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My name is Jessica. I was born in Missouri. I`m 15 years old.. I'm a freshman. :] I can be a bitch for saying whats on my mind so if you think so then just keep it to yourself,but then again i can be nicest,sweetest person. I love to have fun and be goofy =]. I hate fake people so im no fake. I hate labels they start alot of drama so dont label me. Drama is for the big screen. Don't get me involved. However, if you chose to pick a fight with me I will have the last word. Honesty is very important to me. I say what's on my mind and not ashamed of it. If you think it's rude, I don't care. Girls that try fitting in and wearing certain clothes to do so is retarted.I don't get mad easily over stupid things. If it's not something important I don't stress over it. Respect is very important. I belive that everyone should respect each other and everyone else."I'm not perfect. No one is. When girls leave me rude comments saying that I'm a bitch or something, it doesn't bother me. I have confidence in myself and words don't hurt my feelings. I ignore it. I don't mind being judged on anything I do because chances are, you don't know me at all so don't act like it. Thanks to the people that actually respect me. Call me a bitch, ugly, whore.. whatever you want but it doesn't bother me. I know I'm not so your opinion doesn't mean anything to me." Screen name: HAUTExMESS.
"Calling someone ugly won't make you prettier. Calling someone fat won't make you any skinnier. Calling someone a bitch won't make you any nicer. Talking shit about someone won't make you better so consider getting a life & shut the hell up."
Likes: Music, long conversations, gum, money, friends, picturess, rollercoasters, meeting new people, my pink puppy ( stuffed ), acting crazy, doing stuff other people dont do, hugsss, nail polish, makeup, my iPod, cleaning, being comfortable, boysss,
Dislikes: boring people, liars, fast food resturants, feet, bad breath, bugs, school, major thunderstorms, vanilla, fakes, everyone dressings the same, blood, bitches, stoners, being sick, people who tYpE liKe ThiS, heart breaks, allergies, people who have no self-esteem that make fun of other pople, ugly mean people, ignorant people, smoke, things and people that confuse me, people who break promises, two faced people, waiting in lines, slow computers, holiday songs, animal prints, losers, white socks, comedians, marshmellows, eating disorders, being lonely, being left out, interfering people, animal cruelty, arrogant people, perverts, people who think they are perfect , weirdos, hangovers, being scared, wanna bees, arguments, being unhappy, people who dislike homosexuals, stuck up people, racsim, DRAMA, fake friends, and LAMES !!!!!
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I'm 14/f and I know that I should probably forget about it until later or something but this has been lingering on my mind for a while and it's bothering me.
Well, first I believed in staying a virgin till marriage thing and I still do but it's that when I think about that, that would mean having had sex with only one partner and that bothers me, you know? I wanna experiment with other people than just one person. I don't know. Right now all I can think about when I see a guy that I like is: hmmm, I wanna have sex with him. And I haven't even had my first kiss yet. >.<
Haha, anywhos is this weird of me and what do you think on my thoughts on whether to stya a virgin or not.
And please don't tell me the "folloy my heart" or "you'll know when you're ready" thing. i just wan't a really honest opinion b/c right now, I really wanna just have sex with all my crushes
well i lost my virginaty when i was 14 but i thoughht i was in love.so i cant tell you that you should wait but you cant go out and have sex with every guy you like because you should keep a good name for yourself. Sex isnt great unless you have true feelings for that person. thats way they call it MAKING LOVE. and if you have sex with a guy that sure as hell wont make them like you more or love you . some guys will leave you afterwords. You can do what you want because i know i did but do me a favor and not have sex with alot of guys.
Yeah its normal for you to think about sex alot i mean come on your 14 your hormones are boy crazy right now.
well i hope i helped in anyway that you wanted && if there is anything else you wanna know, let me know because im here for you to talk to about stuff like this.
i have known this girl for several years, and she is who i consider my best friend. everyone since we met has assumed that we were dating, even going to get married. we have dealt with this sort of thing from the get-go. The wierd thing is, she seems to be everything i could ever want in a girl, but i had never thought of her that way.
Lately though, those type of thoughts (us actually dating) have been floating thru my mind frequently.
When i look at her, i see not just my friend, but a very insanely beautiful woman. I dont want to ruin a friendship, but i do not know what to do!!!
well i think you should tell her how you feel. If you like her as much as you think then it shouldnt ruin anythink cuz true love never invades on friendship. TELL HER
Ok, i really like this guy at school, but my close friends really hate him (he rejected them), and so i went to my other friends, and they were shocked, and not in a good way. I like the guy alot, and he flirts with me. I havent told my close friends, and i really want to, bacuse i always tell them. What should i do? I really need advice!
well if you like this guy a lot then it shouldnt matter to your friends how you feel. They should be happy for you being happy. If they get mad over you liking a guy then they cant be real friends. Just do your own thing and if they dont like then let them be because you and this guy could have something special.
but you should never put a guy before friends unless you know that you and a guy are serious about each other.
me and my boyfriend are allllways bored at my house... what can we do besides sexual things.. like wrestle, etc.
find out something that you both wanna do such as.... taking a walk, watching a movie, talking, play sports, some way to get to know each other at the same time.
when i have guy friends over we watch movies, go forr walks and wreastle with each other but what you do shouldnt matter, he should be happy just being there with you.
