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Its a little complicated?
Okay background info first:
Im 15 and female
I have a wonderful boyfriend of about 6 months
Well heres the thing. I have a really bad way of handling stress. I mean it makes me physically and mentally ill. I can't control it and never really was able to. Ive been to doctors and ect to get it undercontrol but nothing is seeming to help.
My boyfriend is a guy who is just something else. Ive never met anyone like him and he means everything to me inside. The thing is for a little while now it seems like i havent been acting my old self. Like our relationship is heading downhill. We talked about it and was considering taking a break but tears just answered that. I didn't want that. I need to no how to be able to control my stress so our love life could be better. Sex is never the same because im alwasy tired and/or just don't feel like it. When we do have sex though its amazing, so its not like its him.
Im not sure what to do. Ending our relationship is not an option. Please any advice would help!!
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Seems to me that you may have some sort of issues you, yourself need to work on. I'm sorry that you're stressful whatever it may be. Ever try meditating? it really helps, pick a word, anyword. Then you say it in your mind when you exhail, find a confortable spot and just breathe in and out. Just relax and look inside yourself, for yourself. Hope that helps
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I think I know what you two need. Go to Amazon.com and purchase "1000 Questions For Couples". They e-mail it to you and it's $14 or so. It's a great way to get closer to your partner no matter what age or point in a relationship that you are. I have it and I'd send it to you, but it's got some weird block on it and I'm not sure how to get around it. I think what you two need is to just relax and enjoy being in love with one another. This "book" should help a lot. Good luck.
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First of all you need to work out what the sources of your stress are. Whatever methods of coping you find, it'll never work as well as stopping it at it's source. Perhaps it's school and you need to talk to your teachers about it or perhaps there are problems at home. Whatever the reason, it's always a good idea to knock this sort of problem on it's head at the source.
If that isn't an option right now, yoga is supposed to be very good for calming stress issues. Perhaps there is a class that either you or your parents could pay for you to go to. I normally would say go with a friend but dealing with stress often means that you need to have more 'you' time so go alone if you can.
Going back to the 'you' time, you need to set some time for you to be by yourself. You can sit down somewhere and set yourself a time limit of 10 minutes to fret and stress and worry over things but after that, no more. Afterwards, you can reward yourself with a face mask, manicure and pedicure and a good film or something of similar enjoyment.
You could ask your boyfriend to give you a back massage as a lot of stress and tension is stored in the neck and shoulders and you will feel more relaxed when you're looser (another benefit of the above mentioned yoga).
Beyond that, you may wish to speak to your GP and see if you can get some counselling. Stress is very very normal but sometimes people need help coping and sharing your concerns with an impartial person is very therapeutic and can help to offload some of what you have been storing up.
Most of all, you just need to learn to let go of some of it. Accept that there are some things you will never be able to change and that if there are things that need to be changed, you have to get on and do it before it drags you down this far again.
Good luck
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try taking your stress out on other things. not your bf..not saying you do but maybe he feels that way?? i handle stress by working out & it helps a lot. example- i couldn't work out for a few months because of a health thing & my amount of stress juss started building. running reallllly helps a lot also.
-hope that helped!♥
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