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Hi
I want to do a web show with my friend so i would like to know if you know of a web site where i can edit my videos. Like add background music and just stuff like that. (other than windows movie maker)
Thanks in advance!!!!!!!!!!

Here's a list of free video editing software:
http://desktopvideo.about.com/od/editingsoftware/a/freevidedit.htm

You'll have to download it, though.

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is there any meaninq to qettinq yer nose peirced on thee left err riqht side ?
ha. juss curious.

I think it's ridiculous when people try to give meanings to whatever side of your face your piercing is on.

I have to agree with the advice below mine. A nose piercing might look a lot better on one side of your face than the other. Experiment a little to see which side you think it would look better on.

When I got my anti-eyebrow piercing (kind of like a cheek piercing), I wanted it on my left side, but my piercer advised me to do it on the right because of the way my hair parted.

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I've had sex before.. and I guess I wasn't so nervous about this issue because I was with my boyfriend for two years.. and comfortable around him...

but anyways, I'm single now.. and I'm about to hook up with a friend this weekend. I don't want to completely shave and seem like I haven't been through puberty because I hear shaving all the way freaks some guys out... but at the same time I don't want a lot of pubic hair..

I shaved a couple days ago, and I'm seeing him Thursday night, I mean.. I wanna make sure I have no stubble . . but I don't know how to exactly groom myself to make it look nice.. should I just let it grow in, shave my bikini line?

That way it's not too hairy.. but there's no stubble.

I don't know.. any advice would be appreciated.



Most guys don't care as long as it's not A LOT of hair, like out of control. If you don't want to shave it completely, you could always just shave the bikini line, or leave a little strip or something.

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Hi!
Why do people think you need to ask someone or be asked "Do you want to go out with me?" or "Will you go out with me?" Can you just start going out with someone, or is it not official if you don't or are not asked? My ex-boyfriend and I decided that we were just going out, but I've heard that you can't go out unless someone asks or you ask someone, is that true?
Oh, and is saying "I really like you" the same as asking someone out? Or is it when both you and the person you're dating think your going out?
I'm sorry this is kind of confusing.
Thank you very much.
13/f
~Sky

Most people your age usually use the "will you go out with me?" thing. I wouldn't just assume that someone saying they really like you means that you're dating. You don't want to freak them out if that wasn't their intention. If you're not sure, just say "are we dating?".

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Okay!!! ( long... question!! Sorry! )

Well... I FINALLY told the guy I like (Matt) EAXCTLY how I felt about him last night. We were talking (texting...) each other back and forth. I told him... that I loved him ... and that I really did. He told me that he has a girl friend ... and he likes me as a friend and nothing more. I felt awful and embarrased!! I told him... I was crying and I was hurt. He talked to me and we worked everything out. So... he's my FRIEND and ONLY my friend, but I STILL love him. I really care for him 2. I have no idea how 2 get over him.Do you think that maybe ... just maybe he'll like me?? Also...I think I am starting 2 like my crush ...from last year again.(Tanner ) He's nice and funny... but not as sweet as Matt. Should , I go for Tanner? I can talk to him ... okay... but ... I don't want to ruin our friendship, my friends asked him out for me last year... a lot and all the times he said no. I think maybe he MIGHT like me... we laugh and stuff all the time... were buddy-buddy , I think were closer this year. What do you think I should do? I think I should try 2 get over Matt... and go for Tanner. If, you think so ... how should I ask him out? Thanks, and I am sorry this question is so long!!!

Thanks for who ever try's to help !!

I'm really sorry that things didn't go so well with your friend, but don't let that get you down. You're young. You have your whole life ahead of you. Most people don't like to hear this, but it's best to take your time before jumping into a relationship. You may get lonely, but it's better than dating someone only to realize down the road that they are not someone you like being with. I'd say just take your time, have fun with your friends, & eventually you'll find someone.

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paris hilton is my rolemodel! i idolize her! everyone makes fun of me because of it. they say shes aslut and everything. but im reading her book and its really telling me awesome advice. like how to be confident and stuff. i think she is a good rolemodel. what is you guys' take on her? do you think she is a bad rolemodel? why or whynot? thanks in advance

If you want my honest opinion, I would say that I really don't think she's a good role model. It's great that she tries to give advice on being confident, but anyone who pretty much parties for a living isn't a role model in my book.

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So my boyfriend and i were the cutest, happiest, most loving couple out there ..then he went on a cruise. now that he's back he doesn't say anymore cute things like "youre beautiful" and it seems he doesn't appreciate me as much. we used to text throughout the entire day, now he's being short and not really holding out well in conversations. this has been going on for like 3 days, idk if it's just some post vacation thing or what. please help!

