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I am a 20 year old female enrolled in northern illinois university. I met my boyfriend here freshmen year and we have been dating for two years. He has been an athlete on the golf team here at school, but was cut from the team last week. He wants to golf professionally, so he is going to try to find another college to play golf at. His parents live in south carolina. He said he might go back there to go to school.
I feel like this could hurt our relationship greatly. I do not know what I should do. I thought about transferring schools to be closer to him, but there is so much to think about when doing that. What should I do? Please help. (link)
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You need to let him go!
So just because he wants to go to another school you want to go with him? Absolutely not. Not a good idea what so ever. It is the worst idea to go to another school just because your boyfriend wants to. I realize a relationship is two people but you are your own person at the same time.
My ex and I went to college with one another and we graduated and were applying for schools. His suggestion was for me to go to school with him where he got accepted and I thought about it and I declined. I wasn't going to go to a school just because he wanted me too. The school didn't have any of the majors that I wanted and the only thing I would have is to hang out with him and I didn't want that. I isolated myself from a lot of friends and opportunites due to the fact that I wanted to spend time with him.
I understand you love him but you don't have to spend all your time with him. I find the relationship I'm in right now to be very healthy. We don't hang out all the time and we give each other space so we can do our own things. My boyfriend likes to have poker night with his guy friends and I like to go ahev a girls night with my friends. I love him and he lvoes me but at the end of the day we are our own people and need to have a little bit of a divide.
If you love him you have to let him do what he needs to do and support him! Talk to him about it and don't start worrying until it happens!
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I'm going to try and be brief here, but there's so much to say that I haven't been able to talk about, so if I rant, I apologize.
I realize now that this probably wasn't a good idea, but I became best friends with my boyfriends sister. Now, overtime, I've noticed little things she does that annoy/offend me and I can't talk to her or her brother about it (they're incredibly close...INCREDIBLY close, its almost strange) cause she would just get pissed and tell me I have an attitude, etc., and her brother would just defend her and make me feel like an asshole.
They have a hard family life, so I understand her upbringing wasn't the best, but it's just one of those things that it's hard to pull through. She's very conflicting with her points, wants to go here, wants to do this but I HAVE to do it all with her, otherwise she won't do it. She complains of the numerous boys that hit on her, but that might be because she flirts and texts with them all. These things are all she talks about, I basically feel like I'm listening to a child go on a hyper rant.
But she's very wanting to know it all and have a say in every situation. She'll ask you/whomever what's going on in another's life, seeming to be just curious, but when the opportunity arises she'll use that information to be like,"I KNOW THIS, I KNOW THAT, IM SO IN." Friends'll compliment her on things she's done, though I took all the time out of my day to help her on it, cause she wouldn't/couldn't do it alone, but I get no thanks or credit, just acts like she did it herself. She brings up personal subjects of mine that I don't want to talk about (like me doing sexual acts or something which first off is weird caus it's with her brother, so why joke about that?) infront of friends like it's a funny joke and then'll explain everyone how I get (as I'm getting embaraased/upset looking) when she does it like THAT'S a joke as well (and that also shows everyone how she "knows me so well".) She'll joke to me infront of friends how I don't wash my hair every day, so I'm just dirty and that's blahblah..though whenever we're like, alone, she'll tell me how she rarely washes her hair and stuff, hence she's dirty as well. (It's just more hypocritcal points she has, but yet made to be jokes infront of all our friends). She also speaks of how you have to be nice to everyone and just love people, etc., but yet obviously her behavior towards me is not that nice and she's blatantly told me she wouldn't date a certain guy cause he wasn't on her rating of attractiveness and she'll gossip of people's lives and say how dumb they are, etc. I admit I do this all myself, but I don't go around telling everyone I don't do these things, I admit I'm a hypocrite at times, we all are. It's just matters how MUCH you are, when it's excessive, that's horrible. A little, that's human.
