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I like this boy.....
16/f
I like my friend, Jake. He and I have had a "thing" once before, but it was about a year ago. I'm not sure if he likes me back. Sometimes I get signals that he might, but I'm not sure. Can you tell me what would be some "signals" that would point to one direction or the other (that he could like me, or that he couldn't).
How could I let him know that I quite possibly could like him without telling him straight up.
I don't know if this is enough information for you to answer my question, but I hope it is. Thanks. =)
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I'm going to give you a list of what guys tend to do when they like girls:
1. They don't call you "sexy". They call you "beautiful", "gorgeous", "amazing", etc.
2. They make an effort to hug you. They might high-5 instead, but it really depends on the guy in question.
3. They DO find any reason to touch you in some way. Mostly it ISN'T in a sexual way. Its more of just an excuse to remember what you feel like, I guess. Its hard to explain...
4. He is always smiling around you. If you're feeling bad and he's around- he'll be smiling because he knows that he's there to help you- and that's like brownie points for a guy if they can help a girl out. That, like the above, is hard to explain.
5. He'll tell you things about himself that he normally wouldn't tell everyone. He opens up to you. Guys don't get a chance to do that when pressured to "be manly".
6. If you have a feeling that a guy likes you- you're probably right. Guys aren't the best at hiding it- and girls are even better at figuring these type of things out.
If you like this guy- and he does all or most of those things- my best bet is that he does like you. That means one and only one thing: Ask him to make sure, and then try the relationship out. Who knows- it could be great! I know you said that it might ruin your friendship, and I've been in this situation many times, and it ruined the friendship, but I've also been in this situation where the friendship didn't get ruined.
If you don't try, you'll never know how it could be.
Here's some advice my friend Laura would offer you:
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From there:
Well, there are 2 major options you can go about to solve this problem:
1. Be blunt about it.
2. Be shy about it.
I highly suggest being blunt about it, and either asking him if he's into you too, or simply asking him out yourself. Guys like when girls show confidence, and there's no better way to show you're confident than walking up to a guy and asking him out!
Or, you can go the other route and be shy about it, possibly doing nothing to show him you're interested in him. Sometimes, people who use this method drop subtle hints such as smiling [which is common in girls and doesn't always show you're into a guy] or having a friend ask if he's into you [this only shows that you're too shy to do it yourself]. This option is really kind of stupid, and is used all too much...
As I always say:
Life is WAY too short to not take chances and risks once in a while. Why sit around wondering what could've been, what would've been and what should've been, when you can answer all of those questions and then some by being honest and telling a boy how you really feel about him?
--Jack
(16/m)
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If you think he likes you chances are he does and that is why you are somewhat aware. If his knees point to you when you are sitting. If his eyes always seem to stare at you for a fraction of a second longer than anyone else. If he playfully teases you. All signs he likes you.
And honestly it would show courage and strength if you just told him straight up yourself. But you could get a friend to just talk to him and be like "so what about (insert name here) liking you again?" and he would be like "what do you mean?" and then your friend could say "oh man you didnt know? Whoops guess its too late now."
But trust me, dont wait. I did and now its too late. I regret it now.
-hayley
EDIT:
dont worry about rejection. Im dead serious. And sorry it took so long. I was grounded :)...But seriously if you worry about being rejected all the time you will never learn to live. You will live a sheltered life and that is not what you need. If he dont like you so what. It just makes you one step closer to finding your soul mate.
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