HI!!im caramella,id love to give advice for those who need it.You might not always like my answers but i dont care about ratings,cuz if i tell you something you want to hear all the time,and i get rated high and you end up making a big mistake,rating aint gonna solve the problem then.I want to tell you guys to think before you act and look before you leap in order not to make misttakes,if you have made mistakes NEVER regret it,regrets are a waste of time and happiness and wont change what happened,BUT it will give you expereince and teach you not to do it again and refine your future^_^regret over wasted time is more wasted time.
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I don't know if my boyfriend is controlling. He wants to know where I am and who I'm with at all times. He says he loves me all the time and he wants to get married when I turn 18. I'm just about to turn 17. He wants all my time and he calls me a million times a day and expects me to spend all my free time with him. I don't think hes controlling, but I'm not sure. I love him though. How can I tell?? Is there any certain way?? Please help me figure this out. (link)
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omg this is a great thing!You shouldnt let something like this bother you in any way,this just means that he loves you to death and cant get enough of you.He wants to know who your with and where your at cuz hes worried about you.Its great that you have a guy like this,take care of him and dont let your relationship be ruined in any way.
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I have dreams about the same kid everynight, no matter what.
He's in it , like 6 out of 7 days a week.
Is that weird?
and Another thing, I had a dream about this random boy who Ive only had one dream about and the day after that dream, he came up to me and told me I was in his dream the same night.
Is that freaky or what?
It scared me alot
Thanks 14/f (link)
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Have you ever met this guy in real life that you dream of everyday?If you havent mabey you will soon,its like deja vu...ur gifted.You see stuff in your dreams before in real life.you might meet this guy in real life just dont let your dreams control your life in a way that you wont date any guy cuz your gonna wait for the guy in your dreams dont be scared,i sometimes get these weird dreams man...you should be happy!sso COOL!!
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I have a friend and it is more of a relationship. We have had sex and all kinds of stuff like that. But when we are in bed he says that i am great and all kinds of stuff like that and that i am the best kisser out of everyone he has kissed. And we make bets and a couple of times i had to give him head. And he says that i am amazing and stuff like that. And then he asked me out and i am just wondering if he actually likes me or if he just wants to get some.. please help. (link)
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first of all do YOU like him or do YOU just wanna get some?If you like him then having sex be4 having a real love relationship isnt the best thing to do cuz this way youre playing to get his sexual side NOT his emotional side...and theres a big difference between both.Even if he had sex with you theres a possibility that he dont like you...he just likes you in bed.You should try to get his emotional side before doing it with him.Well...now the only way to know how he feels is to ask him how he feels towards you exactly...
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so i have a boyfriend. he loves me and tells my im amazing/gorgeous/beautiful and everything a girl loves to hear on a regular basis. we've been together over a year. he says he loves my body. the thing is, i dont love it. at all. i mean yeah i have big boobs but thats about it. im overweight (5'9" about 251 lbs, size 18 pants and 3x shirt). im completely disgusted with my body but somehow he finds me beautiful and almost has me thinking maybe its true. but how do i see myself the way he sees me? i believe that he thinks so but im just like "ugh...why?". he wants me to be self confident but its like i just cant. im ahnee on advicenators if you want a pic (its small though) (link)
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To love yourself on the outside you gotta love yourself on the inside,if you love your personality and feel good on the inside,youll feel beautiful and think your beautiful.When a guy truely loves you,your inner personality reflects on your looks in some ways and he sees you beautiful...he sees what he didnt see before he got to know you.Its like a shirt you buy that you think looks...different or not that good,when you try it on you it looks great!thats kinda how it is.This is a great thing by the way,he truely oves you and truely does think your beautiful and sees the real beauty that others might not see.
