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im miserable now
ok well im goung out with this guy but his name wont be reavealed and well he went to this party last nite and he told me before he went that he wants me to kno that he loves me and that no matter wat happens to remember that and i told him i would and today i find out from his sister who also was at the party with him that she had walked in on him and another gurl last nite and im not shurr if he was drunk or not and i juss found this out a few minutes ago and well i dont kno wat to do becuz i dont want to dump him becuz i love him so much but at the same time im not shurr if i can trust him as much as i did becuz of wat he did becuz im not always going to be there to prevent these things from happening and i've never loved anyone as much as i love him and it hurts so much i've never been so upset in my life im more upset now than when my own grandfather died and its creepy becuz i've previously stopped cutting myself and now i keep getting the urge to do drugs again and to cut myself again and i dont want to go bak to doing that but a part of me thinks thats the only way to make myself stop thinking about him but i dont want to stop loving him but a part of me wants to and it's all jus to confusing and frustrating and i need your help becuz i also dont want to try and kill myself like i have done about 5 times plz help me through this!!!!!!
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cutting doesnt make it better,even though it feels good and everything.talk to him face to face and ask him about that night and if he doesnt mention the girl then ask him about it.once a cheater always a cheater
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There are other things that you can do to occupy yourself other than drugs and cutting yourself. *I want to say that doing drugs isn't pleasurable, but I know it is, from research.* Although it is difficult, you must try to look at the bigger picture of things.. If you do drugs, a lot of bad things will soon follow and will shorten your life. *I'm sure these things have been said before, but I really want to emphasize the point.*
Try to engage in other hobbies... Who knows? YOu might discover something you will ultimately enjoy for life! ^___^
If your boyfriend was just talking to the girl, then there might be nothing there at all. But if it's the other...
Well, you should try to talk to him. If you sense that he really doesn't love you as much as you think he does, dump him. *I hope I don't sound too haarsh.*
I'm just curious if you can really love him, if you don't trust him. Or you're not sure if you can trust him..
Basically, trust your feelings. But try to do other things. Don't base your whole life on him, coz if you lose him, then you will feel like you lost everything. Try to loosen your reins on him a bit. Maybe you're depending too much on him. Try other activities. Have fun! If he really cares for you *Let's say you confronted him, and he knows tht you know* , he will go after you. If you always go after him, he might enjoy that and be spending time with other girls so you'll act that way with him...
If you need to talk more, or my advice is a bit vague or if there is any problem at all, drop me a note and we can chat.. ^__^
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DONT DO DRUGS OR CUT YOURSELF!!!! that is the last thing you need and i know it may seem lik the only option but it isn't. well this is really hard because you love him so much but you have to ask yourself can you ever trust him again? if not then dump him because he really isnt worth it if he treats you this way, you deserve alot lot better than somebody who treats you like you dont mean a thing! Tell him that you know about everything and talk it out with him! tell him that you love him and that you dont want to lose him but your confused about what to think. I know it seems like the end of the world but you wil get through it togehter! just both stick together!!! i hope i have helped but whatever you do please dont cut yourself or drugs coz you will regret it!
all my love
shelly
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