First Question: I slept next to this guy and he wanted to have sex. I kept saying no, But he wouldnt get off me and I was still saying no when he ripped my clothes off and penetrated me. But I layed there and Let him do it because I wanted him to leave me alone. A couple times through this I said no, and tried to push him off me, but It didnt work. Is this considered Rape?
Second Question: I havent told anyone about this until now, and it happened a couple months ago, So theres no physical evidence left. But Ever since then Ive felt empty and numb to feelings and intimacy. Should I see a Counselor or therapist because of this?
Something similar happened to me with my ex boyfriend. Yes, it was rape, & I'm so sorry this happened to you. It's a terrible thing to have to deal with. A counselor or a therapist is a great step towards healing. Another thing I found extremely helpful was this site: http://www.pandys.org. It's a message board for survivors of rape & sexual assault. It has amazingly supportive people & lots of threads including steps for healing.
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My boyfriend recently got fired from his job of six years from something completely dumb. Problem is I really don't know how to be there for him. He seemed really upset and I really didn't know what to do accept sit and listen to him vent. I wish I could have done more to help him out. I'd appreciate any advice.
Sometimes just being there for them & listening is the best thing you can do. In all honesty, I really can't think of much else you could do for him in this situation. Just make sure he knows you're there to listen & give support if he needs it.
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I have been married to my husband for 10 years. On Mon March 9 he toppeled an entertainment center on me. He was thrown in jail, I got a protection order. I really need to talk to him. I feel like I've died inside, we have always been able to work things out. My health isnt good and its getting 200% worse with this crap. I cant live without him, he is my soul mate and the other half of me. How can I get to him to talk? If he dont want me anymore how do I live?
I understand how hard it is. I was in an abusive relationship (not really physical, but other ways), & I know how hard it can be to let them go when you love them so much. However, your health should be the number 1 thing in your life. And if he's hurt you before, then he'll more than most likely do it again. But you can live without him, even though it may not seem that way to you. It'll hurt, but in the end, you'll be a lot better because you don't have to worry about him hurting you.
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I just ended a 6 and a half month relationship with my girlfriend. I am 18 years old and a freshman is college, she is 21 years old who is not currently in school and has faternal twins the age of two. Obviously there is a good reason why i broke up with her. It has only been a week since we broke up and it is so hard. I love her and she loves me. What do i do? do i listen to society, my family and friends, the brothers of my fraternity? or my heart. do i look at my future or what. My heart is torn between choosing to date a girl i really love or what society tells me to do. She is a package deal which im not too excited for because no 18 year old freshman in college wants 2 kids. Also, she is still married to the other man but very close to getting a divorce. I really need some advice. Do i listen to my heart or society?
I would say listen to your heart, but if you don't think you can handle a relationship where children are involved, there might be some problems down the road.
If you're okay with it, though, then don't worry about what society thinks. It's your life, not theirs. There will always be people who don't agree with what you do in life, but you have to remember that you're the one who has to live with it, not them.
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Hey, Im in a bit of a sticky situation here, and im not really sure what to do! There is this guy i work with, and we got to know each other well and ive been sleeping with him since about october and have started getting feelings for him, i always think about him and get really upset and hurt because i know he doesnt have feelings for me, his ex and him are still close mates but she goes to uni on the mainland now, and he sends her prezzies and stuff, he even sent her a valintines card and he never does anything like that for me. i know he is proberly using me and i have siad tons of times im not going to go round, that it has to stop, but i just cant help it, we always fight as well, i just get so upset and wound up, i wish it was different. i want to get over him but its a lot difficult than i thought and im not sure what to do, i cant carry on like i have been,xx
I would say talk to him about your feelings, but if you're always fighting, it's probably best to get out of that relationship before you hurt yourself even more. I've never seen anything wrong with 'friends with benefits', but I always say, once feelings start getting involved, it's time to end it. It might be hard, but you'll get over it. Just get out of it before you hurt yourself more.
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i do so hope that i dont sound like im being mean or anything, if i do i am deeply sorry
and so i start
Im 17 a guy and iv been alone for 5 years of my life, iv got like 3 people i can really really relate to and call my best freinds. i do have other class mates i class as friend but not so much that i would go out of my way to se out side of college.
but yeah my question is, I see people on here posting questions like im so lonely, no boyfriend / girlfriend etc why is it that i dont have these thoughts to the point of depression? i mean yeah i get lonley every now and then. but then i seem to get over it quite easily. am i mentally affraid of somthing? though its been a quiet and near boring 5 years. iv never been really lonley or thought about it so much that i want to cry or get emotionally stressed over. i have many hobbies (Making music, a couple of Extreme sports, Art) is it that im too busy with these hobbies and college that i dont get frustrated? iv liked probably 2 girls in the past 5 years my most recent one was a flop when i found out she allready had a BF (lucky me >.
