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okay..well i just totally lied to my parents and i feel horrible..i seriously want to cry and this is going to ruin my night! they have done so much for me i cant beleive i did this..
first off i lied to them last weekend about something i was doing and then toda (a week later) they get suspicious and start asking me questions and they ask if im lying and i say no. i still think they are suspicious but i feel horrible!!
DONT SUGGEST.. "just tell them the truth" because seriously..im not gonna do that..i cant..but i promised myself im not gonna lie to them again..i will tell them the truth because i feel horrible. please dont call me a cunning lying bitch and blah blah and if i lied once i'll keep doing it more and more..well you dont know me if your gonna say it dont bother answering.
i just dont know what to do!
im lost and upset..
i will rate high for anyone who answers!
THANKS ALOT!
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Part of why we feel bad when we lie to people we care about is because we fear losing their trust.
And rightly so. I mean: if you found out a friend of yours lied to you, you'd still care about her and want to be her friend (depending on what she lied to you about, I suppose), but you'd probably find yourself hesitating to believe her again when similar situations came up. She'd have to do something to regain your trust. And depending on the nature and size of the lie, she might have to do a LOT to regain your trust!
Show your parents they can trust you. Be the kind of daughter and person you yourself would trust. Let them see that you have it in you to be responsible and that you understand the value of honesty and integrity. Let them see that you appreciate their trust and respect and that the idea of losing either is worth the sacrifice of having to fess up from now on.
And yeah, maybe they'll get suspicious at the sudden turn around in your behavior, but if they can compare two lies to a mountain of mature, loving, respectful behavior, then hopefully they'll see that the lies were the exception to the rule when it comes to who you are, and not the norm.
Good luck!
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Of course your upset, you lied to your parents and you have a guilty conscience. Was it something incredibly bad that you did? You say you dont want people to tell you to just tell them the truth, but telling your parents the truth can help things. Did you have sex or something? You wont keep on lying more and more because you learned that from lying this time and how awful it made you feel. Just relax, maybe the time will come when you do feel you should tell them the truth about whatever you did. Good Luck hun.
-Brina
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i lie to my parents constantly and i dont know why it feels like a habit so basically dont lie to them anymore and end up like me a lying addict from that you learned your lesson and try not to do it again because then they wont ever trust you again
good luck
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This is my situation all the time. I try hard not to lie but i do it to save my butt. coming clean always seems to help me. i'll lie at first but the only way that i can lift the lying burden off my shoulders is to tell them. I hope that this helps, every one lies once in a while so dont be hatin, u'll come through
jae-be aka flute_player_gurl
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People lie, its not that BIG.
you have to put the lie away.
And just go on with life, one lie wont hurt you.
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feeling horrible doesn't help you at all. juss put it in the past. you can't go back & change it & you definately don't have a time machine haha =) juss make a promise to yourself that you won't lie to them again & you should be good. there is a positive from this- you learned a lesson. life is about learning a whole bunch of lessons so now you know that you won't lie to them again.
-hope that helped!♥
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