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Q: I don't know what to do with him! I found out from my bff that my bf made a facebook group thing about our relationshp. I went and red a few things on it and it is personal and nothing anybody should know but us so I told him I knew he had a secret he was keeping from me but not what it was so he would tell me or something but he didn't. i kinda thought that he posted stuff and didn't think it was bad and I wanted to give him chances to say so but he just said he didnt have no secrets so i went back to read the rest and he had made it private only so now it is hidden from me.

I guess what I am asking is if he didn't think this was wrong why did he hide it when i found out? He still denies everything and now i got no proof because i cant see it anymore!!! i have been crying about this and i feel betrayed like he has a secret life on facebook or something! should i stay with him if he isn't going to be honest and still hides things?

Sorry if this is too long!
Well if I were you, I would pull up the page the next time the both of you are together. Ask him what this is about, and that you've known about it since BEFORE he changed the privacy on it. Tell him the things you've read from it and tell him you want him to come clean now, or that it'll seriously effect your relationship. If he doesn't come clean after being provided the proof, I wouldn't stay with him because he's a liar, and he is hiding stuff. If he does come clean, then the choice is up to you wether to keep him around, or not.

Hope I helped (:

Q: what are some good songs that say im over you?
Over You - Daughtry
No Surprise - Daughtry
Solo - Iyaz
Ridin' Solo - Jason Derulo
According To You - Orianthi (kinda)

Q: i'm starting to think i might be slighly bi. i love my boyfriend to death, and i know i could never go out with a girl. i couldn't even hook up with one. i don't even like hooking up with guys. but when i'm drunk with my girlfriends or something, i always end up kissing them. i heard that drunk actions are sober thoughts, but i don't think about kissing girls when i'm sober. and also, most of my friends know that i'll admit that i think boobs are pretty. i don't know why, but they just are, and i like having them. my friends also know i'll be the first to admit that girls are absolute bitches, myself included, and i'll never go out with one, like i said earlier. does it sound like i'm bi or what?
Doesn't sound like you're bi to me, more like bi-curious. That's normal. You're good (:

Q: 20F.

I'm just wondering ..why do guys always try fingering a girl first? It's like they want to so badly but I don't see what they get out of it? Do they finger a girl because they think they'll get some in return? Does fingering a girl turn them on? I guess i'm just confused. And if a guy fingers you ..don't you feel sort of obligated to pleasure them back??
A lot of guys like to pleasure their girl first by doing it because it gets the girl going. I wouldn't say so much of feeling obligated, but they do it to put you in the mood, so you just do it rather than feel obligated to.

Q: hey my name is tara and ive been with my boyfriend for 7 months. recently he's been getting closer to one of his friends that i dont really care for. My best friend was involved with my boyfriends friend and he screwed her over. since this new friend has been in my boyfriends life hes been distant to my best friend and they were good friends for a long time. Since this all happened my bestfriend constantly complains about my boyfriend how hes different cause they dnt talk as much. shes said that she would never ask me to break up with him cause he means alot to me but i feel like she wants me to. i'm in a really weird position i love this kid so much and its so great but i feel like everyones bringing me down i dnt know what to do. =[
Try talking to your boyfriend about this friend of his. Tell him how it's effecting your relationship with your best friend, and to not be so distant with her anymore. Also tell him how you feel about his new friend, and see if he's willing to not get as close as he can with him for your sake.

Q: okay, so this boy really likes me and we've talked alot over the summer and he wants to go out with me when i get back from vacation. hes a lot more experienced then me and ive never had a real boyfriend before. ive been asked out many times but ive just been able to say no. i really like this kid and i was wondering what to say when he asks me out. like do i say, yes, yeah, of course? what? please help!!
Tell him what you feel, in a short state. Be like, "I'd be so happy to!" or "Of course I will!".

Don't make it long, just make it short and sweet, and you get the point across that you want to. =)

Q: okay so i like this kid, and he likes me back. and we've talked and stuff and hes planning to ask me out. hes experienced and has had like 15 girlfriends, yeah i know its crazy. and i havent even had one. when we go to the movies, i know hes gona make the first move and try and make out with me but honestly i have no idea how. i know people say it comes naturally. but seriously, i need help. like what if he calls me a bad kisser or somehting? that would totally suck. please help
What you should do is just feel confident about it. Don't be scared to do it. Let him take control for the first few seconds and you'll get the hang of it, trust me! You'll feel silly once you experience it and realized that it's that not big of a deal. =)

Q: well, i've been very horny lately. and i love when guys perform oral on me. and i haven't had it happen in a few weeks. i've heard people saying they put peanut butter on their private and have their dog lick it off. i tried it, and it felt really good. i'm just worried if it's going to cause any problems health wise? anything will help, thanks.

I'm sure nothing will be wrong unless they ate something from outside or, idk. You know, they do say dogs have the cleanest mouths..

Say you're at the beach and boys are checking you out that you don't know but they're hot.. What's your reply? I never know what to do/say/act..
Keep glancing over at them and giggle. Be kinda flirty with them, and eventually they well come up to you, because they see you're interested. =)

Q: what does it feel like?
It's indescribable. You'll know when you're in love, because you won't be able to describe the feeling yourself.

