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hiya I'm shelly, I'm 20 and from England. I have the best boyfriend in the world and he means so much to me. I love to help people and I've just started using Advicenators again. I hope i can help you all with your problems feel free to email me x


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ok well im goung out with this guy but his name wont be reavealed and well he went to this party last nite and he told me before he went that he wants me to kno that he loves me and that no matter wat happens to remember that and i told him i would and today i find out from his sister who also was at the party with him that she had walked in on him and another gurl last nite and im not shurr if he was drunk or not and i juss found this out a few minutes ago and well i dont kno wat to do becuz i dont want to dump him becuz i love him so much but at the same time im not shurr if i can trust him as much as i did becuz of wat he did becuz im not always going to be there to prevent these things from happening and i've never loved anyone as much as i love him and it hurts so much i've never been so upset in my life im more upset now than when my own grandfather died and its creepy becuz i've previously stopped cutting myself and now i keep getting the urge to do drugs again and to cut myself again and i dont want to go bak to doing that but a part of me thinks thats the only way to make myself stop thinking about him but i dont want to stop loving him but a part of me wants to and it's all jus to confusing and frustrating and i need your help becuz i also dont want to try and kill myself like i have done about 5 times plz help me through this!!!!!!

DONT DO DRUGS OR CUT YOURSELF!!!! that is the last thing you need and i know it may seem lik the only option but it isn't. well this is really hard because you love him so much but you have to ask yourself can you ever trust him again? if not then dump him because he really isnt worth it if he treats you this way, you deserve alot lot better than somebody who treats you like you dont mean a thing! Tell him that you know about everything and talk it out with him! tell him that you love him and that you dont want to lose him but your confused about what to think. I know it seems like the end of the world but you wil get through it togehter! just both stick together!!! i hope i have helped but whatever you do please dont cut yourself or drugs coz you will regret it!
all my love
shelly

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ok, well i'm an 8th grade girl and i really like this 7th grade guy, and he asked me out and i said yes, but i'm wondering if that's weird or not.. idk, i'm just confused, please help me!
~mandy

No its not weird if you like each other then its fine!!

luv shelly

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Ok i always have a tough time talking to guyz i like.. i always get so shy and locked up... and the thing is i get all shaky and nervas. It's so emaressing! I no they probably feel the same way but it seems so hard... what should i do?

try to talk to them i kno you get very shy and im the same around lads i try to avoid talking to them if i can. lol. but you shouldn't feel embarrased just try and boost your confidence and try to talk to them.lads feel the same around girls too so its not just us girls. i hope i have helped you

luv shelly

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hi, i am 13 years old and i no a friend and i think she has an eating disorder. She always watches her weight and what she eats. She looks at herself everynight and sees if she gained any weight. But everytime I ask her if she is, she says no. Do you think she has an eating disorder and if so how can i help? please help me asap...i rate high.
ex Oh ___*

Well try and speak to your friend about this and tell her what you are thinking. if she still denies it then it could just be nothing to worry about. Lots of people like to watch the way they eat. hope i have helped

luv shelly

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i've been doing situps every other day for a while since i heard that if you do them everyday you won't get abs. is that true? and i admit i've lost some fat but the sides of my waist still have alot of fat... so how can i make them tighter? because i hate it when i'm wearing clothes that aren't even fat but theres like fat hanging off the side. advice is much needed thanks

well dont just do sit ups try doing other exercise like going for a walk or jogging, swimming or running. go for a bike ride. eat more healthy and drink water.sit ups can help but to lose weight faster add another exercise into your routine and the losing weight process shouldn't take as long. hope i have helped

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i got this friend right, he has such bad luck with girls and all he does is try to show off for them but nothin works and he just gets blown off all the time..... what should he do?

He should just be himself, girls dont like a guy who shows off pretending to be something he isn't.

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HELP!im 14/f..here it goes..in like october i started kinda fooling around with an eating disorder but didnt really realize i was. since then ive collapsed twice..im really getting scard somethings really wrong with me bc of this! my sister knows & she thinks i told my mom and that im all good now. i feel guilty that im basicly lying to my sister when she asks me how its going and im scard ive done some kinda permanent damage to my body! i really dont want to be known as that girl with an eating disorder but its hard not to be!

well i think you should go to a doctor, tell him/her about the whole thing and make it clear that you dont want your mum to know about it. Tell a friend or your sister, know matter how angry she may be she will want you to get better and will appreciate you telling her in the end. she could go to the doctors with you, and there maybe some medication you can take.

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ok well i am 13 female and there is this boy named alex and he is really really hot and popular and he said that he needs a girlfriend becuz he is lonely and my friend adriana put all these girls names on a piece of paper and gave it to alex so he can rate them and my name was on there and he rated me a 1!!! I am not the prettiest girl alive and i am kinda overweight so what can i do for him 2 rate me like a 7 or sumthing???? and any advice about excrise so i can lose weigt???????

-confused

i really don't think you should change for this guy. If a guy doesn't like you for who you are then he is a loser. You shouldn't have to change for him. Be yourself i mean if you lost weight and things and pretended to be someone your not you will find yourself been unhappy and changing yourself for every Guy. Be yourself and most of all be HAPPY with the way you look!!! And if he can't like you for that then he doesn't deserve you!

