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Q: I ordered a soda dispenser off the internet and I typed my credit card number and address and everything correctly, but after i confirmed the order i noticed i made a type in my email address! is the incorrect email address going to affect my order in any way, or is it no important?

I don't think so, the e-mail address is just so they can e-mail you when they sent it and confermation (spelling?). That's all, i don't think it' will effect the order.

Q: i have a problem reading school materials, i cannot read when i want to (there is a specific time i can read effectively like in the morning) and i cannot read for a long time. 1 or 2 things happen when i read, i either get distract and cannot continue to read due to the lack of concentration or when i read it for a long time nothing seems to come into my head and basically i read nothing even though i did.

So how do i get myself to read effectively and for a very long time? especially with biology and chemistry i know there are a lot of readings to do but then i cannot continue to read after 1 hour or 2. I need help bad because im falling behind and need to catch up with all this reading

You're not alone. I'm the SAME exact way, i fool around and say i have ADD though hah, (though i think i really do).

I'd say to just try to pay attention in class a lot, and tell your teachers you have trouble with concentrating on the books, i'm sure they can help you out, or maybe your school provides a class where it helps you with reading, i know my school does. Ask your teachers.

Or maybe you can just read more often, like if your bored one day, read a little bit of a book, and progress everyday with reading a little more.

Q: First of all, I am fifteen years old and will be getting my intermediate license in three months- therefore, I need to buy a car so that I won't have to ride the bus next year to school. In order to buy a car, I of course, need cash. The problem is- I can't find a job. Everywhere that I try to apply, the minimum age limit is sixteen. Does anyone have any ideas about what I could do for money? Please, no ideas including babysitting and cleaning- because I already do both of those. I would very much appreciate the advice, and I will give you a five for good advice.

Is it possible you know anyone that can pay you under the table? Ask your parents if they could have any help what-so-ever at their jobs. Maybe ask your friends too, they might be able to help you out.

Q: I'm still in love with my exboyfriend but I know he doesn't like me anymore but the thing is i CAN'T get over him! I've been trying for over 6 months and I just burst into tears when we had this conversation on the computer...

him: i hav a question
me: yess?
me: whats your question?
him: i love u but here is my question can we put clip art on our project
me: lmao yeah
him: not love love but u no
me: lmao yeah

WHAT SHOULD i DO!? PLEASE HELP ME!

I advise you to not talk to him. It could work out for the better. Or you can tell him to stop saying things like "i love you" when you guys talk. You don't want to hurt yourself over a boy, believe me hunn, they're not worth your tears. :]

Q: Ok so I have a great bf and weve been going out for about 7 months I'm straight and most of my friends are bi or les. But there one of my friends and keeps kinda getting a lil too far with me like today on the bus she was in top of me and and her head was like on my breast i dont really tell her anything cuz the bad thing is that sometimes I kinda feel like going along with it and sometimes I really want to but I dont know those this mean that I'm bi too????

plz HELP ME!!!

Maybe you just like the attention? I mean it's possible you could be bisexual. Just think about what you like more. Maybe tell your boyfriend to pay attention to him in way you might might better?

Q: A kind of shy kid who's a grade younger than I am supposedly has a crush on me. BUT, I heard this from someone I don't really know...well, he knew me but I didn't know him. Anyways, he told me that the shy kid told them that he liked me. I thought maybe he was lying, so I asked the shy kid's friend and he said "I'm not going to tell you anything.". Wouldn't he just say no if it wasn't true? So I asked my friend to ask him if he likes me, just b/c I am curious. But he kind of shrugged her off. I'm dying to know. From what you've heard, do you think he does or doesn't? And, what should I do...b/c I don't really want to ask him myself, especially if he says yes,b/c I don't really like him like that, and that would be so mean, hehe!

I'm guessing he has a crush on you, he's just being shy. I'm sure if it wasn't true, you would be able to tell from the way he's reacting that he doesn't. Give him some time, he just needs to open up. :]

Q: Where can I find shoes that have heels, (no more then two inches.. three at the most) and tie up your ankle. I am a size 7 1/2 in womens.

Payless.
and i'm sure a local mall in your area will have nice shoes.

