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Hi, I'm Emily. Call me Emily or Em, I prefer either. I have been a featured columnist 2 times now. After disabling my account I had about 3 years ago, a lot has happened which made me want to come back. I feel as though helping people with their problems, helps me solve mine, even if that doesn't make a lot of sense to any of you. Don't hesitate to ask me anything, I will answer fairly quickly depending on the question. If you want a hard-thought out answer, which is what I usually give, it may take a little longer- it benefits everyone in the long run.

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what do girls use to wash down there? i've been using regular bar soap since forever and i think i should switch, but what do i use instead?

People say you aren't supposed to use anything down there because your vagina is self-cleaning and its said to make your vagina more irritated if you do use body washes and soap. If you don't feel comfortable with this however, use a mild soap.

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Hello everyone! =) I have a laptop and I've had it for a while. Last night it was working fine but then suddenly it started freezing and lagging. Then it just dropped dead in the water. I was told it overheated and I should leave it alone for the night so I did. This morning I tried turning it on again, but all it does is load the laptop's brand name "Latitude E5400" by dell. But the Windows xp won't even show after its loaded. It loads into a black screen...and don't say try the battery or F8 lol I've tried both. All it does is make a loud beeping sound and that's it.

Unfortunately, i think its time to invest in a new laptop. This same exact thing happened to me, we tried getting it fixed, but they couldn't do anything about it.


If you have a warranty, try calling the place where you got it and see if the warranty is still good.

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freidns always like call me dumb blonde or blondie. even my friends little brother is. he also slaps my butt and says hey blondie. why!?!?

Because your blonde. It's not a bad thing. Blondes have a stereotype of being dumb, its not you.

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I am a female senior in highschool and I currently like a guy who is a freshman. He's three years younger than me. Is that wrong? What should I do? I'm afraid to tell anybody because I think I'll get teased, but on the other hand I really like the guy and hes way mature for his age :) Help! Im so confused.

If you really like him, it shouldn't matter what your friends and his friends think. The age difference isn't weird. I've seen it a lot in my school, and its not a very rare situation. If you like him a lot, don't worry about what other people think. :)

Good Luck!

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I am a graduating high school student. During my elementary, I graduated as a valedictorian. that is why My parents are expecting me to do good in school and get good grades. Now, I got a grade of 77 in calculus and if they'll learn about it, they would surely be mad at me. I don't know what to do. I love my parents and I did my best but I'm not really good in math. I could not let them down... Please give me advice on what to do/say and perhaps some good study habits in Math because I think it might help.

A 77% is not a bad grade in calculus! Calc is very hard, and my mom even suggests me not taking it and taking another course instead. Its very hard, and a C+ in that class is pretty darn good.


Tell your parents you tried your best. They love you, and even if they get mad at you, they can't stay mad at you for long. Tell them you'll try and do better next semester.

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I read ur post and she meant it,I think she may want me to finger her,is that possibly what she means???

It could be. But, make sure you ask her first because she might mean something else. And make sure she wants you to do it because it would startle her if you just started doing it.

Hope I Helped!

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i have yellow spoting in my panty and wight stuff comeing out so what, should i do

Its discharge. You can't do anything about it, no matter how annoying it is. Be ready to stock up on pads/tampons (whichever you prefer) because your first period is coming!

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We were having sex when she asked me to be her gynocoligist. I know what a gynocoligist dose but is that what she's asking me to do? We are fairly young(15 and 16) thank you

Well, a gynacologist is a doctor who studies the female reproductive part- the vagina. But it seems to me like she doesn't really know what she's talking about. She wants you to be her doctor? She might have been really in the moment and just blurted out something she didn't mean to say. Don't hesitate to ask her what it means.

Sorry if i couldn't help much, if you maybe provide me with a little more info, I can answer it better, feel free to come back!

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do fake loition tans work on tan skin too? i naturally have a fairly dark olive skin tone, but i need a little more color for an upcoming event and i want to avoid tanning beds. but do those at home tanners work on already pretty dark skin? if it helps im using the neutrogena build a tan kind. will it add on to my skin tone or make it a new color all together?

You can try the neutrogena kind. I have never tried that kind before. But, from the kinds I have tried, they turned me orange and left streaks from areas i thought i rubbed in, but really didn't.

