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When ever i go over to my bf house we always do stuff, so the last time i went i over there i didn't really want to do anything, so when we wen't on his bed i put my head on his chest. This worked for like 10 min then he got ontop of me, when he started touching me i said no, but he's like are you sure and blah so he would wait and then do it again, he just kept going and going. Anyways i know i should talk to him about it but i don't want to hurt his feelings or anything, i don't think he actually relized what he did. I know he doesn't want to force me to do anything but he is, how should i tell him without actually hurting his feelings or making him feel bad?

Well, there isnt ever really a way to tell someone something without making them feel bad, espacially about something like this, understand? just tell him that you dont mean to sound mean or rude but that you have to tell him what he is doing to you. i mean, if you dont speak up about it soon then he will keep on doing what he's doing, No means NO and that's what he couldnt understand. just talk to him in a relaxed manner...like, not so upset.
tell him how you feel, and if he likes you then he would understand and he would talk to you about it without hesitation.

sam

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M/18. Me and my best friend talk on messenger all the time and we both have talked about how we have feelings for each other. Before we knew how we felt about each other, I could talk to her all day until my face turned blue. But now, I feel like I need to impress her since we will be starting something soon. So now whenever I am with her, it seems like I can't think of anything to say. It was so much easier when we were just best friends to get something out of my mouth. It's even getting more difficult on messenger. I don't know how to fix it. Somebody help me.

Just talk to her like you did before. I mean, just becuz you and her have a thing going on now doesnt mean that you cant talk to her the same way. Who knows, maybe you and her were better as friends....but thats just my opinion. Try to stay confident when you are talking to her and then you will be comfortable with her again, she's not asking you to impress her she's asking you to (basically) be there for her and he her "boyfriend," so trying to impress people doesnt help.....sometimes it only makes things worse if you try too hard(dont take that the wrong way tho). Just be yourself....i think thats what she likes about you.

good luck
sam

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When a guy puts his arm around a girls waist do u think the girl should put her arm around his waist or like his shoulders??

it doesnt really matter. But i prefer sholders....^_~

sammie

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ok i have a friend that is so called in love with this boy they only met once and she though that they will last forever but now he doesn't even try to call her he calls me non stop and now she thinks i like him but i don't. i don't want to loseany of my friends as of right now. so what should i do

Not trying to sound rude or mean, but you should set that one guy straight and tell him that he should stop calling you. The next thing that you should do is talk to your friend about what is going on and then she will understand, then you wont lose anyone. Also, its in your friends nature to think that you like that guy and for that guy to like you becuz of the fact that, that guy keeps calling you. Everything will be ok once you get to the bottom line of it all.
Just stay calm and talk it out with the peepers.
LOL!!

Sammie

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well im only 13 years old...and ive just recentaly lost my virginty to my boyfriend...and now that i did have sex with him he dosent call me that much or come and see me ....i think he might of just used me ...but im not sure??? what should i do?

Whatever you do..dont freak out too much. And yes i suppose he did use you. Sweetheart, i kno that you regret losing your virginity to some freak, but dont ever regret anything that you took action in when you kno that you wanted to. The reason i said "no regrets" is becuz now you kno that he is an idiot and you learned for yourself. Sometimes its better to learn on your own FROM regret.
Just stay cool and stay protected!

Sam ^_~

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14/m i kinda like this girl but i don't know if i want to go to go out with her. The reason i don't want to go out with her is that i don't know what my friends will think. I know that sounds bad but i don't know if i can choose her over keeping my reputation with my friends. I think she might ask me out and i don't know what to do. please help.

When she asks you out make sure that you LIKE her. If you do like her now then i think that you should give it a chance, i mean, everyone deserves one. Dont you think? LOL! Honestly, i kno that you MAY have a reputation, but that doesnt mean that you would lose your friends. Come on, if either one of your friends liked a girl that you wouldnt exactly approve of, you wouldnt stop them from going out with whomever they wanted to go out with, right? So, they shouldnt tell you who you can and can not go out with.
I just think you should give that special girl a chance (if you like her).

hope i helped sweetie
sam

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Hey im 14and have never had a b/f and i really like this boy at school. But i go to a school where if anything happens everyone will kno in 5 minutes. This kid i like is real popular and im not really. In 6th grade we would hang out alot but now im in 8th and we dont talk that much. I want to tel him i like him but i dont kno if i should. Then if i did everyone in school would kno and i waould be the lauging stock in the school for like someone way more popular than me. I was gonna have my friend tell him for me but i was then having second thoughts. I dont kno what do do please help!!!

Whatever you do, dont send your friends to do your dirty work. Your supposed to be the one to tell someone that you like them on your own, than the guy would know that you have confidence in yourself and guys like that. If you approach him in school more often and attempt to get into casual conversations, then you and him would get to be more comfortable with eachother. Then when you two get to know eachother more, and if you still like him, then you can tell him how you feel. It'd be easier that way.

