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well i'm going to give my boyfriend a hj... but it'll be my first time and i was wondering what kind of position is good for that. i dont think im ready to see it all yet. so how can i do it so that im not looking at it and what is a comfortable position for both of us? thanks! (link)
well if you arent comfortable seeing than maybe you shouldn't do it
think if your ready not if hes pressuring you... like make sure YOU really want to do it
anyways
if your not gonna wanna look at it, than just dont look at it. like you cant really not look at it, but you dont have to look at it for too longg... anyways youll have to look at it for a little while, but then the rest of the other time just look in his eyes he'll like it =]
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I am going into 8th grade. The first and last time my mom actually bought me a bra was in the beginning of 6th grade. That bra is a 34 A and i'm sorry it's old, sweaty and my boobs got way bigger from then. I'm not exagerrating. I know what you are thinking: ask your mom to get you a new one, stupid. My mom is SOO IMMATURE when it comes to stuff like that. Today we were in old navy and OH MY GOSH! PRAISE THE LORD! MOM ASKED IF I NEEDED A BRA. I was about to say yes but she was like giggling and gesturing to her boobs and smiling. So I said no and turned red and walked away. I know I should buy my own, but I buy alot of my other stuff that my mom won't buy. It takes me a while to even earn 60 dollars from babysitting, and I don't want to buy a bra because it gets me really mad that my mom could buy one for me if she was a little more mature. Everytime I try to get myself to buy my own, I picture how much money i'm losing. Don't think my mom buys all my other stuff, she doesn't. I do. And i'm NOT COMPLAINING, because I think that teaches me well when I buy my own stuff. But A BRA. THE LAST time she bought me one was when I was 11. I'm realy embarrased to ask her. Should I get up the courage and ask, and have the next few days be awkward, or go to the mall this week and use my own 20 dollars? (link)
I wish my mom was like that! be glad she doest treat you like a leper when you need to talk about stuff like that. Your mom sounds AWESOME! Why does it bother YOU that she is comfortable with the subject of boobs? do you get that you are being embarrassed because she ISNT embarrassed? Sounds silly when I say it like that doesn't it? So why not just say YES! nad let her giggle some? she just wants to do girlie stuff with you cause trust me if she didnt want to she wouldnt be laughing about it and making boobie jokes, she would treat you like other moms do and turn red and change the subject and never buy you anything you need until you are30 and she thinks it is ok to talk to you about all that. LOL! your mom ROCKS! so why make it so she cant share the fun with you and you have to make money to buy bras just because you are embarrassed? JUST ASK HER AND THANK GOD SHE IS LIKE THAT!


