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hey my friend seems like she wants to have all the friends i have so she is trying to take them away and is saying that i cant be some ones friend because that person doesnt like her should i still be her friend if i am not she will make my life a living hell!!!!
Well you know what, she's not worth having as a friend. You shouldn't feel obligated to be her friend! Don't even tell her just sort of drift away. If you go to the same school, just sit somewhere else at lunch. If she picks up conversation just be sort of quiet. Don't do it spitefully and don't spread rumors or talk about her behind her back. It could get back to her. No matter what she pulls she'll give it up within a week or two.
ok, im 13 and i have a boyfriend,we talk and everything, hes like a best friend...actually more then a best friend..but anyways im just relizing what if he asked me to be his girlfriend because he was pressured??????
what do i do exactly???
It sounds like your just getting all nervous. Even if he was under pressure, I'm sure there's been times where you were together with nobody else bringing burden on him... if he didn't want to be with you he most likely would've broken up with you. Sure, someone can be pressured to ask someone out... but if they really don't like them, then they wouldn't do it.
Hey! I have this really close friend of mine but lately we have started to drift apart from each other. We were especially close--from calls every day to zero calls now. Um, this all started when our council had this summer camp thing at my school and it taught us a lot about ourselves and friendships and it like, totally opened my eyes. I now saw how much she took advantage of me, even when I was a completely loyal friend. Now, I feel because we're not talking to each other anymore, she is trying to make the rest of our council and the rest of my friends turn against me. What shall I do??
signed,
lost
Unfortunately, some things in life just change. Maybe you'll have to drift your ways. If you feel the friendship is still worth it, invite her over your house, even if it may feel a little awkward! Tell her you miss her, hanging out with her... and e.t.c. You also might need to explain any flaws in your prior relationship and maybe you can mend things. Take it very kindly. If it doesn't work... or she gives you a cold answer, I'm sorry to say that's just life, and though it hurts, the storm will always pass.
i was wondering what is a good sweet 16 present. my aunt asked me what special thing i wanted and right now i have no idea. im an anverage preppy girl i guess i love my hollister and would love a car but thats way out of the question. any ideas other than clothes or the normal stuff?
An iPod... nice piece of jewelry- tiffany, swavorski?
Would it be possible if a 14 yearold boy would like a 12 year old girl? She's sorta developed for her age. Or is it a waste of time?
Friend wanted to know
Perfectly fine. Only 2 years different. It's not the number of years you've been on this earth... more like how you've used your time here.
I've met this really great guy. We have so much in common and we became really good friends right off the bat, and we've been partying together ever since then. I'd totally date him, but he's 4 inches shorter than me!!! Do you guys think that he's still worth my time, or just dump the idea of hooking up with a shorty? (I'm 16 and he's 18, so he's not growing anymore either)
its personality that counts! totally, Im sure everyone else already said so, but it's the blatant truth. Trust me you grow to love somebody if you just give them the chance.
hey...well within the last year i have become christian. but lately i have been having my doubts. i have depression, and have had it for about 2 years now. i pray so much but i dont seem to be making any progress to becoming happier. i dont understand why my prayers arent getting answered.
Praying is like going to a restaurant and putting in your order. Sometimes it comes out quick, sometimes it takes a long time, or sometimes they just tell you "We're out of chicken". Compare that for god answering your prayers quickly, or taking a longer time. Or, sometimes it's just not right for you. Hang in there, you have a lot of people with great advice on here, and I'm sure I can't amount well, but good luck.
Alright, so like I like this girl, she knows it, she's not sure if she likes me. She showed me her webpage today, and one of the comments says that she had her first kiss. I don't know what to say about that. Like just a few weeks, a month and a half at most, ago. She said her current relationship is almost over, but... I don't know. Honestly. I kept reading the page, and it turns out she had had like 3 boyfriends in the last three or four months. But I don't think they really LOVED her. I absolutely positively love her and I know that she's the one for me. Judging by how she broke up with the others, it looks like they didn't really love her, they were just the guys who look for "is she hot" and all. Like one person said he didn't like it when she acted all weird. Yeah, she's spassy, but I don't give a damn, I love her just the same! I told her that, but hey. We're 13. I don't know if she believes it, or knows what true love is considering the others. But she may love me. I recently asked her to a carnival as *cough* friends, and she didn't say "ok" or "sure" or "yes". She said "I'd love to!" which made me feel that it was right. I don't know why. I just did.
I really don't want her to have others. I want to be the only one. She has no idea how much I love her, it's more than anyone could possibly love anyone else. But she's already had a first kiss... so I don't know... it was someone who she's known her whole life, whereas we only met a year ago, so she may choose him over me. I really don't want anyone else to have her... really....
