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I'm Almedina. I'm foreign, and I'm pretty much ready to handle whatever life throws at me. Ha, pretty random that I go from being foreign to life,but anyways. I've had this column for about two yearsnow, and I don't update it as I should, or want to but with school and this crazy teenage life of mine, it gets pretty hard to do so. I've been giving advice to all my friends since I can remember and I love trying to help them. I'm out going and extrememly loud once you get to know me. I'm usually shy at first unless I've gotten to know you. I don't understand life sometimes. But I've got my whole life to figure out the meaning of it. I'm selfish at times, and stubborn. I care too much about things I shouldn't and not enough about the MOST important things in my life. I'm very annoyed with people at times, and tend to just block everyone out. I'm afraid to say I'm in love, but I'm not afraid of love itself. I'm myself and that's all I can be. I've gone through a lot, so I'm willing to help in whatever way I can (:

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so heres the thing...i think im overreacting but i just wanted to make sure...

Ive been on the pill for like 6 months now and have become sexually active. Tonight i had sex ( he was in me for like 3 min) with my b.f and he didn't have a condom but he didn't cum (he has a hard time with that) should i be worried? im just at the end of my cycle and should get my period soon, which would explain my cramps, but i just wanted another opinion. thanks in advance

A guy doesn't have to completely ejaculate for the sperm to meet the egg. Just one sperm is all it takes, and there's sperm even if he does withdraw. If you're on the pill you should be fine though, plus if you get your period then you know you're fine. But if you don't get your period, I'd either talk to my doctor or my mom.

i have really thick wavy hair. its really pretty, but its too thick.
i like my hair in layers, and i have side bangs. i want it cut a little above my shoulders, not too short.
my question is, exactly how do the people cutting your hair make it thin? and can i still have layers?
thanks!!

My friend gets her hair thinned out and they just use these special kind of scissors to thin it out. You can still have layers, or any other hair style it just will be thinner.

im 15 and im a tomboy and i heard this boy...lets call him DF wants to ask me out i have never been asked out before and i have never liked a boy before and i dont want to be mean and say no but i dont want to go out on a date with him what should i do and thank you to whoever takes the time to answer this thanks alot PPPEEEAAACCCEEE OOOUUUTTT

I don't get what you're trying to really ask? If you like him, why not say yes? If you don't like him, just tell him that. Honesty is the key. Tell him and you don't really see him like that but he's a good friend which you wanna keep hanging out with and such. Just because you're a tomboy doesn't mean that there are hotties out there that would love to ask you out :)

my sweet 16s coming up and i'm wondering who i should invite i mean like do i invite the friends of my friends who i don't really talk to? or just like everyone in my school or what? i'm totally clueless

Word of advice - DON'T invite just anyone. Trust me, you'll probably end up with drama, problems, etc. Invite people who you talk to regularly & usually, because after all it is your sixteenth and you want to spend it with people whom you get along with and you like. Have fun.

there is a girl in my school who makes these totes and sells them and they sell pretty well. but, i was thinking of selling something because i really need the money. but, i can't think of anything. i don't wanna make jewelry because that wouldn't sell so well. I want to sell something more original, but what? keychains,? like really pretty keychains with crystals.... but how would i go around promoting them?? Because if I make flyers or something and pass them around, it will look too desperate. I want it to look elegant.

any help is appreciated
thank you

Have your friends & people who may not be your close friends advertise it for you. By this I mean, they can wear it & if people like that item it'll catch their eye and they'll ask where they got it from.

14/f
my boyfriend and i have been going out for about a month. we go to different schools, but were both friendly with each other's friends. we dont see eachother THAT often, but were really close and we talk all day and everyday. my problem with him is that his friends disrespect me and make rude comments about me. i mainly ignore it, but its starting to really piss me off. and what bothers me most about it is that sometimes my boyfriend would laugh along with their nasty jokes. i know they dont really mean anything by it, but its constantly happening. should i continue to ignore it or talk to my boyfriend..? thanks in advance!!

Talk to your boyfriend about it because if you don't the situation will probably worsen causing other problems. Don't let anyone disrespect you in any way. Plus if you're boyfriend respects you, he'll talk to his friends about it.

I have a Blackjack, and on AT&T you can have them tell you how many minutes you have left in a text. When i read the text it says how many minutes i have, and then at the bottom it says N&W: Unlimited. What does this mean?

Nights & Weekend minutes are unlimited meaning you can use those minutes all the time in that time frame without them going against your usage.

is there anything wrong with anal sex??.. i did it over the weekend and yea, i liked it.. hurt really badly, but i liked it. thanks for the advice!!

No there's nothing wrong with anal sex. If you're into that kind of stuff, that's your own personal business. :)

heyy sorry to bother you again; its lindsay
soo i uploaded some pics on photobucket and copied the html or whatever and i put it in the about me section on here but it didnt show up!?

Oh well it was a while ago,when it did work for me,but I'll try to find out how to do it,if it still works,and I'll let you know. Sorry :[

heyy this is lindsay from SWEETXLOVE and i was just wondering if there was any possible way to put more pictures on my profile? thank you!