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I'm 13 and I want my bellybutton pierced. I talked to my mom and she said it was illegal and that you have to be 18. I don't want to wait until I'm 18. My bf thinks it would be really sexy if I got it done and I want to get it pierced now. I told my mom to lie for me and that I promise I'll take care of it. she wont listen! What do I do? Can I pierce it at home myself or something?

Don't pierce it yourself. Its a 100% guarantee it will get infected once, and maybe even multiple times. It should only be done by a professional.


Don't go behind your mother's wishes either. You're going to have to hide it from her, and thats hard. Don't even get yourself into that situation.


It isn't illegal, but you need to have parental consent, and your mother needs to go with you if you are under the age of 18.

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Okay so I've had a crush on this boy brian pretty much since the day I met him.. which was about a year and a half ago..we've been hooking up for the past year on and off..sometimes drunk sometimes sober.. I really want to ask him how he feels toward me because I honestly don't believe its solely physical..how do I go about asking? I need it to be casual, I'm so nervous! Thanks

Don;t be blunt. Boys are stupid and don't like to dig around the bush. They like girls who just tell them straight up, so thats the best way to do it. Don;t be nervous It sounds to me he's into you.

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I spilled coke all over my backpack today and it got on my ipod. Is there anyway to fix it!?

If it's sticky, wet a cloth, but make sure you ring it out, and dab it on your iPod. If it got inside the iPod, where all the functioning happens, there's really nothing else you can do besides spend money on a new one. It sucks, I know, I've been here before.

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Do I spit or swallow?

If your scared, don't let him pressure you into it. Ask him what he prefers.

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how can i get any guy that i want ? i really like this boy in my class but he have a girlfriend and this crush is driving me crazy i don't really know he's so hot and really cute ! what to do ?

I would reccomend to not flirt with him for the time being that he has this girlfriend. You wouldn't want to start any tension. Wait for him to be single again.

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Okay I'm 17 guy, so there is a girl I like and I believe she likes me to from the way she acts, but then again she always seems far away when we talk half the time, how should I tell her i like her alot? We've gone on one date already and hung out multiple times already, how should I ask her out long term? Thanks Em

Well from what you wrote, it seems like she's really into you. From a girls point of view, accepting a date with a guy means she likes him. Being bold is the way to go. I love guys who tell me straight up they like me or something about me. It shows their confident and honest, 2 key things in a relationship. Pop up at her locker and just ask her, or if thats too risky for you, drop her a little cute note in her locker. Girls love cute surprises.


Thanks for the question, and feel free to ask me anything else you may need help with.

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im somewhat thin, im 5'4 and 120 lbs, but i feel as if i could lose a few. if i go to the gym every day for the whole week do i have a chance of losing a pound or two? what about two weeks?

Its a possiblity. You need to diet AND exercise to loose the weight. If you want to loose a few pounds, go to the gym everyday and cut down on the junk.

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I got a bruise on both my big toenails from wearing flats that were a bit too tight. It's been more than a month since I gotten the bruise. It hasn't hurt since then and it's not causing me any discomfort. Should I go to my doctor or wait it out? Also, how long does it take for the bruised toenail to grow out?

Ow, sounds painful! :( Usually when you get a bruised toenail it falls off by itself while the new toenail grows in. When i got a bruised big toenail, it took a few months to fully come off, and then a few more months to fully grow back.


Good luck, and make sure to wear bandaids when you wear flats that are uncomfortable!

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Okay i want to get on birth control but i dont know which one to choose , i was on the shot before and it mad me blow up :/ and i know i wouldnt be able to take thee pill because i forget and loose things alot are there any good ones out there???????

No one can tell you from experience what the best type of birth control is the best, or which one works best with your body. Every kind has a certain effect, and you want to use one with the least side-affects. Such as gaining weight and making you feel nauseous. You need to ask your doctor about certain kinds and have him/her tell you professionally what kind of pill you need.

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I have tried a few different eyeliners and they all seem to be cheap or something. They end up fading off, smudging, or being smeared over and look weird and ugly at the end of the day. I have gym class this year and I don't know if it's because I have to run sometimes or what but my current eyeliner still isn't doing what I need it to do. Does anyone have a favorite eyeliner that stays on all day and doesn't look gross at the end? thanks

Maybeline Define a Line. Its my favorite and works wonders. They have a lot of colors too.

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How do you make cleaning fun?

Listen to up beat music. It gets you pumped up!

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