Sean 13/m lee 14/f john 14/m and me sue 13/f
Me and Sean have track together but its over. My first time doing track his second. we did the hurdles and high jump and a relay together. We suck at hurdles we were with each other to help each other up and laugh in a nice way we're like that to each other i have fun with him a lot. We also loved each other, which we held it off for a longtime because we didn’t wana lose our friendship. id rather have a best friend than a boyfriend. i had a mission carnival at school. my mom was a chaperone. He was going to ask me out today at school. My mom hates my friends were the punky goths. hes real prep. but i loved him he loved me everyone knows. She always says everything wrong about my friends. she would keep him away and always stops us dancing (my other friends) even me with my friends as friends. we did the music my mom was always watching. i just hate it. she tries to keep me away from my friends. my mom doesn’t even know the real me. my BEST FRIENDS can not even come over
We started like going apart when people used to try to get us together I usually will say no if any guys ask me out and his friend said he didn’t wana make a fool of himself. Im quiet around his family ive even known them for my whole life i just see something in them that IM afraid of or hate or something i don’t know. On my site was so much the music, the pictures, what i wrote, all the quotes! He said what’s with the site I said why he said what’s it all about then my friend told him to fuck off so he left I was about to break down my friend saved me. One thing says 'the jerk i loved, did love, you to watch me in ALL this pain stare and laugh the guy who added to all this, who is killing me, inside, i loved you and you fucked up my life to the limit not sure what and who and how can help me now maybe you know buy you don’t know all i go through. This is one of a hundred
Well like a year ago i started liking him. we started flirting and after about a month of flirting i told him i liked him and he was so shocked ME a punk Goth rebel told him a dork, Im WAY higher up in popularity then he is I said I didn’t care we started flirting and talking less and less. Then i found out he liked me by our of his friends by then our friends started trying to get us together. one time they got us alone talking because we were before with about 8 people from different groups. When they all left he started babbling on about red bull talking so fast then he left so quickly. Another time i stayed at a friends house for 9 days the whole school knew we liked each other and she didn’t she’s never really around he was gona spend the night at his friends house but ended up there soo me him and our 2 friends but they were cousins. so me and him sleeping in the basement with our friends I didn’t say a word to him THE WHOLE TIME. My clothes and music scared him so bad then we got a lot of people to go to the pool i wasn’t aloud to bring any other of my friend’s guys or girls. I said I don’t like any of my other guy friends. but he saw me at the carnival with my friends 6 girls including her and 5 guys.- 3 guys and a girl are a year or 2 older he didn’t even know them then we rode rides ate and had icee fights together. we ran down the road chasing and laughing they laid in the rocks on the playground buried each other. two of the guys hugged me we rode the rides dropped icees on the pharaoh(the swinging side to side ride) we sat on each end. We got covered in ice. i got some on my chest and john got it off. then on the scrambler we each got in a different one and as we were spinning wed slap hands or try to talk and most of the time I passed john. I say Sean watching us a lot especially us lying in the rocks. the day after, my page had more it said how i want a guy to love me for who i am that i WILL NEVER change for anyone and that a guy friend i lost how guys can be such a jerk and be so jealous and SPY...my friend came up to him the day after and he was like what did you do to her then one other person came up to him a girl i HATE asked about me. he told me he liked my page i said yea then just looked up at him ‘’with those gleaming pain filled beautiful eyes he never noticed my eyes they kinda scared him their so pretty ’’he told his friend and his friend told me
Our friends party i kind of talked to Sean but nothing good i guess like hi and in the pool he played football i did some of the time but when i wasn’t hed say sue move and be smiling. Then I was with my other best friends that came lee and ray and john. Were the kinda people to wrestle and stuff and just do stuff to each other. Well the guy and i were with each other a lot...and like sitting RIGHT by each other on the pool steps and wed jump on each other throw pool toys squirt each other with squirt guns ok it was a war kind of a play war lol. sean looked like he was getting so jealous he’d come over say don’t hurt her Im like Im fine were just joking and he would just like splash john or something when i wasnt looking. they hated each other before people call john rainbow and he used to before i became friends with him then i told him to stop. Sean is NEVER the jealous kind of person with any other girls but lately...me. he says he doesn’t love me but that was the last day of school like 3 months ago. I shouldn’t be mad at john he did nothing or Sean he didn’t either or me i just don’t know. WHAT DO I DO? He wouldn’t talk to me on aim or not even sign on aim. but yesterday I got in a big fight with my mom and I was crying for once I couldn’t take it and I said I don’t wana talk to you right now but my away message was I don’t wana talk right now. But I couldn’t help it I couldn’t take it I am suicidal and I was about to kill myself. and then lee wouldn’t leave me she wanted to help me so bad so I told her everything and she stayed on aim and the phone with me for over a hour and she is the only one who knows I cut and she does too we try to make each other stop and its help a WHOLE LOT. she helped me I was laughing and everything after and lived. The fight with my family that was the cause of all this was about everything I do wear and my friends and Im the kind of person that you mess with my friends you will wish you didn’t. my mom says to stay away from my friends and all that’s wrong with each of them she says lee will start me on drugs she says she smokes BUT SHE DOESN’T. My other friend was abused with drugs and it started in preK one parent died the other is in jail for life and she broke out once and tried to take he kids back and beat my friend forced her with cigars and my mom says its all my friends fault SHE WAS ONLY 3 when it started. And my other friend is in trouble so much even more than me and im daily. ALL THAT KINDA SHIT. help me with my life please what could I do im perfectly fine with my friends. Please help me. yea its a little TOO long (link)
Well I'm glad you have your friend to help you with the cutting. I used to do that a lot, and i regret it so much now. [there's pretty bad scars on my leg].

