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"We make war so that we may live in peace." -aristotle

"If you judge someone right away, you will not be able to learn to love them."

I'm Hayley, I'll try to help you as best I can. I'm 18, and a senior in high school. I like art, music, and clothing. I'm a vegetarian abd have been consistent with it for four years. I have two dogs a westie named misty and a Maltese/poodle mix named mally. I know a lot about dogs because any time
my dogs get a scratch, I research and call the vet haha.

advice

my brother is the preppy popular guy. im the gothic creepy girl. its just two different cliques not life or death. he gets anything he wants. and sometimes i have to do stuff for him. hes a lazy ass. i went off on him he said mom shes being mean. i could have knocked him out cold. hes in highschool. i got grounded i refused to get him a drink and yelled at him. is that gay or what. i talk to my parents they dont care. everyone notices it but my parents even he said i have a shitty life ya slave. im not his slave im his younger sister. my friends notice it their surprised how well im takin it. im gona kill him. how do i get it through their tick skulls IM NOT A SLAVE. im goin fuckin crazy i get grounded if i dont do his work right! how do i get my parents to stop!

whoa, that sucks majorly. i think, i'd write my parents a long letter, nicely, saying like.. i'm not his slave, its not fair if you ground me just because i don't bow down to him. and just because were tottaly different people, doesnt mean you have to show so much favortism towards him. and stuff like that, whatever you feel.

if it doesnt get better.. try telling like, another family member, like you know.. aunts uncles cousins whatever.. if your close to them. or a grandma or grandpa. whoever. thats not right. i mean, like if your brother is just in the family room and your in the kitchen and he asks you to hang him a pop, i mean yano, thats not that big of a deal. but like, if its other stuff too, then i'd follow my advice above.

i mean, does he like yell for you, when your way up in your room? or are you just like standing by him or something. i mean, if my brother is up or whatever, i'll be like .. "john, get me some candy while your up" or whatever. but, idno, you decide if its just minor stuff, or its huge.. you make it seem huge though, so idno.

i hope it gets better. (:

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gothic 13 girl.my mom doesnt know the real me anymore because she just says all thats wrong with me then and how i dress and my friends my music my personality. she just says turn that crap off they just sing about hate when im listening to music even if their not singing about hate. my friends and clothes she still thinks im someone totally different she thinks im all preppy and wears pinks and shit and is friends with the preps. me and the preps got in a huge fight that changed alot of people a long time ago. and when my mom sees gothic kids she says they have no life. i am just about to slap her every time. i cant tell her because. she said if im ever a gothic whore shed kill me and id be grounded for life. which i am the gothic whore now i pretty much am grounded everyday and she couldnt kill me shell be charged with merder to her daughter. i put on a hoodie and jewelry then change my hair. every day for school and when i go places. im in the gothic group i now have true friends. i hate my life. how do i tell my mom in a better way i was thinkin of blowin up in her face well she does it to me i learned well she does it a usual basis. im the sneakiest of all people. im gothic so face it. get over it. help mee

hmm. your not really gothic. your a poser. gothic kids, don't believe in labels. i mean, wow. way to label yourself, what a way to keep you from liking anything else. have you ever tried being more yourself. then some label. don't wear just one type of clothing. go try other things, maybe.. yano some things with color. make some new friends, listen to another type of music. try things out. you cant stick to just being in that category.

wanna know what most people consider a 'goth'?

they most likely suck at school, argue with everyone, because they have no life, and are on drugs. and are mean.

is this the label you want?
do you want to label yourself, as this? do you want people to see you like that?

well, i know i would never want people thinking about me like that. and no, don't even say, you don't care. because you should.

so wonder why you said, you hate your life. your not letting yourself try anything out or be who you want. and hey, maybe you'll find out, that being 'gothic' is who you want. but you'll never for sure, inless you try everything out.

you can't keep living a lie either. dont tell your mom the truth, intill you've tried everything out. then once you have, then you should tell her, who you really are. and show her the postives about you.

i hope that helped, sorry, if i came off mean or something, but i didn't want to beat around the bush. if your open minded, you'll try those new things out.