It's not weird to not get lonely. It's mainly just a personality thing. Some people are extremely social & can't stand being alone, while others could care less if they're single. Not only that, but some people tend to put hobbies & fun before a relationship, while a relationship is the most important thing for other people.
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Hey guys, all right, to begin, I don't want to hear he should have done this blah blah blah.. I need HELP, not a lecture. My boyfriend went on Autotrader.com to find a car, a fast fun car for him to have for himself. Well he found one. A Firebird Formula and its really nice. Well We're almost 100% sure its a scam. Simply for this
http://www.fbi.gov/cyberinvest/escams.htm
This is the same story the "seller" told my boyfriend. He was leaving to go to War, and needed to sell his car because he will be away a long time, he even sent an email from Autotrader that told my boyfriend how to go about the paying process. The email looks completely real, the click ables are click able, and everything. Well he emailed an email the website gives if you have any concerns blah blah blah, and he emailed our Closest FBI station.
this is some things that just really makes us believe it is a scam.
-He said he is on base in Georgia. But when my boyfriend called the MoneyGram thing, they said the money was picked up in FLORIDA.
-The warning on the FBI website
-The address that he gave my boyfriend is a local club in Georgia.
-I looked on Auto Trader for any distance from our home town and the same car with the same pictures are with another guy from St. Louis. With the same detailing about the car and everything.
-My boyfriend's friend called down to the police station in Florida and asked them to go to the address of the guy's name(although he said he was in Georgia) and the house is forcolsed. But that police man is looking for people with that last name around town
We know that it would be VERY easy to catch this guy, but only with the FBI's help. Would they help us? I'm thinking since there is a link on their main website for the scam they would help us.
please help us in what to do. My boyfriend is a very smart guy, he is a 4.0 student in College, and was in H/S. He was very happy about getting this car and believed that he was in the Arm forces, and didn't think anything about it. We know that he should have been more careful, I'm not here to listen to say that, I just want to know what should we do in trying to get catch this guy and help the others who have fallen for it also. Thanks!!
Possibly get in touch with your local authorities & see what they tell you to do. If it's possible, talk to the FBI. Even if they can't help you, it's worth a try.
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What are signs if a boy actually likes me or is just trying to get in my pants? Please give specific details =) Thanks
Sometimes it's hard to tell. Some guys make it obvious by jumping right into being perverted, while other guys play it slick by acting like they really like you & being really sweet. But some guys really aren't huge perverts who only want in your pants.
If he's being a pervert at the start, lose him. That's what he's after. If not, give him a try if you really like him, & if a little bit down the road he starts acting like a perv, leave him.
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I had sex with my boyfriend around the 21st of february i usually get my period the last couple days of the month its the 10th now and i still havent gotten it . we used a condom and i didnt think any went in me. i had unprotected sex with him on march 8th and he didnt even bust a load at all. and its now the 10th is it too early to take a preganany test ? or can i take one now ? because i hear that its 2 weeks after your last time ? but my real concern would be from feb. 21st
Not trying to worry you, but you can get pregnant from unprotected sex even if he didn't cum in you, because of pre-cum. You can probably take the test now, since you've already missed your period.
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my ex-boyfriend used to finger me a lot.i never bleeded.what now happened is that earlier when he used to do the vagina was tightened but now my fingers could easily pass inside.i just want to know whether my hymen knot has broken or knot.i do still experience pain if now i finger.please respond as i really need to know it...i am getting married......please
Your hymen isn't really a knot, it's a thin layer of skin. It is possible to be broken from being fingered, but there really isn't much of a way to tell. Some girls bleed, some girls don't. You can break your hymen from a lot of things, even non-sexual things such as riding a horse.
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Okay so I guess I don't hate being a girl, but it is really frustrating me!! And I wasn't sure what category to put this under but since it kind of deals w/ boys, I chose this one... Okay so I'm just getting really frustrated and I need a reminder of why being a girl is great. So first off, the whole period deal is just not fair! Its such a pain and guys don't have to go through it!! I put in my first tampon today and it hurt like he**! Its just not fair!! Also, I start swimming for gym class at my school tomorrow... I'm really nervous about that... Also, I get really frustrated by the double standard of morality thing. You know, the whole stud and slut reasoning. Why is it that boys can fool around and do all of these bad things and its snuffed off as "boys will be boys" and all the other guys consider him a stud? But if a girl were to do those same things, she would be labeled a slut and looked down upon by everyone else? I'm not saying I want to fool around or do those things but its the principle of the matter. Its sexist and totally bogus... Plus boys never have to worry about being raped or things like that because those things rarely happen to boys, its so lame and I hate it!! Please... Can anybody remind me why being a girl is good... Because I honestly don't think its so dandy at the moment...
