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Q: I have a crush on a boy that live in my nieghtbor hood his 12 and I'm 13 help

Go for it...just a year or you could just be a few months older...try it...it never hurts anything. live in the moment.

hope i helped

Q: Well, I just got a DXG Digital Video Camera. It's going good but how do you put music onto the computer, then how do you put it on the camera? Does anybody who has one like mine know?

you could try this...

1. put the music on your computer
2. save it
3. go to start then up to music
4. go to start then up to my computer
5. on my computer click on where it shows your device
6. then go to the my music thing that you already opened and click on a song then drag it down to the toolbar but don't drop just yet then the device thing will pop up and just drag and drop til you get all the song you want on it.

sounds confusing but just try til you get it
hope i helped

Q: i have brown hair about an inch past my shoulders. its thick and doesn't straighten easily but when it curls its random. i'd like to grow it out around to my mid back but it takes so long. also i had side bangs but they've grown out to the point where they're too long to be bangs and they're too short to fit in with the rest of my hair. i think i want to cut my hair short, around a little past my chin but i'm not sure. any suggestions? any haircuts that will make it easier to manage?no dye i like being a brunette.

i do to brunettes rule. l.o.l. no don't cut it just cut your bangs back to the way they were and then go to the beauty shop and get your hair thined and go to wal-mart or something and buy herbal essence moose in the pink bottle with the green lid. it say dangerously straight. it will probably help. hope i helped.

Q: Okay so this is a picture of me and my friend,
I'm on the right:
http://i2.photobucket.com/albums/y4/browniebabe121a/DELETEEE_l.jpg

I was wondering what are some good ways to do my eye makeup to accentuate the color of my eyes more.

Usually I just wear mascara.

Anything would be useful, from eye shadow colors from how to put it on.

Thanks. =]

i have really blue eyes to. so use a soft pink eyeshadow and a mascara that makes your eyelashes look longer like covergirl exact. don't use eyeliner because your eyes are already big and eyeliner would make them look smaller so you don't want that. just try what i told you and if it don't help then you can go to certain sites and it will tell you what you need. just google it. hope i helped.

Q: 16/f
i want to be more outgoing when it comes to making the first move and telling guys i like them. there's nobody in perticular that im talking about right now but just in general. when i had a boyfriend i made the first move as far as kissing him but that took 3 months for me to do that. going out for someone for 3 months without kissing them was getting to be rediculous. the thing is that im normally really shy. i don't like to draw attention to myself and i don't like when random people talk to me. i don't want to be outgoing in a whoreish way just more adventurous i guess. help?!

thanks in advanced
: )

being outgoing isn't such a hard thing to do. just talk more and random people can become some of the bestest friends you will ever have. your right to wait 3 months because if he can wait that long he surely likes you. but if you want to make the first move like on kissing wait about 3 weeks and it won't seem whorish. but sometimes guys like to make the first move so you'll know when the feeling is rightl. just be your self around guys. being out going shows confidence and guys love confident girls. Hope i helped.

Q: IMPORTANT.

15/f

ok. so my best friend is really starting to get me mad. one day in the summer, we were all at my boyfriends baseball game. and i wasnt paying attnention, and she took my phone, and took all the numbers. i just found out, about 2 months ago, that she has been talking to these people, and pretending to be fake people. and now im like really embarrassed about the whole thing. i dont know what to do. i mean, if these people find out it was me, that would be so embarrassing. because, i had nothing to do with it. so anyways, the one kid, that she met from my friend, shes like obbessed with him. and hes really weird. and every day at school she like watches him and like, thats all we talk about. its so annoying. and then we had homecoming tonight. and i didnt go. because my date was lame and said he didnt wanna go anymore. so i was like k. and i didnt wanna go with friends, because i knew the one who stalks boys, would want me to tag along with her, and like watch them. so yeah. & i think she does this, like makes up fake people, because she knows they wouldn't like her for the real her, well looks wise. anyways, not to sound like, conceited? but i am alot prettier then her. and i have alot of pretty friends tht ive made this year. and as me and her will be walking in the halls, ill stop and talk to all these people. and she'll get mad. and like i was like oh im hanging out with this kid tonight, since im not going to homecoming. and shes like ewww gross hes in 8th grade. eww child molester. and im like wtf? were just watching movies with my brothers and everything.

what should i do about her?
i cant put up with it for much longer.

this might seem a little conceited but why are you still hanging with her? if you really feel this way don't be freinds with her but if she is a really good friend of yours talk to her about the way she acts. hope i helped.