And then I commented on one of the people who she talked about breaking up with on her web page. I said that he was annoying, but not in those words, if you catch my drift. About two minutes passed. She logged off of AIM. I thought to myself, "Jeez. At least say goodbye." But then I realized that it would have been the perfect time to ask her out, just after dissing her ex (she has exes =( judging by the other stories I've read, the exes will come back to her, I just know it!!!) and so I think she was waiting for me to ask her out, but then thought that I was to shallow for that or something since it took so long. Jeez, I wrote the girl a song, even though I suck at songwriting, I can't be shallow! So now I'm worrying about are our chances over, could she be with the person she kissed, what if her exes come back, maybe she doesn't like me in the first place, what if she's making a hard decision and is going to choose the person who's not me, what if one day we kiss and it's not her first but it is hers, and so now I'm spassing and worrying and I just really want to have her! Sorry it's so insanely long... I'm just going through a hard time.
Wow. Most girls can only hope for someone as dedicated as you. I definetly don't think your chances are over in the least. Why don't you ask her out in person. I just think it might mean more since most guys can't handle that. Tell her you don't want to mess around with her.... tell her what she means to you, and that even though you feel like you don't have a good chance you just want a really good relationship that can last, and ask her out. I really have the feeling from the way she's acted that she's just waiting for you to say something. Maybe she has had her first kiss.... but remember .... it doesn't mean she's unkissable. Good luck!
my stepfather is a total baby. he gets what ever he wants. his mom baught him a car. my mom baught him a scanner. and his mom baught him a new computer. and those were when he just wanted it. it's like he get's what he wants but i dont get what i want. and he gets expensive stuff on his birthdays when i just get a birthday card. how do i get things to be fair around here. or atleast stop him from getting what ever he wants
i'll rate 5s for answers
The truth is you'll never 'stop' adults from getting their way. The blatant truth is in most cases, you can never 'stop' anyone at all from getting what they want. It's one of those things in life that just sucks. What I would do is pull your mom aside and let her know how you aren't liking the favoritism and what not. Other than that though, just be tough. He'll always be emotionally unstable in life if all he thrives on is material things. Learn how to live off more important things... portray qualities that make people know your not weak like him.
hi my name is jess ive been going out with my boyfriend for days so far. But today when i was at my friends house a kid in her neighborhood said he was going out with this other girl to. How can i find out with out hurting our relationship if hes cheatin on me.
Ps. he does have a history of cheating when he was going out with my friends.
luv jess
There's no way you can find out directly. All you have to do is confront him very nicely. Just tell him, hands down, you don't want to start stuff, you just want the truth. Tell him if he does admit to it, you might be able to work something out but if you find out he's lied that's what would make you upset. It's a tough situation, but usually people will tell the truth if they are assured it won't piss you off. Good Luck!
Okay, I know this might sound stupid, but in October, there's a Halloween Dance, and they encourage you to wear costumes. What are some good halloween costumes? I was thinking of being a pink lady, or dorothy, from the wizard of oz. Nothing to drastic, because I go to a catholic school. Thanks
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This sounds kinda silly but you could be grapes. Really though! My aunt did this once- you blow up purple balloons, and stick them to yourself! And you can make a headpiece with a purple headband and some fake vines from the craft store or something. Or you can be tinkerbell. Lots of fun possibilities. Well, good luck.
OK there's a real problem in our school and it's sorta weird. If you get called a whore, people in my school take it as a compliment. Does anyone think this is very disturbing? Oh yea, and the people in our school who are popular are the sluts and the girls and guys who drink in school. I sorta wanna know how to stop this. Thanks!
How to stop this? I really don't think you have any way to do that. Sure, it's awfully degrading to bask in the fact that people are calling you a whore- someone who gets money for sex. But hey, it's one messed up world we live in. All you can do is frown down upon it, and state your beliefs and move on.
ok.. here we go.. I am totally in LOVE with my ex boyfriend.. the only reason we broke up is because he went back home (to minnasota from newjersey) he's comming back durring the winter varation. I miss him so much! but i like this other guy who's about to ask me out.. but the thing is idk if i'm ready to stop thinking about my ex right now. but i don't wanna ruin my chances with this new guys.. wat do i do? PLEASE help!
If your not looking to be too too serious in life and all committed, go out with the guy who is about to ask you out. If it's just going to be some fling, it'll be a fling and you'll be all ready for your ex from Minnesota when he's back on Winter break. If it's going to be serious, you'll grow to really like eachother and you'll start to drift from your ex, and maybe just be friends. Either way I'd go and try it, because at this point I think it might just be of no use waiting around for your ex.
well in 2 weeks its my boyfriends birthday
and i dont know what to get him. he loves
baseball and hes really into his heritage
of being fully sicilian. im in a $20 budget
and i dont know what to do? any ideas?
