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What are the bases? (link)
you mean like 1st, 2nd, 3rd and home plate. most people say that 1st is kissing, 2nd touching outside clothes, 3rd is touching under clothes and homeplate is sex. but everyone has their own version these days.


So I like this guy in my last class but he has a girlfriend. But he hits on me all the time. Today his hands were never in appropiate places (i was willing so it wasnt like he was being a dick) But he still has a girlfriend. PROBLEM. I also like my ex-boyfriend.. i hit on him a lot but not so much with him hitting on me. I think if i tried i could get this guy back, he was really great. But I dont know what to do. One has a gf the other i've already dated! (link)
alright i had this problem once! forget the old bf theres a good rule of thumb for these things and its that if it hasnt worked before and he wont hit back on you then its pretty easy to tell that it wont work agian. so this new guy about him. you should tell him that you dont want to be the girl that helps him cheat on his girl and that you like him and that if he wants to break up with his gf thats fine but otherwise you dont want to do anything that could hurt the girl not because you like her since you are trying to steal her boyfriend, but as a girl theres this sort of code and your not going to help a guy cheat since every girl knows how much that hurts. but i wouldnt if i was you consider dating him cuz see if he does this to her and cheats on his gf then wouldnt he cheat on you also? once a cheater always a cheater. so before you have that talk with him consider that. if you want to IM me and talk my aim sn is oxmisslizxo and we can chat about it.


My best friends dog died, and I know the dog meant a lot to her mom. I love her mom to death and I want to do something special for her to make her feel a little better. Any suggestions? (link)
if you have any pics of the dog maybe make her a collage of them with a caption about the dog. it would be a sweet gift. and maybe dry and flatted some flowers and put them on the collage


ok i gave my boyfriend a hickey the otherday and it didnt come out big. it was like a small dot. and he did the same thing to me but it didnt come out big ear. it was the size of a pen ( the circular part of the pen. how can i make a hickey bigger? (link)
ive never met someone wanted to do that :) but just suck more area


ok so this guy asked me out. and i dont know if i like him or not. he is really nice and cool and i dont want to hurt his feelings by saying no. but i dont know if i like him!

i dont really know him. i only hung out with him once. im so confused. i dont know what to do!!!!!!

PLEASE HELP!!! ill rate 5's for anything. (link)
id tell him that your not sure since you dont know him and you want to give it a week or two and get to know him a little better then youll give him an answer.


I don't usually confront boys about how they feel about me. i've known this one boy for about 3 weeks, and we've talked every single day and before it used to be like we were rushing to talk to each other. we had amazing conversations.

this week, there has been a decline. i can tell that we both don't really put our all into conversations, that there are bigger priorities in terms of people to talk to. so i called him, and asked him what he thought we were, just friends?

he told me "yeah.. we're just friends.. but whatever happens..happens.." "of course we'll be friends, but down the line, i don't know."

what is that supposed to mean? can you break it down for me, because when it happens to me i have such a hard time understanding exactly what he means by that! (link)
normally when a guy says that he means that he considers you a friend for now but he isnt going to say that you cant be more than that but there is other options for him and he isnt going to commit time to you and make you a priority but if something happens between the two of you at some point... thats fine with him. some guys say that and mean though that they dont want to commit to you but if something happens there more than willing to go with it... but they dont want to date... (sorta like friends with benifits but the benifits arnt garenteed to you or him like he doesnt care. its all him floating up stream for him... as long as it doesnt hurt him its all good.) so it could be either or a little of both... but then agian he could be one of those realllly shy guys that just likes you and is to shy to say it so he hid it by saying that... which do you think it is? i dont really know the guy so i cant say for sure which of the 3 it is but since you know him your gonna have to think of the tone he said it in and how it sounded and which one it is. but thats what it means. :)


Ok i can only seem to find converse extra high (roll downs) on eBay and i dont want to buy off there incase they are fakes....is there any chance anyone knows any shops that sell these?? Please dont suggest random possibilities as shops e.g. Hargreaves do not stock this particular type.
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xordinarygirlx (link)
www.converse.com they have every type that converse makes in every color. you can buy them off there too and since its the brand's website you know they arnt fake. hope i helped you out.


