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Hey everyone!My name is Brina,I've been on this site for a few years, after not being on for a while, I figured I'd start up again, having more knowledge then before! I'm 19 years old and am going to be a sophomore in college this coming fall! Please feel free to ask me anything!


I'VE BEEN VERY BUSY WITH SCHOOL SO MY APOLOGIES IF I DON'T GET TO YOUR QUESTIONS RIGHT AWAY!

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I like this guy... and he likes me. yeah. makes sense. were like... together- but I just like.. LIKE LIKE him, but he's obsessed with me. He likes me more than i like him. is that bad? or.. well. he kinda just wants to get more involved right now more than i do. like... well. im just fine being simply 'together'. he wants to get into all of the LOVE life kind of deal. how do i deal with it?

He's probably just happy that he found a girl like you. But, sit him down, and let him know that you like him, but you want to take the relationship a wee bit slower. Good Luck.

-Brina

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Ok i had invited 6 of my guy friends over and we were just hanging out in my room. We got sort of bored so we decided to play truth or dare (haha i know). The dares were pretty embarrassing. Everyone had done their dare, so when it was my turn i was in no position to turn mine down. They dared me to make out with my friend Derek until the song they picked out ended. Of course the song they picked was like 4 minutes long. It was odd kissing someone of the same sex, but i kind of liked it. After about a minute we got sort of into it and he started to take of my shirt and kissing my neck. The other guys were laughing so hard. So it was finally over and around 12:00 the guys headed back home. But Derek stayed a little longer. I really wanted to kiss him again so i went for it and, it went a lot farther than i expected...
So the next day he snuck out at like 5 in the morning before my parents were awake and i went back to sleep. I woke up around 8 to head to school and as i was eating breakfast my mom pointed out the hickey i had on my neck. She was like who gave you that, because you didn't have it yesterday and i was like i have to go. So i drove to school totally embarrassed. Just my luck at lunch my gf noticed the hickey and got really pissed and asked me who did it and i didn't know what to say. So now my gf won't talk to me and my mom wants to know what happened. I am also very confused how i feel. I wasn't really attarcted to my gf, but i really did enjoy being with Derek, so does that make me gay? And Derek called and asked if i wanted to go out with him but i don't know if i should. Should i tell my mom and my gf the truth?
Thank you, sorry it was long

Hmm. You could possibly be gay or bisexual. I suggest first talk to your mom about what happened. Ask her what she thinks about this too, to get a moms point of view. If you feel, that you should tell your girlfriend the truth then go for it, unless you want to keep this a secret, are you sure you could trust her with what happened? If you think you have a connection with Derek, and are ready to go out with a guy, then go for it. Good Luck. Hope I helped.

-Brina

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Im a 15/f, 16 in april.
okay for some reason i think its really odd to date a guy whos like 17. but then id love to date a guys whos turning 15. i know usually everyone wants to date guys who are older and taller then them but i mean i think its kinda gross well not gorss but just weird if i would date a guy whos like 2 years older then me or 2 years younger. is there something wrong with my brain or is that just my personality towards guys i like?

Theres nothing wrong with your brain lol. Its absolutely fine to like younger guys. As long as there not 10 years younger then you...that would just be gross since your 15 lol. But, dont worry about it, most girls like younger guys personalities. Hope I helped!

-Brina

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this sounds really really silly..but i hate my boobs. they are huge, and it makes me feel out of shape. they`ve always bothered me, but just recently they`ve seemed a lot bigger than normal. does anybody know if theres an way to "decrease" the size of them? like does exercise work? or what you eat or w/e?

Nope, theres no way to decrease the size of them without getting breast augmentation, which is a surgery and they reduce the size of your breasts. But, I dont think that's a good choice. Try not to wear padded bras, because that will make youre breasts look larger. Don't hate your boobs, love them! Because, your going to have them for your wholeeee life. Good Luck. Hope I helped!

-Brina

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What are some fun things to do when you are bored and can't sleep? Sites would help.
I've already been to bored.com and have done EVERY activity.

