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Okay, well i need something to do around my house so i can get money. I really want a new iPod, because i dont like the one i have now. Any ideas, for around my house work?!

Clean your basement
Clean the garage
Clean bedrooms
Clean bathrooms
Vacuum
Wash your parents cars
Dust
Do the dishes
Mow the lawn
Decorate the lawn [put up plants, pull weeds, trim the bushes, make it pretty if it isn't already]
Wash the windows from outside
Clean/Sweep the kitchen floor

Hope I helped!

♥ SiMA

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after i finger myself for like 10 minutes, i get realllyy tired and i end up falling asleep and taking a nap for a while. is this normal to make u really tired?

Yes, it is normal for you to feel tired, even to fall asleep.

Hope I helped!

♥ SiMA

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13f well im a disco chic and i love the disco days and dont think disco is dead but anyway does anybody know where i could get some disco clothes from the disco era.i love to be flashy and outgouing and i thought what better way.o yeah i live in north carolina if it helps.much love peace.TWEETY

Thrift stores are the way to go. They have all different types of clothes. Try looking for peace necklaces, tie dye shirts, and bell bottoms.

Hope I helped!

♥ SiMA

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ok all of my friends are having sex (and there all around 15 and 16, and i am 15.) And I don't feel like people our age are ready to have sex yet...but all of my friends are telling me how much fun it is, and they kept telling me how i need to lose it. I kept telling them that i'm not ready, but they keep pressuring me to have it. How can I get it throgh there head that i'm not ready and I don't want to lose it untill i'm ready?

Oh please. Tell them how much fun they'll be having if they 'accidentally' forget to use a condom and end up having a gazillion kids.

Tell them to shut up if they keep pressuring you. Nobody can make you have it. You are your own person. You make your own decisions.

If they were truly your 'friends' they wouldn't be pressuring you.

Hope I helped!

♥ SiMA

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everytime i look at everyone i feel like they got something id ont im very insicure and i wanted help on being more secure any ideas?

Don't let other people get to you.

You have to learn how to be comfortable with yourself. Love your body, love your looks, love yourself. Don't be insecure. Women rock. When you wake up to go brush your teeth, say 'wow [[ your name ]], you played a great game of soccer yesterday' or 'you aced that test, when everybody else got C's, great job'. You have to have confidence and have the ability to stand up for yourself.

Hope I helped!

♥ SiMA

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Hey everybody! I'm 14/f. Well, I have a fear of dogs. It's just that when they get close to me I'm so afraid and start to take off. Once when I was a young kid, my next-door neighbor's dog Kiki was chasing after me and I literally thought that it was going to kill me. I don't want to be afraid of dogs because I think they are the cutest things ever, especially puppies. Does anyone have any advice on how I can overcome my fear of dogs...I would really appreciate it! Thanks.

Well, I think that you should start out by getting to 'know' younger dogs before you start interacting with bigger ones. I'm not afraid of dogs, its just that I have a medium sized schnauzer, and I'm more used to her size compared to bigger dogs. Start out with smaller dogs, gently approach them and stroke the top of their heads. Let them sniff you and get to know you, to make sure that you're not trying to harm them. Don't start squealing and running up to dogs and be like 'OMG!! YOUR DOG IS SOOO CUTE!!' really loud. This can scare the dog.

If the dog doesn't like you or starts to turn away, don't keep trying to pet it. It might not want you to be around it at the moment. If you don't want the dog to jump on you, if it scares you, then gently nudge it away with your knee. Don't like, push the dog away. It might bite you, because, again, it might think that you want to harm it.

Good luck !!

Hope I helped!

♥ SiMA

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Okay I was with the guy for over a year. On and off. And this is our third try. I'm pretty sure he liked some other chick.. but couldn't get with her and then asked me out. I feel stupid and yeah.. I don't know what to do.. because he doesn't really call me. He talks to his other friends on the phone and puts me on hold. :\ And he doesn't really show or tell me that he likes me or that he's happy with me.. or anything like that. So i really don't know what's going on. It's just.. "BYE" and I feel like he likes the other girl...and not me anymore. I don't know what to do because I'm not really sure I'm right.