Ask your mom why she says all of those nasty things about your friends. She just doesn't want you in the wrong crowd, but she's making your friends seem worse then they are. Say like, "Mom why do you say those things about my friends? Do you think they are into drugs? If you're trying to protect me, you aren't helping. Just because of the way they dress, I dress doesn't mean anything. You are stereotyping us. It's not necessarily our "type" of people who are into that sorta thing. They're preppy people who do worse. You blame my friends' family issues on them. They're only kids! It's so easy to blame a kid isn't it? My friends are always there for me Mom. Why can't you lay off?"

As for the aim thing. Try calling him up. Ask him why he won't talk. If he won't, I guess you'll have to resort to just going up to his house and ask in person.

I hope this helps. There was so much stuff going on I got a bit confused. And remember:

No matter how many bad things happen, one day it'll will add up to something good.

Trust me on that..


If you have sex the day before your period and sperm enters is there a strong possibility you could be pregnant? (link)
When you before your period you chances of getting pregnant are dramatically increased... I would certainly get a pregnancy test!


whats the difference between 'me gusta' and 'me gustan' (link)
gusta is singular and gustan is plural

hope i helped :D


For my first car, I want something "newer looking" so I don't anything under a 2002, fast, automatic, and 15,000 or under. I made a list of possible cars.

- 2004 Subaru WRX
- 2002-2004 BMW 325i or 325iC
- 2005 Hyundai Tiburon

& if i can find a Infiniti G35 coupe that is in my price range, then that too.


Out of all of them:

What car do you think fits my standards?
What car do you like the most?
(link)
get the subaru. best choice of all of em. BMW's are trash, big german piles of trash. a hyundai... wow i can't believe you'd even consider it fast. it looks fast but it's slow as hell. and a G35? no kid should have that. i'm sorry but it's too much for you. get the scooby, you'll be glad you did.


you know how guys always call their girlfriend "my girl"?
well what would girls call their boyfriends,besides "my guy" because thats dumb (link)
my boy or my man


I have known this guy for 8 months. We have been dating for one month now and I am a virgin, would it be bad if I had sex with him? I mean I am ready and everything else. (link)
if i were you i'd wait another month.
just to make sure youre ready
i mean... it is sex
you could give him a bj or something if your afraid he'd lose interestt


ok, I was talking to the guy i really really like last night. and im pretty sure he likes me back, we flirt alot, and have stupid arguments about who is more "special" haha, he always tells me im really special and that Im more special than he could ever be. but I deny it and tell him he is just as wonderful. so as we were talking and he was telling me that he smiles so much when he talks to me, and he doesn't think hes ever smiled as much has he does when he talks to me :) it made me so happy, and I told him that he makes me smile more, and that he makes me blush and everything. and then he was like well if you smile this much talking to me, we will have to hang out and do something exciting and see how much we can get you to smile :), did he ask me out??? Im not sure were like really good friends, and im not sure if he means just me or him? or other people as well? do you think he asked me out on a date?? (link)
I think he implied going out more then asked you out. Maybe you could make the first move, if you don't usually like to make the first move then maybe if you keep talking to him then he'll ask you out.


m/13, hi im thinking of asking my parents for a debit card... how exactly do they work, and could i have one at my age? how do i deposit money, withdraw and check my balance etc? can i order stuff on the internet? can i get a visa or mastercard debit card and buy stuff on a website that accepts visa/mastercard credit cards? if i get a debit card do i have to have a bank account? is there any annual fee? how much do they cost? sorry for all the questions lol.... (link)
they work by you putting money on it and then spending only the amount you have. for example if you have $500 on it, you can't spend $501, thats what a credit card is
yes, i got mine when i was 13
you deposit money because you have to have a bank account so you just go there. withdraw, go there or to an atm, check balance = most have it available for websites
yes you can order stuff online
i have a visa debit
yea you need a bank account
no annual fee
it was free
of course, this could vary with what kind you get but most are similar


i haven't had a first kiss yet and there's this guy i really like and viceversa but when he tries to kiss me i don't feel confident enough to kiss back b-coz im scared i won't do it right can you help?? (link)
hey

well you just have to be confident! try practicing kissing on the back of your hand (seriously).

there's nothing to be scared of. when you kiss him, just go with the flow & relax.

http://www.wikihow.com/Kiss

sorry i wasn't of much help. you just have to get used to it & relax. or, ask a guyfriend to help you practice.