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I get made fun of a lot because I have red hair so people call me firecrotch AND Im not very pretty. I look like a fish. Anyway, guys on my bus are always making fun of me..and I want to know what I say to them. Swearing isnt working - they just mock me and it just gives them a reaction. (link)
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First of all,weve all been mocked at some point of our lives...what you need is extreme confidence..like me!lol.confidence will make you not care about what others say nomatter what.ok look...dont show them that your mad or they will go on and on,just tell them...is that all you can find to say about me?!firecrotch...um ok its getting old you know,your only making fun of me to feel better about yourself because you know something in you is missing.dont show them your mad or theyll make it worse for you.you really need to be more confident because if you are NOONE can ever make you feel bad about urself...you no im a lil chubby myself and when i get made fun of i go...ok ok and i look in the mirror and go...tss pulease!!!haha anywayz good luck!
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Well i heard that tampons cause something, i 4got but anyways...any help? (link)
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Yes they do.You shouldnt wear them that often cuz you can get toxic shock syndrome which is a disease you get from tampons...its dangerous,dont put in tampons unless your going swiming or something like that cuz imagine...having all that blood trapped in for hours and hours....and that blood is suppoesd to come out!If your getting any sickness from it then completly stop using it and see a doctor.DONT EVER SLEEP WITH IT IN YOU!!
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Me and my BFF are like reaaaaaaly close. But then last year this this bratty punk had her friend moving to Oregon (or someplace) and she had no one to hang-out with. So she started bugging MY friend. She alwayz butts in on our plans and its sooo annoying. me and her barely talk. my friend knows this but she doesnt do anything! Help! (link)
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well...does your freind like her??if she does then you shouldnt try to break them apart.You should instead try to make this girl regret coming to your group!Hang with your best freind more and when she comes in to annoy you ...you say excuse me i need to talk to my freind about something personal and just walk away...hehehe evil huh!if your freind dont like her then try to ditch her off and make her feel unwanted by like....your talking right...when she comes just STOP talking,shell feel unwanted and will leave without being asked.
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my bf is sweet funny except i like 3 other guys and there his friends and ive done stuff with them before if you know what i mean by "stuff" what should i do (link)
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omg....you shouldnt have done that.If he find out hell be totally broken.Anyways if u dont wanna lose him,dont tell him now and just swear to yourself never to do this stuff again!!If you wanna break up with him then tell him what you did.Next time you should be loyal to your guys cuz trust me what goes around comes around and that can happen to you one day.
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theres this girl in my art class at my middle school (13/f seventh grade) and shes my sister's good friend's younger sister. what a coincidence we're in the same class, right? anyway, shes pretty outgoing, and is really nice. like a couple times shes passed by my table and like said hi and stuff, commented on my picture, and said that her sister was friends with mine (noo duh, lol). i wanna be her friend, so what should i do? i usually get shy around outgoing people like that, unless i've known them for a while. (link)
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You can try to hang around her when your sister does and get in the convo,if you cant do that then just walk up and talk to her normally and then after u talk to her more and more,youll become better freinds.The key with an outgoing person is to be outgoing yourself.You can even try walking up to her and ask if you can be her freind!You just need to talk to her more and eventually as time passes,youll get to become closer freinds.Shes not gonna say"ew get away from me"if u ask to be her freind,take it as a dare man!
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What is up with these 13 yr olds and getting pregnant/asking for advice about fingering and sexual things like that. wtf is our world coming too.When I was 13 I was still playing coodies with the guys next door or riding my bike around the neighborhood. Gahsh by the time I turn 30, 5 yr olds will be worried about sex. WTH (link)
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YOUR ROCK!im totally with you on that.akh...desperate kids
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PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!! I REALLY NEED SOME ADVICE!!!!!!!!!!
I am so sorry but this might take me ages to expalin...PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!!
hi, i really need some advice....
it's just when I was in primary school I fell in love with a boy called Ian............
It's just wnen I met Ian in primary school i grew more and more fond of him until i knew I was in love with him. However I wasn't sure whether he actually LOVED me or not altough there were times when I felt like he did.
It's just that in his final year of primary (he was a year younger than me you see) whilst I was at high school. My sister was then at his school and she told me that he said to someone 'I'm not going to some rubbish school like 'name of school' Community High school'. Now if he'd have LOVED me would't he have been more upset about not going to my school?? I am just VERY confused.
