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How do I stop my friend from having sex with the same guy over and over?

well you cant stop her from doing it,
but you can show her some of the risks of having sex, like getting an std. aids. or getting pregnant. dont seem too pushy tho, if she wants to have sex, shes gonna have it, no matter what you say.
i would maybe say..
"im really worried about you, and i think your making a mistake, do you realise what could happen to you from having sex?"

im sure you already know this already, but try avoiding words like hoe, whore, or slut. they'll just make her mad and then she'll totally ignore your advice.

how do u spam a picture on myspace?

you write what your gonna say.
then hit okay or whatever.
then when like it shows you what it would look like.
you just hit the send button like a ton, really fast for as long as you want.
=D

I'm looking into doing a little online shopping for clothes. I'm mostly looking for hoodies (zip up and regular) and jeans (size 18). If I find something good, it's ridiculously expensive. If I find something afforable, it's ugly or they don't have my size.

I've looked at the following websites: Torried, Alloy, Delias, JC penny, Kohls, American Eagle, DEB, and I've found NOTHING.

Does anyone know any cute clothing websites where I can find those items I mentioned? If it helps, I live in the U.S. I doubt I'll be interested in clothing sites for other countries.

torrid has some really really cute stuff.
im not plus size, but they have awesome shoes there!!
and im pretty sure their clothes are pretty cheep too.
(i see that you've already tried torried?? and im not sure if you just spelled torrid wrong so im sorry if this doesnt help youu.)

http://www.torrid.com/torrid/index.jsp

My computer plays horrible and random music 24/7 when I turn on the computer. I've tried to run a virus scan(verizon) everyday and it never seems to solve the problem. The weird thing is that the music continues to play when there are no programs running. it seems like I've tried everything and I don't know what to do.

wow that must be really annoying.
well firstt of all you can put your computer on mute beforee you get it fixed obviously.
i would try calling like a computerr place so they can fix it, like geek squadd.
=D

well theres this tottly hot guy that is in my class. i know he knowws who i am kuz he has my myspace cnad everything. but how do i get him to notice me as more than just some girl??

i would start by talking to him online, so when you do go up to him in person it will seem more natural and not as wierd.

after you talk to him onlinee, whatever you do dont ignore him when you see him in person. you dont have to go up to him and start a conversation. a casual smile or wavee will do.

good luckk =]]
please tell me how it goess.
=D

16/f
i have to baby sit tomorrow. its not that big of a deal because i have dont it many times before, but the thing is i have never met the people. there are gonna be 3 kids ages 2, 6 and like 11. I just wanted some tips on like what to do and how to make it not awkward. thanks.

well as for the kids, it wont be awkward because their pretty little. so as long as your playing with them, they'll be happy.

when you get to the house, the parents will probally just go through basic rules, and tell you where major things are. Theres an 11 year old so she'll probally help you with that im guessing. just try to act realy friendly, also i would deff. make sure you have emergency numbers, and get their adress just in case of an emergency =]]

hope i helped.
let me know how it goes
=D

what can you ask your haircutter to do to make your hair have more volume at the top? not style-wise, but haircut wise with no extra styling necessary. short layers?

layers can deff. give your hair more volume,
when you go to your stylist,
i would just tell her you want a hair cut that will add volume,
she'll know exactly what to do.

i know you said you dont want styling advice,
but i have a few ideas for youu.
when you blow dry your hair,
tip your head upside down,
it gives you a tonn of volumee.

I need some sexy tips...how can i be sexy and turn my boyfriend on?

well first of all being sexy doess NOT mean dressing and looking like a slut.

i just got the alure magazine today, and they have like a 5 or 6 page section that has EVERYTHING about being sexy in it. from hair,makeup,what to say, and how to say it.

if you cant possibly get the magazine beforee you need it, let me know and ill try to tell you some of the majorr details.