No one can tell you exactly what is up with your boyfriend but him. Your best bet would be to talk to him about it & ask him why he's been acting so different.

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I sometimes feel like EVERYONE around me is pissing me off. I feel like everything they do or say irritates me and I end up feeling alone or aggitated. I also sometimes feel alone becasue I don't have many friends, they person I see or hang out with regularly is my boyfriend, his family and his friends! I feel like I should talk to someone proffessionally and maybe they could help me feel good about my place in life and maybe they can help me to react to things better. My issue is that most of the time if someone sees a therapist it may be a reflection that I have a problem, I may have some problems but I don't believe I have an actual mental problem. I want to go see a therapist but I do not know if I should, or how to book an appointment or how much it costs, or if its ccovered by O.H.I.P (CANADA). I also don't know how to tell my boyfriend. He means the world to me Ive been with him for 3 years, I know he would understand but I don't want him to think Im crazy? becasue I am seeing a therapist. I guess im CONFUSED! Please help!

This could just be the result of being a teenager & dealing with all the hormonal changes (assuming you're a teenager?). But if it's really bothering you, then there is absolutely nothing wrong with talking to a professional about it. I've seen my share of therapists, & they helped me majorly.

If you're worried about the way it might reflect on you (even though getting help when you need it is great), maybe talk to your school counselor about it, if you're still in school.

As for your boyfriend, just tell him you've been feeling really stressed lately & you just needed to talk to someone about it. I'm sure he'll understand, & it doesn't make you seem crazy.

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How old do you have to be to get a part time job? I was thinking I would like to work at CVS or a book store, or some where like that, but I've heard you can't get a job until you 16. I know some of my friends have jobs teaching younger kids at their dance studio. I clearly can't drive yet, and both of my parents work, so I would like to find a job for after school, so I could possibly walk or bike to where ever from school. Thank you!!!... :)

It's usually 16. I think it might differ in some states, but generally the rule is 16.

Some private businesses might let you work younger, I know there's a store in my town that does that, but even there you have to be 14.

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So I was really close with a guy for almost a year...and I've liked him for the past 3 months. Well a few weeks ago he started going out with this girl from my old school, I know her.
I know he's happy...but I want him so much. I know he liked me at one point, but he never made a move..
Should I tell him how I feel? Even though he's got her now...I just think that I would feel better...but it may be a bad idea?

Put yourself in her shoes. If you were dating him, would you want another girl confessing her feelings for him?

This is a difficult situation, I know, but it's best not to interfere with their relationship. He might get the wrong idea if you do, anyway. That maybe you're just trying to ruin what they have together. Chances are they'll break up eventually, so make your move then.

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so my boyfriend and i have never made out.

how do i change a kiss that ususally ends into a hug...into a steamy kissing session?

Try kissing him while you're sitting together, watching tv or something. The holding the back of his head idea really works. Start off with slow kisses, & kind of tug on his lip LIGHTLY with your teeth, to tease him. Then kind of make the kisses faster. It's really easy to do.

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My name is Sarah, I'm seventeen and female. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost four months now and have only gone to second. It isn't that I want to go further because I feel obligated to but because I'm ready to. But when I try to go down and give him a hand job I can't help but chicken out. I do want to use lub, but I cant figure out how to factor that in without being awkward. And what do I do when he finishes? Should I put down a towel? I'm sorry and I know these may be stupid questions but it is the first time I'm doing it and I don't want to make a mess.

I have to agree. Start off slow, just a little rubbing through the pants or boxers, then when you feel more comfortable, move on to actual hand jobs. Don't rush it, though. If you're not 100% comfortable or ready, you shouldn't do it. Trust me on this one, I'm speaking from experience. There's nothing worse than doing something you're not ready for in a relationship. You'll probably regret it later.

As for the lube thing, I really doubt it will be awkward. It'll probably feel a lot better for him, anyway.

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OK so im dating this guy well kinda i think i am and we met online its a long distance thing im 14 and he is 16 but i cant talk on the phone with guys yet and we used to talk on the phone all the time till my mom said i can't.he said we can talk on aim till she cools down and we talk once on aim ever since he hates typing for some reason but i dont know if its ganna work between me and him but i really like him we were talking for about 2 months and he told me he loves me what should i do?please help me.

I'm speaking from experience on this one. I once had a long-distance relationship with a guy from California (pretty much on the other side of the US from me). I had genuine feelings for him, but it's so hard to be faithful to each other when you never get to be together in person. I was faithful to him, but he wasn't to me. Naturally, I was heartbroken & regret ever trying a long-distance relationship.

Stay friends, but don't tie yourself down with him, especially at your age. You'll miss out on a lot of fun times if you do.