Also I found out from a source (it would take me too long to expalain how I found this out) that he had said to his friends (after I had sent him countless Valentine's cards) that Ian had said (about me)in a not particularly nice voice by the way she said it(that's if she was telling the truth) 'there's this girl who REALLY fancies me'. But then I also found out that he had apparantly turned down an invitation to go out with another girl because he had said he liked. (also i heard he had gone around saying that i was really clever!!!!...by the way this is one coment which makes me think that he wouldn't fancy me when he knows about me getting no GCSEs) But if he'd have LOVED me would he have said something like 'there's this girl that REALLY fancies me' and ''I'm not going to some rubbish school.........'??? which i didn't think were very nice things to say.
I can't tell...and would appreciate an outside opinion. Do you think he LOVED me (like I loved him) or do you think he just fancied me. is the only way to have found out/find out to have asked/to ask him. It's just I really would appreciate your opinion on this (I just need an honest answer no matter what that may be) Do you think he LOVED me or not...or only fancied me???If he loved me then why would he have chosen to go to the private school rather than my school??Or would the only way to tell be to ask him. (which I can't possibly do) It's just I loved him. can you offer me any advice on this...as I really cannot sort my head out...and cannot work it out.
Just for reference this below is simply a record of the whole situation I have included it because without it you might not understand the above question.
My Problem is this:
When I was in primary school I fell in love with someone called Ian.
But then when it came too high school, he got sent to a private all boy's school far away and I got sent to the local comprehensive.
I thought I'd NEVER see him EVER again and despaired.
Around about the same time my Grandmother of whom I was VERY close to died. She practically raised me.My mother never seemed to bother with me. However I never noticed this neglect (by my mother)until my Grandma died.
I noticed that I was very unsupported by my mother and in general uncared for. Sometimes she was also emotionally abusive towards me--sometimes she could be so nasty she'd make me cry.
Because of all these things(the death of my Grandma, the loss of Ian and also the uncaring attituse at home) I began to feel very depressed.
Then I made a TERRIBLE mistake:
Somedays I felt so low I found it almost impossible to think about the future and sometimes couldn't find the will-power to get up in the mornings.I started to refuse to go to school asn I felt so low. I'd been bullied VERY VERY badly at the primary school i went to (before I moved to the one Ian was at)which also made me quite nervous of people and scared of school too.However I recieved no help, no counselling or anything(do you think this was neglect?)
I refused to go to High school on-and-off for the first three years by which time I was REALLY REALLY very behind in my work.I then refused to go to school altoghether as I couldn't cope any more with my life. I was SEVERELY depressed and wasn't thinking logically. I ended up having 5 measly hours of home tuition per week, for the next two years which should have been spent in school. Unsurprisingly I then failed all my GCSEs (apart from one, where I got a 'C' in English)I felt so depressed. I then have stayed at home doing nothing for the past two years as I have felt too embarrassed to face the world.
However this is my problem:
I now want??/need to go to college. However I have just found out thet the college I wanted to attend is right next door to the top educational sixth form which Ian goes to. If I go there then I will definantely bump into him…but the thing is he will NEVER EVER be interested in me now (even if he used to be when I was ok).how on earth canI explain to him WHY I refused to go to school? He’s going to think I am a bad person .
But the thing is he's studyiwng 'A' levels at a top sixth form college. And I .....will probably have to go on an Entry level course and learn really basic stuff like how to cook, use public transport etc(basically for absolute dim-wits)
He'll NEVER EVER be interested in me now. He's in a different league to me. He's so clever.but this is killing me. I wish I could be with him more than anything in the world but as soon as he finds out that's it....my dream...dead......finished
Also even if I go to a different college, it's inevitable that i'll bump into him whilst out and about anyway.(I just can’t believe that I DIDN’T THINK ABOUT THIS years ago….i just wasn’t thinking properly) But If I ignore him then he'll think I'm not interested i him, when I am. But if I talk to him he'll not like me anyway when he finds out what I've done. He'll think I;m a terrible person.
