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Hey! I have this really close friend of mine but lately we have started to drift apart from each other. We were especially close--from calls every day to zero calls now. Um, this all started when our council had this summer camp thing at my school and it taught us a lot about ourselves and friendships and it like, totally opened my eyes. I now saw how much she took advantage of me, even when I was a completely loyal friend. Now, I feel because we're not talking to each other anymore, she is trying to make the rest of our council and the rest of my friends turn against me. What shall I do??
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i think you should try to talk to her. talk to her about fun times you two had together and get to laughing together again. dont let her turn the council against you. this happened to me sorta wit this gurl and she tried to turn my whole skool against me because of sumthing she did. i told my part of the story and she told hers. now the skool hates her because they realized she likes to lie. but wut im sayin is tell ur side of the story while shes tellin hers and dont let her turn the council against her then she will fell bad.
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ok well make sure that you tell your friends that she is trying to do this horrible act but if she does have them turn against you then they are not and have never been your true friends.
x0 dani--trust me
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At a time like this you just need to stand up tall and be strong. You have to teach yourself to ignore people like that, and meet other people even if they arent the most popular social people. as long as they treat you like the loyal friend like you treated your old bestfriend. I think you should just start on a new blank page without her and make another good friend or "posse" whatever makes you happy just dont get too caught up in their comments ok? Well I hope you meet new people you like and become happy! 'kisses' PrettyLady16
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ive had this happen in the past..people trying to turn others against me. i wouldnt worry because this does not work. yeah for a week they might be all mad..but eventually the people she turns on you will realize there isnt a reason to be angry with you. just tell these people your side of the story..and be strong through it..make new friends..because a loyal friend is a very valuable one. you will have no problems making new friends.
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well its going to be kind of hard for her to make the whole school turn agasint you so i would get at least 1 really good friend thats not like your old one
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Unfortunately, some things in life just change. Maybe you'll have to drift your ways. If you feel the friendship is still worth it, invite her over your house, even if it may feel a little awkward! Tell her you miss her, hanging out with her... and e.t.c. You also might need to explain any flaws in your prior relationship and maybe you can mend things. Take it very kindly. If it doesn't work... or she gives you a cold answer, I'm sorry to say that's just life, and though it hurts, the storm will always pass.
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