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Well I have this friend and everytime I talk she just says shut up or no one cares or something mean but sometimes she says she is joking after she says it but most of the time she doesn't.I don't really have the courage to go and tell her how I feel because she is not the kind of person that would actually care.Or she would just tell me something mean..What should I do?Sorry if it is long!

well if you don't have the courage to talk to her and tell her how you feel write her a letter. it would be alot easier than talking. if your friend has go at you becasue of this then i wouldn't be her friend obviously she isn't a very nice friend if she is saying awful things like that to you, even if it is only a joke, tell her its only a joke if the other person is laughing aswell( and in your case you're not)tell her that it upsets you when she says these things and try to work things out. i hope i have helped
Luv Shelly

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there is this boy that loves me but I don't love him and he keeps begging me to go out with him
what should I do?

Love
summer

well if you like him then of course go out with him. But if not just say you would prefer to be friends at the moment and see where it ends up. You never know you might end up liking him once you get to know him more.

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my sister is having a baby and she really loves symbolic and unique names so i was wondering if i could get some suggestions... thnx :-D

these are names i like

Mckenzie
Lewis
Cammeron
Logan
Robert
Adam
Liam
Luke
Paul

Lana
Kady
Alice
Sara
Allyiah
Alyssa
Rebecca
Haley
Bethany

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I got pushed off this hill of woodchips n landed right on my back... I didn't notice at the time but i broke 2 of my ribs... Yes it hurt extremely bad but I wanted to be tough n finished school the rest of the day and actually attended basketball n played it. The physical trainer at my school made me lay on the gym floor and do streches to strech it out.She wouldn't listen to me because i told her i couldn't do that. She told me i had to do 100 times of the streches n now i suffer pain from that. Is there anyway to fix it? I went to the chiropractor. But that didn't work! HELP!!

Go to a doctor. You should have actually gone to the hospital straight away because hurting your back can do bad dammage when your older. Your doctor will sort you out with some pain killers if it hurts. He will tell you what to do. My dad broke his ribs once he just got pain killers and was fine in 2 weeks.

Luv Shelly
xxxxxxx

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i live in a small town with nothing to do, where can i go to meet a new friend?

Well you could join clubs that are nearby if there are any. If not go on the net and go and see if there are any community centres near you. There should be one there is over here it may depend on where you live. Go to skool clubs like sport clubs there are a gr8 way to meet new ppl. Hope i have given you some idea's

Bye Luv Shelly Deacon

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my bro is so annoyin he trys to act gd in front of his mates by calling me names. he read my diary in front of his mates. wot can i do

did u tell your mum? if not then tell her or tell him u r sick of him going thru your things when his mates r around.

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I only started my periods abouit a year ago, but recently they've been really heavy (like MASSES of blood), and I feel faint sometimes. Is it normal to be like this or is there something wrong with me? by the way, I'm 14. Please answer asap because I'm really worried

Well i would say go to your docto you might have something called VON WELLBRAN DECIESE it is kinda common but the doctor can give you tablets and things to slow it down and have less pain. i would just say go and see a doctor.

Luv SHELLY

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Me and my friends fight 24/7....and now that summer is here....I HAVE NOTHING TO DO!! I mean...I loved going to school to see some, people I was good friends with....but then when I got home and got on AOL IM the gurl I fight with would be on...and start IMing me and yelling at me for nothing. So know that summers here I ahave nothing better to do, then get on AOL.

What tips could you give me about my friends??

Is there anything better then AOL that I could do?

Me and My friends fight non-stop we fall out 5 times in one day sometimes but we always make friends. Talk to your family, mum, dad, sister or brother see what they think about it. Or you can try and be friends with your m8s agen. Talk to them when they are alone and tell them how you are feeling and that you don't want to spend your holidays alone with nothing to do and you want to hang out with them etc. You never know they might feel the same too they might want to be friends with you agen. Hopefullyeverything will be back to normal and you will be happy soon

Luv Shelly

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hello, i am 13 years old, female, my name is Kayla I feel like I cause trouble for every one that I know. I don't like it. And I don't mean to. But I guess I do and i'm sitting here crying because I do and i'm tired of it! Can you help me?

Hi im Shelly and im 14. i don't really know how to help but i will try my best. Have you spoken to any of your friends about it? They might be able to help you. Have you told anyone about it? If you haven't then do it will help and you won't have it locked up inside like a big secret. Be open with your friends and tell them how you are feeling and see what they think about the whole thing you never know they might feel the same way sometimes i know i do but i try and get on with life and tell myself that i have a great friends and family and that i hould be happy otherwise i will be stressed and worried my whole life. i hope i have helped in some way

Luv Shelly

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ok, well i'm 16 ,i have a really bad depression problem i have been addicted to cutting and still have urges frequently , i have suicidel thoughts very frequently and the real problem is my parents refuse to admit there is a problem, it seems like theres nothing i can do to make them understand, the wont even get my prescribtion

hi im shelly i know it must be hard for you but i also cut myself and i have stopped recently i have times where i want to cut myself again but you have to be strong. I couldn't go to anybody but you can talk to me about things if you like.
Try talking to a friend about this don't keep it to yourself things will onlt get worse like it did for me

Luv Shelly

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