The thing is (and I really need your help on this) HOW ON EARTH DO I EXPLAIN TO HIM ABOUT HOW I REFUSED TO GO TO SCHOOL--AND WORST OF ALL WHY? HE'LL NOT THINK VERY WELL OF ME ONCE I'VE TOLD HIM. I'M not going to lie. I need him to know the truth.my other problem is that when I refused to go to school--s did my sister(only she didn't have a valid reason) she simply wouldn't go just because I was off school and didn't see why she should go either.HOW ON EARTG CAN I EXPLAIN TO HIM HOW MY SISTER IS NOW IN THE SAME SITUATION I'M IN?HE'LL THINK MY FAMILY ARE AWFUL. I AM 18 YEARS old now btw...and am getting severely worried about my future
THIS IS THE END OF EXPLAINING THE WHOLE SITUATION
. i JUST NEEDED TO FIND OUT THE ANSWER TO THE QUESTION :
Do you think Ian ever loved me or just fancied me??? PLEASE HELP ME !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!PLEASE COULD YOU REPLY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I AM REALLY NOT UNDERSTANDING HIM!!!! can you offer me any advice?? Did he love me?? Do boys love girls in a different sort of way to what girls love boys?? Or did he simply not love me?? His comments are confusing.PLEASE HELP!!!!! Did he love me.......or not...? This is really important to me. PLEASE be honest!!!!!!!
I also have another question: it's just I have thought about asking Ian if he would consider going out with me when he comes back from University.(by which time I might have been able to catch up a bit in college and might not be so dim) What do you think about this idea?
Also I really need to ask you: What could/should i have done when I first started high school and got seperated from/lost ian? How could I have held on to him? please be honest. what things could I have tried to hold on to him? :
PLEASE HELP ME ON THIS AS IT IS REALLY IMPORTANT TO ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
by the way i live in England. I am so so sorry this writing is so long by the way :( but please could you help
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Hi,well what i got is that when you where in high school you loved this guy and didnt really know if he loved you and when your grandma died,your stayed back from school and didnt go for...2 years or3??Then now you want to go to college but scared of bumping into him.Ok well if i understood correct,you really need to let go of the past in order to have a future.What happened to you(dropping out of school)was a lesson that education is the most important thing ever and its a lesson youll never forget.You made that mistake years ago,dont make the same mistake again.Fear of tomorrow will not decrease it of its sorrow but will decrease today of its strenghts.You need to smile and be brave and take on a brand new start,because your future will be as good as you make it.If you sit crying bout the past your future aint getting any better.As for that guy that you loved,i think he mean the the girl fancies me as a bragging way and didnt love you at all.If he did he woulda asked you to be his girlfreind.But he didnt.I see no reason for you to be afraid of going to that college.THis is your education and life were talking about and you cant let this guy bumping into you stop you from building a future.If youre going to talk to him tell him the truth but honestly,this guy is from the past and i think you should totally forget about him.You have to be smart so everyone can see that your successfull.Dont let a guy bring you down cuz when he brings you down from your education he wont be able to bring you back up.