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i submitted this question once already but it like didn't go through so i fixed it up a bit..

alright well..

one of my friends has very strict parents. so they were looking at her search history and found her myspace. they also found mine.

i'm not aloud to have a myspace. my parents made it very clear that if i had one, i'd be in deep trouble. i wouldnt be allowed on the computer for a long time and when i am allowed to my parents would watch my every move. so on AIM, i cant talk to anyone about private stuff.

i deleted my account already but i dont know what to do. my friends dad said hes going to tell my parents. her dad is going to say he saw it a few days ago so there's no hiding that i actually did have one.

i really don't know what to do. i don't want to get in trouble and loose my computer rights. last resort would be to come clean but i don't want to have to do that. i need to get out of this situation. i really need help, and FAST!! please, does anyone have any advice?

thank you sooooooooooooooo much. you dont know how incredibly bad i need advice.

Well, you could deny everything. and delete every last thing on your myspace, but that probably would be hard, if you've had it for awhile, because i could never trace back allll my comments or anything that ive said to everyone.. but i think also maybe,when you delete ur account, everything gets deleted?

i think basically if i were you, i'd start making something up. i mean, if your parents would really be the way you say they would be, well, pshh. what id say is, yes, i did have one. for like a day, or whatever, but then i felt guilty about having one, when you told me not to, so i deleted it. and i'm really sorry.

and pray that your parents forgive you.
+ my mom used to be like that, she'd always read what i would say online, then i wouldd just start telling her it, and she didnt read it. i mean i dont tell her every little detail, but the ok most stuff. and i basically can do what ever i want. (:

i hope that helpedd. kbye

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17/m well ive being goin out w this girl for like a few months and we have had sex alot of times and she thinks she might be pregnant but i also heard that she was sleepin w some other guy who i dont really know so the kid could be his what should i do? should i take care of the kid even though it might not be mine or what

its probably just a rumor. stay with her all the way intill she has the baby, then can't they like do a blood test or something? to see if hes yours or not. they can do something. & if its yours, well.. thats up to you if you want to help her or not, but if its not, pshh ditch her.

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do guys expect to get a handjob or blowjob from their girlfriends? im 14/f, and i know it seems young or whatever, but there are soo many girls giving them to their boyfriends right now, so is it normal?

its only normal if your a slut. its normal for them, but thats about it. i wouldn't do it, just because everyone else is doing it. would you jump off a bridge if everyone else did it too?

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hey im jackie and im 15. and there is this boy eric.. who i really like. I met his a while ago. But we never really talked.

Friday, we hung out with a bunch of our guy frinds and my twin sis. while there he and i played pool and he won. then we all went iceskating, and Eric skated with me the whole time. and was teaching me to skate {he does ice hockey} then on the way back to his house after the ice rink we both sat in the back and he sat really close to me and put his arm around me and covered me with a blanket then we hugged right before i left.

also, tuesday {yesterday}, me sister and i went over Eric's house.a nd the only other person there was matt. and eric and i were like fighting over his cell and to get it outta his hand i was like all over him. and the same when he was trying to get it from me and then we went to his room. and he was showing me everything. and he went to kiss me but for some STUPID reason, i didnt kiss him. and im mad at myself for that... but then we were lying on his bed and and he was lying on his side and my head was on his chest and we were holding hands.

i think from this he likes me too. let me know if you think im wrong. and also do u think he will ask me out. i know its only been two real hang outs. but at this rate i dont know if he will let me know wat you think

thanks a billlion!

i think its pretty obvious hes gonna ask you out. (: theres not much more to say, its just obvious. good luckk.

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is the straightener "HerStyler" good? and if you think so.. which one should i buy?

i'm not sure. i've never heard of it. but i know for like a fact, conair is thee best. i have it & it works really well. & it depends what kind of hair you have, like, if you have shorter thinner hair, i'd go for the skinny straightener, but if you have like long thick hair get the bigger one. & also, how much is a 'herstyler' like, the more expensive, the better. you don't want a cheap one. my one friend got a cheap one, & it never fully straightned her hair & it always made her hair like frizzy and stuff. so, if the 'HerStyler' isn't around like.. 50 dollars? I wouldn't get it. and if it isn't go for conair, i love it.

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please don't ONLY send me to a site if you want to give me a site. like find the best ones.

i am looking for a quote for my profile about like, how could i have been so stupid to have thought that this girl / these girls were truly my friends? anything about like friendship.

thanks!

go to google.
type in friendship qoutes for aim profile on xanga blogrings.

the links that come up, if it says anything about the word xanga & qoutes and stuff, click it. then it will show like a little icon & like links to peoples sites. then go to there site. & there will most likely be A TON of qoutes,. & there all really good. & really cute.