Thank you!

Hmm, make a comic book. Go to www.addictinggames.com
www.habbo.com
you can make a column and answer some questions. Clean something. Write a story. Take a sleeping pill....not enough to OD though. Say your favorite color in your head while trying to go to sleep. Listen to music etc. Use your imagination!

-Brina

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I met a guy on an online dating site. After just a couple of days he told me he wanted to meet me. The kicker was that he said he didn't have a car, and that I would have to drive up to see him. Remember, I've never met him, and really don't know that much about him except what he wrote about himself. At first I said yes that I would drive up after work on Saturday, but then my gut feeling and intuition were telling me not to do it. So I emailed him and cancelled the date and told him I wasnt comfortable with the arrangement, and that I would prefer he come up to see me. He wrote back and told me that the reason he didnt have a car was that he was taking public transit to save money, and that he wouldnt have a car until May. Then he said he asked to meet me too soon, and would still like to meet me. My gut feeling is telling me that this guy is a little desperate, and I want to back out of the whole thing.
I don't want to hurt his feelings. What would be a nice way to end things with him, and do you think he'll get angry? I told him at first that I wouldnt mind still sending him some getting to know you emails, but I don't even want to do that anymore. I'm thinking realistically, how is this potential relationship going to work? The guy doesnt even live in the same town as me and deosnt have a car.
Would I be a super bitch if I told him I didn't think this would be a good idea?

No, youre just being honest.If you dont feel comfortable talking and emailing with this guy, then you dont have to. Also, are you sure its safe to actually meet him in person? He could be a murderer or something. How old are you? And how old is this guy? He's most likely desperate to meet you, because A, hes either desperate to have a relationship, or B, he's getting ready to kill you. No offense. lol. But, deffinitly tell him how you feel even if it hurts his feelings. If you arent comfortable doing something, then no one can stop you from saying how you feel. Good Luck hun, hope everything wokrs out.

-Brina

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Hey, so I was just wondering what "Find your Eleanor" means? who's Eleanor?
Thanx.

Hmm...I think it means, since Eleanor Roosevelt was a fantastic woman, that that means for guys to find someone like her...someone that is kind and helpful, maybe thats what guys like in a girl, how eleanor roosevelt was. Hope I helped.

-Brina

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Is there a code for myspace to make the comments part a certain size?
Because some comments are scretching my page ^^;

No, its just probably because they're sending you long messages that make it stretch out or the pictures that make it do that. Hope I helped!

-Brina

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hey!! ok, i really need help. I like this guy. ALOT. and my friends said that he probably likes me because he stares at me sometimes and gives weird signs that he likes me. The Problem: I have never talked to him. He is VERY shy so he won't talk to me, but i'm shy also. I want to talk to him but i dont want to be ackward and i want to maybe even become friends with him. I just want to get to know him, and become closer to him but i dont want him to think im weird. please help me, what can i do?
thanks ♥

Hmm, next time you see him in the hallway or something just say hey. Do you have any classes with him? Pass him a note or something saying you like his shoes or something. Just, little things to get conversations started. Or, if you see him anytime that you can talk to him instead of passing notes. Don't be afraid to talk to him, its always alright to make new friends.
Good Luck! Hope I helped!
-Brina

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Hey does anyone know if bambi is a girl or a boy?
Just wondering, it has to do with a school thing.

yea, bambi is a boy. lol.

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ok...so me and this guy lets call him "bob" were going out, and i broke it off..but i stil liked him.. so anyway we started talking and we immediatley started flirting, and welll i just didnt want a boyfriend. so we would just sit there and talk about stuff, and then one day, me and my friend lets call her "sally".me and my friend sally want to play a prank on him. so we do, and he gets mad at sally..but doesnt get mad at me.. (hes dated sally before) and then the next day, me and bob talk it out and he asks why i dont want a boyfriend and i tel him cause im scared someone will hurt me...but i mean i really love bob.so i decided ok i'll go out with him.. he said he loved me and i believed him and i loved him...so he asked me out and i said yes,,and then everythign was going really great, but we didnt see each other that often cuz we went to different schools..and then he sent me an email saying that he just wanted to be friends,..and i was bummed out..like literally cause he promised he wouldnt hurt me..and then not even a week later hes going out with sally...and i love bob, i really do, but he doesnt know it...so how can i make him see that sally will never love him as much as i will, and that i will do anything for him..and that i want him back


by the way im 13/f... and ill rate huge. plz help.