But anyways, she tries to know all the facts about me and her brothers relationship, which I understand being curious, but I might not want her to know. Especially sexual facts, like I thought I was pregnant awhile back, and my boyfriend just went and told her and then I got yelled at by her for not telling her. When I confronted my boyfriend, he just told me I "sure had a "nice" tone" and that I couldn't honestly say she didn't have right to know. ...I really don't think she does, she's not dating us, it wouldn't be her baby. Maybe I could see her being told if HE himself really thought I was pregnant or if I was have a meltdown about it, but I wasn't and he wasn't, so.
I don't get frustrated with him so much at this cause I understand it's his little sister, he's always been honest with her, they're close, they've been through alot but it's just driving me insane cause I have to deal with her so much, nobody has to deal with her as much as I do, not even my boyfriend and I can't say anything to either one of them cause I get the results of "you're being a bitch", "what's with the attitude", and I admit I DO get an attitude but it's just from months of built up annoyance and anger. It's gotten to the point where I've actually lost some passion for my career (what she wants to do kind of goes along with what I want to do so it's basically said I must work on all projects with her) because she basically just turns down my ideas or just tries to change them and then when we're doing the project, she tries to control it. If she randomly decides to visit (without even asking), late at night after I get home from work, I HAVE to hang out with her which consists of just listening to her talk, when I just want to go upstairs and relax. Half these times he'll invite her over ( HE WILL, not me ) and I end up having to hang out with her anyways, he won't come along. It's like I have to hang out with a kid, but she tries to act like a controlling mother with everyone (even her brother, whose like, three years older than her) as well.
There's so many more little things like that that go on, but I'm giving the general idea. I just don't know what to do because my boyfriend and I are going to be living with her soon (we "have" to or well I "have" to in a way, her home lifes horrible and I'm not that cruel that I'd make her stay there), but I just don't know how I'm going to do it. This on top of her just being plain irresponsible with money and staying in a place. I keep going through this all in my head and telling myself I basically just have to suck it up (and I'm sure you're going to say the same) but then when I think I'm going to be able to do it, she just pulls some stunt or says some little comment and I just get sent over the edge, and it's readable on my face, so it gets to the point where my boyfriend sees I'm pissed about something but (obviously) I won't tell him what, and we get in little fits with eachother (they're easily over with in a couple minutes, more just we have serious/attitudey tones towards eachother when speaking). Especially when they're together, they like, pull together and do a brother sister thing where they jokingly rag on me, and continue it on whenever they see I'm getting pissed, about HOW i'm getting pissed and I do this all the time ( they talk to eachother about it while looking at me, but acting like I'm not actually there) DRIVES ME INSANE.
And I feel like the only other option would be to leave him, but he's my first, and I'm sure only love (we're in our 20's by the way, so this isn't a young teenage fling, we've been together for almost 2 years) and I'm not going to leave him.
Like I said, I think I pretty much know the replies I will get out of this, but I guess I just need to hear someone else say it. Or I just needed to rant to someone, (even though there's so much more I could say), or no one if nobody reads this. But any advice would be GREATLY appreciated. (link)
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"Blood is thicker than water."
Ever heard of the saying? When you're dating your boyfriend you're kind of dating the family as well. The bond between a sister and brother is a lot closer than a boyfriend and girlfriend. A sibling is forever boyfriends and girlfriends come and go. So here are some auggestions:
One: They are brother and sister there is nothing you can do about it. The bond between them is a lot closer even more so than you and your boyfriend. That’s his family you’re his girlfriend I could see if you were his wife but that’s his sister.
Two: Maybe she needs someone to talk to. Maybe she doesn’t have any close friends. Have you ever tried talking to her and telling her how you feel? You don’t have to hang out with her. What does she have a gun to your head? If you don’t want to hang out with her don’t!
Three: You said you and his sister have become friends and you brought her into a social circle. Maybe you shouldn't hang out with her as much or maybe just hang out with her alone. People tend to be different when in groups of people than they are alone. If you feel like she is going to say things than don't take her out with you. She sounds very nosy and interested in other people. Again does she have any friends of her own? Maybe she is looking for attention or maybe a friend? Sometimes people take information that they have and tell people to make themselves feel poplar or to feel more appreciated.
