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how do i get more guys to be my friends?? i have like none i im not sure if any boy would be my friend i mean ya i do hang out with the popular group or whatever you wnt to call them but they never put me in thier profiles and like i feel left out like if someone hangs out with someone for one night they are automatically their friend but unlike me i take a whole year
It may not be the answer your looking for, and I'll take a bad rating for this, but maybe they're just not the kind of friends you need. It seems like they let you hang around but maybe they're not your genuine friends? Hey, I could be truly wrong ... this is just my assumption. In any case... I know where your coming from. Maybe your not all slutty which is how most girls get guys. Look for guys who maybe aren't so gorgeous or full of themselves... ordinary guys, even ones you consider ugly ... as long as they're sweet personality wise. They don't have to be guys that turn you on or ones you want to go out with ... just plain old guys. And remember ... you'd be suprised how many connections people have. Become good friends with one guy, and you can meet some of his friends ;-) .. or a cousin, brother... the list goes on my dear. GL
Okay, my mom is making me see a shrink, because she thinks that I need to let out my feelings. I HATE shrinks. I just hate them!! I used to go see one and then i would just leave! I dont want to go, but I dont know how to get out of it! PLEASE HELP ME! I FIND SHRINKS SUCH A WASTE OF TIME!!!!!!!!!!!
~Melissa~
As moms can be persistent, lets just say the situation turns out as always -- the mother WINS. So if your mom absolutely forces you to go, see it to your opportunity. I used to DESPISE this lady my mom made me go to and I hated her for it. Now, I go to a new therapist whos like practically a good friend, lets me curse out whoever and whatever I want and just stays patient. On the other hand, I cant call my mom things to her face or call anyone names around her. Don't let your mom know you don't want to go. Act like you confide in this person more than her it will piss her off and make you stop going. Tell her there so much more fun to talk to than her. Then you can stop going.
ok...i wanna babysit during the summer only i don't know how to start. and i dont wanna babysit alone. so...how do i start babysitting?
Hang up signs if you wish around your neighberhood. Have a friend team up with you and advertise for the both of you. If signs aren't helping, let it travel through word of mouth. Ask people or let people know you are interested in babysitting. That always helps.
I love my boy friend so much! He is one of the best things that has happened to me in a LONG time. I just moved more than 30 minutes away from him. My parents almost never give me a ride over there and no one in his house will give him a ride unless we pay them money. I love him but I feel like we are just growing apart. Should I break up with him or just see how things go?
Yeah... you guys are young. For now it may not work. I know... change rele stinks but I can promise you even if you avoid change, it will eventually come. So I will just make the change and get the pain over ASAP. Here's what you can do. Stay in touch!! Call eachother, IM/email, write letters if you have to!! Just make sure you stay in touch, always be really close friends. Tell him when you guys break up that you're still very fond of him you just know things cant work and you don't want it to be painful to have to not see him. So, hard as it may be, I think you should break up with him. If you stay good friends every so often you can see him... but as gf/bf you have this obligation to have to see eachother. You know ? If you stay good friends when you guys can drive, you can hang out more, and maybe one day go out again. It's a sticky situation, and it rele stinks. You might get really sad too. But remember there's every1 on advicenators to vent to, not to mention journal/diary ... poetry or just plain reading... doing whatever helps pass your time.
Good Luck hang in there-- lemme know how it goes.
ok..I have scoliosis and my mom says doing pilates or yoga would help..would that really work?
Yep! You can bet it will. I mean, I don't know a lot about scoliosis itself but Pilates and all that is rele good for that. I recommend Pilates if you take ne road. Have fun, good luck.
-the plus is it's also very relieving of stress-
i have had the urge to write songs lately but all of them are about love and my lovelife and i seem to copy from alot of other songs? to help come up with my own ideas and NOT about my love life what could i do??? any advice is helpful here i dont care!
Well, since love is not too original when it comes to songs, think of an interesting word and branch of its meaning and several examples of it. Some cool words: Perserverance, Serendipity, Astutely, frazzled.
HmMMm... if you chose to take that road just open a dictionary and find some words you like. Love isn't the only thing that occurs today.
:-)
i like this person and he's 25 and he is kind of a teacher at my school. i can't get over him. how do i get over him?
