus left & balled my eyes out. i do act like i dont care and i say stuff like good jobbb, and nice one. but it really hurts me so badly. like WHY does he do that, like i honestly dont think he does it to make me jealous becuase he can talk about it so easily. so i cant even tell if he likes me or not. what do i doooooooo? what do i sayyyyyyy? =( help
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Damn girl....I say you forget this guy and don't pay him any attention. He wants to show off to you and that if y'all aren’t together, then it's cool because he can get all the pussy in the world. Don't even waste your time with him because he will probably hurt you. He isn't the serious type and unless you want to be played with, don't date him. Start talking to other guys and try to find someone who really likes you (by the way he likes and cares about you as much as he likes and cares about every other girl) and will respect you. Oh and as to what do you say, don’t say nothing. Be his friend if you don't want to lose the friendship but don't flirt or mess around with him. And if he does tell you that he likes you or wants to flirt just tell him you want to be just friends. That he isn't the type of guy you want to be with. He is a scum bag and you should tell him you don't want anything with him before he tells you that. And when you get the boyfriend you deserve and he asks you why?? That he thought you and him had something...tell him well so did I but then I realized all you care about is seeing how many girls you can get and I don't want to be part of that game so I moved on. I hope this helps, hit me up if u need more insight.
P.S. I had a similar situation with a guy and once I saw he was all about games I stop talking to him all together even though he was a cool person to chill with. But I just couldn’t trust him even as a friend because he wanted to play with me as a girlfriend. This happened 4 yrs ago and he has been trying to contact me but I’ve just left if alone because he isn’t worth having as a friend. All I’m trying to say with this is that not dating one guy isn’t going to make a difference I’ve been with the love of my life for 3 years now and I couldn’t ask for nothing more….so don’t get stuck on a guy especially this scum bag you posted about.
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My thoughts on this are..
Maybe he's trying to get back at you for breaking up with him and not talking to him for a while because "you couldn't handle it" I mean think about it, that must have hurt him alot, for you to break up with him like that. So I think that there are 3 parts to his motives ...
1. revenge on youu. to like get you back for hurting him.
2. to make you superduper jealous [which is obviously only hurting you]
3. to hide his true feelings for you because I think he's scared to like you again, so he convinces himself that he doesn't.
I mean, if I were you, I would be SO upset too. I mean, it's not right. However, you guys aren't dating or in a relationship or anything, so he's free to do whatever he wants and so are you. If you don't tell him that him saying these things bothers you alot because you still have feelings for him, than he's going to keep saying it and doing it. communication is key and boys are dumb with this stuff most of the time. they don't usually think before they act with stuff like this. so you have to just be straight up and spell it out for him. when/if he says it again, you NEED to tel him how it makes you feel. Don't hide the fact that it makes you upset from him or he's not going to respect you and stop.
All you can do is talk to him about you feel, ask him if these girls really mean anything to him, because you love him and you want to know if he feels the same way because you don't want to waste your time on someone who doesn't feel the same way. Honestly hun, all you can do is TALK to him. talktalktalk. or nothing will ever be solved. but in my opinion ? I think he does like you, he's just hurt. so here his side of the story too, okay ? there IS a reason he is saying things like that to you. find out why by COMMUNICATION. not over text. i think this needs to be done over the phone or in person.
good luck ! hope i helped, it will be okay, I promise. and if it doesnt work out, you are a great girl and will find another guy who will love you unconditionally. if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me. xxo :]
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Hi,
Im not exactly sure what you meant when you said 'she showed you a pic of what shes going to wear', who are you talking about? His other girl? Anyhow, I would ask him straight up if he likes you and if he says yes, tell him he does not act like he does. Talk to him about all the other girls and say its not right. Tell him that if he wants to be with you he should be committed to you, not cheat, treat you special, and to not be with any other girl while you are together because you deserve to be his number one, not 2 or 3 or 4.
If he does cheat on you or treat you badly, you have to move on. Remember this: If he cheats on you once, shame on him. If he cheats on you twice, shame on you. It is not right to have to put up with that kind of behavior/attitude. You'd have to tell him its not working out like you discussed and that you will find someone else that wants to be committed and honest.
You shouldn't act like you don't care if you have feelings for him and want him. If you want a relationship, you have to be honest too and give your half of the effort. Communication, trust, and honesty keep a couple together. If there is none.. you know what happens.
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