A good piece of advice DON’T tell her a single thing that is going on in your life. That way she won’t talk about you and she won’t be talking/ joking in front of people. In a sense you are adding fuel to the fire. You sound like you don’t like hanging out with this girl I don’t care whether she is your boyfriend’s sister or not. If you don’t like her don’t hang out with her plain and simple.
Four: Ever thought the reason she wants to be with you and her brother is maybe she wants to feel included? Maybe you two could plan sometime for you and him to have date nights. And the other time you have maybe hang out the three of you and go see a movie or something. You have to try and find a way to separate your relationship with your boyfriend and his sister. By telling her all these things again it’s not working in your favor.
Five: You know there are some people who would kill to be in your position. There is some girl out there who would love to have a boyfriend. I know it might be annoying but again they are family and family comes first that’s just how it is. I’ve been dating my boyfriend for almost two years and I would never come between him and his sister. I have no problem with his sister but if I ever did I’m sure my boyfriend would side with his sister because they are siblings and I’m just the girlfriend.
Six: If you feel that uncomfortable with moving in with her than maybe you shouldn’t. If you are getting a bad feeling about it than don’t do it. You said she isn’t good with money…that’s not a good sign right there.
Seven: ‘Pickers can’t be choosers.’
You’re bothered by the sisters actions but you can’t talk to your boyfriend because he sides with her. At the end of the day you have to figure out whether or not you want to be with him. Have you talked about marriage? If you so, if you marry him you marry his family and that includes the sister. You can’t get rid of his sister no matter how hard you try. I would try talking to her or maybe to him and find a common ground. It sounds like you’re not happy so why would you stay in a relationship that doesn’t make you happy. If you want things to change you either speak up or you leave that’s all you can do. When starting this relationship you begun to know what his sister was like and the relationship that he had with her. You either can accept it or you can’t. It is what it is.
Now you need to find a way to either work it out if you really love him or you need to move on and leave the situation. Good luck!
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how can you tell your mam and dad you are preg but you are only 13 (link)
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Honesty is the BEST policy!
The sooner you tell them the better. I think the best way would be face to face and not over text or even email. Good luck!
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I love his personality but Im not attracted to him physically at ALL. I don't want to sound shallow but that's how I feel. I could talk to him for hours on the phone and laugh and have a great time but when I look at him I just don't feel like I could kiss him. I feel like the most I could do is cuddle and hold hands. I feel horrible and I wish I could be physically attracted to him but I'm not. What should I do? (link)
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When dating a guy I'm all about the personality. You have to have a great personality if not than I'm completely bored. A guy with looks is great to look at but if he can't carry a conversation than what good is a relationship with him?
Does he make you happy? Does he make you laugh? Do you feel a connection?
And just because he's not Brad Pitt doesn't mean that he's not boyfriend material. A lot of people think you have to find someone that hass good looks and that's not what its about. it's about who the person is not what they look like. Maybe the feelings may come over with time...just give it a chance what have you got to lose?
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I am 20/F. I love my boyfriend's mum and we get on very well despite only knowing each other 4 months or so. I met a mum of 2 20 something boys at college and we get on so well that I sometimes see her as an adopted mum.
The problem is my own mum and stepmum view me as some 'problem'. Mum hasn't spoken to me in months and had caused me to move 4 times in 6 months and has got my benefit taken from me.
I recently moved in with my dad and stepmum and she was fine at first but with me being unemployed she really pressurised me and with the stress I have been through I was in tears asking her to back off a little.
Since then she has made things more difficult for me and it feels like she is going out of her way to do so. Despite promising to help me in every way she has started to give me the silent treatment and ignoring my existance even when her six year old mentions me.
I am away for a week and plan to try and sort things out before I go and hope things calm down while I get work experience at a local shop. The problem is she thinks I haven't been doing enough job hunting despite 2 interviews in 2 weeks which is more than many people get as for months I have only received rejection emails.
I can't understand how other mums think I am a nice person but my own mother and mother figure seem to hate me over misunderstandings, despite me explaining myself and apologizing and trying to make amends.