Q: I read this really good piece of advice on someone else's question.

Part of it is: "The truth is, it's not the pretty girls that get the guys, but the girls that are the most approachable."

Can anyone expand on that or give examples? Thanks in advance!

it means the more outgoing girls get the guys. if your pretty and shy your more likely to be shy when you get the guy and guys like when girls talk and have fun around them. being shy is a big problem most people have. girls who are approachable are confident and guys like that.

Q: my boyfriend and i have been dating for about 3 years and just now it went downhill like i had a bunch of family issues and have been depressed alot for no reason and i think hes gotten sick of it and ive been a total bitch and all i ever say i sorry i dunno what to do and we never talk anymore and we both agree we've both changed and we want it back the way we had it before when we were both happy with eachother. How can we do that ?

of course things can be back to the way they are. if your depressed for no reason just go see a doctor and they can give you some medicine. maybe your depressed because of the whole family issues. maybe the problem is, your not communicating enough. tell him about your problems and he can comfort you through them. you guys really haven't changed just your going through some stages. and you surely don't want a 3 year relationship gone with the wind. Just talk to him, it might help. Hope i helped.

Q: Okay, so for the better part of a year I've been messaging/texting this guy who I met through a mutual friend. He lives in North Carolina, so even though we've been talking for almost a year, we've never met face to face. He's hysterically funny, and we have the same taste in music and movies. He's really smart, and all around, he's the kind of guy I'd really go for. But because of the distance (I live in Illinois), I never really thought pursuing anything would be worth it.

But then::: He texts me the other day and he's passing through my town on his way to his sister's. So he and I and some of my friends are going to be actually hanging out for the first time ever, for an entire day!! I'm really nervous.

So here's what I need:: I need a way to impress him the moment we meet with something really funny/clever to say or do. He's always making me laugh, and he once told me that a girl who can be goofy and not care about what others think is a major turn-on.

Also, any tips you can give me on how to just be cool and funny and remind me to be myself around him would be great. thanks!

-Nervously Waiting

just be yourself. he says he likes girls who don't care what other people think, DO Just that. be yourself guys hate when girls fake. if he is really wanting to meet you than be yourself cause he wants to meet you and not some fake person. If he didn't like your personality when you talked and messaged he would have probably ended it a long time ago so just be yourself. HOPE i helped.

Q: So I broke up with my boyfriend, kinda. We're 'taking a break'. He says he'll wait for me but I don't have much time. I just... don't know what to do because I don't know how I feel about him and it's not fair to leave him hanging. He's a great guy but he's hurt a lot of girls before, and he has cheated on me but 'he didn't go far'. I might have feelings for this other guy but it could never work because he's always high and in trouble. So fuck. I'm confused. What should i do?

ok first of all if your boyfriend is a great guy than stick with him. just give it time and things will fall into place. stay away from the high guy. people aren't in there right minds when they are high so if he is high all the time then why do you even want him? maybe he is cute. but if he is getting high all the time he won't be pretty much longer. talk to your boyfriend about the cheating thing. maybe you just need too spend a little time with him. I say you probably really love him. Hope I helped.

Q: Does any body have a piano music sheet for popular songs old and new. i really wanted fantasia 'when i see you' i love the rhythm. i know i can search for it on the internet but usually i'd have to pay for music sheets...also i am a beginner with the piano, i am learning everyday though and if anyone who is advanced can just hear the beat and know the notes to any good song then pleasee reply thanx soo much in advance:) !**i heart pianos n music**!

yea i play piano but i don't have the sheet for that song. just go too google.com and type in free popular sheet music. that's where i got the music for how to save a life. hope i helped.

