I'm Sarah :)
I'm a student studying for a degree in Business Management. I have an amazing boyfriend and great family and friends who all mean the world to me. Honestly I don't know what i'd do without any of them! ♥
I don't really know what to do with my life as a career, but I do love to give advice to anyone and I always try to give my 100%.
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holy sh*t
I lost my JOURNAL!!!
my parents are split up, so when I travel from house to house I put my diary at the bottom of my bag when I go to school.
I'm 15/f and I can't find it anywhere.
that book holds everything. I am a lesbian, and no one even knows it, have a huge crush on my (female) teacher, and I wrote stuff about people in my class that I hate.
My school is also TINY (private, all girls)
if someone found it and read it, everything would be all over school in a day, and I think i'd want to go to public school immediately even though I love my school.
WHAT SHOULD I DO?! should i just keep looking, or should i confront some of the people in my class, just in case they have it so i can have it back without EVERYONE knowing?
I am honestly in tears, this is the worst week of my life and I don't know what to do. PLEASE HELP!
p.s. please don't lecture me on how i need to protect things like this from getting into the wrong hands, I know that, it was my fault but I really need help with what to do right now! (link)
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Aww don't stress about it, it will turn up somewhere.
when I loose something, it's always in the first place I looked when I re-search everywhere.
Just search allround you dad's house & your mum's house and it will be there somewhere.
If you can't find it at either house, then maybe someone handed it in to lost and found, if you have one at your school?
Plus if you keep it in the bottom of your bag, how would it manage to escape into someone else's possesion?
Don't worry, you will find it! It'll probably turn up when you're not looking for it.
Sarah
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I've been on birth control for about 4 or 5 months now, and I've never missed a pill. But last weekend I took it about an hour later than usual, and ended up having sex. We didn't use a condom, but I still took my pill that day, what do you think the odds are of me being pregnant? (link)
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You should be fine, most birth control pills should be taken within 12 hours, then after that you should use extra contraception and take the missed pill.
But if you're on the mini-pill this is 3 hours usually.
If you forgot to take it after these hours and you forgot to take more than one, then it would probably have an effect on the effectiveness of the pill.
But either way, you were only an hour late, so you should be alright :)
Sarah
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me and my best friend love eachother. everyone is trying to get us together as in dateing. but i want to but im just scared. im never scared to do anything. and im never scared to talk to guys or even the ones i like im not afraid to make a fool of myself i do what i want when i want im never afraid to do anything. but im just afraid to loose him again. we tried dating before but it fell apart and we grew apart but were bestfriends again. we love eachother but im afraid to loose my bestfriend again. but i wana go out with him. we said if we would go out wed never loose being bestfriends. id die with out him. i wana date him but then i dont wana loose him like last time. what do i do so we dont break up? or so we stay friends? or so im not as afraid? can you list the pros and cons please. help me this is the only bad part about your best friend being a guy. to marrow is the last day or school and i need help by 6am or its over my life is over. i neeed help asap. please im desperate. be harsh be anything just help me (link)
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Well as the last time you dated each other fell apart, it doesn't make a good start for dating again. I certainly wouldn't advise trying it a third time. If it doesn't work out this time, then you know you're just destined to be best friends and nothing more.
You could go for it and do a trial and see how it goes for a couple of weeks. Then if it feels too weird or like you'd prefer to be friends, then you could break it up and you should hopefully still be friends.
Unfortunately there's nothing you can do to stop you from breaking up or staying friends afterwards, things just work themselves out. If it's mean to happen then it will.
You're probably just scared that it might be weird & that you'll loose him. So just relax and think about things properly before you make any decisions. Only you can decide what's best for you.
Maybe talk to him about it all and then see how you feel afterwards.
Sarah
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This is the deal , I'm jealous. I'm a very jealous person.. and my last boyfriend broke up with my for being too jealous. So I have this new boyfriend.. who I've been on and off with for the past year or so. Recently he told me he has been going to his neighbors house once and a while ( at night ) when she has a friend over. His neighbor happens to be one of my firends (nota close friend) but shes my friend and shes 14 and shes gorgeous. So he asked me if this was alright just to hangout and stuff and I was like sure I guess.. however he told me he stayed untill 4 in the morning. He is planning on doing it again this weekend and he is totally honest with me and tells me what they do which is watch movies and just hangout . I want to tell him I dont like when he does this... but i dont want him to think I'm obbsessive. What should I do? Am I over-jealous? (link)
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No I don't think you're over jealous. I wouldn't like it if my boyfriend was hanging round at another girls house til 4 in the morning even if they were just watching movies.