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Ok so this is pritty personal.My mom is abusive to me sometimes,not really bad or anything like lets say on average she hits me once a month.not like crazy hard but enought to give me a mark for a day or 2(at least a couple hours)...and is (in my opinion) uncontrolably angry.My dad drinks wayyy too much as well (in my opinion again)a least once a week I hear him puking at night kus he's drunkin so much.almost ever nigh he gets drunk.Also when he's drunk he gets verbally abusave,(calles me things like bitch,ect...)....My question is-what should i do?Do they have a problem or am i just making a big deal of there problems.

It's driving my crazy,also i have a brother and sister alot older then me 10 and 13 years older you be exact,(i'm 14) and they have talked to me about this "problem",i still wanna "fix" it but it seems to me they'v givin up.i don't think they really care anymore and just take it.that also really bothers me.



hope you can help

Well, what your mom does, isn't that bad. I mean, why is she doing it? Did you deserve it in anyway? Do you think your mom loves you? Does she pay no attention to you? I mean, if you did something wrong, then she justs so upset with you, thats why. Can you talk to your mom about your dad? Do you have a good enough relationship with her, to beable to say something? I think, you need to do something about your dad. He may get worse. I wouldn't call the cops or anything, because once there involved, well then there involved for a very long time. Can you go to your school guidance counselor? or someone like that? I wouldn't worry so much about your mom, as I would about your dad. I think your mom is probably going through alot. I mean why is your dad getting drunk every night? Is there something wrong in your family? Did someone die? Are you poor? Do your parents not love eachother anymore?

Try to answer those questions for yourself, & go from there. I know that wasn't a whole lot of help. But, I really hope you try to answer those questions, and try to find out what made all these things happen in the first place.

good luck, it'll be ok. (:

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13/female/australia
you probably read the subject and thought "she must be complaining because she is over weight" well i am not over weight i am under weight. I HATE IT! now ur probably thinking "what is so bad about being skinny?" well i am not skinny i am TOO skinnyi am as skinny as my 10 year old sister, and she is under weight for her age. The prboblems i face are: nothing fits me because all clothes are too big or made for boobs. I have NO boobs at all. people always ask me if i am annorexic. People call me "flat" and a "twig". ALSO i have a disease called Ceoliac disease, which means i cant eat gluten, and gluten is stuff like :wheat, flour, musly, oats, barly, malt, and MUCH more. that means i cant eat anything with bread on it (hot dogs, hamburgers, cakes) and all those things are fatty foods, so i cant get fat!!!! o cry nearly everyday because i know that guys arent attrated to my 'skinny-ness' and my 'flat-ness' i also hate being teased at school.
PLEASE HELP ME!!
what should i do to make my self fatter or happier or both?
sorry this is so long...

that sucks, really bad. NO CAKE?! haa aww that so sucks. can you eat chocolate? =O if you can, drink juice. really high calorie juice. i gained a few pounds from obbessing over it one week. -__- ha. but also, go to your doctor. say you hate being so underweight, what can you do to make you fatter. he'll help.

& as for people teasing you in school, just tell them to stop, that its hurting your feelings. or you could laugh with it. when someone picks on me, well its usually jokingly, & i bet those people are just joking with you & you took it too seriously, my brother does that too. just try laughing with it. & make a comment about one of there faults. but dont do it like meaningly. just be like.. pshh well look your nose its all crooked or big, whatever.

i hope that helped a little. (:

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ok well i have a problem i am 15/f and i am ready to have sex but i do not like the way i look when im naked mostly because i have really small boobs and it makes me feel so insecure about myself and it i always think about it (my boobs being to small) and i think it would be totally embarrasing if i was having sex or getting ready to and i took off my shirt and bra and he just laughed or something because i wear pushup bras so it makes me look bigger then what i really am ok first question does anyone know anything that i can do to make my breasts larger anything will help dont say oh there is nothing you can do ive heard that before and well nothing to do with pills either ok second question ok well i am ready to have sex i think bout that all the time to but my body makes me feel insecure what should i do besides explain this to the guy i have sex with and don't say he wont care if he loves yoiu i also have heard that one before and does anyone else feel this way or has anyone else had really small boobs when they were 15 and then woke up one morning and they were just bigger cause that will really help me alot
sorry this was long but please help me

There probably is a pill to make your breasts longer, but I wouldn't take it, or atleast talk to your doctor first, but, i wouldnt take it if I were you. because your most likely still growing. go to your doctor about that one, hes gonna give you the best answer compared to anyone on here for that. you could get like fake boobs or something. i don't know, go to your doctor. or if your afraid to go with your mom or something, they have free clinics too.