Q: i feel like my life is slipping away because im always trying to find a girlfriend that will last more then a week, but everything falls through. i keep thinking that if i dont make memories now then when im old i wont have anything and ultimately end up commiting suicide

first of all don't do that. all you need for memories is tons of good friends and a camera to capture the moment. on the girlfriend subject something will eventually happen when it is time. So just like what is ment to be happen. Hope i helped=]

Q: How do you hand-graph an equation like this:
f(x) = 3x^3 + 4x^2 - 3x + 1

Or any equations like that. We learned how to do it in Alg II last year, but the problem is that I don't know how to do it by hand at all & I can't find the notes on it. Our teacher gave us a pre-test type thing to our class to see where we were and one of the questions asked to graph an equation similar to that and to make sure all the points were indicated clearly on the graph. Well, I plugged it into my calculator, but I didn't know where to put the points at all, so I completely missed.

So, my questions are how do you hand graph an equation like that. And if you put it in your calculator, how do you know where to put dots on a graph on a paper? Thanks!

sorry just tried to help. =(. Did you ever learn how to do it again!

Q: Okay my best frann lets call her Ashley.
She talked to my ex bf and pissed him off to where he broke up with meh. I was so mad at her but I was still her best frann bc we have known eachother for 8 years. But Lately we have been getting into big fights and now she won't talk to mehh bc I asked this guy she likes if he liked her and now she hates mehh for askign him that. She won't belive mehh when I say that he said no. She thinks Im lieing. I want to help her but I can't do that if she likes him so much she doesn't want to belive mehh. She won't even look at me now and she told mehh that if I were a true frann I wouldn't lie to her like tht but Im not lieing. I want to work this out but I have to go to the same school as her and she said if I say one thing to her she will tell everyone all my secrets and Im kinda scared. I have tons of other franns but she is making my frann Kelcie hate mehh. I wish I knew what to do.
Your help would be nice.
thanks.
XOXO
shelbyshoo

just ignore her. Talk to kelcie. And if the secrets aren't bad then try to talk to her. Give her a phone call and tell her you would never do anything like that to her. Tell her if she doesn't believe he said no to go and ask him. And if she still tells your secrets and doesn't believe you than she never was a true friend. Plus if you need someone to talk to i'm always here. You can always email me at fuzzy_raiders@yahoo.com or add me on msn which is TabithaS.CCMSchick@hotmail.com if you have it. or just ask me questions on my advice column. Hope i helped.

Tabby

Q: If losing a lot of weight or dieting causes you to skip your period, what do you have to do to keep your cycle & get back on track?? Is gaining back some weight the only option or do you just wait?? Thanks!!

usually gaining back weight won't help either. maybe the problem is something is out of wack so just go to the doctor and they can figure out what the problem is. usually some birthcontrol can fix that problem. Hope i helped =]
any more questions just ask on my column

Tabby

Q: Ok there is this boy that i like and he likes me so wen i am at my locker he always hits me on my butt and i wear a lot of sex bracelets so he is always breaking them but wen me and my friends are walking 2 lunch 2 gether they are always telling him 2 move and that i dont like him even though i do but now 1 of my friends telling me i need 2 go wit him but one of his friends like me and i dont want 2 hurt his feelings but i think i really need 2 go wit the one i really like and not lead his friend on so wat should i do

just tell your friends how your feel about him and that they should understand and be a little more nice to him. Then tell him how you feel about him, if your for sure he likes you then what is the big issue about telling him you like him. Also about his friend just flirt with the one you do like and he will eventually get the hint. Hope i helped =] any more questions just go to my advice column and ask.

Tabby

Q: 15/m
ive been trough many relationships, im a nice guy siriously, well every girl ive gone out with well they all ended up being bitches or something like that and they all broke up with me for dumb reasons like we wern't french kissing by our third day of going out and stuff like that, but this year i met this girl i thought she was different she told me she liked me but that she couldnt have a boyfreind till shes 16 so i told her i would wait, a few weeks later she told me she rather be freinds i told her it was alright but the other day i found out she has a boyfreind already, my point is, it there any girls out there who arent like that who are nice, pretty smart, and have a great personality? or why is it so hard to find someone like that?