But if you can, get that magazine. Becasue it's really long and i'd rather not type it all =]]

good luckk.
pleasee let me know how it works out.
=D

hey, im sorry it took me so long to respond. yeahh it was actually my friends magazinee. and shes on vacation soo i wont be able to write it for you. but you should get the mag. its greattt.

How to get rid of hickeys in an hour?

i would try using liquid cover up,
and then dustingg a little powederr after that.
andd after that..
put a poweder on thats really light, like a white one.
im guessing their probally on your neck right??
deff. wear your hair down,
and maybe a neclace too.
haha good luck =]]
tell me if it works pleasee.

the episode where zack and cody become actors and the 2 punk-ish girls are singing , what's the song , who's the artist and what are the whole lyrics ? thnx so much !!

-StephI

omgg i love that song.
yeahh well someone already answered your question.
but id deff. check out the veronicas.
they have some awesomee songs.
their old ones are the best,
from the album..
the secret life of the veronicas.
let me know if you like them =D

Heeelllloooo, I'm looking for a song that's like "Gone" by Switchfoot... like a song that's about living life to the fullest and living like there's no tomorrow.

Thanks in advance. :)

well if you like switchfoot you'll probally likee...

Mayday Parade.
Boys Like Girls.
Maroon 5.
Daphne Loves Derby.
Jason Mraz.
The Academy Is...
Backseat Goodbye.
Shiny Toy Guns.
The Killers.
Halifax.
Yellowcard.
Hellogoodbye.
Taking Back Sunday.

ok so i've been talking to this guy online. and he goes to a different school then me. im 15 and he is 16. im gonna be a freshmen and he is gonna be a junior. we talk all the time. we get along great. he is always saying im beautiful. and last time he said i reall do mean it. and he is always saying im here for u if u need someone to talk to. and earliar he just gave me his number. oh and he is my ex best friends ex boyfriend. they went out for like a week and a half. i was wondering if he likes me? or has feelings for me?

sry its so long. please help.
:]

yeahhh it sounds like he's realyl into you,
but i would ask him. because you dont wanna be led on thinking he likes you, if he doesnt.
i would maybee ask him who he likess. =]]

How can I be more comfortable talking to people...? It's almost like there's two sides of me; the quiet side, and the never-shuts-up side. I guess I sort of run out of things to say, even around my friends, and then I end up not saying anything at all...

I know that most of you would just say "Be yourself", and I try to, but that still doesn't help at all with my problem.

Please help me, any advice will do. Thanks in advance.

well, no one can tell you how to be yourselff, because then you wouldnt really be "being yourselff".

but i dontt really see what your problem is?
i mean most people have two sides, one thats hyper and one thats not, it just depends like how your day went and what kind of mood your in.

Alsoo everyone runs out of stuff to say sometimes..i mean like youu cant be talking all the time...i guess if it gets awkward, and youu feel like you need to say something justt say something random..
likee..
"i lovee your shirt, where did you get it"
orr
"soo what are your plans for the weekend".

maybee that will start up a conversationn?

I wouldd lovee it if you'd keep me updated,
and tell me if my advicee helped at all =D

on an episode of disney 365, the two kids from the suite life of zack and cody went on a ride at disney(i think thats where it was anyways). it was like a submarine thing. does the submarine actually go underwater when your in it, or does it stay above water?

thanks!

nope.
it doesnt go underwater.
=D

does anyone have a quote or song lyrics about a guy that you like who sort of likes you back but he likes someone else more?
thanks in advance! :)

the veronicas.
everything im not.

The truth is i've been lied to so many times,
i know i come second best to you. i'm not the one you think of & i'm sure as hell not the one you need. so why do you hold on to me? you're making things worse. you're the only thing i have. but to you i'm just the girl you've got cause you can't have the girl you once had. she's your everything while i'm just there. you close your eyes when you look at me to pretend you care. i'm not stupid ; i see it. but my heart just never wants to believe it. so go ahead ; tell me another lie. whisper in my ear & tell me how much you pretend to love me. tell me how much you wish i was her.