At this age, guys can be lame. Your 13 you have plenty of years to find that fish in the sea. Evidently "bob" wasnt your little fishie. About that sally thing, thats just messed up. Maybe he broke up with you, for sally? Don't go back out with him, he's not worth it even if you do love him. Good Luck

-Brina

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okay..well i just totally lied to my parents and i feel horrible..i seriously want to cry and this is going to ruin my night! they have done so much for me i cant beleive i did this..

first off i lied to them last weekend about something i was doing and then toda (a week later) they get suspicious and start asking me questions and they ask if im lying and i say no. i still think they are suspicious but i feel horrible!!

DONT SUGGEST.. "just tell them the truth" because seriously..im not gonna do that..i cant..but i promised myself im not gonna lie to them again..i will tell them the truth because i feel horrible. please dont call me a cunning lying bitch and blah blah and if i lied once i'll keep doing it more and more..well you dont know me if your gonna say it dont bother answering.

i just dont know what to do!
im lost and upset..
i will rate high for anyone who answers!
THANKS ALOT!

Of course your upset, you lied to your parents and you have a guilty conscience. Was it something incredibly bad that you did? You say you dont want people to tell you to just tell them the truth, but telling your parents the truth can help things. Did you have sex or something? You wont keep on lying more and more because you learned that from lying this time and how awful it made you feel. Just relax, maybe the time will come when you do feel you should tell them the truth about whatever you did. Good Luck hun.

-Brina

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all of the sudden im getting b's&c's on like almost every time i used to get A's all the time. I dont know if it's band or my rock band or if it my sports? please help

Try focusing more on school than on other activities. Stay after a lot with your teachers to review. I wasnt doing to great in school earlier, but I brought my grades up by studying more and getting afterschool help. You might think its a waste of time but it'll help a lot. Good Luck. Hope I helped!


-Brina

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Hey,

I know everyone hates relationship questions, but this one... well I'm basicially dying for advice.

My friend Jackie asked my crush if him and i could ever be more than just friends and he said could be. I am seriously considering telling him how I feel on Valentines Day and then maybe giving him a peck on the lips. Is this a bad idea? I've liked him for a long time and I feel like I really need to tell him in person. So does anyone have any suggestions for me?

If you answer, thank you SO much, you have no idea how grateful I am for your feedback.

-Jacki

I would say go for it. This situation is quite simple, since you arent good friends i'm assuming, then if you kiss him, it wouldnt ruin your friendship. Even if you two are good friends, that doesnt matter, he might feel the same exact way. Go ahead and tell him in person, telling someone you like them like online or something is semi lame. My suggestion is to just go up to him and just tell him you like him and then if you want to kiss him like you said. Good Luck! I'm sure it'll work out.


-Brina

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I have this friend thats a boy, and I don't know if I should get him something for Valentines Day gift. We aren't going out or anything, but we are "very" close. I doubt he'll get me anything, but I want to get him something. I need your advice if I should get him a gift, or shouldn't I? If so, what do you think I should give? Thanks a lot!

-confused

Sure you can give him a gift! I suggest just get a hime a bag of candy. And make him a card that says, "To my bestest buddy Happy V-day"


that way, it doesnt seem moooshey so that he doesnt think you like him. Hope I helped!

-Brina

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aight look this dude was rubbin the head of his di*k on my pu**y because i told him he couldn't stick it in and PLUS he aint even have a condom and then he stuck it in and i pushed him back and moved so my 2 questions are....

1) is that called havin sex with him ?