Go and get your man...!! ;)
sammie

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Me and my boyfriend have been dating for about three months. We havent kissed yet, but i think i want to. How should i tell him??

The reason you two havent kissed is because your boyfriend is too shy to make the first move. Now its your time to go in for the kill. Wait for the right time (when no one is around) and then kiss him. Maybe if you did that, your boyfriend would be more comfortable with kissing you from then on.
he's just shy...

sam

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i am 16/f and my boyfriend is 18/m we are both virgins and we are in love with each other.. for sure .. i know what hes in this relationship for and i feel like having sex with him.. not to just f*ck but to share something with him that neither of us have experienced.. do you think this is a bad idea? do you think ill regret it? will peopel look at me differently?
signed--
stonecoldmystery

If, what you have with your boyfriend, is completly special then i think that you should wait. I kno that it sounds bad...but if you did go all the way then you would wish you would have waited. So, you might regret it even tho you think you wouldnt. A really close friend of mine regrets it. But its your choice...im just your opinion.

think about it
sam

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i like two guys but i only told one of them i lliked them and the other is my ex but he thinks i dont like him ne more. and the guy i told that i liked him im starting to not like him no more. and i want to have my ex back realli badly but hes gotta gf.plz help. from 15/female/new jersey

If you dont want the other guy anymore than let him go. your ex on the other hand....if you like him then you can wait for him, right? just to see what happens. dont rush into telling him how you feel just YET. wait for a little while and hang out with him as just a friend. i kno that it would be hard but i kno that you can do it if you really think he's worth it.

sam

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my best friend likes a guy who is a total *beep* and he leads her on then pushes her away. he wont make up his mind. he tells her he likes her but when she says she likes him and can theygo out he gets all wierd and just says shut up or lol or some stupid stuff. i dont know how to help her ne more. I need advice now.

I kno that this is going to sound SO simple and probably meaningless...but i think you should just leave her alone and let your frined find out on her own. I mean, if she is just letting everything you say go through one ear and come out of the other, then i think is time that YOU DO give up trying to help. everybody learns from their mistakes and when she learns from this one then she will realize what a great friend she has for trying to warn her.

stay cool
sammie

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I have this guy friend and we are like best friends no dout but I knida really like him and everyone thinks he kindof likes me. I dont know if I should go out with him or not because his guy best friend likes me too and I dont want to ruin thier friendship or our friendship
Please Help::f/13::I rate high

Maybe you should just not go out with you guy friend at all...there's a reason for that tho. The reason is that if you go out with your friend and you guys had a bad break up then that would ruin the whole friendship. Possibly if you DID go out with your friend...maybe it could work out. Also, about your friend's best friend, you should talk to him and tell him that you only want to be friends with him only because of the fact that you see him better that way. Im sure he would understand if you elaborated on the reasoning more.

good luck sweetie
sam

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My sister is sooo annoying whenever i eat popcorn she goes "POPCORN HOGG!" I like popcorn but not THAT much. She is soo annoying. What should i do???

Since she is your sister she is gonna say things like that to you. If she says something else like that then eat more of the popcorn OR you could just ignore her and not talk to her at all, that would make her so mad and then she wont do it anymore.

hope i helped
sammie

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So my best friend was having a panic attack today because her mom found out she was homosexual and liked a teacher. Her mom supposedly called her teacher and told her everything. I have done all I can to help, but the thing is that her mother didn't want her to stay at home and so she went to her grandma's, but her mother didn't want her there either. Am I supposed to let her sleep over at my house?

Whatever you do...dont show that you are worried becuz your friend will get even more scared. If her mom wants to be that way then, so be it. I think that you should take charge and let her stay at your house for a little while. I think that her parents will take her back in sooner than you kno it.

good luck sweetie
sam

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14/f
Last thursday I was talking to the guy I like on the phone and I think I heard him say Will you go Out with me but he said it hecka quite so I wasnt sure then I was just like what I cant hear u and I thought he said will you go out with me again but he said it so softly i wasnt sure... so i was just quite... then all of of sudden hes just where are you at and completely changed the subject... I am confused... I want him to ask me out right and now im scared cause if he did ask me out he is bably be too scared to say it again... and I need a way for him to do it... but then if he just said something else and I didnt hear him correctly I dont want to be like yea i wanna go out with you cause that would be embarresing thats the reason i was just quite... but now as i get to thinking maybe i want him to ask me so badly im hearing things...if that makes any sense please help...I was thinking of trying to get who he likes out of him but when i asked him today all he could say was i dont know...
what do i do?

