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Hey, Im in a bit of a sticky situation here, and im not really sure what to do! There is this guy i work with, and we got to know each other well and ive been sleeping with him since about october and have started getting feelings for him, i always think about him and get really upset and hurt because i know he doesnt have feelings for me, his ex and him are still close mates but she goes to uni on the mainland now, and he sends her prezzies and stuff, he even sent her a valintines card and he never does anything like that for me. i know he is proberly using me and i have siad tons of times im not going to go round, that it has to stop, but i just cant help it, we always fight as well, i just get so upset and wound up, i wish it was different. i want to get over him but its a lot difficult than i thought and im not sure what to do, i cant carry on like i have been,xx
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I'd look for a different job, different hours or something and then move on and leave this guy alone.
There is no probably about it, you are being used. He wants his ex and she isn't around at the moment. The minute she is you will left without a second thought on his part.
Even if you can't change jobs, you need to tell him to get lost and mean it. There isn't a way to do it without getting hurt. Just find someone else to concentrate on. Then, don't sleep with him until you know for certain that you are the only girl on the planet he wants to be with.
I wish it could be different for you, but that's the way it is. Good luck.
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I would say talk to him about your feelings, but if you're always fighting, it's probably best to get out of that relationship before you hurt yourself even more. I've never seen anything wrong with 'friends with benefits', but I always say, once feelings start getting involved, it's time to end it. It might be hard, but you'll get over it. Just get out of it before you hurt yourself more.
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