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Q: I get this white stuff stuck on my pussy lips pretty often. It reminds me of something I saw about the Vagina Monologues if you know what I'm talking about. It's not infection is what I'm saying. It's just this build up of my natural juices dried or whatever. Anyway I want to be clean because my gf is coming over tonight and you get the idea. How can I keep my pussy clean and washed right? Maybe like smell less smelly? k
A mod really let this one get through? -shakes head-

Q: I don't know what to do with him! I found out from my bff that my bf made a facebook group thing about our relationshp. I went and red a few things on it and it is personal and nothing anybody should know but us so I told him I knew he had a secret he was keeping from me but not what it was so he would tell me or something but he didn't. i kinda thought that he posted stuff and didn't think it was bad and I wanted to give him chances to say so but he just said he didnt have no secrets so i went back to read the rest and he had made it private only so now it is hidden from me.

I guess what I am asking is if he didn't think this was wrong why did he hide it when i found out? He still denies everything and now i got no proof because i cant see it anymore!!! i have been crying about this and i feel betrayed like he has a secret life on facebook or something! should i stay with him if he isn't going to be honest and still hides things?

Sorry if this is too long!
Well if I were you, I would pull up the page the next time the both of you are together. Ask him what this is about, and that you've known about it since BEFORE he changed the privacy on it. Tell him the things you've read from it and tell him you want him to come clean now, or that it'll seriously effect your relationship. If he doesn't come clean after being provided the proof, I wouldn't stay with him because he's a liar, and he is hiding stuff. If he does come clean, then the choice is up to you wether to keep him around, or not.

Hope I helped (:

Q: Alright, I am an at&t customer, and I have had the 2 year plan with my LG shine, and it's time for a new phone. I want the Iphone 4, how much will it cost. From what I could figure I could do 15$ a month data plan which is $180 a year, and then $200 for the phone when I buy it. Is this correct?
The Data plan is $25 for 2GB of usage monthly (practically unlimited) It is $15 if you get 200MB of usage, but that (I was told) is very, very easy to go over. You are correct on the 16GB being $200 though. The 32GB is $299.

Q: i just started low-ogestrel birth control. im on the 4th day of the placebo pills and still no period, is something wrong?

what are the point of the placebos anyways?
The placebos are so you keep track and take them after you finish the pack.

They're nothing more than sugar pills to keep you from forgetting to take your pills and to get your new pack.

And nothing should be wrong, if you just started then your body may just be getting used to the pill.

Q: what are some good songs that say im over you?
Over You - Daughtry
No Surprise - Daughtry
Solo - Iyaz
Ridin' Solo - Jason Derulo
According To You - Orianthi (kinda)

Q: I want to get a tattoo that says "you live you learn" written in italian. However, i want to make sure that i have the correct translation before i get it permanently wtitten on my body. can anyone translate that?
I personally can't translate it, but you can use Google Translator. It's a simple phrase, so this should be correct.

"Voi vivete imparare."

Q: i'm starting to think i might be slighly bi. i love my boyfriend to death, and i know i could never go out with a girl. i couldn't even hook up with one. i don't even like hooking up with guys. but when i'm drunk with my girlfriends or something, i always end up kissing them. i heard that drunk actions are sober thoughts, but i don't think about kissing girls when i'm sober. and also, most of my friends know that i'll admit that i think boobs are pretty. i don't know why, but they just are, and i like having them. my friends also know i'll be the first to admit that girls are absolute bitches, myself included, and i'll never go out with one, like i said earlier. does it sound like i'm bi or what?
Doesn't sound like you're bi to me, more like bi-curious. That's normal. You're good (:

Q: 20F.

I'm just wondering ..why do guys always try fingering a girl first? It's like they want to so badly but I don't see what they get out of it? Do they finger a girl because they think they'll get some in return? Does fingering a girl turn them on? I guess i'm just confused. And if a guy fingers you ..don't you feel sort of obligated to pleasure them back??
A lot of guys like to pleasure their girl first by doing it because it gets the girl going. I wouldn't say so much of feeling obligated, but they do it to put you in the mood, so you just do it rather than feel obligated to.

Q: i'm leaving for college this weekend. i dont really have a question but i just need some advice and words of encouragement. i'm a super shy person and i really want to be outgoing and make new friends. please help me! i'm nervous that i will be the same shy person i was before and that i'll be depressed and just want to go home every weekend.
Well, you really know what you have to do because you just stated it. College is a new experience and majority of incoming freshmen are nervous, but I promise, you will make new friends! Just make sure that you come out of your shell and are just really friendly. You'll probably become friends with your hall mates, or your roommate(s). Hook up with your new roomies on facebook and get to know each other a little bit! But, like you said, you know you have to be outgoing, so just try to be optimistic, because it's a whole new chapter for you! Enjoy your freshman year!

Q: I know it is very late notice, but you have my boyfriend to blame for that.

We are trying to get Dave Matthews Band tickets at the New England Dodge Music Center in Hartford, CT on 6/14/08. We only need two of them and we are just looking for lawn seats. Ticket master has them for $36, but everytime I ask, they say they have no more. What's the deal? I didn't think lawn seats sold out.

I then went to NEDMC's website, and it said GA for lawn was $40.50, and when I hit "Buy Tickets" it took me straight to Ticket master again. What should we do? We don't want to end up paying 90 dollars, which other sites are offering.
Try stubhub.com

they might have some but i'm not entirely sure.

Q: home comming is almost here and i need a dress and anyone have any good sites or stores to go to or look at?
Deb! I would have also said Macys and Charlotte Russe but the person below me said those already.