You should ask him what he had said on the phone that night, in person. So then there wouldnt be a big misunderstanding between the both of you. Then when u find out what he said you can be relieved that it is off of your chest. Who knows, what if he DID ask you out? It would be so much better to hear it in person, huh?

lol!! good luck sweetheart
sammie

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hi im 14 and i got my period in august and i only got it once and i hadnt had it since..august! i know im not pregnant! do i have cancer or an infection?? someone help me!

Okay sweetheart. Dont worry. This happens to a lot of girls so dont let yourself stress too much. Its just, you may have abnormal periods. All you have to do is go to the doctor and get yourself checked. They will know what to do with that situation. Otay.

It'll be otay
sammie

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There's this guy I like I mean a lot he sits next to me in all the classes we have together (which is most of them 2) and were like really good friends And I asked him out he said yes!But he likes this other girl on and off! But what i've heard is he likes me more and now he hates her! But they still talk (like friends)and when i'm around him it feels like were just friends! How do I make him mine, and make him like my real bf?

People that were friends before they started to date are gonna be a little bit stuck on the fact that they were friends in the first place. But dont doubt the relationship tho. Keep going on with it...but just step it up a little bit...oh oh i've got one!! you can walk up behind him and give him a hug from behind and then hold both of his hands. That would be really cute..^_^ Or you can try other things. Just do what your heart sets for you to do.

hope i helped and good luck sweetie...
sammie

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I have a new boyfriend and things are going great, but I can't help but shy away. I really want to get close to him, but I have been hurt before and I don't want to get hurt again. Does anyone know how to break down the walls that I have built up to protect myself? I would really appreciate it. Thanks...

Its very common for girls ,that have been hurt, to feel like this. being shy is only the start of a relationship that you want to last for a while. Try not to think about the past and try to focus on now. I kno that the guy that you have now should be a great one, so dont shy away from that. I kno that you have it in you to break down those walls.
I kno that this is going to sound simple, but try to get into a conversation, then you and him can talk a lot more and fell comfortable with eachother.

good luck sweetie,
sammie ^_^

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theres this guy that i almost went out with like a year ago but it never happened. a few months ago we started hooking up. were not really friends but i really like him and i dont know how to tell him because i dont want to ruin hanging out with him if he doesnt like me .. how should i tell him? or see if he likes me?

OH MY GOODNESS! wow, this is what is happening with me and this one guy i think i like. Ok...if you write him a note and tell him how you feel then he will probably like that. Or if you want to tell him in person then do that(he would probably like that better). Just tell him how you feel..if yall were hooking up a little bit then i think that he will understand and he might like you back..

hope i helped sweetie..
sam

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hey, I asked you a question a little while ago..like a few weeks or something and you told me to write back. Ok well what my question was before is that like if you thought this boy might like me...lol the one that was like "you did not just touch my girl friend" well yeah anyways you told me to post back and tell you if i liked him to and i REALLY do! lol but I had been keeping it a secret with just this one firend of mione (who i really trust) and then my other firend foud out somehow (who like found out last year that i liked this one kid and asked him out for me when i really didnt want her to and he said no and she's done it a bunch of times to like every bo i've ever liked =( but i really liked this one boy now so i didnt want her to find out but she did) but she found out and she used to be friends with him so she got his sn and she asked him if he would go out with me and he said no =( and i was totally bummed b/c he likes these 2 other girls that are both wicked popular and pretty and both have boyfirends allready and he would never have a chance with them! and like he's not the best looking and he's pretty short but for soem reason i just really liked him and now i'm so upset that he doesn't like me! and like when i found out that other guys wouldn't go out with me I was fine with it, but when i found out he didnt like me I like cried b/c i just really liked him and i could've cared less if he had liked me or not I just liked talking to him and i would go to school every day even when i felt sick b/c i would just look forward to talking to him and now he doesn't talk to me at all! in the halls he just walks by me and stares! I'm just so bummed =( and like i'm not bad looking or anything b/c every one always tells me i'm pretty..like even this wicked cute guy whos in 9th grade thought i was pretty and i just don't know why he wouldn't go out with me b/c like when we were around each other it was just so osm =/ but now i guess he doesn't like me so it just totally stinks! and i still think about him all the time and like i just can't get over him! what should i do??

time like this are hard. And i kno that you cant get over that one special someone that you like so effin much. i still like this one guy, but im forcing myself not to like him becuz of the simple fact that i kno that i cant have him. what a coincidence huh. the thing that i think that you should do is just stay away from him and give it a break. Later i think that he will be worrying about why u dont talk to him and he will ask you about it. Ya kno. and then you and him can get reaquainted with eachother. who knows, maybe his feelings will change about u, cuz anything is possible. i really like this guy that i am liking on now....but i kno he's worth it so that is why im waiting. i kno that you are a great person..so i kno that you can wait.

good luck sweetie
sam

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