about

My name is Teza.. short for Tereza. I was born in Croatia and I speak more than one language. I'm 22 years old & I completed 2 college degrees in 3 years. My a bachelors is in Business Administration concentration in Human Resources and my Masters degree is also in HR.



I started this advice column about 9years ago and I was so young but it was something that I always loved to do. I am trying to get back to answering questions, at least a few per day. With that said, if you have questions about school, friends, make up, etc., feel free to ask.





Much love, Teza

advice

I noticed how people bribe in their questions, as in "I'll rate a 5 if you answer". Isn't advicenators supposed to be about HELPING? What happened to the world?

L0L. Yea it is about helping people but sometimes when people put I'll rate it just draws attention to the columists and more people answer. I answer even if they dont answer. But you are right! ♥

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ohk so i was really upset one day because it is almost a year that my best friend passed away (rip) and i feel so sad right now, so then i took the blade and i cut its not a big deal or anything i also wanted to see how it felt like. well now its like a craving to cut and i keep doing it and im not even sad its just addicting. i feel so gay and stupid because i think im just doing this for attention ! god what should i do ?? and dont call me lame or poser because i alreay know i am !

Oh my gosh! Dont even start talking about yourself! Dont even say that because I know how you feel. I've never lost a best friend but Ive been through the cutting. I dont think that you are doing it for attention. I mean dont think you are a poser for cutting because you are just upset. Thats just not fair to yourself! Its okay to feel sad! She is your best friend still no matter what. You are feeling depressed and thats fine because everyone goes through it when a loved one passes away. Even tho you dont think its not a big deal, it is. So many people care about you and if they found out they would be shocked and hurt. No one wants you to be doing that or hurting yourself. I mean you've tried it and Im sure everyone always wants to find out how it feels. Now that you know please dont do it again. It doesnt help at all and it just leaves bad scars that will never go away. It is addicting but you know you can stop. I honestly dont want you doing that and I dont even know you but I feel bad. I really want you to stop. Try your hardest and throw away the blade. When you are feeling depressed you need to take a journal and write your feelings down. Ive had a notebook and one day I would just write about everything that happened and why everything is so messed up! It really works and it takes your anger away and you wont even think about cutting yourself. I mean if you really took the time to think about it you would relize how bad and useless it is. Drawing is also a good way to express how you feel. Talk to another close friend and let them know how you feel. Just know that everyone is here for you and they feel your pain. I mean think about how your best friends parents feel. They probally feel worse but you need to be there for them. She will always be your best friend no matter what even tho shes not always with you. She will never forget you and you wont forget her. You are'nt gay and you are'nt a poser and expecially lame! You will be okay and you will get through this!! Just try to be strong and sometimes its just okay to cry about it. Good luck!! ♥

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I'm 17, and I am in my first serious relationship (with a guy that is) and things are starting to become sexual. I have no problem being sexual, because I am not timid at all, I've done stuff, just not with any guys. He has touched me and stuff, but I haven't done it to him, even though I want to. I guess I just dont know how to go about it, what to do durring, or what to do afterwards (like with the possible mess) Any advice?

So basiclly you just want to start off by giving him a handjob? Well thats good since you are taking things slower! Hm.. I dont know tho. You really cant mess up while you are doing it and you can do it anywhere pretty much. Movies,your or his house. During, you would do that handjob L0L, and after just act normal. I mean just snuggle by him and talk to him. ♥

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i heard that when your cherry pops that your no longer a virgin is that true? only answer this if you know

Not exacly. Well when you have sex and your cherry pops that means that you are'nt a virgin anymore. But you can pop your cherry by doing pretty much anything. ♥

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Okay people think that i stuff my bra when i really dont and then people are like oh i saw it but i really dont what should i do?
Signed,
Screw this
.P.S. I rate high

I guess everyone thinks that they are jelous but who knows. They could be since you have bigger breasts then them. People are just sometimes really ignorant and they will make up stupid rumors but they know you dont. They just dont have anything better to say about you!! And they are probablly jelous and want to look like you! But ignore them when they say you stuff! Just tell them to fuck of and and least your boobs look bigger without stuffing your bra! They are really immature tho! ♥

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I heard a long time ago that different fruits mean different things. For instance, if you leave a squash on your girlfriend's front porch then that means you want to break up with her. The reason I am asking is because last night (very late) someone, possibly two people, ate watermelon on our porch and left the remains of the watermelon! What the crap does this mean? Does it mean anything at all? There are two peices that were cut in triangles. This is freaking weird.