2) could i be pregnant if thats all he did

now i really need to know this because it went farther then i wanted it to so if u could plz lemme kno wat chu think i would appreciate it!!!

Why the hell would you not use a condom? And how old are you? Yes, i think it would be called sex. And you could be pregnant. You need to go get checked to see if your pregnant. Why wouldnt you tell him to use a condom? Your talking about this guy like you dont even know him well, is he your boyfriend or what? And how old are you? Sorry if i sounded mean.

-Brina

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For valentines day, i want to attach lyrics to a love song on the card i'm giving to my boyfriend. I dont kow what song to use though. Does anyone know any cute songs that has a meaning of loving some one more than anything? Thanks so much

yea i know an awesome song that totally would work. Its by Gavin DeGraw its called We Belong Together...i can copy the lyrics for you.
"We Belong Together"

We belong together
like the open seas and shores
wedded by the planet force
we've all been spoken for

[VERSE 1:]
The hammer may strike, be dead on the ground.
a net to my hand, a cross on his crown.
we're done if, who we're undone,
finished if who we are incomplete.
as one we are everything,
we are everything we need.

[CHORUS:]
we belong together
like the open seas and shores
wedded by the planet force
we've all been spoken for

[VERSE 2:]
What good is a life, with no one to share,
the light of the moon, the honor of a swear.
we can try to live the way in which you speak,
taste the milk of your mother earth's love,
spread the word of consciencness you see,
we are everything we need

[CHORUS]
We belong together
like the open seas and shores
wedded by the planet force
we've all been spoken for

All this indecision
all this independent strength
still
we've got our hearts on safe
we've got our hearts on safe

someday when you're lonley,
sometime after all this bliss,
somewhere lost in emptiness,
I hope you find this gift...
I hope you find this gift..
I hope you find this gift.





Hope I helped!


-Brina

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so valentines day is kinda a big deal at my school theres even a big website with a list of all the valentines people have.but anyway i help run the website and my friends who i run it with me want to know who i asked to be my valentine and i like 2 guys. ones totaly sweet and funny and lets me wear his sweatshirt all the time and i see him all the time and the other is funny sweet and hot but i only see him once in awhile anyway which would you ask and HOW would you ask them thanks

YOu really cant ask someone who they would pick, because we dont know anything about them. One's sweeet and the others one is hot, that doesnt give us any clue of there personality or anything. I say pick the one you want to. Pick which one you might be able to have a relationship with later. I would just go up to the person adn be like, hey do you want to be my valentine. The guy with the sweatshirt probably likes you a lot, so ask him if you want, but the other one you only talk to once in a while....whywould you want to go out with him? Good luck, hope i helped :)

-Brina

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I live in pittsburgh pa and my girlfriend lives in yorktown va. i am going to ship her her valentines day gift through the mail. any ideas? thank you.

Well, since chocolates most likely will melt, i suggest send her a giant teddy bear, like, extremely gigantic. Get a big box for it, wrap it in a ton of cute valentine paper. Make her a big card to go with the bear. Any chick would love that. Hope I helped!

-Brina

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How can I get over a breakup? D:
It's been about three weeks and I'm still sad.

I'm friends with the person now because I really care about them... but then there's the constant reminders that person doesn't like me in the way I want anymore. And that they seem very happy that I'm not around.

What should I do?

I've tried distracting myself.. like drawing and playing games but it doesn't work very well.

I've also tried to not sign on AIM and stop talking to them for a while, but I always end up signing on later..

My friend is going through the same exact thing. Hopefully your not my friend, because I told my friend a thousand times the same thing. Just understand, that that person will always be that special someone in your heart, until you find someone new, which you will, there are plenty of fish in the sea. You shouldnt let the brake up become your life. You need to chill out, and do stuff that you like to do. It'll take over your brain, and then you will be all sad, and i'm sure your friends wouldnt want to see you sad, they'll start feeling bad for you and everything. The person probably still feels like you do, but not to the extent to how you feel about it. Good Luck...Hope I helped..

-Brina

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