I'd rather that he was with me or at his own house or something.
I think you should just tell him how you feel, that is upsets you cos you want him to spend time with you and not his neighbour, but tell him you don't mind him spending time with other people but not til ridiclous times in the morning or something.
Hopefully he won't see that as possesive, you can't hold your feelings in about these things or it will just eat away at you and then eventually you will come off as jealous and obsessive.
Just be honest with him and it should all be ok.
Sarah
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Today at work my friend Ginny (who is thin and 5 feet 6 inches tall) helped Sharon (a customer who is around 5 feet tall). Sharon told Ginny that Sharon liked the shoes Ginny is wearing and Ginny has big feet not small feet like Sharon due to the fact Sharon has to shop for shoes in the kids department. MY QUESTION: (1) SHOULD GINNY BE INSULTED; and (2) how can Ginny avoid personal conversations with Sharon? (link)
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I don't think that Ginny should take offence in that Sharon liked her shoes. That sounds like a compliment to me.
Ginny could avoid personal conversations with Sharon by avioding her, if she's a customer then you don't really have to make a lot of conversation with her do you? Or you could get someone else to deal with her in future.
I think that you should probably ignore the comments about clothes size, if you know Ginny is a size 6, then you know that. Maybe cos Sharon is so small, they seem big to her? So she could be jealous of Ginny's thin figure?
Might be ideal for Ginny to stay clear of Sharon for a bit and don't answer any questions that she doesn't want to answer.
Also if it really bothers Ginny that much about the clothes size, then she should deffinately confront Sharon about it.
Sarah
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okay me and my friends are friends for 2 years.i told my friend that im moving to china this year and i dont think im gonna come back , last month we were doing good but this month she's acting weird because im leaving in 3 or 2 weeks and she doesnt really talk to me all of the sudden shes quite, and feels like shes ignoring me she looked pretty sad and all i asked her whats wrong she just said nothing and just kept walking is she sad because im leaving or she doesnt like me at all? (link)
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I think she's really upset that you're leaving. It's not that she doesn't like you, she just doesn't want to be close you to so that it doesn't hurt as much when you're gone.
Imagine if you were in her situation, you'd be pretty up set too right?
Try talking to her and tell her that you'll stay in touch via e-mail/msn or letters or something and that you'll see her sometimes (that's if you plan on visiting).
That may help cheer her up. But try to be understanding, hopefully you can see her point of view of this.
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ok my hair is kinda wavy and a little thick but more pooffy than anything is there anyting i can do to de-poof it?
and are there any hairstyles i can do without straightening my hair that will look ok and show my natural wave? My hair is a lil longer than my Shoulders.
i straighten my hair almost everyday cuz i dont have anything else to do with it plz help. (link)
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My hair used to be thick too, but I found that when I got it thinned out and layered at the hairdressers this really worked and was great. Now its really manageable and I don't have to straighten it everyday like I used to. Could be an idea?
Plus straightening isn't all that good as it damages your hair, espeically if it's longish. Make sure you're using heat protection.
Or you could use some hair serums to keep the frizz down and that will also make your hair a lot more manageable.
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Hi I was wondering if there is something I can do to help me wake up in the morning. No matter how early I go to sleep, it is impossible for me to get up. It's kind of to a point where I'm thinking maybe something is wrong with me.
-No matter how early I go to sleep, I am still SUPER tired in the morning.
-My mom has to wake me up in the morning because I don't wake up to an alarm- i sleep right through it.
-I've tried OTC sleeping medicine-doesn't help
-Drinking hot milk/tea before bed-doesn't help
-When I wake up my mom has to like shake me and usually I fall back asleep very quickly- then she will come back and she is mad at me. I really can't help falling back asleep because I'm not exactly conscious yet.
-I usually don't have a problem falling asleep, just waking up.
-Usually if when I finally wake up which takes me like 35 minutes, I can BARELY open my eyes until I get in the shower.