Ok well i talked to him about it the whole cheating thing... He told me wut was happening and told me how he can see where im coming from.

We both started crying, and he really isnt the crying type.

Well "Billy" told me that him and "B" had just got into a fight and that "B" would tell me anything to believe it wasnt him. And now that i think about how "B" is. he would lie to me to get me off his back.

well i thought about what i had done and i really regret even thinking that he would cheat, those messages i get now that he explained it.

And he told me about this girl and her b/f kept messin with him and hiz cuz. And my name came out the guys mouth, and when it comes to people he loves- he would prolly kill some1. So he told me what happened and how if it wasnt for his cuzn he would have hit the guy, but he was going to tell me a different story because he knows i dont want him to fight anyone.

Well anyways i get it all now and i feel REALLY REALLY BAD!!
Because he cried and he was dissappointed in me, and thats the crap that gets to me. so i really dont think he did cheat because i dont think he would have cried about it if he did do it.(he didnt cry over just that, there were a couple other things that got to him)

So how do i bring it up again just to apologize?
i said it about 5 times and he said it wasnt all my fault but i want him to know that i really regret even thinking that. So how do i tell him that??
Thanx in advance

well its not your fault at all and it was wrong of him to make you feel bad. you had reason to believe that he was cheating, and you shouldnt have to feel bad about confronting him about it. i really dont think youu need to apologize to him.

I slept in a weird position the other day and since then my neck and part of my back has been hurting me like crazy. Does any of you know certain things I can do to make it feel any better?

have some one rub it for youu =P
take some advil.
if it still hurts in a week
ask your mom to take you to the chiropractor.
but im guessing it'll just go away on its own.
=]]

ok last night at my 13th birthday party i made out for the first time
and after i did it, for some reason i thought it was gross. but i didnt know if i did it right, and i know this guy has a lot of experience. and now im like paranoid this he thinks im terrible. but he knew he was my first.
how do i keep myself from not worrying about it and does anyone have like detailed pointers on the process of making out? haha

thanks in advanceee!

yeahh well alot of people find making out gross. the first few times i did it were horrible, but it'll get better, i promise =]

dont worry about weather or not you were a good kisser, theres nothing you can do now. im sure the guy that kissed you was just happy that he was kissing you (and how well he was doing) im sure he didnt think you were a bad kisser..

if im wrong and he tells everyone that your a horrible kisser..next time here's how you can prove him wrongg.

Take it Easy.
When it comes to kissing, keep your lips soft and gentle. Think of kissing something very tender. You can practice on the back of your hand! There are long kisses, and there are kisses made up of a whole bunch of short, gentle little kisses. Go with the flow, and let your partner take the lead if you are not sure which way the kiss is going. When you are in the middle of the kiss, concentrate on feeling the friction between your lips and his, the electricity when the surface of your lips and his match up, and how each of you are moving your lips in rhythm with each other. Getting out of your head and focusing totally on the physical sensation of the kiss can add some real power and sensuality to your kissing.

Tongue or Not?
Keep in mind that using your tongue is not required for kissing... if you are not experienced, save the French kissing (kissing using your tongue) for later. Lots of the greatest kisses are all about the lips. When you are comfortable kissing your partner, experiment with different ways to taste and nuzzle his lips. Nibble his lower lip lightly (DON'T bite), caress his lips by brushing your lips back and forth against them, lick the outside corners of his mouth, and try using different pressures and movements to gently explore your partner's lips. Notice how good his lips feel against yours, and try different things to make them feel even better!

The Eyes Have It.
As for your eyes, keep them closed once you are into the kiss. You might want to keep them open until you have actual lip contact, so you don't miss and end up with a mouthful of ear. But when the kiss has started, eyes closed is the way to go. It can really help you shut out the world and focus only on the kiss. Also, kissing with your eyes open can weird out a guy, if he happens to catch you doing it. A valuable Jellybean tip: guys who kiss with their eyes open are usually thinking of something else besides you. If you catch your partner kissing with eyes wide, be careful - he might not be good boyfriend material.