I am a 14/f and i know alot about girls and not all of them are b----. you just got to get to know girls a little better before jumping into relationships. And relationships don't happen over night so give it time. Hope I Helped. =] any more questions just go to my advice column and ask

Q: okay this is long and complicated, but if youre reading this. THANKS :)
its really really stupid, and youve probably read like a MILLION problems like this, but if you help me id be really grateful.

Okay so my best friend laura used to go out with this kid jake. jake and i would talk all the time on aim, and he'd tell me like "ohh i kissed laura todayy" and id be like "haha cute" or whatever. but he'd always say "i love you" to me. and i would never say it back, because then laura might take it seriously and hate me, or jake would use it against me. so then they broke up cause laura just didnt like him anymore, and i was still talking to jake. then he started becoming good friends with these two girls i really dont like, meg and michelle. they were really into him and stuff, and theyd talk ALLLLLL the time. i got so jealous. jake was giving them more attention than me. we didnt really talk as much. then one day he randomly imed me, and we were talked for a while. i really started liking him again, but i think he likes meg or michelle. jalksjdfsjld i DONT know what to do. im a shy person, you wouldnt think that cause im funny and pretty outgoing, but i could nver tell jake how i feel, its just not me. i dont know what i should do! i flirt with him a little, and he does back usually, but other than that, what can i do to get his attention?
sorry its really stupid, but thanks

ok first of all you need to tell laura how you feel about jake just to see if it's ok. then if it is tell him how you feel. If everything goes as plan talk to him about when he was going out with laura. How he would IM you saying he loves you. Maybe if you go out with him he will do the same to meg and michelle so talk to him about that stuff. Hope I helped. =]

Q: hey everyone
13/f
i have 5 days to lose some wieght
yes i kno.. i cant lose alot..
but i work out daily i lost a lil but
i just want to kno
how i should eat because my mom makes food for my whole family.. and i accually eat with them but very small portions of food tht they are having and im going to continue to do that but i just wanna know sometimes healthy food dont get me full what do i do??
thanks..

well i am doing the same thing and i noticed i wasn't getting full but one day at school we had really spicy chicken so i had to drink tons of water with it and i got full in a matter of seconds. just drinky plenty of water and you will get full faster with less food. for healthy food i'd recommend like if you have chicken peal the skin of or the bread or just have grilled chicken. POP is bad. Drink 6-8 glasses of water because that helps your metabolism work better and faster so you can eat more. Always eat breakfast, If you don't when it comes lunchtime your starved to death and you eat alot and also why you go with out breakfast your body has to learn how to work on less calories so when you eat lunch you take in more calories than what your body needs. Also if you like mayonaise limit how much you use it because mayonaise is all fat. hope i helped. anymore questions just go to my page and ask.

Q: 13/f sorry for the long story

Well last night I went to my friends beauty pageant. All in this my this boy J was coming (I like him) he sat next to me and stuff. So like he didn't know that I liked him so like through the whole time he was there we were talking. I tried to tell him not to leave because I thought it was disrespectful to leave. Well my friend M was sitting on the right of me and she knew, and she told my friend A who was sitting on the left of J and told her that I liked him, then A text messaged J and told him. But he didn't really care cause he had a gf, but I didn't know that he now knew. So then he was about to leave and I told him not to, but he did but before when I told him to stay he started to say something like "If I knew you liked me I....." and he wouldn't finish his sentence. I am so sad and I just can't get him out of my mind. So I told him "Fine if you don't care about this K (who was in the pageant, and especially me(because I doubt he likes me) then leave." But what really surprised me but made me sad and mad at the same times was that he sad, "I don't mean it that way I do care about you."

But I don't know what way he cares about my so, should I try to call him or wait until school tomorrow, when I don't know if I will see him or not, or just write him a note? Can you give me some advice here?

Ok that is so cool cuz i think he likes you and I think you should call him ASAP. [You can leave me a message in my Inbox and tell me how it goes. Sorry if i'm being nosie]

Hope I helped
Good Luck

-Tabby-