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ok well i have a problem i am 15/f and i am ready to have sex but i do not like the way i look when im naked mostly because i have really small boobs and it makes me feel so insecure about myself and it i always think about it (my boobs being to small) and i think it would be totally embarrasing if i was having sex or getting ready to and i took off my shirt and bra and he just laughed or something because i wear pushup bras so it makes me look bigger then what i really am ok first question does anyone know anything that i can do to make my breasts larger anything will help dont say oh there is nothing you can do ive heard that before and well nothing to do with pills either ok second question ok well i am ready to have sex i think bout that all the time to but my body makes me feel insecure what should i do besides explain this to the guy i have sex with and don't say he wont care if he loves yoiu i also have heard that one before and does anyone else feel this way or has anyone else had really small boobs when they were 15 and then woke up one morning and they were just bigger cause that will really help me alot
sorry this was long but please help me
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I don't think you should have sex now but about the boob thing you are your own person and no one should judge you on how big your boobs are, try massaging them as they get bigger make a chart and measure them every week you'll see what an improvement it makes. Feel secure love the way you are your much better of then others check out my advice column and tell me how your doing and anything else you want to ask.
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ok... this is such a mom thing but im 13/f and i don't think at 15 is a good age to have sex and if you do then if you have a baby is it worth being a mom at 15 and if a guy sees that you have small boobs and laugh then there not the real person you should have sex with
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Hey help,
Oy - you sound just like me when I was 15. Although I wasn't nearly ready to have sex - that's for sure.
I have small boobs too - I'm a mid-size B cup now and I'm much older than you. When I was 15, forget it...my boobs were non-existant! But that's because I was 15, and I had a lot of growing to do. When you're female your body goes through a lot of changes, and it seems like you're always growing in different directions for the majority of your life. And even though it feels like its taken forever to grow into who you are now, there's still a lot of growing ahead of you.
The body doesn't do things over-night though, and most things, like breast development, take some time. If you're curious as to what size you're going to end up as, there's usually one definite answer right in front of your eyes: and that's your mother (as weird as that just sounded!)...Whatever your mom's cup size is, that's what you'll most likely eventually turn out to be.
I remember checking out my mom's bra once and seeing that it wasn't much more than the B cup I am now, and I too decided to save up, and buy some "guaranteed" boob enhancing pills. All that happened was that I lost $150 bucks. No double D's appeared overnight, no 'growth' what-so-ever. So don't buy into any of that crap - its all gimmicks and they're just trying to get your money, and all the "testimonies" from women saying it worked? Honey those are all actors just getting paid to say that.
I also thought of surgical enhancement. Man, I thought about that one A LOT. From time to time, it still crosses my mind. But then I realized something...the way I look is the way all the women in my family look. Most women in my family have a small chest...but I love my family, and I love the way the women in my family look - they're all individually beautiful. And to cut myself open just so I could NOT look like them seems pretty messed up.
I know you have a list of things not to say: don't say there's nothing you can do, and don't say he won't care if he loves you, etc. But I feel like all this boob-hate has been sparked by the issue of sex...and I know this is a weird question, by why are you in such a rush to have sex? Do you have a boyfriend who's pushing the issue? If that's the case, you're with the wrong guy...because no one should be teling you what to do or when's the right time to do it.
If not, I don't see why you feel you have to jump into sex so quickly. I know you've been told to wait by practically everyone, but as much as this sucks to hear, they're right. There's a lot of reasons why, but one reason its better to wait is because of what I was talking to you about before: you're still in the growing process, and your body is changing a lot, and all of that kind of makes sex a tougher thing to handle for a younger girl than it is for an older girl.
Also, with age comes a lot more confidence, in both the inside and the outside of yourself. You get a better idea of who you are, what you want, and as much as you don't want to hear this -acceptance of who you are physically. As for now, if you need to wear push up bras for a little boost of confidence, there's nothing wrong with that. I know how it is out there, and the pressure to be vuluptuous and big-in-all-the-right-places is insane. Its everywhere, and they make it seem like that's all guys want. But none of that is completely true. The truth is women come in all shapes and sizes, and most men like it that way! If everyone looked the same it would be pretty boring. And besides that? A woman's purpose on this planet is not just to please men. We gotta make sure WE'RE happy.
So while you're continuing to grow, if it makes you happy to wear the push-up, go ahead. And as for sex, please consider not going there just yet. Sex isn't going to solve anything - its not going to make you feel better about your body, and sex is certainly not going to be any good if you spend most of the time trying to explain to your partner that you don't like the way you look! No one should be apologizing for the way they look - and I'm sure you're more stunning than you know! Sex is about sharing yourself with someone else because you feel great about yourself and you feel great about the other person. Please just think about focusing more on building up your self-esteem and doing things that make you feel happy, instead of focusing on some guy's happiness by having sex too soon.
Hang in there...there are better times ahead!
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There probably is a pill to make your breasts longer, but I wouldn't take it, or atleast talk to your doctor first, but, i wouldnt take it if I were you. because your most likely still growing. go to your doctor about that one, hes gonna give you the best answer compared to anyone on here for that. you could get like fake boobs or something. i don't know, go to your doctor. or if your afraid to go with your mom or something, they have free clinics too.
& ok, just out of curiosity, why would you wanna have sex with a guy, who doesnt think your perfect just the way you are? hmmm.
& don't rush into sex, & make sure you atleast thinkk, you love the guy. beccause remember, he could end up being the father of your baby.
considering, condoms easily break, & birth pills, arn't always as affective as they are suppose to be.
& for your question, sorry i dont have small boobs, so i cant help you there. & sometimes, only the really perverted guys care about that stuff.
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