ok so i have a zit on my hairline its most likely from my sweat because i work out really hard everyday is there anything i can buy/do to make my skin less reactive to the sweat? (link)
1) wash it ALOT.
2) try taking a washcloth with you to whereever you excersize and wipe the sweat of your hairline every so often.
3) right after you work out wash your face/hairline or wipe it off with the little pads (the ones with alochol on them)


hey ummm this might be long.... ok this guy i really like asked me if i wanted to lose my virginity to him....and i was like asking him questions like if we would ever go out and he said he didnt know maybe.... and he also doesnt want anyone to know about it...which i can see that to because i dont want it getting around school either but i have the feeling that he doesnt like me and he just wants to lose his virginity....but i dont know. and like after we talked about doing it around his birthday and then like all of a sudden he asks my best friend out and im like OMG... and they went out for a couple of days........ but i havent talked to him about it anymore because i havent got the chance to... but i dont think he likes me anymore... so does anyone have any advice?
--->confused (link)
alright if your confused about this... why would you ever want to lose your virginity to him?!?!? he seems like an real jerk. dont do it... theres much better guys than him.


Yesterday I went to PacSun with my friend. I walked into the back of the store, because the hoodies were marked down. As we were browsing, an employee walked past us and sort of stopped. We both looked at him. He went, "Hey!" in the friendlist voice. I was shocked by his charisma, really, I haven't seen anyone so gorgeous. I said "Hi!" back, and we both laughed like little kids. He asked me if I needed any help, and I asked him if he could find a medium for me. When it was time for me to buy it, he looked at me incredulously (but still friendly) and told me he'd hold it for me while I looked around more. I told him that was all I wanted and he kept insisting. Then, you know how you're staring at something so beautiful everything the person is saying is muffled? That's what happened, when I heard him say something about my face. I know it wasn't bad, because he smiled, almost flirtingly. I gave in and looked around more. When I went back, I said that was all I wanted, and he was like, "Are you sure? I mean It's not really the season for hoodies" Please note that when I was talking to him, I was beet red in the face and I was showing all signs of nervousness. He asked if I was alright about 5 times. He was like, "Is it something I did?" I thanked him and walked out of there. A few questions: Do you think he wanted me to stay because he wanted me to buy more, or stay longer because he was attracted? I never asked him his name, and I'm so desperate, I called Pacsun twice, then hung up because a girl picked up! I thought about him and regret how I never asked for his name..or age. I'm 14 years old. I hope to death he is young because If I ever hook up with him, I don't want it to be RAPE! I desperately need help. Pleaseeee. I will rate 5's.
Plus, what can I do when I go back to the store? I want to come back and say something, but I need suggestions. Thank you so much in advance. Sorry for the length. (link)
try and treat this like a big girl. immaturity is a turn off. just go back to the store on the day that you went before... like if it was a tuesday or something go back on tuesday... ok? since thats prolly when he works. look for him and ask him his name. then say something! just talk to him... and remember... giving him your # would be good. he'll most likely call you that way... seeing as he cant if you dont give it to him. dont be shy!


I have really long (Mid-back) hair. Its frizzy, but not as bad as it could be. I was wondering if theres any really (REALLY) good conditioners or shampoos i could use to un-frizz it, lol. I don't really want to do gels, hair spray, or anything like that, cause it clumps my hair and looks nasty. and i just don't like it. haha. also, any everyday hair style ideas would be good! thanks!! (link)
the conditioner i use is called infusium. its GREAT! they have a kind for frizzy hair. try that maybe.


Me and my boyfriend broke up. He broke up with me to go out with this one girl but we started talking again and the past 2 nights he has kissed me. He said he is confused and I want to get back with him. Would it be bad if I did? (link)
depends on why you broke up. if you think you can have a relationship with him... try it. what can it hurt? if you have an answer for what it could hurt... you might not want to go back with him!