I think that he is using you. Try talking to him first. If he sounds nervous and doesn't look at you when you guys are talking, something might be going on. Look him in the eyes, and ask him "Have you been cheating on me?" or, "Do you really want to pursue a relationship?". He could be using you just for the status, so he can tell all of his 'buddies' about how he has a girlfriend. Don't make jokes or start laughing when you're talking to him. You have to show him that you are very serious.

Hope I helped!

♥ SiMA

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What should I buy,

Prey for xbox360 or call of duty 2 for xbox 360?

they're both 60, but whats a better deal?

I went on a gaming review site, and I looked up both games, Prey got 85%, and Call Of Duty 2 got 90%. I really don't play video games, but you can try checking Amazon or other reviews on what people think about the game.

Hope I helped!

♥ SiMA

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For the past few months, I've been feeling sad very often. I'm 15, female, and I guess I feel sort of alone. I constantly think about death, how I don't have many good friends, and how I don't have anything I really need to be happy.

I'm also on a diet, I've lost 20 pounds, because I think I need to be skinnier.

I guess what I'm asking is, am I depressed? And do I need some sort of help? My mom knows how I feel and she is always lecturing me about it. I just want to know what I can do to not feel this way.

I think that you might be depressed.

How tall were you, how old are you, and how much did you weigh before you lost 20 pounds? I can figure out if you were actually overweight and wanted to get healthier, or this could also be a sign of depression. Choosing to lose weight is something that you can control, sometimes we can't control our emotions. Maybe if losing weight is the only option for you, you really have no other choice on what to do when you're feeling depressed. You're probably telling yourself that you need to lose weight because you feel fat and unneeded in this world. I'm not saying that you are fat and unneeded, but I'm just telling you that thats what you've probably been thinking.

You probably need to go see a therapist or a psychiatrist. I'm sorry if thats not what you wanted to hear, but you need to see someone about your problems. You can't keep them bottled up inside you, this will only make it worse. If your mom isn't doing anything about it, maybe she doesn't fully understand what you were going through. Depression didn't really cross anyone's minds when she was 15.

Talk to a counselor or try talking to your Mom. Tell your Mom that you might have depression and you really want to see someone about it. If she still neglects you, then call a hotline, like Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance [DBSA], the number is 1-800-843-7274.

Good luck, hun. All of the best.

♥ SiMA

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Okay, just to start things off, in the youth group I am in, there is absolutely NO DATING allowed. [and don't worry, it makes sense]

Well, i was talking on AIM last night to one of really good friends and his cousin in a chat room. They invited me to a Flyleaf concert at the end of the month, just out of the blue. I don't know, it just would kind of seem awkward...But I reallllllly wanna go because they are both my friends and such. I think that some of the girls in our youth group might be jealous [they are good looking].

and, I think my mom will be a little freaked out if I said, "Hey, can I go with two 16-17 year old guys to a flyleaf concert?"
My mom doesn't know either of them, but she knows that I can trust them and all.

I don't know what to do at all. Help?
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I think that someone besides the 2 guys should come with you. I know, it might seem a little immature, but you have to get to know his cousin as well as you know the guy in your youth group.

You have to tell your Mom sometime. You can't tell her 2 days before the concert. Tell her that you will be very responsible. If she still gets a little freaked, try to negotiate.

I've been to plenty of concerts. I've been to a FOB concert that had FFTL, Hawthorne Heights, and AAR performing. It was really overwhelming. It's not like you're going to a Jessica Simpson concert, you know? There's going to be lots of college kids there, and I'm pretty sure that there's going to be mosh pits. I almost got caught in a mosh pit, it looked really cool at first, but some guy kicked me in the nose and spilled beer on me.

