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i feel so gay


Question Posted Tuesday June 7 2005, 10:53 pm

ohk so i was really upset one day because it is almost a year that my best friend passed away (rip) and i feel so sad right now, so then i took the blade and i cut its not a big deal or anything i also wanted to see how it felt like. well now its like a craving to cut and i keep doing it and im not even sad its just addicting. i feel so gay and stupid because i think im just doing this for attention ! god what should i do ?? and dont call me lame or poser because i alreay know i am !

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wise_one answered Wednesday June 8 2005, 3:18 am:
stop doing it! get a hobbie..take up boxing!

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Babie_grl_x06 answered Wednesday June 8 2005, 12:41 am:
all i have to tell you is think to think about what your doing carefully. Now you think Henry will be happy if he knew you were doing this ... just think about that your hurting yourself and the people arround you, maybe 10yrs from now you wont have many problems except for when you look at your arm and you see the scars that will bring you back to your past. and dont be scared to takl to friends and family about it ... you know im always here for you and i want you to stop hurting yourself we all do tessa !


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WorstAdviceEver answered Wednesday June 8 2005, 12:31 am:
If cutting is what makes you feel good, you have to get rid of the bad emotions somehow. Its better that than taking your anger out on other people.

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xOlUvChAdoX answered Tuesday June 7 2005, 11:26 pm:
Well honestly you may think that it feels good, but it can really hurt you! I know it's addicting for you but you really need to stop and think about what your doing..Your harming your body and yourself but cutting it!

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Teza answered Tuesday June 7 2005, 11:22 pm:
Oh my gosh! Dont even start talking about yourself! Dont even say that because I know how you feel. I've never lost a best friend but Ive been through the cutting. I dont think that you are doing it for attention. I mean dont think you are a poser for cutting because you are just upset. Thats just not fair to yourself! Its okay to feel sad! She is your best friend still no matter what. You are feeling depressed and thats fine because everyone goes through it when a loved one passes away. Even tho you dont think its not a big deal, it is. So many people care about you and if they found out they would be shocked and hurt. No one wants you to be doing that or hurting yourself. I mean you've tried it and Im sure everyone always wants to find out how it feels. Now that you know please dont do it again. It doesnt help at all and it just leaves bad scars that will never go away. It is addicting but you know you can stop. I honestly dont want you doing that and I dont even know you but I feel bad. I really want you to stop. Try your hardest and throw away the blade. When you are feeling depressed you need to take a journal and write your feelings down. Ive had a notebook and one day I would just write about everything that happened and why everything is so messed up! It really works and it takes your anger away and you wont even think about cutting yourself. I mean if you really took the time to think about it you would relize how bad and useless it is. Drawing is also a good way to express how you feel. Talk to another close friend and let them know how you feel. Just know that everyone is here for you and they feel your pain. I mean think about how your best friends parents feel. They probally feel worse but you need to be there for them. She will always be your best friend no matter what even tho shes not always with you. She will never forget you and you wont forget her. You are'nt gay and you are'nt a poser and expecially lame! You will be okay and you will get through this!! Just try to be strong and sometimes its just okay to cry about it. Good luck!! ♥

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Dani3ll3_Lov3 answered Tuesday June 7 2005, 11:18 pm:
Every1 tries it and I think you are just having fun doing this.. how ever this is not good.. try and stop!!! We all support you here!

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icey0990 answered Tuesday June 7 2005, 11:10 pm:
your not a lame poser...dont put yourself down. you did harm to yourself which is a sign that you need medican attention..like talking to a counselor or someone who can really help. please dont feel embarassed or ahsamed that you need mental help..because its common! people just put down people who need mental attention ..thinking they should be able to control it ..but really...mental illness is jut like somoen who has a heart attack, etc..they should be treated with sympathy and support..so do the right thing..there is help out there... i remember in health class the statistics were something like 1 out of 3 people will develop a mental illness..and only 1 out of the 3 ppl with the mental illness will get help...dont be one of those people who dont get help! this can be fixed..they wont lock you up in a padded room...and you aarent insane....its ok and i think you should reach out to a trusted adult..counselor, parents...anyone!

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SWANKiFiED answered Tuesday June 7 2005, 11:08 pm:
First off, you're NOT gay for feeling unhappy & then taking action. Everyone is curious to see how something feels sometimes & cutting is just one of those things. Cutting is usually a very secretive thing used for attention. I can completely understand where you're coming from though. Especially since you lost someone very close to you (R.I.P.), different emotions may be triggered. I was feeling especially sad one day and lightly ran a blade up a down my arm. I didn't break skin or anything but I liked the daring feeling. Obviously, cutting your skin isn't healthy & you'll want to find alternative ways to vent. I recommend talking to someone (as hard as that sounds). Even though school's out for the summer, other friends who you trust alot or even your parents may be able to help you. If you don't want to open up communication in a verbal sense, you could write poetry, songs or stories. Drawing is also another way to express your feelings. Cutting really can't be explained, but I know in some cases, when you've lost someone, you crave love that isn't there anymore. I reccomend spending alot of time in social places, try to make some new friends even though the one who passed away is irreplacable. Good luck & if you ever need help, feel free to leave a question in my inbox.

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