Probably the wrong category. Sorry about that.

I get my nails done at a salon. I had tips, but they've grown out and I still get them filled in every two weeks, so it's just the acryllic over my natural nails. I get French tips airbrushed on instead of another nail polish color.

I go tanning and ever since I started using this new tanning lotion that has hemp in it. After a couple times using it, my nails started turning yellow! I think it's the lotion messing with the nail polish and turning it yellow, because once I take off the polish, it's not yellow anymore. Do you think it's the hemp or something else? Because my last lotion never did that.

Whether it's the hemp or not, I can't stop using that lotion until it runs out because they're so expensive, so how can I avoid my nails turning yellow? Is there a way I can apply the lotion without it getting on my nails? Because I still need it on my hands because it has a little bit of bronzer in it, so I don't want to get uneven. (link)
I'm not sure what it is. It might be the hemp but it might also be the bronzer. What brand tanning lotion do you use? When you put it on you body, keep the lotion in you palm. try not to let it get on to your fingers. After you're done with your body, slowly apply it to the tops of your hands and fingers. That's the only thing I can think of...to be care when applying it. What kind of bronzer is it? If it's just a triple, it most likely wont make that much of a difference if you don't put it on your fingers.


what is sex (link)
hey

http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/sex

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=sex

it's pretty much when a guy inserts an erect penis into a female's vagina & produces a thick, white substance called seamen [cum].



kay so i have 2 questions sorry

1. Do guys like tight holes or loose ones when finering and having sex and all that?

and...

2.Alright so this is by far the stupidest question i have ever asked in my life. im 14/f and i have hugged since i was like in kindergarden lol i even make out and all that so dont think im stupid and inexperienced..but anyway. how do you give hugs.. like does one arm go up and one down or do girls go above and guys go below or the other way around? im just wondering cause alot of people do it differently..which is the RIGHT way though?


thanks in advance ^_^ (link)
1.) Tight. Guys this girls who are loose are promiscuous. Unless you have sex a lot you are naturally tight.


2.) Again, there is no right way to hug someone lol. Most of the time the girl hugs a guy around the waist and the guy does sort of around your neck.


Hope I Helped!


kay so i have 2 questions sorry

1. Do guys like tight holes or loose ones when finering and having sex and all that?

and...

2.Alright so this is by far the stupidest question i have ever asked in my life. im 14/f and i have hugged since i was like in kindergarden lol i even make out and all that so dont think im stupid and inexperienced..but anyway. how do you give hugs.. like does one arm go up and one down or do girls go above and guys go below or the other way around? im just wondering cause alot of people do it differently..which is the RIGHT way though?


thanks in advance ^_^ (link)
hey

1.) tight. it gives them more pleasure during sex cause they get harder.

2.) since girls are usually shorter than guys, so if you're hugging a guy, two arms around his stomach & his two arms around your neck. if you're hugging a girl, two arms around the waist. that's the most common way. but there is no "right" way to do it.