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omg ok so im 15 and im sick and tired of hearing life something about reality is coming around the corner you have to be ready for it and something about being on top. basically im retarted and its not going to happen i want a job something HELP i cant even explain.

Okay, calm down & breath. You're young, don't try to grow up to fast, or you'll regret it when you're older. You shouldn't worry about stuff like that right now. Take some time to just relax & have fun. Most places won't even hire you until you're 16, anyway.

If you're really desperate for a job, though, you can check & see if there's anywhere that would hire someone your age, or maybe do some volunteer work, or join a group at school.

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hey,
well i already got my costume which was pretty expensive so i was wondering if anyone knows where i could get these leggings:(on the link below) for a little cheaper?
http://www.forplaycatalog.com/store/Luxe_Collection__0153____Legwear178102?Args=
Thankss a bunch!
:D

I don't know if they have that exact pair, since there are so many other pairs that look similar, but this site has some nice stockings, some cheaper than the one you want, & some a little more pricey.
http://www.3wishes.com/stockings.asp


I also found this, which is a few dollars cheaper.
http://www.glitterglamgirl.com/Thigh_High_Sheer_Stockings_With_Lace_Top_p/178102.htm

And then there's these, which are a lot cheaper:
http://www.amazon.com/Leg-Avenue-Womens-Sheer-Thigh/dp/B000GIYBIS

If those don't do it for you, try wal-mart.

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okay, so on friday it was my friend katias birthday "party" hang out, whatever you want to call it. amanda r. and amanda b. were also there. we all went to the movies and had a great time, we did our own thing with different people there. it was all good.
when we got home, this is where it all started going downhill. amanda r. and amanda b. and katia started fighting, i just kept my mouth shut. the amandas and katia were drinking. well, im not a big drinker. they call me a pussy and if i do drink im a lightweight, who cares.
we were sleeping in a tent, why? youll see why. i didnt have any idea why. but it was in 30 degree weather and we were sitting out there for 2 hours in it, today is monday and im sick because of it. i have a terribal cold and a fever.
while we were sitting there for two hours, 3 random sketchy guys, whos age deffinitly ranged from 18-24 just walked near the tent and came in. right when they got in, they took out a ciggarette box and took out cocaine. the girls and i didnt do it, but the guys snorted it. i texted my boyfriend ryan and said "can you come pick me up? three random guys that look like they can be from 18-24 just walked into the tent and their snorting cocaine, help!" i texted that at about 12:27. he dropped everything he was doing and came and got me atabout 12:50. when he came and got me i went back down to the tent because i wanted to stay incase if katias mother came and checked on us, but when ryan got to the tent katia got in his face and said "GET THE FUCK OFF OF MY PROPERTY!" and he said "IF MY GIRLFRIEND TEXTS ME ASKING ME TO GET HER BCOS 3 RANDOM GUYS STEPPED INTO THE TENT, THEN ILL DO WHATEVER THE FUCK I WANT" he was about to punch her but i pulled him away. i saw 1 of those 3 guys look at eachother nod their heads and one of them reached into their pocket. i was like ryan, lets go to your house. leaving him unaware of what it looks like what was going to happen.
so basically, i just left. but my ''friends'' knew that ryan was there, they could of assumed that we left. i guess a little after i left katias mom came and checked on them and saw that i wasnt there. her mom saw the 3 guys. ryan and i fell asleep at his house about 1 and i woke up at 3:30 and said hey hun, i should go back. he was throwing an argument saying he doesnt want me to go there he wants me to go home, but i still had my stuff there and it was expensive clothes and parfumes and stuff like that. all my makeup. i wanted it. when we got out of his area i turned on my cell phone, i finally got service by the high school and i had 15 voicemails and 67 new text messages... they tried calling and texting my phone but i dont get service at ryans house, they left about 10 voicemails asking where i was... and to answer my phone, and that the TROOPERS were involved!!
i get back to katias house and i go to the tent assuming their in there. their not, i say oh god. i go up the deck stairs and i see the amandas katia and her parents sitting there. i was like oh helll naww, no way. i took a deep breath and knocked. they all came running to the door like yes your safe! katias mom got up called the troopers saying i came back and called my rents.
katia said to me "tell the cops you just left.. okay? thats what we told them". i was like "im not lying to the cops katia.. thats so bad" well, it is true that i just left. so i said that to save their asses and mine too. i told the troopers about the 3 guys that were there and my parents looked so happy that i just left. i didnt tell them about the cocaine though..
well, the troopers had to go to ryans house to tell his dad the situation. i agreed with that and showed them where he lives since i didnt know the exact address. i didnt go in with the troopers and my parents. but my parents met his dad finally. they got along and they liked eachother. my mom thanked ryan for getting me. but she wished that i went home and not to ryans house.
when my mother got in the car i explained that the three guys sketched me out, they were looking at me weird. my parents said thank you for leaving your not in any trouble at all, they just didnt know where you went. i said thats the point mom, they didnt have to know SHIT. i still havent told them about the cocaine.
its now 6am and im finally home safe in my own bed. i fall asleep and im starting to get calls at like 10:45 asking what happened. i explained the whole thing. my mom knocks on my door at about 1145 and she says "i was talking to ryans dad, and he told me that there was cocaine there.. is that true?" i said "yes mom, im sorry i didnt tell you" she totally understood, she said "i know sometimes throwing your friends under the bus is hard, but in this situation you have to laura."
later that night, i have my friend brittany saying katia told her that i didnt even SEE the guys. well the cops have a printed report of my texts from 11-3am. so they have proof that i said at 12:27ish that three guys came in the tent with cocaine, and to get me! so shes proved wrong there but she is telling everyone i never saw them and im making it all up. i was at brittanys house yesteday and brit called katia and katia was changing the story around SO MUCH! and ryan was there for the whole story so i have my boyfriend to back my ass up. he saw the guys, he was there when katia blew up in his face. katias saying ryan didnt even come down to the tent, when he did. WHAT THE FUCK! i dont know what to do. can you help me PLEASE?