& ok, just out of curiosity, why would you wanna have sex with a guy, who doesnt think your perfect just the way you are? hmmm.

& don't rush into sex, & make sure you atleast thinkk, you love the guy. beccause remember, he could end up being the father of your baby.
considering, condoms easily break, & birth pills, arn't always as affective as they are suppose to be.

& for your question, sorry i dont have small boobs, so i cant help you there. & sometimes, only the really perverted guys care about that stuff.

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ok so theres this guy in my spanish class thats a year younger than me that i swear is perfect. hes taller than me hes cute hes smart hes funny hes athletic and hes so sweet. thursday after school i was walking in the hallway when he found me and asked me what i was doing over the weekend. i told him i was going to disney world because i was going there with choir and he was like oh yea thats right you told me that. and then we walked outside and both left. when i got home i realised he might have been trying to ask me out. but im not sure. hes really nice and he could have just been making conversation. he sits right infront of me and we talk alot everyday and he will just turn around and stare at me w/ a smirk on his face. i like him alot and i think he likes me too, but im not sure. im never sure! but anyways do yall think he was trying to ask me out and that he likes me? i dont know what to say to him to show him i like him without being just plain obvious. we would be soooo perfect together its crazy. thanks so much!

yeah, he was deff. trying to ask you to hang out. just when next week rolls around, just be like, hey what are you doing this week? we should hang out. i think he likes youu. like deff. ha i'm like that too, i never know when guys like me. like, theyll be tottaly inlove with me, & i'll be like nahh. but, dont make the mistake ive made before, just for next week, just ask him to hang out.

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I know she did not say that I should gain weight. However, I keep thinking I have a few other pants that are big (I brought them that way - it was the style) and if I wear them and she sees them on me she will say the same thing. However, I have worn one of the pants that are big and she hasnt said anything. Am I overreacting to the above?

STORY TO REFRESH YOUR MEMORY: I am thin and A FEW DAYS AGO when I came home from work I changed into a tee-shirt but wore the same pants I wore to work. She asked me as I sat down to eat if I lost weight, and I said no, but this upset me. I said to her that she always tells me I look beautiful. She said you do look beautiful but your pants look bigger. And she told me that I am skinny enough. However, I feel as if she is telling me to gain weight and I look ugly -- is this in my mind and am I overreacting. HELP" WHEN I ASKED MY FRIENDS THEY SAID THAT IF MY MOM WANTED ME TO GAIN WEIGHT SHE WOULD KEEP PESTERING ME TO EAT OR SAY YOU ARE NOT EATING ENOUGH AND SHE NEVER DOES THAT TO ME - SHE ALWAYS ASKS ME IS THAT THE RIGHT AMOUNT" (PLEASE KEEP IN MIND AFTER A FEW DAYS NOW SHE DOES NOT WANT TO TALK ABOUT IT)

I think shes concerned about you. She wants to make sure your not going anerexic & stuff. She just wants to make sure your ok & is eating. Thats all, just tell her your fine nicely & that your eating & everything. & if you have to, take a couple more bites then usual or something like that.

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I am 15yr. Female. I have never had sexual intercorse. For the past two-three years ago I started geting these bumps. My doctor said it was an Absess [sp] from the bloomers I wear. They were to tight. I havent done cheerleading in about a year now but I am still getting the bumps, but they are worse now. They have moved lower and open like a sore. Is it possible that I have Genital Herpes?

I am still very active in sports. With summer coming up my next sport is SWIMMING and DIVING. Those sports are my life but i am to embarresed to wear a bathing suit with the bumps..


Please if you know anything.
Any information will be appreciated.

Thats what you get for genital herpes... but, if you dont have sexual intercourse, then.. i don't think you can have it? i'd go to your doctor again.

your doctor is the only one who will give you the best right answer. (:

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I bought a shirt at abercrombie & fitch 20 days ago today.
i haven't worn it or anything and I don't like it.
now it's on sale for $20.
I want to return it.... the return policy says 15 days...
any chance I could get them to return it... 5 days after?

any excuses?

no probably not. well, yeah go there & just say can i still return this, i thought we had like 30 days to return it .. or something like that. if they say no. call the company people or manager.. you know what im talking about? like you call & complain. my mom did that because this jacket didnt fit me for christmas, & so she just had to call abuncha people. & then they returned itt.

