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Me and my boyfriend have been in a solid relationship for about 7 months. He left for the army a couple weeks ago and things haven't been the same. Sometimes i feel unwanted or ignored and even though i know he's busy/tired i can't help but, get mad. I love him with all my heart and i want to be his support system, but i also have to worry about my emotions/feelings!

i dont know what to do, help?

You just need to take a step back and look at the bigger picture. What he is doing, he is doing to save other peoples lives. That means you too. So the next time you are feeling unwanted or ignored and feel like getting angry, just realize, he is saving your life because of the things he is doing.
-hayley

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Im 13 years old and im pretty tall for my age and i was 70 kilos before but then i started working out and stuff and now im 56 :) but i was just wondering whats a good weight for me i mean i wanna go on and i wanna be around 50 kilos but people have told me that it isnt good for me since im tall its unhealthy so what do you think?.

http://www.nhlbisupport.com/bmi/

BMI is what you need to be reaching for. It means body mass index. It takes up how many fat cells you have in your body. Weight is not always something you want to go by, because muscle weighs more than fat. Or if you have large breasts, or are really tall, it can throw things like that off.
-hayley

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Has anyone ever heard of the term 'pop your cherry'? What is that and what does it mean?

It is basically when you loose your virginity. Like a boy inserts his penis and it breaks your hymen or the thing that shows you still have your purity.
-hayley

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here is how it goes. i went on holiday for 2 weeks with my best mate and we met 2 boys. We got on like SO WELL , we all became good friends. Then basically my friend liked one of the boys and he liked her. But the one that i liked didnt make eye contact with me and was moody with me. He went home before me but because i was busy i couldnt say goodbye to him. We got back home and i found out from his mate he liked me. But now im really upset because he didnt tell me. Ive tried to get in contact with him, but he hasnt replied at all. They have a party soon, and we live really far away but me and my friend were gonna make the effort to show up and stuff. But im so confused because why didnt he tell me himself? and there is so much i want to say to him but i cant and i cant get him out of my head ! We live far apart but i need to see him to get things out in the open. What should i do? i just cant stop thinking about him and everything that happened :(
Its ok for my friend because she is contact with her boy. But i have no idea how the one i like is? And the boy my friend was with is friends with the one i like so i could easily get his mate so mention something to him but that is so childish so what should i do? x

Ah summer love. Here is what you should do:
If you really like this boy and think there could be something there, make the effort, go to the party, and corner him. Make him tell you what you need to hear. Just say, "look i like you and i just really need to know how you feel about me" straight up. and by corner i dont mean get in his face, i mean get him alone.
-hayley

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im having a sleepover with my friends and want to rent some scary movies. since we dont watch them all the time we want movies that arent horribly scary but more scary than prom night, which was not scary at all, even to a wimp like me. any suggestions??

the hand that rocks the cradle
Its old but good. I screamed so loud the neighbor 3 houses down called me and asked if i heard the scream. I jumped half way across the living room- no joke. Its only scary at one part though.

-hayley

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So me and my partner recently had sex. When I pulled of the condom he had a white gooey liquid coming out. But I didn't feel it inside me (like isn't it supposed to come out in spurts?) and he didn't appear to have had an orgasm, but he said it felt real good. We just kept going and then I gave him head. So what was it?

he could have orgasmed or precummed
-hayley

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Okay. So, I had sex for the first time tonight. Going into it, since i was a virgin, I knew it was going to hurt. And... it did. It wasn't horrible pain or anything but it was kind of like... the first time being fingered in the sense that I hadn't had that much in me before. It felt slightly good but slightly uncomfortable and a bit painful. It also didn't help that he was going for a longg time. Haha. I want to be able to really enjoy sex. My question is... will it get better? How long will it take until I actually enjoy this? Any experiences/comments? Thanks!

it will take a few times. Its not just going to go away. But it will get better. Just try to relax.
-hayley

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How do you know?
Because I use to think I was pansexual (atractted to personality) because I'm pretty sure I was I find out their personality before I am attracted to them. But them I started thing "oh that girl is kinda cute/hot" but I still think some guys are also cute and I still look at people's personalities first. So help?
Age: 16
Gender: Female
Please & Thank You

Well, you could be bi. You just know i guess. I am not bi...i have a gay friend. But you just know.
-hayley

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So I have this friend...
I mean yeah I love him in a friendly way.
But he says "I love you" way too much.
And every time he does, I either
-Say it back
-Smile
-Or say "Mkay."
And I'm a cery sarcastic person & he takes my sarcasism as rudeness.
I don't wanna hurt his feelings...
But I dont want people to think we're more than friends. You know?

Well any answers will help.

love, Rachel

Just tell him you dont feel comfortable with him saying it that much. Its okay if he does, but its making you uncomfortable.

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So i was in cheerleading about 5 or 6 years ago. But it wasnt anything serious. And all my friends are getting into Dance and stuff. Butt im not into that, becuase i wanna be a cheerleader. :) but for one, i dont think any of my friends would take me seriously with it. and two, i would feel so retarded getting onto a team because im in eighth grade. and we dont have a cheer team. and id feel so outta place if i got on some team with "experienced" girls. and i cant really cheer. i pick up on things fast.. but i dont know..


HELP????

If you want to do it why are you so worried about what everyone else thinks? And if you go with the experienced girls you will learn more and get more friends. You will be better off in life doing what you want not what they want.
-hayley

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I know you aren't animal experts or veterinarians but maybe your dog does what mine does or has. I have two dogs and their both well trained. One is a 9-year-old Lab/Beagle and the other a 1-year-old Pug/Shitzu cross.