The Most Important Lesson.
That's all you really need to know about kissing... except for one more, very important reminder. ENJOY THE KISS. Staying in the moment and enjoying the experience has a lot to do with what makes a memorable kiss. The best way to kill a kiss is to dwell on how you're doing, concentrate too hard on getting the "right" kissing technique down, or let your mind wander to what your partner thinks about you. The single most important thing to remember about kissing is to BE IN THE MOMENT and enjoy the kiss for itself. This is what it's all about... the simplest and greatest of pleasures, the soft friction, the tender wetness, the heat of his face so close to yours... kissing is great. Possibly the greatest. So kiss with confidence... and have FUN!

hope i helped =]

14/f
I'm in love with this guy named "billy" and he has a history of bein a player. but i didnt know this until we got serious.
Well i went through his myspace last night when i was bored...
And he deffinately has a history of playen chicks.

Well we've been dating since 9-21-06..
And there was this on message in there from 4-10-07 and he asked his ex... "ill leave u alone bout it if u let us be friends wiff benfits " word from word of what he said to her!

And there is a bunch of other stuff suggesting he has messed around.

should i let it go because it was in april? and he doesnt really see that girl any way.

I asked him about it and he said "B" has his mysapce password and he said how he was going to get "B" for that blah blah blah. Well i asked "B" about trying to get to him before "Billy" could and he said hell no!

Then i asked if he was sure and i sent him the message he said no i didnt,and i really need to talk to "billy" and i cant let him play me like this...

And i dont know who to believe and i cant stop cryin! And me and "billy" have had lots of fights about this kind of stuff. and sometimes he sounds guilty and other times he doesnt.

I'd really like it if some guys answered this because they are guys and they can prolly tell if he is not more easilsy..or whatever.

I'm trying to stay strong and not worry about it but everything i do normally involves "Billy".
Passwords are his name. and his pictures are everywhere!

Please help me!! And thanx in advance!
If you have any questions about it please ask!
Any advice is helpful right now!
Thanx!! **Me**

unfortunatly, i have alot of experience in this subject, and ill let you know what when ever a guy gets busted for saying something he shouldnt have online, he'll blame it on his friend. (this has happened to me many, many times) soo im guessing it was him who sent the message, i doubt his friend would do that to him, and if his friend really did send it im sure he would admit it to youu.

even though it was a while ago that he cheated on you, you deff. still have a right to be mad.

my advice to you, dump him. he sounds like a hugee jerk. and if he cheated on you once, he's very likely to do it again..

hope i helped
i'd love it if you'd keep me updated =P

Okay, well i am 13, turning 14 in august.. and theres this guy that i have been talking to online for 3 years. he is real, not fake becuase i have seen him in person, and he is my brothers friend. The problem is.. he's 16 turning 17 in august. thats a huge gap. hes going to be a senior and im going to be a freshman when school starts. The thing is, i love him so much. We make eachother happy when we talk to eachother, and things lately, havnt been so good. he one time told me he couldnt ask me out because of my brother. and that hurt me so much. although he did say to wait for the future...! and that was a year ago when he said that, now our converstations have been very short, i havnt said the words i love you for like a year. we still talk and its fun and my heart starts beating when we do. does he feel the same? whats goiing on? help me!

youu should just talk to him.
idkk if he likes you,
and you obviously dont either.
soo the only thing to do is ask him.
i would say something like...
im sure you already know what i have feelings for youu, and im just wondering if you feel the same way, because if you dont im ready to move on, and i'd be nice if you'd let me try..
something along thosee lines =]
andd if he says that he doesnt feel the same way, dont worry about it, im sure you'll find another guy (your age) that will like you as much as you like him. =]]
hope i helped..
i'd lovee it if you'd keep me updated.

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