I think that you should go with someone else from your youth group besides the 2 guys like someone a bit older that your Mom knows and trusts. This might be not what you wanted to hear, but you're only 13. Trust can be broken easily. I would understand if you were 14 or 15, but you just turned into a teenager.

Hope I helped!

♥ SiMA

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Is it more apropriate to tell a guy your home phnoe nummber or your cell phone number?

I think that it would be more appropriate to give him your cell phone number, because you can talk to him in private, and text him with your cell, which you obviously can't do with a home phone. And, if you have 2 lines, someone can't pick up on the other line if you have a cell phone and listen in on your conversation.

Hope I helped!

♥ SiMA

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Okay, what are some subtle ways to flirt with guys without being overly obvious?? and guys, what makes a girl stand out or atractive? what makes you like a girl? ANYthing i should know! THANKS A LOT!!

Hmm, lets see, there's this flirting technique called 'mirroring'. Basically, you copy what the guy does. But, don't be too subtle. Just simple things like crossing your arms, runnings your fingers through your hair, ect. If he like, reaches down to tie his shoe, fixes his pant leg and scratches his nose all at the same time, don't do the EXACT same thing, you know. ;]] Things that would definitely be unattractive is if a girl wore skimpy and skanky clothing, if she wears a LOT of makeup, if she doesn't personally care enough for her hygiene, ect.

Just be yourself when you flirt with guys. Compliment the guy, but don't be like, "omg love your shirt [[ name ]]" "cool shoes [[ name ]]" "nice jeans [[ name ]]", and don't say his name in every sentence. That gets really annoying.

Hope I helped!

♥ SiMA

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I'm going to try to become a vegatarian. I just want to try it out and see if I can live without meat. I heard it helps lose weight. I AM NOT GOING TO BE ANOREXIC! I'm just not going to eat meats. I know meat has a lot of protein, so besides meat what are some healthy foods that have protein?

Fish has a LOT of protein, same with egg whites. I hope MikeCFT answers this question, he knows a lot about fitness and nutrition, I'm sure that he'll help you out a lot. Cheese also has lots of protein.

Also, check out this site:

fatfreekitchen.com/nutrition/high-protein-foods.html

It has a list of common foods and how many grams of protein each item of food has.

Hope I helped!

♥ SiMA

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how to make friends in highschool?
cause im very very nervous

You can join extracurricular activities.

Try..

Sports
Choir
Spanish Club
Pep Squad
Drama Club
Yearbook Committee

Just be yourself and be comfortable. Laugh and smile. People will want to get to know you if they see that you're not shy and nervous. Remember, other people feel the same as you, you're not the only one.

Hope I helped!

♥ SiMA

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I have short hair that I can't do much with. I was just wondering if anyone has any styles that I can do the morning kind of quick. P.S. my hair is up to my shoulders.

When I used to have short hair, I would put my hair in low pig tails. They looked really cute and not like, kiddy pig tails. Then, I would put up my bangs with a bobby pin in that 'poofy' style. It was great for the summer, and it looked great. Just make sure that you don't put the pigtails too high, keep them low.

Hope I helped!

♥ SiMA

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Okay so my best friend has some sorta bladder problem (i think) she goes to the bathroom like every 5 minutes. I know that nobody knows but her family. Even i dont know. (she has never talked about it) So i was wondering what are some types of bladder problems. Just because i kinda wanna know whats up. Like i know that they are bad but she really so goes every 5 minutes, it just doesnt seem normal.

I think that she may have a Urinary Tract Infection. People get UTI's when bacteria builds up in the urinary tract [[ organs that collect and store urine and release it from your body ]] Women are more likely to get UTI's compared to men.

