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Is he controlling?
I don't know if my boyfriend is controlling. He wants to know where I am and who I'm with at all times. He says he loves me all the time and he wants to get married when I turn 18. I'm just about to turn 17. He wants all my time and he calls me a million times a day and expects me to spend all my free time with him. I don't think hes controlling, but I'm not sure. I love him though. How can I tell?? Is there any certain way?? Please help me figure this out.
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yes i would say hes controling but if your okay with it and comfortable tthen it's not a big deal as long as he doesnt get abusive or dangerous or threaten you. if you can live with the way you described him then its alright.everyones diffrent. if not then you should start laying down your own laws or talk to him about it.
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i don't think he's controlling.
i think he just cares about you and doesnt want you to cheat on him. he might just be paranoid. and he proably just wants to spend some time with you <3
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controlling would be telling you that you can't go somewhere. or hang out with someone etc. he's not controlling. :) he just wants to make sure you are safe
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omg this is a great thing!You shouldnt let something like this bother you in any way,this just means that he loves you to death and cant get enough of you.He wants to know who your with and where your at cuz hes worried about you.Its great that you have a guy like this,take care of him and dont let your relationship be ruined in any way.
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Hi, My nickname is Wrigly. I know or I think I know exactly what to do! First, tell him you love him so much but we can't be together every second of my free time. I'm not breaking up with you or anything, but I just thought you needed to know. And IF he gets mad at you just scream I HATE YOU AND YOU ARE A FREAK! Then just run to one of your good friends and tell them everything.
P.S. Don't worry!
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I wouldn't really say he is controlling but I would say he is clingy. Only because it shows that he really cares about you, worries about you, and wants to be with you all the time because he misses you. You should be straight-foward with him. Tell him that you need a little space and for him not to be so clingy. Be honest with him.
♥
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He isn't really controlling just obsessively shadowing. If he was controlling he would tell you things like he wouldn't want you hanging out with your guy friends, or that you shouldn't wear kinda skimpy clothes, or that he didn't want you doing certain things. He's just really really in love, maybe to a point of slight stalker, but not even that bad. But just tell him to tone it down a bit, not in a bitchy way like "Just give my space!" said in a really loud stern tone. But not jokingly either, just mildly say a remark about it.
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I wouldn't say he's controlling, it sounds more like he just cares about you a lot.
I'm almost the same way with my boyfriend, just not that bad.
Controlling would be more of him telling you what you can and can't do.
Just tell him you want a little more space than he's giving you, he should understand that. :)
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yea i think he is a lil bit controlling just say u need more space
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I'd say he's definitely getting into your personal bubble! Tell him you need a little more space-not in a mean way, but just tell him you need time for your family, friends, etc. This should solve the problem.
Hope I helped!
-Jam
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I know how you feel. My boyfriend is exactly the same way. At times I get annoyed and tell him to back off.
No hunn, he's not being controlling. He's just worried, caring, overly protective, and crazily in love with you. Sometimes we look at their flaws and forget to put ourselves in their positions. He's just selfish. He wants you all to himself. You can try to talk to him about how you feel. Let him know you love those things that he do. But tell him that he's over done it. Inform him that girls want time to themselves sometimes. They want to have fun with their girlfriends. That doesn't mean you don't love him. You just want to be freely do what you want to do. He should spend time with his friends too. Spending too much time together might be bad. It will drives you two away because you two still young and there are many new ppl out there. So spend enough time but not too much is good.
About marriage, tell him that you're only 17. You haven't think about marriage yet. You just want to enjoy your teen years. So marriage will comes later, just it happens naturally.
good luck. hope I helped. =].
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He's not controlling, maybe Obbsessed, but not controlling. He wants to know who your with and where you are so he knows your not with like other guys, cause he is jealous your not with him. He likes you A LOT. HOPE I HELPED!
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hey, yes he is controlling. you need time for your family and friends too. not just him. if your bothered but this then you need to have a talk with him. tell him that you love him a lot, but you need time for other people too.
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You can tell by his behavior and yes he is.
You need to spend time with your friends too. Not just him alone. What would he do if you didn't tell him where you were every waking moment? Would he get violent with you?
Honestly, people who behave as he does usually abuse their wives and girlfriends. I know you love him, but before you decide to keep him forever, try rebelling a little and see how he behaves. If he gets violent in any way at all or verbally abusive on the phone, please show him the door. You can do better.
I have a feeling someone has already told you this, or your instincts are making you wonder. Follow your instincts. :)
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