If I can't make things up here I am scared I will have to move out again but I have no family left and my boyfriend still house shares with his wife so I can't go there and he has already said his parents can't take me in.
I have been awake all night trying to figure all of this out. I just don't know what to do anymore. (link)
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It's difficult sometimes talking to your mom and I'm sure sometimes it sounds like she's not listening. I have always butt heads with my mom and even to this day I do.
When I was a teenager I always thought she was out to get me. I never thought anything I did was good enough and sometimes I would just stop trying. It's never been completely easy with my mom. She would always say to me that she pushes me because she wants me to be happy and to be successful. I love my mother more than anything. She has given me a home, food, and love. All the things that I need to survive. She has given me everything and more. Do we have fights? Of course. Do I get mad at her? Of course. At the end of the day though she is still my mother.
My boyfriend's mother I absolutely love being with. We talk and we have such a great time. She even gives me advice sometimes as well. I don't know what it is but there is this 'looking glass affect' that has occurred when I talk to my boyfriend's mom. And I appreciate my mom so much more because of it.
Maybe talk to your boyfriend's mom and see what she says and maybe she has some insight or advice for you. I understand getting a job right now is hard and you're doing the best you can. I'm sure your mom doesn't hate you she is probably just aggravated. Your mom wants what's best for you and maybe she doesn't say it all the time but it's true.
Keep your head up and do the best you can. No matter what anyone says don't let anyone rain on your parade. Good luck on the job search and stay positive!
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21/f. so... i'm the first person who gives the advice "he/she is just not that into you..," but this guy is confusing. he isn't very easy to read. i had that mentality for a long time when guys just didn't really give me the response I was waiting for to show me that he liked me. but, one of my cousins taught me a lesson. he's been in love with this girl for a long time. but, he's extremely shy. he use to be even worst! now that he left town for medical school, he's a little bit more assertive. but, he's never even had his first kiss... and he's 25. i know that this is a little extreme and this guy is not like that. But, it made me realize that there are guys who are extremely shy and need a little bit of a push.
so... this guy and i are in a club together. he's very cute and not too tall, which is nice because i'm very petite. but, he does little things that hint at me that he likes me. like, he knows what i like to drink and brings it to me when we're somewhere. he always gives me a hug when he sees me. during sorority recruitment at the beginning of the semester, he kept asking me every day how it went and wanted to know if I was happy with the sororities I was seeing so far. the other night, he and i went to the movies, with other people from our club. it was a scary movie so we ended up holding hands and all of that. i could tell that he was so happy. he didn't even try to let go of my hand that quick when we were leaving the theatre. but, since there were other people there, it would have been a little awkward if we would have stayed holding hands. it was only like 3 other people and trust me, it would have been awkward. but he was walking next to me the whole time and before i left, he hugged me again.
thinking about it, he reminds me SO much of my cousn... just not to that extreme. i know he's dated before. but, it seems like when he likes someone, he needs like a push... a reassurance of some sort. like, he grabbed my hand after i grabbed his arm. he needs like a green light. i can understand that. i just don't know how to give it to him because i'm not a very assertive girl. i don't think that's what he needs either. he just needs a little bit of a push, like I said. But, I'm very traditional and I've always let guys make the first move and all of that. but, i know i'm dealing with a shyer one here, and that's ok :)
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Well one of you has to step up to the plate and say something otherwise nothing will happen. I know you like when guys make the first move but maybe this is your opportunity to step out of your shell and lift the weight off him. If you are waiting on him and he needs a push you are going to be waiting a long time. Do you both have a mutual friend? Maybe have a friend talk to him or maybe even talk to one of his friends about it.
Before my boyfriend and I started dating, we both had feelings for one another. I was scared and so was he and we didn't say anything to one another. We would hang out and flirt but nothing was ever said. It wasn't until one of my friends ended up telling the both of us that clearly we had something going on. It finally made him break out of his shell and he just asked me out.
Maybe get someone that can help with the situation. Good luck!
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I kind of have a crush on a guy, even though I'm in a relationship right now. I am very happy with my boyfriend and don't intend to leave him for this guy.