Maybe the fact that it would be illegal. I guess if you really like someone you really like someone. But it would be so wrong to date a teacher. So incredibly wrong. Do you just like him because you're trying to make a 'bad girl' statement... or what? Ask yourself. If you need anymore help let me know.
This may not sound serious but it is. I was having a nervous break down during math because of this.
I can not stand the phrase "I never knew that." It just drives me insane. Whenever I hear it I either cry or scream. I just hate the phrase. So my question is how can I get over this? I am asking this in all seriousness. My friend who has a column here (she's asking this since I can't get on) has even told me do get help for this.
ERR-- Get evaluated? Most honestly. I mean a phrase? It's like... yeah.. umm . Definetly go do that.
My family is know for having a history of skin cancer/moles. I have a mole on my right cheek and i really dont like it.. everybody thinks its really pretty... but i dont see how... should i get it removed? i really wanna ask my mom... but im not sure how... any ideas? or should i leave it?
DEFINETLY... if you have a history talk to your mom. See a doctor, check it out. It may be nothing but if it's the difference between life and death who cares about beauty?
i think my sister is anorexic or bulimic....idk what to do tho bc every time i ask her about it, she just denys it, but all of her friends tell me she is, what should i do?!
GET HELP! Do not let this problem blow up. There are TONS of symptoms I highly suggest you look them up right away. I have delt with many situations such as this where I would never expect this of the person. Please, please , please... if you suspect anything get her help right away before things blow up!
God Bless-
Best wishes x3
okay well i really feel like shocking everybody tomrw at school..i have friends but i wanna be the girl all the guys want ya know?..and my friends are kinda lame and boring me..so next week is spring break and i wanna go out with a band..any ideas??..
Honestly guys will be guys. There's nothing you can do to have to shock them. Honestly in my heart I believe the best thing to do would be to be yourself. You shouldn't want to be with the guys that make you change yourself to be with them. Maybe this sounds cliche, but I've seen 2 many girls change themselves for guys, and it's not a pretty outcome. I'm proud in the fact that I'm me, plain old me. I mean... I like country music... hmm I like cowboy hats... and I live in New York!! I'm very different and Im not saying you have to be but I seem to be quite happy. I'm no redneck, I just enjoy being me. If people see you have pride in what you are, they start to realize that no matter what they say you've still got this own exciting vibe going for yourself. After a while, people will even want what you have. Not that you need people envying you .. but being yourself can be quite fun. I personally hate anyone who tries to be me or be like me, standing out can be enjoyable as long as you put up this wall that will block out your care to any insults. Don't hide behind a fasod when the real you is shivering beyond it, wondering how lost you got.
my boyfriend and me have been going out for a lil over a month and i still dont feel anything for him, hes totally obssesed with me and i dunno what to say to him without hurting him because hes a really good friend of mine! I feel like im just stuck in a bad relationship. Some people keep saying stuff like i cheat on him all the time which i dont, im just a natural flirt and i cant help it!..id really just rather be single for awhile because spring breaks coming up and i dont wanna have to be tied down! Does anybody know what i could say to him that wouldnt hurt his feelings? :(
Aw. Howbout this? It's easy as this.
'Lookit, you're really nice... and I would so never want to break your heart. But I find it even more dishonest to sit here and let you think I feel the same way when I don't. It's too deceitful. I never cheated on you, and I want to stay good friends, your a really nice guy.'
Something along those lines couldn't hurt even the most sensitive guy! Sure he'll feel bad no matter what but not because of anything you said, just because the fact alone he broke up with you. Remember, it really isn't right to stay with someone just to make them happy. You know, your own hapiness is important as well.
Lately my zits have gotten really bad. I try various face washes, alcohol pads, etc. Nothing works and they're getting worse. I don't have the money to go out and buy expensive treatments. Are there any ways to make them go away faster using products I could find at home or products I could buy for not too much money? Thanks I rate 5's.
Well, if you haven't tried Oxy pads, try them. I'm guessing you've tried that brand already if you've tried alcohol pads. Hmm, perhaps you should see a dermatologist? That would definetly clear all your problems but I don't suppose it might go over economically, (unless your insurance would pay). Definetly the thing I have found as a natural remedy that works quite while is toothpaste. Rub a little on every area that needs it right before you go to bed, (it'll sting, but that means it's working) and in the morning I guarentee it will improve. It may take a few nights- a week to have them completely gone.