Yeah, just go to photobucket.com or tinypic.com doesn't matter which one you use,but once you upload the picture,put it in your profile about me box using the HTML code. That should work,last time I tried it was about a year ago,but if it doesn't work just come back,I'll help you more. (:

i have brown hair & i wanna die it blonde. but i want all different shades of blonde not just one blonde color u know? and i googled it, but i can't different shades of blondes on people. like i dont want too much brown in the hair, just some & then allll different blonde shades mixed in (:

please send pictures and links

Just when you go to your stylist ask her for blond highlights that are in all different kind of shades,she should know what you're talking about. I just got my hair done,about a month ago and I got different shades of blond on top (but I've also had blond hair before so those shades were there as well) and then I asked her for dark brown underneath.

http://i154.photobucket.com/albums/s253/almiexsalomie/003.jpg

http://i154.photobucket.com/albums/s253/almiexsalomie/012.jpg

what is making out? is it like frenching for a long time, or what?

It's kissing,but with the use of tongue - usually for a long time.

http://www.wikihow.com/Make-Out

Does anyone know where i can watch gossip girl online (the most recent episode....Seventeen Candles) YOutube seems to have deleted all of the videos (its says that Warner Bros. Deleted them for copyright infringment). and i can't find a website that has it....OR does anyone know when teh CW will post it on thier site?

I don't think there's a site where you can watch the series online but I know there's a repeat of that week's show on Sundays at 6PM. This site has some things on it, but it's like bits and pieces, but try it out.

http://cw11.trb.com/entertainment/network/gossipgirl/

well im 15f and i was woundering
lets say you were giving head to a boy
and then he told you to swallow and you did
and the sperm got in your boddy would you get pregnet
and if you were getting fingered and then the boy touched him self and he touched the sperm and he then he fingered you back
with sperm on his hand still would you get PREGNET?

You can't get pregnant when you swallow the sperm because it hasn't gotten in contact with your egg, but if he fingers you, touches him self, and then fingers you back with sperm on his hand, there's a big chance that you can get pregnant because the sperm can come in contact with the egg.

Okay so i want to ask this girl to winter formal, i went to prom with her last year, and my best friend, who happens to be her best friend says that she would definitely say yes if i asked her, but i dont know how i want to ask her, i mean i want to do something special, but i cant think of any ideas, last year for example, when i asked her to prom i left a bunch of roses in her mailbox, and they said to look out her window, and i asked her then, but what should i do to now, i need help.
if it helps im a junior... thanks

If you've ever watched any of the Laguna Beach episodes during the dances, they have AMAZING ideas. But you could surprise her by being in her room with a poster that has some catchy phrase, or anything simple like "Winter formal.. with me?" You could ask her parents to help you think of something (and also this will help so they don't get spooked out if you do something crazy, lol.) You could leave a trail of roses, along the drive way leading into her living room where you can be standing there with a bouquet of roses, in a candle lit room & then simply asking her would you go to winter formal with me? I think that would be AMAZINGLY adorable, and a for sure yes! Good luck.

okay so, i had CellularOne before, but US Cellular bought them out in my town in Kansas, and i am DYING for a Motorola MOTO Q, and I was looking on ebay and it said the the phone worked for CellularOne and some other providers, but will it work with US Cellular if it works for CellularOne?

I'm pretty sure it would, if US Cellular bought them. Plus doesn't pretty much any phone work for any company? I'm sure it does, but call one of the reps in your area to make sure, so you don't go buy it and then it not be able to work.

Hi, Alma! I am a girl, and I am completely straight, but I think you are really pretty!!! I was wondering if you had any diet tips for someone who is overweight 20 lbs.

Hey, thanks :] To lose weight, you have to really stick to a diet and exercise - so try to get someone who will motivate you and keep you going :] Cutting out soda - completely; will help you lose weight [over a one month period.] My friend's mom cut out soda out of her diet and lost about 10 pounds in a month. Also avoid fats - almost none, or completely none. But as we all know, that's impossible so sparingly eating fats & oils is the best solution. Also do cardio exercises three times a week for about 20-40 minutes at a time. There's plenty of magazines that can help you choose and demonstrate different workouts. The key to losing weight is to eat more smaller meals, less calories, a workout, and to STAY MOTIVATED. Don't give up on yourself if you don't see results ASAP, because you won't until after a little while. Good luck :]

kay first off when i finger myself sometimes the inside of my vagina is all slimy and like the sides of it (on the inside) are like buldgy? haha idk what to explain it as. then other times its not. its like nto slimy.. idk... and i was wondering about girls cum.. like what does it look like? OH and can a girl get an orgasm by fingering herself?

Um, you're a girl, right? So why would you need to know what it looks like .. ? I don't really get that, but for you're other question - it all depends on the girl. She can get an orgasm or not, it all depends on how she's pleasuring herself.

I'm 15 and been told that I should start a career in either writing, journalism, or public speaking. I do very well at all of these but have no luck finding opportunities to start exploring these careers. What are some places online that might help or offer me some kind of experience?

Your school consular[sp?] can help you BIG time with this. They can help you find a school in the area where ever you want to go. They helped a lot of my friends pick career choices, college choices, etc. So just visit the school consular and they should help you create a career path. They can also help you pick the classes you can take in high school that will help assist you in college on your career topic.

how do i sync music from a comp. to a verizon enV phone?

My friend has a verizon enV phone, and they way she has music on her phone from her computer is with a memory card. I suggest you go to a verizon store to be 100% positive, but I'm pretty sure that's what you're talking about. The verizon store sells the memory chips that you need.

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