This isn't the only time that I've had a work crush before when I was dating someone. I tend to find a cute guy who seems awesome, the kind of guy that I'd go for if I was single.
I'm feeling kind of guilty though, because my boyfriend always tells me that I'm the most beautiful girl in the world. I love him because he is the most sweetest, caring guy that I've ever been with, and he treats me amazingly, among other reasons.
Is it okay to have a work crush if you're in a relationship with someone else?
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There are many opinions on this subject matter. My opinion is that's its fine. I'm in a relationship right now with a great guy who I love dearly but I sometimes catch myself saying "oh that guy is cute". It doesn't mean I'm going to do anything about it because I love my boyfriend and I respect him. It's fine to have a little crush but at the end of the day you're with your boyfriend. Now if you were to have a crush and cheat then I would say that's a problem and its unfair.
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I have been talking to a guy for a couple of weeks now. Over the phone and while we text he is amazing. Fun to talk to and great personality but when we talk in person he is a completely different person? He's shy and just awkward? It's like he dosnt want to talk to me. This is really confusing me. The change is so drastic that I don't even want to talk to him in person. It's like talking to a wall! (link)
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I've had a similar experience!
A long time ago I was talking to this guy off of a dating website and we would talk on AIM. He would always know what to say and he jsut had a way with words online. The first phone call I figured he was just nervous but it turns out he was really shy and a bit awkward. Unfortunately he turned out to be someone that he wasn't. I don't know what your intentions are with this guy but if you can't hold a conversation that's not a great start to a relationship. Some people can act a certain way online because its infront of a computer and then act completely different face to face or on the phone. You have decide whether or not you want to continue talking to this guy and see if he could be a potential boyfriend. Maybe he's just shy for now until you get to know him a bit better.
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19/f...boyfriend is gonna be 20. throwing a party for him. He's inviting a couple friends from work (like 5, all guys) he asked me to invite girls. because he said "most guys want to get drunk and meet/have sex with girls at parties" 1.this makes me not want to have the party. and 2. this makes me unsure of who to invite. I told him to tell the guys to bring girls. No strippers etc. But he tells me that I need to invite my friends otherwise his friends wont be satisfied.. I don't know what to do. Help me out? (link)
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You should tell your boyfriend how you feel about it. His request and the request of his friends seems unfair and really shallow. A party is a party and everyone is celebrating his birthday it's not some make out party. Also it depends where it is as well if you're having it at your hosue absolutely not I would just say no. If you are going out somewhere in public and you don't want your friends to go with his friends then I would highly suggest talking to your boyfriend. He should not be putting you into this predicament. Good luck!
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I asked a similar question like this a while ago, so it may be a little repetitive. But I had to had a lot of extra information to this one, and I'm dealing with a completly different problem now, so here we go. There are two main questions here both tying in to the same story (I apologize for the length, but this is very important)
My friend is extremely bipolar. To the point where she's crying in a corner during a party ten minutes after dancing, and when I ask what the reason is she says she just feels sad. It's heartbreaking- she can be such a optomistic, adorable, happy girl one minute, and a crying, cutting, suicidal one the next. Yes, she does cut, she has been for almost a year. And she's recently become suicidal.
The suicidal thing scares me the most. She got really close at one point, and I did what all the online websites tell you to do and I told guidance, but it only made things worse. She became much more depressed, and lied through her teeth to get out of the hospital. A month later, she's back and worse than ever. She can't stand doctors of any kind, and she hates therapists because of how they are forced to tell the parents if a patient is suicidal or showing sucidal thoughts. I know that if I go to guidance or her parents or the hospital, it will only make things worse and push her closer and closer to the edge. But I need to find things out fast- she told me a long time ago a certain time she planned to do it, and she says she sometimes things she will still do it during that time, and it scares me.
SO HERE ARE THE QUESTIONS
1. What are some good ways (other than therapists and medication) that she can get over the bipolar disorder? Anything I can do to help?