If you can help me or know a way or medicine to make me WAKE UP in the morning that would be great. I'm asking now so that I'll be able to get in a habit for next school year. Oh yeah btw Im
14/F
Thankyou!!! (link)
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This may sound strange, but sometimes the more sleep you get, the more tired you feel.
It sounds as though you could be a little iron defficient, so try taking some iron tablets or eating foods rich in iron. Some good sources are:
-canned beans
-baked potato with pasta
-enriched pasta
-turkey
-sardines
-shrimp
-beef
You could probably find out more information by typing iron defficieny into Google.
Also you could try exercising more regularly, this is supposed to boost endorphine and adrenaline levels and should make you feel more awake almost immediately.
Or you could try rubbing your ears for a couple of minutes till they feel like a burning sensation. The ear is said to be a minature representation of the body, and so by rubbing them, it is cirulating the blood and oxygen around your body.
If you're worried about the problem & it is becomming an annoyance, your GP is probably the best person to see and they will be able to figure out the problem and help you.
Hope that helped, Sarah.
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i really need help!
i need advice from BOTH girls and guys
my nipples are hugee!
like im a size 36D
and my nips take up like 3/4's of my boob!
i have 2 question...
1) Do guys like that!!??
2) im kind of heavy so if i lose a little weight will it shrink along with the boob?? (link)
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Guys like any kind of boobs, all sizes, big nipples or small nipples. They won't be bothered by the size of your nipples at all. They'll be too happy that they're seeing boobs.
Unfortunately they won't shrink if you loose weight, they'll always be that size.
But it's nothing to feel self-concious about, there're loads of women that have large nipples.
Sarah
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i have an nano ipod. and i use itoons to put my songs on it and i have to pay for it. which sucks. does anyone know anything i can use to get songs for free??? (link)
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Limewire. You can get 1000's of songs for free which is good :)
Just type it into Google and it comes up with numerous links.
But it can sometimes give you a virus, so make sure you have a good anti-virus checker enabled and that should sort it out.
Sarah
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when you are on your period do you gain or lose weight?
thanks (link)
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During your period, your body doesn't gain weight, most people feel a little bloated but that isn't noticeable to anyone else but yourself.
It all depends on you & your genes. Everyone's different so it affects them in different ways. Some may feel bloated while others never have this symptom. Or others may have painful periods and others don't.
Weight gain or bloatedness around the stomach, ankles or wherever is caused by extra fluid in your body called water retention. To reduce the effects of this, it could be an idea to cut back on salty foods the week before your period.
Sarah
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Ok well I'm eating dinner with my friends Before my grad how how can I brush my teeth?
I can't go home because one of my friend's parent's are driving all of us straight to the school after and I have braces so I'd look terrible with chunks in my teeth if I don't! (link)
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Take a tooth brush with you to your friend's, brush your teeth there, I'm sure your friend won't mind. Then leave it at there's and pick it up later.
Or you could buy a disposable tooth brush and just throw it away after you've used it.
Or if you're not eating at your friend's house then buy a disposable tooth brush and brush them at the place you're eating at. No one will mind and you can just throw it away straight after.
Sarah
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Don't say ballet is not a sport because in one way or another, it is. And so I'm pretty sure it goes under sports...but carrying on.
Anyways, I'm currently 14/f and finishing up 9th grade. I'll be turning 15 in July [I don't know if that helps squat to my question].
When I was 7 or 8, I took ballet for 3 months? And I ended up quitting because I got sick really easily and I wasn't exactly the patient little girl.
Now I want to take ballet again but I don't know if I should or shouldn't. Do you think it would be weird for a 14 year old girl that is almost 15 to start ballet from the very beginning? Should I even take ballet or not? If yes, will I be put in a class by age or experience/level? If by level, will I be in a class with little girls? What can I do ahead of time [way before any class starts] for ballet? (link)
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You could read up about ballet and try doing some exercise so that your body is ready for the new streins from muscles you've maybe not used in a while, then you'll find that you'll be able to do some of the moves better when you start.
You might be put in a beginners class, but I'm sure there would be one for your own age group, and even if you are with little girls for a bit, you'll advance quicker than them and you'll soon be with people of your own age.