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okay this is going to be long but plz i need the help! okay throughout my whole life i have never known my dad because he has been in jail for like ever! he was in jail because he abused my mom and almost killed her. but i really wanna know him...he is out of jail right now and is not allowed to come around me...but recently my dad seen my aunt and told my aunt to tell me he loved me but im not suppose to know this......i only know because i overheard my aunt on the phone with my mom and my mom doesnt want her to tell me and my mom doesnt want me around my dad. 4 years ago...he was out of jail i think and as i was walking home from school my aunt from my dad's side was in a car parked on the street waiting for me to walk by and as i did she started asking me questions like if i remember my dad and stuff. so like my dad or that aunt on my dads side would have had to been like watching me and to know if i still lived there and to know what time i got out from school. then like a year after that happened we had a court date which i went to and my dad never showed up for the court date so my mom has custody of me. now like a couple of months ago i was with my mom in the store and my mom saw my dad in there and told me that was my dad....my dad saw me and my mom but he like turned around and walked the other way as if he didnt want to see me or he was just shocked or scared that i would hate him.....my mom almost went crazy in that store when she saw him she started cussing and everyhting lol. but my question is now does it seem like he wants to see me....and is it wrong for me to want to know him even though he almost killed my mom.....whenever he was in jail he would always send me stuff but my mom never gave me them things...she would throw them away...except she did let me keep this little purse with my name on it....please help me i am so confeused about all of this....it's really hard not having a dad. but is it wrong for me to want to know him and does it seem like he wants to see me? thank you so much (link)
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Your dad probably turned away because he knew that your mom might cause him a scandal if he tried to come close to you and say hi and he didnt want you to think that he was the one who started the problem at the store because your mom was already cursing at him when he didnt even walk over to you.Your dad mabey didnt want to look like a bad parent infront of you.But did you find out why your dad tried to kill your mom?Im sure he wouldnt get himself in jail for no reason,mabey it was your mom that did something to bother him.Find out the complete truth from your mom so you can decide whos right and who isnt.Its not wrong that you want to get to know your father but if the reason that he tried to kill your mom was just because he was angry at her for some small reason,then mabey you shouldnt meet him.You need to have a long talk with your mom about this though because youre old enough to understand and know the truth.Good luck.
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ok im 13/f and i really want to have sex and like its like i really need it. its weird cause i like get these erges to do it. is this normal for a 13 year old? (link)
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Hi.Ok listen to what im about to say here.Youre 13 and you have a lot of years ahead of you and think about it,if you have sex now,will it be that pleasing when youre married later on?Ok ask yourself this,if you have sex when your thirteen now,how many times will you have done it by the time you are married?Because once you start doing this,you wont be able to stop,it will become an addiction and by the time you are married you will have had a bad reputation,Std's and you might even get pregnant!What if you get pregnant with your boyfreind and he breaks up with you and leaves YOU alone with the child with noone to support it financially?Who ever does it at this age usually end up regreting it badly.To be a child with a child is not good because you both need mothers and you wont be able to be one because your still a child.Masturbate if you want.Its better than having sex and getting stds.Even protection isnt that safe,condoms break alot and the girl ends up pregnant.Think about what youre about to do twice and think mostly about the consenquences.For every action there is an equal reaction but the reaction in this case might be too big for you to take so take care.If you need more help,feel free to contact me,i would love to help. :D
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ok well i have acne. lots of it, i mean its like almost every wear on my body my back my face my chest even my butt. how do i get rid of it?
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For your face,try NOT wearing makeup and go to a beauty center and get face peeling,it doesnt hurt and will make your face a lot better and acne free than it is now.As for your body i think you should see a gynecologist.Mabey its because you dont scrub yourself good enough when you shower.
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I used to work at Walmart, until yesterday when I got fired for stealing $50 out of the cash register, to buy a present for my boyfriend for his birthday.
I loved my job more then anything, like it didn't even feel like a job, just because I had so many friends there, and going there was actually fun. I have to pay them back the money & stuff, so I'm not worried about anything happening, because we've already discussed it.
But it's really hard to get over. My parents are so disapointed in me, because my mom told me when I started the job, "Never to steal, you'll ALWAYS get caught." Obviously I didn't listen to her advice, but I just don't know what to say to them anymore, I know it's going to take time. But what can I do to gain their trust back? I get good grades in school, I'm always doing good things for other people, this just happened to be something bad that occured and I got caught.
Please help, I'd really appreciate it.
16/female.
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Tell your parents that everyone makes mistakes and admit that what you did was wrong and promise to never do it again,and beilive me,even your boyfreind wasnt worth you losing your job.Just return them the money and get back to walmart and never think about stealing again.Your parents will trust you again when you tell them this.