I agree that it's not always fair, but you can't really change the way people think. Those "studs" might get what's coming to them if they make stupid mistakes. It's normal to get frustrated about these things, & periods do suck, I know. But being a girl is great. You get to wear cute clothes & fix your hair in different styles. How many guys can do that? Sorry, I'm just trying to think of how to help you here.
As for the rape thing, it happens to more guys than you think, most just don't like to admit to it.
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okay so about 6 or 7 months ago i broke up with this guy jeremy for a multiple number of reasons. during that 6 and 7 month period he has been harassing the hell out of me!
he's sending me messages on facebook that say 'your a dirty whore go f*** yourself'
i got phone calls from restricted that had his voice on the other end saying creepy things.
i got strange screen names iming me saying they were one of my friends and when i asked my friends about it they had no idea what i was talking about.
so now me and this guy kevin are talking and were kind of going out... but not really. weve been on dates and were talking constantly and we've admitted to liking eachother... the typical.
so i get an inbox from my crazy ex boyfriend saying 'your a f****n bitch cuz you like kevin!' and hes making fun of him saying all these bad things.
he is in the same network as me on facebook so he can look at everything i do. and i talk to kevin a lot on facebook... and kevin is in the same network.
hes also been telling me that hes put a knife to his throat cause of me and crap like that. i know he's lying but he just won't admit it. half of the reason i broke up with him was cause of his lying.
i removed him as a friend on facebook, myspace, blocked him on aim, and blocked his youtube account!
he still finds ways to send me annoying and creepishly harrassing messages.
he wont leave me alone! i never respond to these messages cause i assume it will just be feeding the monster. but this has really got to stop before he gets carried away. hes coming to my school next year because of me and i feel as if hes stalking me!
i told my parents and theyre thinking of calling his parents and telling them everything thats happened. but i dont know if that will make things worse or not.
i honestly dont know what to do and hes scaring me.
help?
Let your parents talk to his, & hopefully they'll be able to control him. If not, tell him if he doesn't stop you'll be forced to take legal action. I really don't know if they could do much for you right now, but if he does anything worse you should contact the police.
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ive been talking to my friend, who i like, for about 3 months on msn. id say 90% of the time he used to start the conversation, but now its about 50%. which is fine whatever, but i feel like im starting it constantly then he takes about 30 minutes jsut to give a response to my 'hello.' i asked him why one time and he said sometimes hes just busy.
but yesterday he asked me to get on, and i was really busy toda and so tired when i got home, but i still got on for him. i surely thought he would IM me first, but nope stayed on for 40 minutes, not one IM, so i signed off. i dunno what to do..i started crying. yeah im a baby, but i just felt so let down. how can i handle this? do i not come on msn for a few days? or should i come on and just not talk to him, cause i just have a feeling he wont im me and ill be let down. please, any suggestions. i dont want to cry anymore over someone who could potentially be wasting my time.
I agree. Leaving him hanging is like the ultimate test. If he really likes you, it'll probably kill him that you're not talking to him.
Before I started dating my boyfriend, we were just friends, & I felt like I was always the one initiating conversations, so one morning I left my phone in my room, went in the other room for a few hours, & when I came back, he had sent me about 10 texts asking if I was mad at him, then he said he's coming over, shortly after he came to my house & we started dating.
I don't know what the deal is with guys sometimes, but if he doesn't start talking to you, don't waste your time. You could be out having a lot of fun without worrying about him.
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Well latley I've been having problems with this guy at my school that i really like and I've been depressed. So I want some songs that are similar to this
"your guardian angel" by the red jumpsuit apparatus.
Give as many as possible, all will be greatly appretiated =]
The only one I could think of off the top of my head is "In transit (for you)" by Matchbook Romance.
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i cheated on my ex with my current boyfriend, but my boyfriend and i just broke up. and i decided to go back and talk to my ex. he told me he loves me still and that he cares about me, but i want things to back to how they were with me and him. his family hates me, but either way we had a secretive relationship. and i dont know how things are going to turn out with me and him. is it possible that me and him MIGHT get back together? we went out for 4 months, and i took his virginity.
Chances are, your relationship will never be the same again. When someone is cheated on, they usually lose a lot of the trust they originally had in their partner. The fact that you were his first probably isn't going to make that much better. If you really think you're ready to get back with him, & be faithful to him, just sit him down & have a long talk with him. Let him know how sorry you are, ask him for another chance, & promise to stay faithful this time.
And make sure to keep that promise. Also, make sure you really want to be with him. You've already hurt him once, it would probably devastate him if you hurt him again.
