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im my lazy brothers slave
my brother is the preppy popular guy. im the gothic creepy girl. its just two different cliques not life or death. he gets anything he wants. and sometimes i have to do stuff for him. hes a lazy ass. i went off on him he said mom shes being mean. i could have knocked him out cold. hes in highschool. i got grounded i refused to get him a drink and yelled at him. is that gay or what. i talk to my parents they dont care. everyone notices it but my parents even he said i have a shitty life ya slave. im not his slave im his younger sister. my friends notice it their surprised how well im takin it. im gona kill him. how do i get it through their tick skulls IM NOT A SLAVE. im goin fuckin crazy i get grounded if i dont do his work right! how do i get my parents to stop!
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You were 100% right to go off on him. Maybe it will make him think.
Your problem is you aren't assertive enough nor are you consistent in confronting him. If he didn't get it last time continue to drive home the point that he cannot boss you around.
Never resort to violence but you can grab his sleeve and make him look at you and tell him sternly that "Just because you are older and bigger does not allow you to treat me like dirt" Or you can confront him and poke him and tell him te same thing.
I hate the idea of threats and don't condone using them unless someone is really bullying you which he is. In this case the only threat you can use is "You can try to whine to mom& dad but if you do your problem with me will intensify."
You have to stad up for yourself here even if you get grounded once or twice. Your parents will soon see that there is a problem and get to the bottom of it. Refuse to do a damn thing for him ever period until he treats you with respect. Let him get his own drink. Is he that helpless? I doubt it.
When he's not around you might want to tell your parents before trying any of the above ideas how you feel and tat he's pushing you around. See if anything will change and then revert to the above tactics if need be.
Once he sees that little sis cannot be pushed around and he consistently meets with your roar when he tries it he'll learn to leave you alone and become independent hopefully.
You just have got to be unafraid of him and willing to put him in his place over and over without violence until he gets that you are strong and not a pushover.
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Yes, you can use whatever words you want to. Basically tell him that you will use "the golden rule" which means to do for him as you would want him to do for you, as long as he uses it, too. Tell him you are happy to serve him once in a while if he returns the favor. Be polite and clear and especially firm when you tell him. Ask your parents to support you in being nice to one another. It will be music to their ears. Every time your brother asks for something, ask him for something in return. If he starts being nice back, then you can wait awhile before asking for a favor. Otherwise, ask immediately, and make it clear it is an equal exchange.
Politely refuse to do any more than you should be doing for him, and walk away. If you act respectful and don't let him get you all worked up, then he and your parents will have nothing to blame you with. From now on, you will demand respect and give it, not because he deserves it, but because by demonstrating that you are a focused, self-controlled, superior thinker, it will drive him absolutely crazy. Don't react or worse over react to his tauntings, because this is what he really wants from you, so that he can try to then intimidate you. Respectively tell him that you would be happy to get him a drink if he was unable to do so for himself, but since he is a big boy, you are confident he can succeed at the task of self-hydration. Don't be a smart-ass in front of your parents, though. Instead, when in front of the parents, you should oblige him happily and then immediately ask for a favor of equal consideration from him. If he refuses, then tell him that his lack of reciprocation is unfortunate and that if he chooses to maintain an unwillingness to be mutually interactive, you will likewise be forced to reverse your indulgences, until he esteems both you as his beloved sister and the virtue of recriprocation. Kill him only with kindness and wit, until he either ceases to be a pain in the ass or complies with your standards.
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whoa, that sucks majorly. i think, i'd write my parents a long letter, nicely, saying like.. i'm not his slave, its not fair if you ground me just because i don't bow down to him. and just because were tottaly different people, doesnt mean you have to show so much favortism towards him. and stuff like that, whatever you feel.
if it doesnt get better.. try telling like, another family member, like you know.. aunts uncles cousins whatever.. if your close to them. or a grandma or grandpa. whoever. thats not right. i mean, like if your brother is just in the family room and your in the kitchen and he asks you to hang him a pop, i mean yano, thats not that big of a deal. but like, if its other stuff too, then i'd follow my advice above.
i mean, does he like yell for you, when your way up in your room? or are you just like standing by him or something. i mean, if my brother is up or whatever, i'll be like .. "john, get me some candy while your up" or whatever. but, idno, you decide if its just minor stuff, or its huge.. you make it seem huge though, so idno.
i hope it gets better. (:
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It sounds like you have major issues here. It sucks being the younger sister, I know. I have two older brothers, and then two younger ones. Just talk to your parents one last time, and if that doesn't work, then tell your brother to get off his lazy ass and get whatever he wants himself, only in a nicer way. If that still doesn't work, then just ignore him. It sounds crappy and wimpy, but it works. Good luck and keep me posted on how it goes!
Mimi
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