I just got a great new boyfriend. But I'm totally afraid to kiss him because I've never kissed anyone before and everyone's like you'll know how to do and stuff but srsly, I don't know if I go on the top lip, bottom lip, what? I'm so confused. And also, how can I not have bad breath while making out with him? It seems no matter how hard I brush my teeth and stuff I always seem to have bad breath!!! Gum solves the problem but i cant have gum when I make out. Please help, thanks. Love, Chels. (link)
never gum! gum makes your glands make saliva and that makes bad breath! chewing gum is just a temorary thing that makes it worse... use mints! the reason you may have bad breath could be reflux. talk to a doctor about it... they may can give you a pill that will make it stop. anyway back to kissing. normally the girl kisses his top lip but some guys do it differently. just go with the flow. when it happens it just happens. tell him that you want to kiss him but youve never done it before and if hes never kissed before either then you get to learn together. (sorry hehe) and if he has kissed then im sure hell help yah out!


me and my boyfriend broke up a month ago. and i just got a new boyfriend a few days ago and i like him a lot. but my ex boyfriend called me lastnight and told me how much he wanted me back and missed me and i just dont know what to do. he treated me bad but i still love him and care about him and dont know if i should be with my current boyfriend. being held by him just doesnt feel the same but i know if i go back to my old boyfriend that nothing will change. can somebody please lemme know what to do? (link)
try telling him that if things dont change that you cant go back out with him but if he is willing to help make it better then you will. the whole thing is that if you stay with anyone long enough youll get that feeling when they hold you. you can create love and you can earn love. you never really start out with love you can start out with liking someone but once youve been dating them awhile and getting to know who they are when no ones there and you&them open up completely and let them see the real you you get really attached to them and thats what we call love. if you really love your Ex then it sounds like you put in some time with him so talk to him about it tell him how you feel and you could have love with this new guy if you want to stick it out and earn it. so you have a choice your old love and what comes along with it i say go with him if you think you can change him but if you dont think you can just stick it out with this other guy and earn the love. :) hope i helped.


14/male

There's this girl I really like. We'll call her "B." I know some people said "true" love isn't real for teens, but I can feel that I love her. I have since I met her.

Well, she's a few years older than me, and she's dating this guy I haven't really enjoyed being around in the past. I wrote B a letter, but I signed it "Your Secret Admirer." It basically says stuff about how I love her, and things like that. But, I haven't had a chance to sneak it into her backpack or whatever.

The thing is, I think she might sorta like me, but I'm not sure. Should I sneak the letter into her backpack?

Thanks,

-Fyce

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do it! but put as how you sign it "your secret admirer fyce"


There is this boy I know. I think he likes me because he made me a CD. He has come to all my parties, so I really think he does. He is sorta shy, so I cant really tell. What are some ways that I can get him to fall for me and tell me? Or what are some ways to tell he likes me for sure??? Thanks! 5's for good advice! (link)
there really is no way to get someone to fall for you besides being yourself and have love and not lust. it does sound like he likes you though. you should call him and try the call back trick... call him and start talking to him then say you have to go but that you want him to call you back the next day but please remember to give him your # even if he already has it... guys are very forgetful! and that way if he calls back you know he cares about you :) just think of creative ways. have fun! hope i helped!


My boyfriend and I have been going out for half a year and I gave my virginity to him. He said that he was a virgin also. I feel that he was lying to me about being a virgin. I don't know what I should do to confront him with my thoughts. He seems to know too much about Sex to be a virgin.. I think he lied to me so I would sleep with him. How can I ask him about it without hurting his feelings?
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alot of guys just know alot about it. from their friends and what not. my bf is the same way... he knows everything but has never done it. talk to him about it and i guess you just have to trust him.


Hi

I am 14 years old and me and my boyfriend have sex and we use protection but on night my boyfriend put his penis a little bit in my vagina, and took it out again,, it wasn't even in there for a minute. He took it out and i wiped my self off. I missed my period this month, and i am worried that i might be pregnant, I am going through a lot of stress this month and I am sick with the flu.. but i am still scared that i might be pregrant, what do you think.. (link)
take a pregnancy test to be really sure take one now and one in a week. sometimes its to early for a pregnancy test to pick it up. use protection always.


Hey,
I have fair skin and im looking for a bathing suite. Im wondering which color suit will look best and not make me look even more pale or make my skin stand out even more. Like black does that make my skin look even lighter? I will get alittle darker this summer but still pretty light. So i need to know which colors would b best. Thank you!
-marsbars (link)
white with some light blue or something like that would look good.


what does being emo mean? (link)
emo is short for emotional. emo-tional. mostly they claim to be "unique", "different" and "abnormal". mostly faking to have horrible home lives and are very dramatic. they like to think they have it so bad and normally dress differently. google search "emo farm video" and it will come up.. (most likely) watch the vid... that explains it in a funny way :)




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