I found this site on Google, it seems very helpful.
http://kidney.niddk.nih.gov/kudiseases/pubs/uti_ez/

Quoted from the page: "You should see your doctor if you have any of these signs or symptoms:

* burning feeling when you urinate

* frequent or intense urges to urinate, even when you have little urine to pass

* pain in your back or lower abdomen

* cloudy, dark, bloody, or unusual-smelling urine

* fever or chills"

Ask your friend if she has any of those symptoms. You obviously can't treat a UTI at home. So, she has to go to a doctor.

Hope I helped!

♥ SiMA

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What does "meet the bottom of my Nikes" mean?

I'm guessing that you got that from Ludacris' Number One Spot song? ;]] Judging from the lyrics: "Roll with the crew or meet the bottom of my nikes" means hang out with us, or go away. I'm not really sure. I've tried Google, but it's not helping. Sorry, but thats the best that I could do.

Hope I helped!

♥ SiMA

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Hi my name is brandy i am sorry that i did not make my question clear but i was asking for advice on babysitting i want to start but i just dont know how i did the flyers thing like everyone has been telling me but it just is not working for me so do you have any other advice

What did you put on the flyer? Did you put like 'i am a babysitter [[ insert number ]]'. If you did, put more information, like what ages of children you are able to sit, when you are available to babysit, how much you want to be paid, your phone number, ect. You may need more experience. If you have babysat before, put that you have a lot of experience on your flyer. In my case, I have babysat my cousins over the years. I know how to change diapers, feed babies, how to take care of toddlers, ect.

Not all children are going to be 7/8/9 years old and can find something to do by themselves. You'll need to have experience with younger children, too. Try offering to babysit your mom's friend's daughter/son. You can also volunteer or get a job at a daycare so you can be with kids.

Hope I helped!

♥ SiMA

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I'm sure all of you know about those promise rings; the ones that say you're waiting for marriage. The most popular is the one that says, "TRUE LOVE WAITS" from James Avery. Well, they're made for the Christian faith. I really want a ring like that but I'm not Christian, I'm Muslim and the crosses on the ring would defiantly not go with my religion. Does anyone where I can get one without the cross (preferably with a crescent moon and star)? Or could I possibly get one specially made from James Avery?

http://mymoonandstar.zoovy.com/category/promise_ring_sets/

Try that site.

Or..

http://search.ebay.com/search/search.dll?sofocus=bs&sbrftog=1&from=R10&catref=C6&satitle=promise+rings&sacat=-1%26catref%3DC6&bs=Search&sargn=-1%26saslc%3D2&sadis=200&fpos=ZIP%2FPostal&ftrt=1&ftrv=1&saprclo=&saprchi=&fsop=1&fsoo=1

Ebay has some simple promise rings with little stones on them.

Hope I helped!

♥ SiMA

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ok...here is how it is...i used to be a happygolucky child then my cousin changed and i acted cool like her but i was so young people thought it was cute...but now i am wearing pink clothes...listening to green day....and hard rock!!!!!! what is wrong with me? and sometimes i want to dye my hair black somtimes i come to my sences and say ..no i would look bad with it...then i turn goth and get moody...then another i am happy sweet loving child..which should i choose..and why am i going through this because i need to make a decision because i am getting new clothes and it would be stupid to be totally opposite..my friends think i am weird because i always have opposite feelings one day and another..goth..prep..punk...prep..punk..goth...it changes...for me i prefer to wear goth clothes but be quiet...but cheeerful i want to have different attitudes ..but then all this mixture is to much...plz..for the sake of pete help me!

People change. Labels are lame. Don't use them. You are your own person. If people label you, tell them to shut up. Your friends should be the ones sticking by your side no matter how you label yourself or how you dress, or what type of music you listen to. If you have different attitudes, and different styles, then why do you have to categorize yourself like that? What would you want to call yourself a preppy-goth-punk or something?

You have moods, you're not a robot. Everyone has moods. That's life. If your friends can't learn to accept you, get new ones, people who care about you and want to be around you.

Hope I helped!

♥ SiMA

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