ok hi im jenny
im 15 years old and i have been having a terrible 5 months.
ok so i dated this kid who is 2 years older than me for 2 years. He also lives across the street from me. I also would like to believe that we were in love once or so I thought. He really seemed to love me and i sure as hell loved him. Then after about a year and a half of dating i felt like i was kind of getting tired of him and so were my friends, so i broke it off. I dated another guy that was his age and it made him terribly jealous. He would still call me every night and I would talk to him. Every night he would tell me he loved me, even when i was dating someone else. But the bad part about that was i told him "i love you" back, because I really did. Your probably wondering why I did'nt just break up with the boyfriend I had then and go back to dating the one that I really loved. Well, I thought he wouldn't take me back and that he was just messing with me. So I dated that one guy for a few months making my ex jealous and then I finally broke it off. When i told the guy that i like that I broke up with that one guy he seemed happy, but that was it. After that we didn't hangout as much as I would have liked to and he didn't call me every night like he used to. I was so depressed. We kept talking occasionally and sometimes we would hangout, but rarley. Then one night I was going to introuduce my friend to him so we went outside and met up. He was acting VERY strange..he didn't give me a hug or even say hi to me, he was in a terrible mood. So my friend and I were not going to stand for it so we went back inside. I was SO MAD! I stayed up all night waiting for him to call me, but he never did. Then the next day he called, but being stubborn I did not answer thinking that i would call him back later. And yes i did call him back way later that night, but no answer. I kept trying and he never answered, so then i knew something was wrong. Now on this very day I still love him and want him back, and it has been 4-5 months. Oh by the way he has a new girlfriend that he is in LOVE with and he wont talk or even look at me. I REALLY NEED ADVICE and im sorry if this is confusing or too long but please read it all.. i want advice. just answer me back or email me if you have any questions. BUT PLEASE DONT TELL ME TO MOVE ON..TRUST ME I HAVE BEEN TRYING BUT HE LIVES RIGHT ACROSS THE STREET I SEE HIM EVERY DAY! (link)
It seems like he planned that hole thing out. He got you to believe that he wanted you back so you broke up with your boyfriend and now he isn't jealous. He wants you to be jealous of him now. He was an asshole for doing that might i say. Someone who messes with your heart like that isn't worth it. He has a girlfriend now and he doesn't want anything to do with you. All I can say is you deserve much better than that and by the way he did that to you should pretty much prove that you need to find someone else and all he's going to do is try to make your life more hurtful and dramatic.

Good Luck!


how do you make chicken ceasar salad? ive always wanted to know. i'm only 15 but i need to learn how to cook so later i can make really good food lol thanks :) (link)
CAESAR CHICKEN SALAD

Makes 2 servings.

1/2 garlic clove
2 tbsp. plus 2 tsp. lemon juice
1 tbsp. plus 1 tsp. mayonnaise
2 tsp. grated Parmesan cheese
8 oz. skinned and boned cooked chicken, chilled and diced
1/2 c. diced chilled celery
2 tbsp. diced drained canned pimientos
2 tbsp. chopped scallion (green onion)
4 pitted black olives, sliced
1/8 tsp. each salt and pepper
4 chilled iceberg or romaine lettuce leaves

Rub a medium wooden bowl with cut side of garlic clove and discard garlic; add lemon juice, mayonnaise, and cheese to bowl and stir to combine. Add remaining ingredients except lettuce and mix well; line serving platter with lettuce and top with chicken mixture.


what's the best lotion to use for when i'm laying outside that will make me get super tan, fast? anything that i can get at a drugstore, or like walmart/target. even things i can find around the house would work. (link)
At Walmart they have this tanning spray, I believe its made my Aussie. It does wonders it amazing I put it on and 5 minutes later I was a golden light brown color.

Hope I helped.


hi, i'm a girl of 14 and am hooked on porn sites i know this is dirty and bad my family and friends would be disgusted if they found out i'm practically addicted i'm a really good person inside what shall i do and how do i stop????
thank you (link)
Honestly their is nothing wrong with it. I guess every time you feel the need to look up porn just get off the computer and do something else.


alright so i have two questions my first is would you use a condom if you have sex in pool, and would the chemicals like harm the condom so it wouldnt work?

and my other question is are the chances high that you would get pregnant if the guy cums inside you while your in a pool? and the guy isnt wearing a condom. (link)
You would want to use a condom when ever you have sex just to be safe. It definitely not safe to have sex in a pool because depending how well maintained the pool is you can get a bacterial infection. Basically pool water would get push up into the vagina and it could cause all kind of health problems. It is not safe at all! I wouldn't try it!!

Good luck!!




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