Every time the big dog and the little dog go out to the bathroom together the big dog comes back in soaking wet. I finally caught the little one urinating on the big dog even though there's a ton of places for him to go. I'm curious why does he do this to her?

We've since made them go outside separately as it's become quite the problem otherwise. Is it a territory thing? Not to be gross he also tends to go to the bathroom on top of what she left. I don't know. It's weird.

Its because he is a male and is telling everyone else stay away this is my girl. Kind of like a boyfriend pulling you towards him when your around other guys.
-Hayley

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hello there
my brother in law met a girl online and he has been 1 year with her he is 26 and she is 21
he is inlove with her she lives in another country and she came and visit him once. his parents against this relation because she is not the right girl for him, she is from another religion , she is divorced (no kids), and lives in another country no one knows her past. she also works night shift job. i dont want him to marry her because i dont want her to enter the family. how can i stop this relation

Hate to tell you this but you cant really stop him. And if he is your brother in law where is your sister??
-hayley

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what would a 13 year old girl look for in a thirteen year old guy?

Well i am almost 16, but i can help. You got to be nice, but also stick up for the girl if she needs it. DONT BE A PANSY! haha. And dont be concieted or talk about the size of your dick. Because quite frankly we all know when you brag about the size, its really small. Be a LITTLE BIT of a rebel. And dont be afraid to hold a girls hand in front of his friends. But dont be obsessed with sex. Its disgusting and not attractive what so ever. Respect her. Make her laugh. And be sensitive. Dont be afraid to hold her when she is crying. Know when to be serious and when to be fun.
-hayley

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Out of all my friends I'm the ONLY ONE who hasn't kissed a boy. (13/f) It's so annoying hearing about everyones first kiss. I know it's suppose to be special and what ever. But honestly, I'm done caring. I just wanna get it over with. You know? I've tried truth or dare, Spin the bottle.. But not once have I been dare or chosen. It's like God doesn't want me kissin a dude. But it makes me feel SO stupid. Ha. I sound so pathetic.
But help?

Any help will work...

Yes but it does take a lot of nerves to do that especially if your just 13. My friend amanda, she is saving her first kiss for her wedding day. And she is perfectly fine. I know this is cliche but seriously you are going to enjoy it more if you wait for the right guy. You might not want to hear this, but you are probably just jealous. And that isnt good. So what if your friends all been kissed. They probably just made up the story. But seriously just wait. Your time will come.
-hayley

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16/f
I like my friend, Jake. He and I have had a "thing" once before, but it was about a year ago. I'm not sure if he likes me back. Sometimes I get signals that he might, but I'm not sure. Can you tell me what would be some "signals" that would point to one direction or the other (that he could like me, or that he couldn't).

How could I let him know that I quite possibly could like him without telling him straight up.

I don't know if this is enough information for you to answer my question, but I hope it is. Thanks. =)

If you think he likes you chances are he does and that is why you are somewhat aware. If his knees point to you when you are sitting. If his eyes always seem to stare at you for a fraction of a second longer than anyone else. If he playfully teases you. All signs he likes you.
And honestly it would show courage and strength if you just told him straight up yourself. But you could get a friend to just talk to him and be like "so what about (insert name here) liking you again?" and he would be like "what do you mean?" and then your friend could say "oh man you didnt know? Whoops guess its too late now."
But trust me, dont wait. I did and now its too late. I regret it now.
-hayley


EDIT:
dont worry about rejection. Im dead serious. And sorry it took so long. I was grounded :)...But seriously if you worry about being rejected all the time you will never learn to live. You will live a sheltered life and that is not what you need. If he dont like you so what. It just makes you one step closer to finding your soul mate.

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do women care how big men's cock's are?

some like em small some like em big...just depends on the girl...
-hayley

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my friend is annoying and, like if he gets really annoying and i call him retarted or a d#*k head and then he goes "how am i retarted?" or "how am i a d#*k head?" and then im stuck so can anyone help me come up with a good comeback, a comeback for any situation would be good if you want, thanks

btw were both in grade eightand were guys
and pleaz dont be sayin stuff like your to young to be swearing and stuff like that because nearly every kid i know swears and not all of them are as old as me

Haha. The person below me does have a point, you shouldn't fight fire with fire. But when he says that, just say have you seen the shape of your head.

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when a girl gets wet does that mean they're pregnant? if not what does it mean

no, if you get wet it can mean
-your horny
or
-your body is cleaning yourself naturally
every girl does it at some point and time
-hayley

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okai, well i am goin up to my cottage next friday and i was suppose to get my period today but i havent yet and i am worried that i wont get it before we go on holidays , so what do i do at my cottage if i get it ? this will be my 4th time haveing my period and i am really scared that i am goin to get it at my cottage . what do i do ? becuase i REALLY dont want to use tampons

Since it takes about a year for your period to get "regular" there is honestly no telling as to when you will get it. It could be a month or two. I had mine once for the first time and two months later i got another one. Its just untelling. Usually if i dont want to swim because im on my period i just tell them. But i am a very open person. But like laura said its no big deal and you shouldnt let it ruin your vacation. And tampons are really not that bad.
-hayley

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where can i get a dog tag for girls/ kinda like the one miley cyrus has in that 7 things music video. i dont like miley at all, but i want a dog tak like that. with a long chain! not a short one!

thanks

well that one in her music video is said to be Nick Jonas' diabetes dog tag. They are easy to do. They usually have one at walmart you can make in the pet aisle. Just buy you a chain and your good to go.
-hayley

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