Lately i have noticed that my underarms smell really bad. I use deodarent and LOT of it. I started using more and that only made me smell worse. I recently noticed that i dont smell bad when I use less deoderant. Would anyone know why this is happening?
well when you are in the shower you should make sure to wash under your arms && when you get out be sure to put on deoderant then. Really make sure you put it on before school.
If that dont help then it could be your tyoe you are using. I always use Secret moonlit rose & it helps & smells M-AZING.
We used to be very close friends
then rumors spread about us
and he got mad and hated me and my friend
i sent him a sorry message and then he didnt reply but he messaged me later[which he hadnt done in like 2 weeks] and just acted casual
it was kind of awkward
but my question is, Do you think hes gonna start talking to me just as much as he used to ?
or do you think that was the only thing he was gonna say and its just gonna stay like that?
im pretty sure he liked talking to me before he got mad , but idk....
help!?
DONT RUSH ANYTHING ! just let him work his way back in but you could start by saying hi to him in the halls at school && flashing a cute smile at him once in awhile
(I'm 15/m if this helps)Okay, so my best friends (a girl and a guy) are on the verge of a relationship and everytime they have something planned, they always invite me. This makes me feel like a third wheel and I get the awkward feeling when i'm around them that they don't really want me there. I feel like the only reason that i'm being included in their plans is because i'm their best friend and they pity me.
I dont really have a specific question but if you could form one on your own out of my explaining and answer it, that would be great.
Well... you could see if he has a friend that he thinks would get along great with you. That guy friend could start hanging out with you guys and you might even start liking him. But if you dont think thats good advice then just dont go.
so there's this guy that i am really into. we'll call him steve. i think he likes me... but not more than a friend. probably not even that much cuz we barely talk. whenever i'm around him i freeze up. how do i keep myself from freezing up and start dropping hints???
one more thing... one of his best friends is one of my best friends, we'll call him Joe. i told Joe that I like steve. but i don't want joe to go ask steve if i like him cuz that's the immature way of doing it. i did that in like 6th grade and it never works. how can i use him to find out??? that is... if i need to use him to find out.
I would have Joe start a convo with Steve . . . like have Joe say something like " man what do you think about her, she's a wonderful girl".And when you find out from Joe that Steve likes you too just start being yourself around him. && try not to giggle alot infront of him because you dont want to seem annoyying right away.
You can do it trust me. If this dont work, Im sorry.
so i have this friend, and she's been my best friend. But lately she's been acting different. And it's not like she hangs around differnt people or acting obnoxious, she just never invites me over, or includes me that much. I'm kind of uncomfortable around her now, but my school is so small that i dont really have any other friends, and the ones i do have are all leaving. Help?!
have you told her that she has been acting different ?
maybe she's growing up & maybe you should start trying to make new friends as well cuz you can have more then one friend.
TALK TO HER ABOUT IT
i wear my hair the same way everyday - down and straightened. it's getting boring & i'd like to wear my hair differently. i like it scrunched but i'm always too tired in the morning to scrunch it. is there anyway i can shower at night and scrunch it before i go to bed without it getting frizzy and all messed up? thanks a bunch!
well when you get out of the shower at night you could braid it in two parts && then in the morning you could take it out and spray it with hair spray and kinda scrunch it then a lil....
I got a couple of pumpkins for my porch a week or so ago, and they slowly got little bits taken out of them day by day. Then, yesterday I caught a squirrel munching on them. I would really like to put a bunch of pumpkins on the porch, but don't want to have a bunch of moldy pumpkins with holes all through them on my porch.
Anyone know of any way to deter a squirrel. Hopefully without poison or a pellet gun.
a squirrels go for any mositure....
Ok i had sex with my boyfriend we used a condom but when he pulled out it wasnt on anymore it was inside of me. What are the possibilties of my getting pregnat? I'm really scared.
im sorry hun but what are you saying?
he pulled he's penis out but the condom was still in you or he pulled it out, took off the condom and conituned ?
13/f
My discharge smells TERRIBLE.
& im embarrassed by it. I take
showers daily, and im sick of
feeling dirty and stuff. Any
remedies that you make AT HOME
[so parents dont find outttt]
& is safe to put down there?
try water && vinegar !
okay, what do guys like...