2. What should I do about her suicidal plans? (link)
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One: There is unfortunately nothing you can do to help her get over being bi-polar. She might have gone to a doctor already and had been medicated. I guess the best thing for you to do is to no react to when she may have an outburst or when she may get angry. It's better that you try to stay calm and not fight back!
Two: As for her suicidal plans I would tell her parents or maybe even your parents. Let them know whats going on and what she has been saying. if you girls go to the same school together maybe tell a teacher or the guidance counselor. Make sure an adult is aware of what is going on.
You're a great friend and she's very lucky to have you. Good luck! :)
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I'm 15f I've like this guy and we met through this group priest thing. And we hung out everyday when we were with the group we flirted soooo much it was the closest I've ever gotten to a guy becauseive never had a bf and never had my first kiss. And we almost kissed. Now all I ever think about is him and I do like other guys it's just he's allways in my head I've tried to talk to him again like last march but it's like awkward he use to go to my school. But then he switched to a public school not to far away. I feel trapped I want out if I can't have him. And I can't share this with anyone bc it's been so long and I haven't told my friends that I still like him so itd be weird and if I try to talk to him. I know he'll tell this girl who was in the group that I'm friends with but I lied to her about being over him. And she lives kinda by him so he will talk to her about stuff how this one girl always bothers him (not me) and then that girl tells me what he says. I'm trapped help me please tell me what to do I cry about this sometimes.and no I can't see a therapist. (link)
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Well you are kind of limiting your options and not helping yourself here. This guy is not the world, he may seem like it now because you had a connection. Don't consume all your time worrying about him because that won't help you at all! I think you should take up a hobbie or maybe even hang out with friends. You can't make someone feel something if they don't. I guess you could try to talk to him and let him know how you feel but if it doesn't work out you can't beat yourself up over it. Please know that he isn't the world and that you need to think about yourself.
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Hello, so I'm the type that thinks a lot about the future..and I worry a lot to haha. Okay, so I'm a Sophomore and I'm worried about college.. my brother who's started college tells me that I have to take a math class, which is needed..and that's my most TERRIBLE subject, and I don't want to flunk out of college 0_0 I want to be a lawyer or a writer..nothing with math.. really..
I'd just like to know if anyone who has trouble with math, did you do alright in college?..
I know this is a real stupid question since how young I am right now, 16. I'd just like to know..
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Math isn't my best subject and I completely can't stand numbers. Unfortunately it's one of the basic subjects you must take of in order to get your degree. My advice would be to involve yourself in the class, take lots of notes, and also ask for help. For right now don't worry about it!
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My boyfriend says that we haven't been together long enough to be married and I don't understand. He and i met each other when i was 16 and he was 17. He always told me that once we graduated from college that we could get married. We were in programs in college that didn't allow us to get married or we'd get kicked out. Now that I'm 23 and he's 24. He still hasn't proposed after 7 years.After all of the family christmases, sex and 'i love you's'... It hurts. Do you think we haven't been together long enough? (link)
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You been together a long a long time yes but you're still a bit too young to get married. I understand that's its something nice to think about but you really can't rush it. Your boyfriend might be trying to figure out his career first before wanting to settle down. The career is the most important thing and you should do the same. Everything is different when you're married I'm sure and its a lot more responsibility. I'm 24 and my boyfriend is 25 and I love him with all my heart but I don't want to get married right now and not for awhile. I figure I want to finish school, find a career, and have fun in my 20s. There's plenty of time to get married and there's no rush. Isn't being with your boyfriend for right now enough? The "i love yous" are real I'm sure he doesn't need to put a ring on it to prove that. Don't rush it, just live in the now and have fun!
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So i was suppose to start my period on the 22nd of October and i started the 24th so i was two days late . now im 4 days into my period but the third day it was light and now today its brown? any help? im alittle confused and i took a pregnancy test because me and my boyfiend have been having sex every weekend and i was alittle worried but it was negative.. Help please. (link)
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Periods are weird. Most of the time your period will be heavy on the first two days and then it gets lighter as the days go on. I'm sure it's fine. Have you used protection at all?
You should be fine and if you're really concerned then you should go see your doctor and get a blood test done to see if your pregnant. Those pregnant aren't always right. Good luck and I'm sure everything is fine.