Wow, those don't sound like the kinds of girls you should be hanging out with, & if they're going to accuse you of lying, I really think you should stop talking to them.

If I were you, I'd try to forget about the whole situation. Or at least just don't talk about it to anyone.

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so this is my costume:
http://partycity.com/cgi-bin/parties/costumes.cgi?thepartytype=&name=Sexy Firefighter&parties=Halloween&productstype=Sexy Female&products=281689&zoom=1&start=&originaltype=Costumes

and i need ideas for make-up! mainly for my eyes. i mean im used to make up, i wear it every day.. eyeliner, eyeshadow, and mascara but for halloween i really want it to be bold and hot and look good without looking overdone.

how can i do good make up with this costume? something cute, not crazy.

pictures or ideas would be great!

With a costume like that, you probably shouldn't go with over-the-top makeup. I think the smokey-eye look would look great with it, though.

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Ok, not really, but anyways...im 18 and the other day i was at work and one of my friends came in with some of his friends.
i'd never seen them before, but from the second i started talking to them, i had the BIGGEST connection with one of them.
ok so im in to the bad boys, with tattoos, big trucks...ect..
but this guy i met is way different, he's so adorable, in a christian band, sweet as hell...!
anyways, when i got off work, we all hung out for like 3 hours...and me and him flirted so much, and we got each others numbers...
then i find out he has a gf, of like a month, who happens to be in my grade, and way ugly :( anyways he called me last night, and we talk on myspace lol and he really wants to hang out!
...i seriously cant stop thinking about him!!
and he's so different from what i normaly go for, and he's 18 also.
so...what shall i do about this gf???
i dont want to sound like a bitch but, i really want him, and honestly i dont care what it takes to get him...so advice?????????
THANX!!! :)

I'm trying not to repeat the same things the other comments say, but they're right.

You may like this guy a lot, but it's really not fair to his girlfriend. How would you like it if you were in her shoes?

He may seem sweet, but if he has a girlfriend & he's flirting with you, how do you know he wouldn't do the same thing to you if you were dating him?

The best advice I can give you, even though I doubt you'll want to hear it, is to just not interfere with other people's relationship.

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im going to a quincanera party ( sweet 15) and i need a nice dress. does any one have any ideas? like colorss or anything? or anywhere i can get a dress. thanks ;]

You probably shouldn't go too over-the-top dressy. I'd recommend a simple but cute dress. As for colors, does the party have a theme or anything? If so, try to buy a dress to match the theme. If not, maybe pick a color that goes well with your skin tone, but if all else fails, little black dresses are still gorgeous.

Where to buy a dress really depends on your price range. You can buy a dress pretty much anywhere you normally shop for your clothing. If you're running low on cash, maybe try a thrift store. They usually have cute dresses for really cheap.

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My friend, who never talks to anyone about his feelings and is very hard to get to open up, has just told me that he's feeling ignored by everyone. He seems really down, (and usually he is pretty happy) and like he feels like no one cares about him.

He keeps saying that he'll just leave it, try to forget about it and let it sort itself out. But I know these things don't work, you have to sort them out.

How can I help him?

It's not uncommon for people to feel like that every once in a while, especially if he's a teenager, since your hormones are going crazy at that time. The only thing you can really do is let him know that you'll always be there for him when he feels alone or needs to talk, & show him that you really care about him.

It's probably just a phase, though.

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