Girls with a mystery, like they never give them full self to you at once, they gradually give themselves to you, like everyday's a new day, with a different mystery
Or, If the girl just give her whole personality her whole self all at once, do you think guys get board of that..I'm the Mystery and shes the giving one, shes my bestfriend and we both like the same guy...
I'm 14 hes 15 and shes 14
well it depends on what the guy likes =] all guys are a little different && have a special taste....
there is this guy i like and i want to get him to ask me out please tell me how.
you cant make someone like you but you should try to get to know him && maybe he will end up liking who you are.
15/f. lately i've been getting really upset because i'm 15 and i've never had a boyfriend, or a first kiss. i get really embarrassed when people talk about their boyfriends and their first kiss. and i'm always afraid that someone will make fun of me because i'm prude and never had a boyfriend. i don't know if it is something about my personality that is scaring some guys away. don't say that i shouldn't change myself for a guy because i would never do that (meaning dress differently or style my hair different). but i mean my personality. i'm a VERY organized person (like everything has to be neat) and i take my grades very seriously. is that a turn off? because sometimes i can become controlling if we are doing a project or something. what is something that i can do to become less controlling in situations? also i don't think that i'm ugly. so what is wrong? i also can get nervous talking to guys. OMG i'm just getting really frustrated with myself.
so basically these are my questions:
1)what can i do when people ask me if i'm prude knowing that i am?
2)how can i become less controlling in group projects?
3)is it weird that i'm 15 and haven't had a boyfriend or a first kiss?
sorry its so long...but thanks!
1.)well when someone was to ask you if your prude just give them an honest answer && if they find that wierd just remember taht if they dont liek you for who you are then they arent really good people. BUT you could also tell them that your just not ready or its none of their business.
2.)When you are in a group doing a project just ask the other people for their ideas and if you have some kinda combine them together . .. . like comprimse.
3.)No it isnt wierd because your day will come one of these days. And when it does come you'll be the happiest girl ever && you may not know how to a girlfriend but thats going to be okay because your knew at that kind of stuff. But remeber you should become friends with a guy and learn how to trust him then yu could take it serious.. YOU ARE NOT WEIRD && STOP THINKING SO NEGITIVE ABOUT YOURSELF....
i hope that was what you are looking forr in advice.
I've never had a boyfriend, and I know for a fact this guy is going to ask me out this week. I want to say yes, but what do I do? Just say yes?
well it depends if you think your ready for a boyfriend but you shouldnt rush it at all. Become friends and get to know each other a lil. Relationships last longer when you have trust in each other.
JUST FOLLOW YOUR HEART HUN . . .
Ok well this is hard 2 explain. Ok so lately I've been feeling depressed. Idk y I think its because if school and such. Since I started high school its all just catching up. So. I have new friends and stuff and now like I don't know why but I'm always happy in school. Like I can't let my feels show. I'm always acting perky so noone will suspect a thing. Then I notice and ask myself questions like why am I acting this way. I really don't know why. I hope you guys understood me because it was hard to explain. Why do u think I'm acting like this like hiding my feelings in school and then continue to be depressed at hom. any advice is useful thanks!
thats exactly what i was just going through. I was always happy when i was with my friends and such but when i was at home i was sad and always locked in my room.but i figured that i was just not happy being home so i was always out with friends but that lead to bigger problems. later on i started talking more to my family and getting closer with them. Soon enough my mom was my best friend and i loved to be home && yeah we still argued like mother and daughters do. So maybe you should trying talking to an adlut in your family or someone who lives with you. That always helps having someone to talk your problems out with.
okay, well i have no idea what to get my boyfriend for christmas.
he doesnt like sports, nor fishing etc..
he is more into music
and i would like to get him something more special then just concert tickets or somthing.
pllllease help with cute ideas
thank you!!
well my familly always just gives me money forr christmas because they really dont know what to get me.
Its easy and simple . . . Money
but you should try asking him but without giving it away that your getting him something. Then you should know exactly what to get him. Or just spend the day with him romanticly.....
I have a best friend and we live sort of far away. we used to go to the same school and i never had any attraction to him. i moved away this year, but still visit very offten. He was changed alot but in all the right places. we are very good friends and i am now physicaly attracted to him. He has a new girlfriend but he cheats on her all the time with me. i dont know what he would do if he knew that i really like him. I scared it would ruin our friendship and thats something i dont want to lose. what should i do?
Me personally think taht long distance relationships arent soo great & if he is willing to cheat on his new girlfriend then he is bound to find someone else to cheat on you with. Just maybe if its true love then he wont cheat on you. It seems you guys have been friends for awhile and thats a great way to start a relationship cuz you should have alot of trust built up between you tooo.
Just follow your heart.....
&& i hope this helped