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Can you put a person into your belly to digest them?
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I don't believe you can just put someone into your belly without eating them. It is possible to eat a human but that's called cannibalism.
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There are so many ways that you can prove love to someone. One way is to show you care about them by giving up things and catering to their needs. I lvoe my boyfriend so much that I would be willing to do anything for him such as take a bullet for him or even make soup for him if he's sick. I give up things that I want to do to spend time with him. Sometimes I care more about him than I do myself at times. That's because I truly love him and want the best for him.
Some say that if you love someone and let them free if they come back its meant to be. I believe that everything happens for a reason and how to prove to someone you care you show it through actions. As they have always said 'actions speak louder than words'. It's so true. Anyone could say I love you, but when you prove it through actions then its more believable.
Such as buying someone a gift for no reason, making a mix cd, or even making someone laugh because they've had a bad day.
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There is this guy who I like and I think he likes me back. Recently we've been talking and it's been great. The problem is that when he dosnt text me I freak out but when he does text me I don't want to talk to him. I got I text from him and thought to myself"ugh he's a little pushy I hope he's not like this all the time" but then I realized just a few hours ago I had been glued to my phone waiting for a call or text. I'm so confused. I want to talk to him but then I don't. (link)
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Have you had a bad relationship before where the communication was a little mixed up?
It's normal. Maybe you really like him but you're just protecting yourself. My boyfriend is not into the phone whatsoever he tries. He's not a big texter either. SOmetimes I find myself glued to the phone waiting for his next text or phone call. Other times he'll call or text and I could careless. Sometimes in relationships its about the chase. You want to see how far the person will go for you. In my situation the chase has stopped and we are both comfortable in the relationship with one another. In the beginning the chase starts. At first he's chasing you and then you're chasing him.
You should google the 'settler and the reacher' theory it's very interesting. Hope everything works out and good luck!
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I HATE MY LIFE ! 13 yr old girl. Okay soooo all of my relationship questions have been about the same guy . Well we went out 3 times the 3rd time i broke up with him and i am a dumb ass for doing that ! And i realize that i cant be without him and i am trying not o pick up a knife and cut my arm up but truthfully thats where im headed i need advice as soon as possible ! Can someone just tell me what to do please im on my last thread of string :( (link)
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No one is EVER worth hurting yourself!
Why would you want to hurt yourself? Why not just go talk to him and tell him you made a mistake?
Do you think he might reject you?
If he does then that gives you the conclusion that you should move on and that doesn't mean hurt yourself. I'm sure you're much better than that. I know you must have a empty feeling right now and maybe a hollow feeling in your stomach but that will go away eventually. Hang out with some friends or maybe call some you trust and talk. I would then suggest that you should go speak with a guidance counselor or therapist. Keep your head up and feel better!
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Me and this boy went out but he dated this other girl while he was dating me. I really like him. We almost had a cat fight over him.
Nella!
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You want to be with him?
No guy is ever worth that believe me. You shouldn't be mad at the other girl you should mad at the boy. You're going after her, when he's the reason you two are fighting in the first place. The best advice right now is to drop him and mvoe on. I know you like him but why would you want someone to treat you like that. If he really liked you, you would be his girlfriend and his one and only. He's using the both of you and I can tell you right now he's not worth it!
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I have alot of friends, who did talk behind my back a little, but always would confess and say sorry, but since this other girl came, she has stolen all my friends, now they all hate me! I don't want her her! I have NO friends and she tells them to never talk to me or they'll do something and never talk to them! It makes me mad! (link)
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You should get new friends!
Your "friends" sound like fair-weathered friends. They sound like they do anything to please themselves and they don't care if they hurt others while doing it. For people to act that way I'll never understand. I had a friend that I was really close to and she ended up hanging out with some girls that didn't care for me. I didn't have many friends either. It hurt me when she did this but I realized I didn't want to involve myself with her if she was going to hang out with people that didn't treat me right.
You need to stand up for yourself and get away from these girls!
Meet some new people who will actually be there for you!
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