Q: I'm 16, female, and straight. I have a few really close female mates, and occasionally I get really strong feelings for them. Like the other night, I was on the sofa with one of my closest friends, watching a film and we were just holding hands like we often do, and she was curled up with her head on my lap, and I had these really weird feelings, like I wanted to be closer to her, and have a really special relationship with her... I didn't say anything coz I thought she'd think I was really weird. But then the next day, she said to me "you know when we were on the sofa yesterday, I had this really odd feeling, like I wanted to kiss you or something," and I was like "thats so strange, I felt the same.."
We both have boyfriends who we love, and are straight. So whats with these feelings?

Yeah, i was thinking the same as the girl below me, maybe since you guys are soo close you've became you know, closer than you maybe wanted? You could be bisexual. Or maybe it's just something about her you just like. Don't worry about it. Even if you are bisexual or not, it's normal, many people are. It's nothing too out of the ordinary.

Q: hi! well one of my best friends is going out with my brothers good friend. they have only been goin out for 2 days..and their relationship just bugs me for some reason--dont worry im not jealous one bit lol. its just that we share a locker and he is always there now...it seems like they are always together now..and talking to each other inbetween classes. it also kinda seems like she is trying to brag about stuff and throw it in my face. because i just talked to her and she was like yeah so me and ryan (her boyfriend) went over to nicks..and nick is this kid that i had a thing for..well for a night but thats a different story. and then shes like well yeah your brother came over there and it was all just weird. and i dont know i dont see a reason to tell me that? sometimes i just dont get her anymore. they just bug me when they are together and everytime with her when shes talking to ryan..she makes me look stupid..like saying weird remarks about me and stuff..i dont know if she doesnt know she is doing it or what but i look at her like what the hell is going on? i told her that i thought it was weird theyre going out but she doesnt seem to care. i think its weird that she now hangs out with my brothers friends and sometimes my brother. im scared im gonna lose her. and i told her that and she was like ohhh dont worry thatll never happen..blah blah! but seriously their realtionship just bugs me soo much and i dont know why! what do you think i should do? i have already tried talkin to her bout it..but nothin really happened and i dont wanna get into a fight about it! i just dont know anymore..things are all screwed up! seems like she likes to rub it in my face that she has a boyfriend and i dont??? well im im 10th grade--16 and shes in 9th grade--15 and ryan the boy she is goin out with is in 11th grade--i think hes like almost 17?! what should i dooo....like i said please dont suggest talking to her because i already did..and im suppose to hangout with her this weekend..but lately she has been buggin me..and i cant cancel them either!?..

thanks! i'll rate 5 for anyone who answers.

I'd have to say just to give her some time. When the relationship ends up not working out, she'll be running back to you, hanging out with you all the time and what-not. My friend is sort of like that, only when she's around her other friends, she's not the same around different people. So my best advice was to let her just settle in with this kid, and i'm sure/i hope she'll be back to the way she was before her boyfriend.

Q: female/14 We have a school talent show every year and you buy tickets from one person in your Homeroom who is called your "Homeroom rep". In my homeroom noone wanted the job so we dont have a homeroom rep. I was talkin to my male friend about this and he said he would buy me tickets in his homeroom and we could go "together" my other friend was sittin with us at the time and later was joking around with me about it, saying it was a date and stuff. I think she was kidding, but what if it is? I'm not sure what he thinks it is, and im not even sure what i want it to be. I'm not sure if I like him like that and I dont even no if im just over thinking things. Please help

You should just ask him the next time you talk to him, make sure of yourself. Your friend could be jealous and making stuff up because she might want to go with him? It's possible, a situation like this happened to me. I'd say just ask him yourself, and make sure he wasn't joking. :]

Q: Where can I get a template for a babysitting advertisment that I can print out and hang places?

Microsoft Word does.
And on the task pane, click the little arrow down and go on "New Document"
then go to, on the bottom,
"templates online"

and then search babysitting.

a bunch should show up and you can edit it all you want.

Q: Im fourteen and I have always wanted to be a doctor when I get older. What should I be doing to help prepare myself? I mean, I know I should work hard in school, but I want to be a pediatrician and so is there any good books I can study?

Well first, if your going into high school or in high school, take classes that have to do with things with doctors, i know my high school does, and i'm pretty sure yours will too. Just take the right classes, and you can learn a lot about the basics, and ask your teacher all the questions.

You can also search online for books.

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The names Ashley. (:
I'm a sophomore this year at Quinnipiac University.
I'm majoring in Interactive Digital Design.
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