Q: DO skater guys like skater girls? Because all the skater guys i see and meet like preppy-ish HCO girls. I know it depends on the guy, but in general. I'd also like opinions from guys, not only girls.

PS- Don't get mad at me because i said that HCO and AE etc.. are preppy, thats just how i think.
Around here they are. I'm considered "skater" and the skaters here don't really go past the friendship boundary with people of other labels. -.- (I hate using lables)

So yes, they do. My boyfriend and I are both "skater", so it's obviously possible.

Q: is there anyway to look up someones screen name? i met a guy at summer camp and i like him. i asked him if he had a myspace, he said no. but i forgot to ask him his sn. so is there anyway to look up someones sn?

thnx in advanced (i'll rate for any help !!!)
No, unfortunately there is no way to look up someones screen name. If you know his last name, try looking it up in the phone book if he lives near you so maybe that way you can get a hold of him.

Q: Why is everything so complicated when you are 14 I mean there's really nothing that makes sense anymore!
It's just a stage a promise!

You're 14, you're starting to grow up, and realize things that you were once oblivious to. You're maturing, and you're being introduced to new things in life that older people experience.

Q: ok well i asked her about it like one of this people toldme to to do but she wants to wait and i dont want to wait! and i have begged and stuff but she wants to wait what should i do?
andi have so much presure like these guys that arae going all the way with there gf and i just want third base!
a guy that needs help
Do not rush her! It is a huge turn off! Be patient, she will come around eventually. Appreciate the fact shes not easy, and takes a little more than just asking to get her to do something.

But, if you REALLY need the help; get her horny, and she might just do it on her own.

Remember, NEVER force her to do something she isn't comfortable with!

Q: okay this is skylar...
shes athletic. she can play alot of instraments. shes more of the tom boy. shes adventurous. she likes ping pong. she likes to party and camp alot also. shes prude. she has more money, and is more liked. she hangs out with a lot of guys though, and is often buisy.

and this is mariuh
shes really loud, but extremely shy around adults and in school. shes pretty bad at school. but shes a fast runner. she likes to break the law, and sneak out. shes not prude. people think shes a lesbian, but shes straight. she loves to dance and swim. she does not have much money, and is not well liked because her ex boyfriend spred lies about her. and shes ussaully not buissy.

who do you think is better to date?
what do you think?
First girl.
First girl.
Because so what if shes more of a tomboy, you will find you have more things in common than a preppy chick. Who cares if she's prude, stop thinking about sex.

Q: ok so me and my bf fight alot. we both love each other more then words could explain but we have 2 problems; my rebellious attitude and his inability to show affection! We have been dating for 1 1/2 years! i love this man and i wanna spend the rest of my life with him! last night i told him i needed a lil break because i havent been able to forget about all the times hes hurt me (lil things that shouldnt matter but they do to me). and well after we talked about it and everything he said it was fine but asked me not to take toooo long. understandable right? well i have this lil habit of holding grudges and not letting them go. so i guess what i need is ways to move on from all those bad things and start over with him. i dont wanna us to be over for good but i cant continue to be with him with all these lil things getting in the way. i just need a way to i guess not forget them but to just let them completely go and forgive him for all of them! im in DIER NEED!!!!!!!
What I think you should do is just try to put those things in the past and move on. Try to accept that everyone has their flaws, and makes mistakes. You won't be able to change him, so he's going to stay the way he is. I think you should tell him bluntly these little grudges, and see what he says. Try to make him promise you that he'll stop doing things that hurt you. Just be honest with him. =)

Q: 19 f
hi ao i took a pregnency test and it showed up as negative i was just curious how accurate they are. they say 99.9 percent accuracy. i used the e.p.t. one if that helps
If you took it like, 2 weeks before your period starts, it should be correct.

Q: I broke up with my boyfriend yesterday and I thought it was what I really wanted to do. But now today I missed him sooo much and I wanted to get back together with him. This was my first realy boyfriend. Will the feeling pass? What should I do to get rid of it?
Well, I just want to let you know that this is all perfectly normal. You're going to feel like this, but the only thing that can real heal the, "pain" is time. What you should do is try to be friends with him, but start hanging out with your girl friends now. Try flirting with some boys, but just in a friendly way to keep your mind off of him. Maybe try a new sport out, or find something to do that interests you.

Good luck.

Q: My boyfriend and I have been going together for 8 months now, and we have had our 1st fight. He wouldn't go to a party with me which I really wanted him to go to, and he still hasn't called or emailed me. What do you think I should do?
I think you should just give him his space for a little bit. Don't crowd him. Talk to him later or tomorrow and let him know you're sorry. Don't be afraid to have fights though, it'll only make your relationship stronger. =)

Q: Can anyone thats spanish please translate this to me
Tengo los sentimientos para usted, en los días que hablamos, tengo thought acerca de usted

usted ganga??
If you need future help with translating, try

The names Ashley. (:
I'm a sophomore this year at Quinnipiac University.
I'm majoring in Interactive Digital Design.
I haven't been on this site in years, maybe I'll pick it up again. (:
I'm a die-hard Philadelphia Flyers/hockey fan.
I play ice hockey, I'm a goaltender.





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