& if you can't just give it to someone for their bday, ahaha.

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Well I'm best frineds with these 3 girls and they are awesome and are certainly true friends. But lately, two of these friends haven't been really inviting me to stuff, and I always invite both of them. Like tonight, I already had plans to hang out with other friends, but I don't think they knew that and ended up not even inviting me to whatever they were doing. I mean, I would have said "Sorry no I can't" if they asked because I already had other plans, but still, it's the second time they haven't even bothered to invite me. I am a tiny bit mad at them now. Am I just overreacting, because they are usually loyal friends. But idk, I think i have a right to be mad at them because I ALWAYS invite them to stuff. Should I talk to them about it next time I see them? Thanks.

You can ask them. & just be like, why didn't you invite me? I always invite you. But, I bet I already know their answer.. "Well, you don't have to be invited to everything" or something similar. This happened to me, if there ditching you, there probably not very good friend. Is the other girl getting ditched to? or is she going right along with it & going with them? if shes going with them.. then, they suck. there tottaly ditching you. Are you guys going to different highschools? Thats what happened to me.. my friends tottaly ditched me because we weren't going to the same highschool. & I was best friends with mostly all of them, since 2nd grade.

If they don't wanna be friends with you anymore, then they suck. & you're better off without them.

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Alright so me and my boyfriend have been going out for like monthsss..and lately its hard to want to kiss him cause hes got a lil bit stinky breath..but he doesnt know it. i always offer him these mints just because i like them a lot and i always have a bunch but they dont help your breath they just taste good.
What can i possibly do to maybe make his breath smell better without telling him cause thatd be awkward and kinda mean....Esh!
Thanks for the helpppp.

okay, you know how you say you always offer him that candy, well get like some really strong mints. like icebreaker or something. & just be like loook! these taste even better then that other candy i like! here try some. & hand him like a handful, ahah.

& then maybe he'll like him & eat them all the time.

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f/15
okay so last week my boyfriend and I were fooling around and we actually had sexual contact.he didn't go inside, he was like at my opening. he says that he didn't ejacualate inside, but i want to know if there was any possible chance I COULD be pregnant.
thanks

Nope, he'd actually have to go inside of you, for you to be pregant.

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Well see my boyfriend and me kinda had sex it weird. like i'm not goin to go into details or anything but like he got in me and kinda poped my cherry but we stoped but he cumed before. could i be pregnet? becuase i've been worrying about this for like 2 weeks now and i'm only 14 and he's 16. and my mom told us before if we have sex she'll have him go to jail for like sum stupid law. and i'm scared.

help me please.

Congratulations, you're a slut!
And, as winning this great and fabulous award, you may have a chane to possibly won a baby!

That was probably the least thing you wanted to here, right? Well, if you're gonna act like a slut, don't you think you atleast deserve the title?

Anyways, theres a chance you could be pregant. Do you feel sick? feel like your gonna throw up? or anything similar to that? Do you even know the symptoms of pregancy? -__- If you don't, I suggest you look it up.

I can't tell you for sure or not, becaise I'm not a doctor. Look up symptoms of early pregancy & everything, & see if you have any of that.

Your boyfriend should go to jail. Actually, I hope your mom does take illegal action. He deserves it. What type of boyfriend do you have? That he would do that to you? He is older & wiser he should be mature enough to know that is wrong. He was just using you. sorreh.


This is reality, love. Weather you chose to actually listen to me, that hes an idiot, and your a slut for doing something like that, is your choice. Everyone makes mistakes though, dump that loser, & get your act together.

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what do you guys think of this BlackBerry? http://i127.photobucket.com/albums/p122/CAMxWHOREx3/370x400.jpg

do you guys like them? i want opinions!!

personally, no.
i mean it looks super cool.
but, i text alottttttt. & i can hardly even see those buttons, soo it would be way to hard for me to text & stuff. plus, i'd probably lose it alot because its so tiny, its easy to misplace.

like my one friend, had a tiny phone & it fell on the ground in her room & she had a bunch of people over & someone stepped on it. & it practically broke.

so yeah. i mean, if you don't text & don't ever lose things & stuff, then it'd probably be a good phone for you.

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