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Every time i wash my hair when it dries it gets all sticky and stiff kind of..like i put gel in it when i rele didnt. i always make sure i rinse it out good, and ive tried various shampoos and conditionerz. WHY IS MY HAIR DOING THIS? it gets so sticky and greasy looking i can never wear it downm.
HMM... no matter how many you've tried, you might need a new shampoo/conditioner. Out of curiosity have you tried Patene? If not, please try it. It works miracles. If you're still getting this, I'd have to say the only option left is that you're STILL not washing out enough. So be very careful and scrub it all out, take a good 10/15 minutes if you have to just scratching all the shampoo out. Also, try washing your hair out with cold water, it makes your hair a lot softer though it's a bit uncomfortable.
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This might sound strange, but I need tips on how to fight. I know how to hold my fists and how to swing, but I'm scared to break my knuckles or fingers when I swing at someone. I shouldn't be fighting, but I need to learn how to defend myself when someone starts with me, which has happened before and I didn't know how to fight. Also, where is a good spot to hit the person so they back off?
umm, I know this isn't going to be the answer you want to hear but violence definetly isnt the answer. If you've been picked on maybe you should look into Karate or something like that, or kick-boxing something you could like excercise and stuff. Idk, I don't suggest fighting.
i am VERY short, so whenever i buy jeans, i cut them to fit my length (instead of hemming them), cause i dont care about the little freys at the bottom. But yesterday i bought corduroy pants that are of course too long, if i cut them, would that ruin them?
Definetly try hemming them. And idk if it would be your size but try getting some pants from 5.7.9 they make pants for very little people... lol but its a juniors store. That, or buy from kids stores ( I know what a drag) but Abercrombie kids make some nice jeans.
My best friend since 5th grade (we're Jr. now) recently started dating this girl. Well, we live next door to each other and she was over at his house this morning. I was in my backyard and they were in his. I over heard her tell him that she doesn't want him hanging out with me anymore. I didn't hear what he said back. Should I ask him about it or wait until he brings it up?
I think I would wait it out if anything. I mean you really dont know, maybe he said the right thing. Let him talk to him, and if hes really listening to that jerk, you'll notice off the bat and he'll be a complete trashbag. Trust me darlin', maybe you'll lose some sleep or be kind of nervous for the future, but whatever battle you fight it's for the best.
Okay, so I eat good, I have gym class every day so I exercise5 times a week for and hour and a half, yet i'm still pretty fat. I mean I'm not obese. I'm about 150, but I'm 5'8. Al my friends are really skinny though so in comparison to them i'm huge. I don't want to hurt myself with an eating disorder or anything and I don't have time to exercise anymore, but what can I do?
Get better eating habits. AKA- drop goodies such as cake, ice cream, candy for a while.... and an occasional treat is ok. I heard dropping carbs really work well too. But its definetly in with the eating at this point. And remember, dont try to be anyone else, do this for yourself alone.
:-) Good Luck :-)
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how do get rumors to go away....i just had a huge ass rumor started about me...but the thing is its true...just not ne more...i don't want my entire scool to think shitty about me over a mistake a made a while back...wat do i do??i rate high
Heres what you do. Hold your head up high. I know it seems hard and you dont want people believing this but when you're approached just nod it off and say 'if anyone would know the truth, it's me.' Understand half these people dont even believe these rumors they just feed on them out of boredom. It will sooo past and until then write out your feelings, listen to your music, take a hot bath... do your thing!
my friend steels stuff from stores, and it really bothers me. I'm afraid that if im with her when she does it ill get in trouble for it too. She trusspasses onto peoples property too. I dont think that she is a good friend for me, we get along really well and always have fun when we're together but i dont want to be her friend when she does that stuff. What should i do?
Well, you really have two choices. But before these choices, you need a realization. If you don't get yourself out of the situation, later on your going to be upset! So act now and cover your own butt! Your choices are...
1. Tell your friend how you feel. Tell her stealing stuff and trespassing isn't going to get her far. Tell her the more she does it, the harder it's going to be to stop, b/c it will become a habit. Tell her your telling her because you care and friends help eachother, their not supposed to go down together.
2. If all else fails, she wont listen, you need a new friend/friends. It may be hard but little by little you need to stop hanging out with her, or being really friendly. Of course you dont have to completely ignore her but I would keep a safe distance.
Well, I really hope I could be of help. Life is tough, especially in a situation such as this. Hope u get the advice u need. :-)