Q: 13/f

Okay, I'm emo. Well, my other friends are emo too, but they cut themselves. I don't. I want to know, to be emo, do you have to cut yourself? People are spreading rumors that I cut myself and that I'm a pervert. I mean, sure I have a perverted mind, but I'm immature, give me a brake! can someone explain to me why they would say I cut myself, which I don't, even if I am emo. do I have to cut myself???
No, you don't have to cut yourself. It's just a stereotype.

Be smart and DON'T cut yourself. Don't follow your friends, they're making unhealthy decisions. Try to talk them out of cutting themselves because it's not a good thing to do.

Q: Alright for Christmas I'm planning on getting a new game console. I'm either getting Wii or Xbox 360 so I'm wondering if anyone would like to share their opinions about either of them. Which do you think is better? What are the features from both of them? I want to get Xbox 360 cause I heard Halo 3 came out and speaking of Halo, I have 2 brothers so whats the multiplayer like? Is it spilt screen or do all 3 of us share the same screen? But I also want the Wii cause I bought nintendo products since I was a boy and I'm kind of attached to it plus I have gamecube and a trunk full of the games,around 30-40, and I also heard regular gamecube games can work on the Wii hmm except I don't think I can get used to the remote and I heard it uses batteries so that means I would be wasting money for batteries. So the probability is like 65% of getting an Xbox 360 and 35% of getting a Wii. So anyone have any comments?
Well I have an Xbox 360 and let me tell you, I LOVE IT, hah.

I would choose the Xbox over the Wii. It's more expensive, but it's well worth it. There's a lot more games, and they're better. I've heard that the receivers on Wii aren't that good and they don't always receive correctly. I've only used a Wii twice and I personally don't like it. The graphics are wayy too cartoon-y. But that's just my personal opinion.

Choose the xbox!

Q: I've heard that if you take gauges out they go back to normal, but I've also heard the opposite. I am 14/f and at size 10. I've had my ears gauged for about 2 months and pierced since decemeber 2006. I only want advice from people who work in a piercing enviorment or had a personal experience with gauges. Please no "My friend told me that..." or "I heard that...". I'd much rather hear "When my friend got their ears ungauged..." or "When I ungauged my ears".

Thanks :]
Your gauges will go back to normal size if you leave them out for a while. I have gauges now, 4's. I used to have 2s, but I let them shrink to a 4. Plus, 10's are really small, so they'll deffinetly shrink to normal size =).

Q: what is a good website to download kareoki music for free?
Please i need help on this!
Well, you can't download these, but you can go on YouTube and search ".... karaoke". They have a lot on there.

Q: Okay, so if you dont know what im talking about, or tell me to get an animation program, dont answer this. But I really want to know, how on layout myspaces and stuff they have the flashing letters. Like they change colors but the picture doesnt move. So if anyone knows how to do this or what program to use, please let me know. Thanks.
Well you need an animation program to do this, I know you said don't answer this, but like, there's no other way to do this.

If you want a free trial of one, go to www.jasc.com and sign up there. It's free, and virus free.

Q:
Okay so i started itching for the past two days down near my vagina at the beginning of it so I looked down to see if I had crabs(but I ain't have no sexual activity) and I saw like 2 or 3 little white things probably wouldn't be near as big a penny. It wasn't as big as piece of lead either.I keep on itching and I still see them white things that move . I don't want to go to the doctor and let me look at me down there I'm really self consious, I'm freaking out right now. What could this be? and What do worms do exactly to you? When people get worms what color are they?
You might have pubic lice. A way to get rid of them is to just shave off your pubes.

Q: okay first of all, im sooo excited because my mom finally gave in and bought Sims 2 for me! yay! ive been wanting that game badly since it first came out in like 2004 i think? next im getting seasons, but before all that even began, i started to install it to my computer. it just finished, and i restarted the computer. i didnt open anything except for sims 2, BUT theres an error. like halfway through the beginning credits, where it says "EB games challenge everything", it freezes and then a popup comes that says "The application has crashed. The application will now terminate." then when i click the OK button, Sims 2 closes! i've restarted again and opened Sims 2 again, but it keeps happening! and im really mad since i really wanted to play it. its a brand new game which we got from Toys R Us so its obviously not scratched or anything, and it didnt say that my computer didnt have enough space to run it... ugh someone help me please. im dying to play this thing.

btw my computer is a XP, and is a couple years old.. it was bought around like 2003-2004.
Try uninstalling it, and reinstalling it. When you reinstall it, don't run any programs (like AIM, Internet Explorer, Mozilla Firefox(if you have it) or anything; so there's nothing interfering with the install. If that doesn't work, try pulling up "Add or remove products" and remove programs you know you don't need/use. If you don't know how to do that, send me a question about it in my inbox and I'll be happy to explain!

Hope I helped!

Q: 14/f

I am wear a size B bra.
Where can I find cute bras?
OTHER THAN Victoria's Secret.
please?

Sears and Khols have some pretty cute ones.

Hope I helped!

Q: what are the laws of driving in connecticut? like what ages can i get my permit, dive by myself and then with friends? stuff like that? can someone tell me what the rules are exactly or where exactly yo find them, dmv is so confusing though!
Haha, an answer I can answer 100% correct because I live in Connecticut.

You have to be 16 to get your permit. If you go to driving school, you have to wait at least 4 months to get tested for your license. If you don't go to driving school, you have to wait at least 6 months, take drug and alcohol classes, then you can test for your license. When you have your license, for the first 3 months you have to drive with family only. Then for the next 3 months, you can drive alone. After 6 months, you are allowed to drive with anyone.

No one follows those rules though, not even the cops really, haha!

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