Get him a tshirt baseball hat with his teams name on it. Or just buy him a 20 dollar gift certificate at whatever store he likes to shop in.
My friend and I use to be real close we would be together every weekend and then one year she like ignored me and now we are friends but she acts so different when shes around other people she'll be sorta mean to me its really hurting my feelings what should i do??
signed miss being bffs
You need to explain to her very kindly you just feel like she's changed a bit and describe all the virtues she once had.... and that your feelings are hurt! She may take it harsh, but if she doesn't take serious action soon... maybe she's just not one of those friends worth having. I mean, she did IGNORE you. It may be painful to have to move on but sometimes in life change is the only thing that makes life flow. Time heals all wounds, after a while, without being friends (if it's the case) you'll be fine.
how are you supposed to respond to guys when they open up to you and tell you something personal... like that their dad has cancer, they are still in love with their ex, or their parents are getting divorced? i know how to comfort my friends that are girls, but guys, i dont know what to say... i'd really appreciate any ideas.
Friends are friends. It's pretty much the same... only difference is most of the times girls will open up more than guys. I guess for your situation it wasn't the case. But anyway, just try and be there like you would any friend... and understand he probably won't fully cry and go on and on ... because guys and girls have different emotions.
Does anybody know of any spiritual books that will change my life drastically for the better? I am specifically looking for something that will boost my self-esteem and turn me into an optomist.
Believe it or not, crack open an NIV (New International Version) Bible. Not going to get all religious on you-- but you'll be surprised as to what you may find. Start in the chapter of John if you do decide to go ahead with it.
Good Luck!
hi. im 13 years old and ive had a bf for 4 months. he dumped me the other day because his friends dont like me. i really like him and he likes me too. 2 minutes (literally) after he dumped me he had another gf. is he worth going back for?
P.S. ive never met his parents and hes never met mine. thanks for your help.
Yeah wow.... he must not have "really liked" you if he has a new gf. He seems a bit of a jerk, and kind of like a player. I cannot say it enough. Boys like him are NOT good for anyone. Even if you can't move on off the bat, you need to keep your distance from him. He is sooo not worth it, unless he breaks up with the other girl and makes a GIANT apology. Even then I don't know if it would be good to go back with him. Good Luck!
alrighty this might be kinda of confusing but i need help now!sorry its goin to be long. okay first off im a 13/f and never hooked up with anyone yet! so i went out with this kid "ronnie" for abouit a week and i found out he never really liked me (long story) so that was back in may now i like a new kid named "jonnie" but "ronnie" likes me and today he told me he wanted me to sleep over his house ( im friends w/ his sister) to hook up...but no strings attached..what do i do? i kinda wanna just to get it over with and i kinda like him..do i hook up with him or not?
ILL rate 5 no matter what (unless its a smartass answer)
NO WAY! Do NOT let him think you'll crawl back to him the second he wants you. No way...no way. Stand your ground, and stick firm to the fact that your not cheap and easy. Your someone who makes decisions that will benefit yourself. Doing this might effect any relationships you might have in the future with other people. I strongly suggest you keep the ball in your court... and just act really cool about it. Don't show up at his house to sleepover. If he likes you so much, he can pursue you, and ask you out...or make any effort to show what he feels for you. Maybe hes in the mood just for some cheap makeout. Don't let him think it's all that easy. Wow, no offense but this kid really sounds pigly.
I just moved here from a different state & I'm starting school on Monday next week. I'm extremely nervous, I've never moved schools before & I'm 15. Pretty much, my question is: At lunch, I'll probably be sitting by myself. Does anyone have any suggestions on some things I could do to interest me, while sitting at lunch by myself. I don't want to look stupid and just sit there and stare around at people. I want to be able to do something. I'm not going up to people and asking them to sit with them because, I'm not that type of person. Thanks for your help.
There's alot of stuff you can do. This is a very interesting question, I actually happen to really like it. Well first off-- though you may not believe it, you might make some friends before lunch. I'm not asking you to go up and be super friendly to anyone just smile and try and make a polite attempt at making friends. Still, if you find yourself alone ... you can :
Read, Listen to Music, Draw/Doodle, Write (make stories, poems), go to the bathroom and talk on your cell phone (if you have one), Go to the computer lab and surf the web, Work on some school work if you have any the first day, Knit if you can, Do lanyard, Bead...
all sorts of stuff. If you need anymore help let me know. Hope all goes well! You'll do fine...it's an exciting chance to make new friends.