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You know what they all say "When you give a guy all he wants, he gets bored quickly." What are some examples of that phrase? like what are you not supposed to give all he wants? I've been dying to know what they exactly mean by that.
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Guys like everything about girls,their body exposed,girls calling them,making out,screwing them,chasing them,telling them to call.If a girl gives a guy EVERYTHING all at once hell just think shes a hoe and will get bored easily.If you like dress half naked to impress them and do all that.To make guys NOt get bored of you,you gotta keep them guessing HOW your body looks but not exposing it and by not calling a lot and by not chasing him and refusing sex multiple times,that will leave him wanting more.Im not saying dont give it to him but just give it to him one by one.
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ok.. i have an 8 year old sister & she is very developed 4 her age. if u know wht i mean.. and she has a boyfriend who is 14.. which is not so unusual cuz she always dates older guys.. well.. my parents dont know about this boyfriend of hers.. so it is even worse.. she makes out with him all the time.. adn i dont have a problem with that.. but last week she decided to have sex.. and now shes preganat! what do i do??? (link)
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WHAAAAAAAAAAAT?!?!?!?Pregnant when shes EIGHT!?!ooooh if it was MY sister i woulda....haha.Shes 8 and pregnant and your ASKING if you should tell your parents?!?!?!WOW!Ofcourse you should tell your parents?Tell your sis to live her age and go play with barbies and pokemon because when we were 8 we knew about nothing but cartoons and candy.Are you actually not mad at her?Go tell your parents EVERYTHING and infront of her face,shes gotta start living her age.If you keep this from your parents,its going to ruin your sisters life because shes gonna give birth when she isnt even close to being a pre teen.She can be all jumping on the trampoline and it ends up with her having a misscarriage.And please,take more care of your sister because God will judge you guys about her,you should have told her whats right and wrong.Go to the police and tell them that this guy raped your sister!!!It IS considered rape when its with a 8 year old!Omg....You shoulda stopped your sister in the first place when you found out that she had a boyfreind six years older than her when shes only a baby.Tell me what you do after,good luck.Wait and what do you mean all the guys shes ever dated were older,shes dated before and you let it pass???What kinda sister are you?!?!
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when i was 12 i noticed the hair on my arm was growing and there was more of it, so i figured i could get rid of it the same way i get rid of my leg hair, by shaving it. Well I did and I regret it now because the hair keeps growing back darker and thicker and I have to keep shaving them since its so dark. Is there anything I can do to stop the hairs from growing in as dark and thick as they are? Or am I screwed for life? (link)
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Using a razor or shaving cream will make it like that.If you wax it,by time it will stop growing thick and youll get the best results.
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Flight 5191 should not have crashed in Kentucky today. Where was God? And does he not love them? (link)
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You know,there could have been just ONE person on that plane that has been doing wrong and bad things for his whole lifetime that have upset God.In my religion,there was this story that prophet moses was talking to God and telling him to please bring down water because the animals were dying and people were dying of thirst and God replied sayin that out of moses's 70,000 people there was that has been doing wrong things to bother God his whole life and knew what he did was wrong and never cared and its his fault the people get no water and that if he leaft,God will bring down water,Prohet moses told his people this,the guy who did wrong his whole life knew it was him and started crying and asking God for forgivness and then it started raining.Moses told God,i thought you said this man had to leave?Tell me who he is?God said to him,if i didnt scandalize this man when he was bad why would i when he is now good.So you never know mabey there were people that did wrong things throughout their lives on that plane,mabey it crashed for the good,mabey there was one person that was traveling to hurt others so you never really know.God loves us all,and does what is right.
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ok so i have a lot of discharge, and i have not had my period yet.well the discharge is ruining all my underwear. i live with my dad cause my mom passed away.if u tell me to get pads or something like that, tell me how to deal with telling my dad or how to get them.
thx a ton!
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You dont have to tell your dad that your getting pads if you dont want to because your too shy.Just ask him for some money to go shopping and buy pads.If he finds them in your room THEN you can tell him.
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