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I Need Emediate Advice On This Stupid Relationship! Life Or Death Situation
I HATE MY LIFE ! 13 yr old girl. Okay soooo all of my relationship questions have been about the same guy . Well we went out 3 times the 3rd time i broke up with him and i am a dumb ass for doing that ! And i realize that i cant be without him and i am trying not o pick up a knife and cut my arm up but truthfully thats where im headed i need advice as soon as possible ! Can someone just tell me what to do please im on my last thread of string :(
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No one is EVER worth hurting yourself!
Why would you want to hurt yourself? Why not just go talk to him and tell him you made a mistake?
Do you think he might reject you?
If he does then that gives you the conclusion that you should move on and that doesn't mean hurt yourself. I'm sure you're much better than that. I know you must have a empty feeling right now and maybe a hollow feeling in your stomach but that will go away eventually. Hang out with some friends or maybe call some you trust and talk. I would then suggest that you should go speak with a guidance counselor or therapist. Keep your head up and feel better!
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Hun. Im 13. And im not that dramatic over a boy. You broke up with him, big deal. Cutting or killing yourself over this would be very, VERY Stupid. Seriously. Just get over him. You've went out 3 separate times. your two are bound to break up again.
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Young love, back in my day parents called this "Puppy Love". It is kind of love with training wheels. Your 13 years old, this is a first love and I'm fairly sure it will not be your last love. What you have to learn right now is to accept that these young teenage romances are more of a learning experience for when the real thing comes along.
What really concerns me though is how hard you are taking this and the thoughts you are having. These are not good thoughts and not the way you should be reacting to a break up especially if you are the one that broke up with him.
The fact that you are writing us tells me for some reason you do not want to talk with your mom and dad about these things. Why you don't want to you haven't said. This is really the type of question a young girl should talk to their mom about including the fact that you feel bad enough to want to cut yourself. Fact is mom was once your age and can remember what first loves were all about and how they felt. She is the best person to talk to about something like this. If mom isn't available, an Aunt or Grandmother can help you.
I'm not a doctor but I am a parent, Uncle and Grandparent who feels that something is missing in your life that you are trying to replace through this relationship.
Another do you can do is to :Call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255), a free, 24-hour hotline available to anyone in suicidal crisis or emotional distress. Your call will be routed to the nearest crisis center to you.
The fact that you feel the need to cut yourself puts you in crisis; these people can help you. Please call them.
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At 13 I don't believe this is a very thought out approach to a break up, did you honestly expect to remain with the same guy until death did you part? That almost never happens, variety is the spice of life so live and let go, it was a simle relationship which taught you how relationships work and soon enough a new guy will show interest and win you over and this guy though he may always be important to you if he is the first man you loved/felt strongly for, will take a back seat to the men you begin to care about. Relax, have girly nights in with your friends, watch comedians and funny programmes (don't watch sad/love films because they don't really cheer you up) and enjoy yourself :)
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It's not worth it, your young and have many many years to find the right guy, if there is even one. some people go through life without ever having a mate. And to be so wrapped up with just one guy soooo young, can you see yourself with this person 10 years from now? Do they have a future and Goals? What about you? Do you just want to settle down now, start a family and then have all those extra stressors added to your life? Or do you want to LIVE life and have fun and experience the World? humh.. I have five kids oldest daughter 18, son 16, daughter 14, daughter 9 and a baby son, so i know where your coming from and how you feel, I have also been there. take time for yourself!!! Love Yourself FIRST!!! Then others..
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