If you're worried about your figure then take up exerise and that should help or eat more healthily, but to be honest, it doesn't matter what size you are. Everyone is able to do ballet and size doesn't matter at all.
Sarah
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Is it okay to lick a vagina during sex? Me and my spouse haven't tried sex and we are newly wedded but I'm just making sure if is it okay to lick a vagina. (link)
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Yes it's okay to lick a vagina, it's called oral sex and it can be very pleasurable and is great foreplay. As long as you know your partner doesn't have a STI then it should be a great experience for you both.
A lot of people have oral sex, you could find out more information about it by googling it.
Sarah
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ok, so drinking water helps you lose water weight? technically, how does water help you lose weight? what effect does it have on your body? (link)
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It stops you from dehydrating, but drinking too much water puts you at risk of water intoxication, which can be fatal.
Water helps you to loose water weight/weight is just a myth, sorry.
It just detoxs your body and helps keep you healthy.
Sarah
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So, my boy & have have been dating for 2 & a half years..we r both 18 & we r going to college next year...our relationship has been sort of rocky latly which sucks. yesterday we got out of school at 1 & he was going to call me after he went to best buy with his bestfriend. we were supposed to hang out but he never ended up calling me & ditched me for his friend. He has done this A LOT... & every time i get mad, not only because we didnt hang but that he didnt call me to tell me what was going on.. i no they are best friends & dont want to come between them but they are in the same classes, work together, and hang out ALL of the time.. i told my boy that if it happens again i would dump him.. idk what else to do. im losing all trust in him but still want to make it work & if we do break up..all of my friend wont hang with me anymore kas they are his friends to...please help...any advice???!! (link)
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I understand that you must be feeling pretty torn about this, relationships are hard and both people need to put the effort into them to make them work. It sounds like you're the one that's putting most effort into it at the moment.
If you feel that the spark's gone, you could try inviting him over and lighting a few candles, play some sexy music and getting romantic or something.
Come up with some romantic ideas to put the spark back into your relationship, that should help with getting him to spend a lot more time with you instead of his mate.
Tell him how you feel, if your friends are true friends then they will stand by you no matter what. Don't worry what they'll think if you break up, it's your life and you can't put yourself in confusion and missery just because you're scared of what they'll think of you.
Hope that helps, if you want me to help you any more, just ask :)
Sarah
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theres this song i hear on the radio frequently and it starts off as
badadada badadada badadada da da da take a look at my girlfriend...etc
whats the name of the song (link)
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"Cupid's Chokehold" by Gym Class Heros :)
Sarah
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my girlfriend is confused about what she wants to do carear wise, she says she doesnt want to go to uni, but i think she shud get some qualifications at the least even at a deploma at a college, she says she may want to be an advice coloumnist. what do you think she should? p.s. blowjobs do give girls large boobs lol (link)
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Blowjobs don't give girls large boobs & you know that lol.
I think your girlfriend will figure it out in time, maybe she should take a gap year to decide?
It's sometimes hard to find the right information about universitys and the courses that they offer.
Being an advice columnist would be good, but it could be hard to get a job in this area as it is quite popular.
Sarah x
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my and my best mate have fallen out with this girl big style. we all used to be real close but alice sed rach was trying to act older than see is, even tho alice is younger than us and wanting to go clubbing! this meant me and rach have drifted from alice. coz she annoyed us sooooooo much we set up a fake website with a well fit boy and we got her thinking he really likes her. but now she wants to meet him. my mate thinks its a well good idea, but i think its a bit harsh. but coz of what she did shud we go thru with it? (link)
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Even though she may annoy you, a fake account is one thing but letting her meet up with someone and then turn up to be stood up is another thing. It could really hurt her psychologically.
It might seem like a good idea, but it could leave the both of you feeling really guilty, plus you'd have to hide it from her if you ever got back to being good friends again.
So what seems like fun now, could turn into something really nasty, especially if she finds out it was you & your friend.
Sarah
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when teenage couples hug (guy/girl)
do the guys arms go around
then shoulders
or the waiste?
and same question 4
the girls? thanx (link)
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It depends on how tall/short the girl/boy are and how what feels most comfortable.
Girls arms would probably go around the boys waist if they're shorter than them and guys either round the waist or shoulders, either's good :)
Sarah
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