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Pants and Mom
I know she did not say that I should gain weight. However, I keep thinking I have a few other pants that are big (I brought them that way - it was the style) and if I wear them and she sees them on me she will say the same thing. However, I have worn one of the pants that are big and she hasnt said anything. Am I overreacting to the above?
STORY TO REFRESH YOUR MEMORY: I am thin and A FEW DAYS AGO when I came home from work I changed into a tee-shirt but wore the same pants I wore to work. She asked me as I sat down to eat if I lost weight, and I said no, but this upset me. I said to her that she always tells me I look beautiful. She said you do look beautiful but your pants look bigger. And she told me that I am skinny enough. However, I feel as if she is telling me to gain weight and I look ugly -- is this in my mind and am I overreacting. HELP" WHEN I ASKED MY FRIENDS THEY SAID THAT IF MY MOM WANTED ME TO GAIN WEIGHT SHE WOULD KEEP PESTERING ME TO EAT OR SAY YOU ARE NOT EATING ENOUGH AND SHE NEVER DOES THAT TO ME - SHE ALWAYS ASKS ME IS THAT THE RIGHT AMOUNT" (PLEASE KEEP IN MIND AFTER A FEW DAYS NOW SHE DOES NOT WANT TO TALK ABOUT IT)
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If you think about it it's not surprising she does not want to talk about it anymore. You reacted badly to something she said in all innocence and she is probably a. worried you would over react again, and b. she is tired of the same old story.
You KNOW you are thin, you have said this many, many times. You have had countless stories about how thin you are and how you are if you feel you have been slighted in anything.
The next time you start wondering about this, take a look in the nearest mirror, that should help to reassure you. You could also try to keep a record of how many times you seek reassurance from others. This might help you to understand your mothers attitude to not wanting to discuss it any further.
Look at the copy and paste notes you have
already compiled, as this should also help you.
I think it safe to assume that you are over reacting, and you need to take positive steps to overcome this before you drive your family and friends away.
Lastly, as I have said before, if someone says you are beautiful, accept it gladly. It is not a thing that many people have said to them, treasure those compliments and discard the rest.
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I think shes concerned about you. She wants to make sure your not going anerexic & stuff. She just wants to make sure your ok & is eating. Thats all, just tell her your fine nicely & that your eating & everything. & if you have to, take a couple more bites then usual or something like that.
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