No it doesnt mean anything at all. Those peole were too lazy to clean it up. ♥

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i got this weird virus on my computer through AIM..i did a virusscan on my comp. and it said there was nothing there but it still kept acting funny. so i restored my computer to an earlier date, will this get rid of it???? thanks, i rate 5's!!

I have it too and everyone does lately. Do what Mackenzie said before I did try it and it does work. ♥

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What do u do when the guy youve been going out with dumped you cause he wanted someone hotter?
age 13 gender female

Aw babe! Theres nothing much you can do to get over it. It might take time but you will get over him. Hes a jerk for doing that and you defenetlly deserve someone wayy better!!! Good luck!! ♥

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i just started my period... im a little late .
what should i use tampons or pads?

Start off with pads and then use tampons. I personally think they are better! ♥

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i really dont like meat..i mean just the taste of it..does anybody know a list of foods that i could eat that have protein in them! thanks a bunch! i rate!!

Carrots!! and vegtables and fruit and cereal!

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on my birthday i found out that my ex boyfriend just got asked out by someone else. i asked him out about four or five days before he went out with the other girl. and i definetly know that it isn't fair. also he dumped me for no stupid reason. now my question is what should i do about this other than talking to him? should i ask him out again or should i try talking to him more and more?? sorry it is so so so so long.. ha ha

Im sorry but it sounds like he isnt interested anymore. Not to be mean or anything!! I think that its just time for you to get over him. I mean there is other boys and it might be hard but theres no need for you to get sad and stuff. I mean hes just not worth it. You could ask him back out if you really wanted to but I honestly think you shouldnt. ♥

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I had something about this about 2-3 months ago.

I have this huge cat scratch on my nose & its just in 2 lines... I think its scared... but I was wondering how I could get rid of this scar & how long it would take?

thanks!

It wont stay there for a really long time. I mean cat scraches do go away pretty fast but just keep treating it good. Go to the pharmacy or a grocery story and there is a scar protection. Im not really sure what its called. ♥

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I kno u all will think i'm stupid but i don't kno wat masturbate meens and i wanna kno....so pleez tell me ASAP! Thnx :-)

Pleasuring yourself. Touching, and such! Dont feel stupid l0l! ♥

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what is the best way for love to happen? i've heard that love for sight is just lust. i think love is build on friendship, is this true?

Sometimes yes. I mean you have to be some what friends with the person and get to know them better but I mean we are just teens and no one really knows what love is. We just all think we do L0L! But yea it is true. ♥

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Im just wondering, this is a quick question. I slept over my new friends house. Shes extremely pretty, rich, but shes diabetic and she smells like fish. Badly. I know she sprays perfume down there, she's told me. But she cannot find a way to get rid of the smell. What should I tell her as advice?

Ew! L0L! Tell her that she needs to go to the doctor and get it checked out. She is probablly infected in someway so thats the only way that it could be better. She could wear sentned pads and tampons and such. ♥

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whats with all the questions about 14 year olds smoking and drinking. its illegal no matter HOW they do it whether they get caught or not. am i totally out of my mind or are some people just asking too much of the columnists?

I know! Its just something they think will get rid of their stress and make them cooler! Its gay!! ♥

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I have these really weird & un-attractive black dots on my nose... I think there black-heads & they are VERY small, but there are so many of them...

how can I get rid of them?

thank you so much!

Biore!!! Totally works! Nuetrogena and Clean and Clear. Get the black head face wash! ♥

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whats the website called with them cute lil doll thingy's..? i rate high

www.dollzmania.com` www.dollpalace.com ` www.paperdollheaven.com ♥

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ok well me and my boyfriend finally decided to have sex..and when we enjoying out time and having like organisms and i love him but idk his bestfriend is very sweet to me and when we were having sex i accedently said his bestfriends name i said sorry and we continued our plesure and now after that day he never talks to me anymore..i dont no wut to do please help teza

Wow! That sucks big time! I guess you are also having feelings for his best friend. But dont break up with your boyfriend l0l! He has to forgive you. Just make up an exuse why you said his best friends name and he will eventually forget about it. Tell him you love him and he will come back for more ! L0L! If it doesnt work out with him then there is always his best friend!! ♥

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ok like if your popular and every1 thinks ur a snob how do you get people to stop hating you!?!?! thanxxx

You cant really stop that. Some people hate me because they think Im conceded and stuck up but Im really not. Thats just how they are. People get jelous because you have more friends and they have exaclly nothing against you so they will start hating you. Thats how some people are really ignorant! But just be nice to everyone. ♥

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