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Too tight? =|
Me and my boyfriend have been dating for a while, and we've had oral a lot, but when it comes to full on sex, it just wont go in. =| i dont know why! im pretty sure im too tight, but what should i do, we have condoms and everything, but it just wont go in.. i donno, maybe we arent trying hard enough, but we are usually just in the mood, and really want to, but it wont work?! (yes i realize this is pretty embrassing, but i really dont care, i dont get awkward, or embrassed)
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You have 1 of 3 options...
1)shove it in and get over the pain
2)stretch yourself out ;)
3)sleep with smaller guys
and odviously since the last is out of the question you have 2 options...
xoxo,
dottie4
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I had the same experience when I lost my virginity. Make sure you're 100% ready, because if you're not, you probably won't be able to relax. If you are, just relax as much as possible, lots of foreplay, & lube it up. Another thing that helped for me was to have him take it really slow, like start by putting the tip in, then sit there for a second & relax, then have him slowly put it further in.
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Go to Walgreen or Walmart and get some KY lube!
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Many people are embaressed. Sex is a natural part of life and it is good that you accept that. As for your problem, there are a few things that you could do. One, you could try masturbating by yourself and maybe even with toys to gradually stretch yurself out. Two, you could have him perform oral on you before intercourse to relax your muscles and loosen you up, or three, you're not relaxig enough, you may be stressing the thought of him actually getting into you so much that your muscles are conciously not letting go.
Hope I helped<3
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Actually it is you. It is not that it is too tight but you are reacting to the advances. You are nervous and you are pushing it too tight. So relax and it will work. Take deep breathes, and tell him you are ready.
lifescomplicated
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That's good that you don't get embarassed about it. Sexual intercourse can sometimes be really hard at first, it just takes practice to get good at it. Get a condom that is super lubed up, that's probably just the issue. Or have him do oral beforehand so that it's easier to push it in.
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