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okay, well me and my boyfriend broke up yesterday. but today he came to my house with his mom and they talked to my mom, but they never really said it was over. i really want to stay with him, and we broke up because he THOUGHT i was cheating on him, and he didnt have any proof. so i think he might take me back. not only that he still calls my dad is father-in-law and he is still making plans with us. for example, he's coming tomorrow to drop his sister off, and monday he's going with my dad to this auto shop. so i dont know if he really is serious about leaving me. but there is something bothering me, he's going to his ex girlfriends house tommorow, but he never really liked her... but i dont know what he would be doing there.. i dont know what to do!
As much as I hate to say this, it sounds like he's using you as his "just in case" girl. Like, if things don't work out with his ex or another girl, he's got you to fall back on. I could be wrong though, & the only way you're really going to know is to sit him down & ask him. Tell him not to play games anymore, & let you know if he wants to be with you or not. If he does, he shouldn't be going to his ex's house, though.
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Me and my boyfriend have been dating for a while, and we've had oral a lot, but when it comes to full on sex, it just wont go in. =| i dont know why! im pretty sure im too tight, but what should i do, we have condoms and everything, but it just wont go in.. i donno, maybe we arent trying hard enough, but we are usually just in the mood, and really want to, but it wont work?! (yes i realize this is pretty embrassing, but i really dont care, i dont get awkward, or embrassed)
I had the same experience when I lost my virginity. Make sure you're 100% ready, because if you're not, you probably won't be able to relax. If you are, just relax as much as possible, lots of foreplay, & lube it up. Another thing that helped for me was to have him take it really slow, like start by putting the tip in, then sit there for a second & relax, then have him slowly put it further in.
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my best friend and i share everything.
she massturbates, and she wants to get horny.
how are some ways she can get horny?
oh, and please dont say pornography, she doesnt watch it.
also. not doing anythng with guys either.
jsut something she can do on her own.
It really depends on what she's "into". Like what she enjoys. Fantasizing is a great way to get turned on. Along with reading stories online, or romantic books if she likes that.
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I have to do an interview with somebody that is a Wiccan. The only problem is I do not know anyone and I have nobody to ask.
Are any of you Wiccan, and if so, can you please fill out a list of questions for me?
What does WICCA stand for?
Where and when did the brief in WICCA begin?
Since the Cross in the Catholic church has a symbolic meaning, what is the background of the pentagram?
Do you have things like the Ten Commandments?
What exactly do Wiccans believe in? Who do they follow?
How do go about becoming Wiccan?
Since Wiccans believe in witchcraft, do they believe there is some way they could bring the dead back?
What do Wiccans believe happens to you when you die?
Please leave your first name and state, thank you so much :]
I wouldn't exactly call myself 100% wiccan, but I've done a lot of researching on it & I've practiced it a little, so I hope this helps. This is what I've found out during my research:
What does WICCA stand for?
It doesn't stand for anything. It comes from an old English word meaning wise.
Where and when did the brief in WICCA begin?
The beginning of Wicca is still debated on, but it was first noticed in England in the early 1950's.
Since the Cross in the Catholic church has a symbolic meaning, what is the background of the pentagram?
For a lot of Wiccans, the pentagram represents elements, one for each point of the star. The elements are Earth, Air, Fire, Water, & Spirit.
Do you have things like the Ten Commandments?
Wiccans use the Wiccan Rede. The basic point of the rede being "If it harms none, do what you will".
What exactly do Wiccans believe in? Who do they follow?
Wiccas believe in a single power, often known as the All, but is usually referred to as the God & Goddess. Basically, Wiccans believe in an ultimate power, but what they call it varies. And most Wiccans do not believe in "Satan" or anything like that.
How do go about becoming Wiccan?
To become a wicca, your first step should be to do a lot of research & find out everything you can about Wicca. Also, to make sure it's the right religion for you.
Since Wiccans believe in witchcraft, do they believe there is some way they could bring the dead back?
Usually not, but it depends on the person. A lot of them believe that communication with the dead is possible, though.
What do Wiccans believe happens to you when you die?
Most believe in reincarnation, or a place called "summerland", where your spirit waits to take physical form again.
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Hi everyone =]
I need some opinions... Around February 7-10, I was ovulating.. I did not know, but I had sex that day... unprotected and he might have ejaculated inside... I found out I was ovulating AFTER the incident lol. About a week after.. I started experiencing some MEAN hunger... I was more sensitive, emotional, moody... Same goes for week two.. And now, this is week three... I'm experiencing some symptoms as how it would feel having my period.. but no sign of it.. I'm still sensitive and emotional.. still more hungrier than usual, and i've gained weight... I took a HPT after 2 weeks and 1 day.. And it came out negative.. What are you guys' ideas? Oh and I've also experienced heartburn which rarely happens.. thanks in advanced!
Some of the early signs would be tender breasts, hunger, & fatigue. Heartburn can also be a sign of pregnancy. But don't panic just yet. I've had quite a few pregnancy scares that turned out to be nothing. If you're really worried, go see your doctor.
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