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My best friend Mike is in Florida for a week starting yesterday (I'm all the way up in Maine) and I miss him already. He just left today, and I've been away from him for about 2 weeks already. I just saw him 2 days ago ... but i already miss him. I'll see him on the 9th but he's my best friend and I haven't really been away from him this long, since we've become the greatest of friends during this past year. What can I do to get my mind off him / miss him less? I can call his cell, but he'll probably be busy down there and talking to me will probably not be his top priority (he's there for a basketball tournament.) Oh yeah and my other best friend Kody is down there with him...so that makes it even worse. haha, any advice's appreciated.

Thanks so much :>).

(p.s.- I'm a girl and 14 - he's 15.)

It sounds like you have more than "friend" feelings for this guy. Actually, I would say that is pretty obvious. Don't call him obsessively. If he has time and wants to talk, he will call you. It's tempting, but fight the urge. Keep yourself busy doing things with other friends, or start reading a really good book that you can't put down. Start some kind of project to devote your time to while he is gone. Just think, when he gets back, you will be happier than ever to see him =)

Good Luck.
Sarah

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ok i like this boy and he likes me to he told that to my face and then said to me that he didnt want to go out with me because he thinks ima going to get as fat as my sister but im not and my sister aint even that big so some one help me and please dont tell me to forget him theres other fish in the sea because i cant forget him its like hes part of me now and i cant get away from him i see him every where i go and i cant avoid him so please some one help me before i go crazy!!!!!!:[

Are you kidding me? Wow, this guy is an ASSHOLE. Don't put up with that. I know that you really like him, probably a lot of it has to do with the fact that he is older. He isn't worth it. Think of what he would be like if you did go out. He would constantly be judging your appearance. It will seriously hurt your self esteem, and you DO NOT need that. Especially not at your age. It will be hard, and I know that you don't want to hear this, but you really need to distance yourself from him. It will benefit you more to make this one hard decision than to deal with the problems it will cause you down the road.

Good Luck.
Sarah

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I was over at this one guys house i have comment him on myspace and stuff. I had a dream I had sex with him. He's really hot.. lol. None the less I was at his house tonight and I was in the kitchen with him alone and I was like wheres your garbage? And he pointed over to where it was with a smile on his face [he was standing in the way with the fridge open so he closed it and smiled at me]. I threw out what i was holding and I went to walk away and he grabbed strawberries out of the fridge he was like hey you want a strawberry? And he opened them for me and held them out to me. I was like sure and I grabbed one and then i was like thank you and smiled at him do you think he was flirting?? or what?

It's hard to tell. How he smiled will really tell you. If you felt like he was flirting with you, he probably was. Go with your gut because it is probably right. Girls have a way of telling when a guy likes her. It could be that he was just being cordial because you were his guest, but most guys are assholes and aren't like that towards girls they don't like, so I would say that it looks pretty good.

Good Luck.
Sarah

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Ok so my crushes brother is about to tell me he likes me, and he doesn't know that I already know since he's so bad at keeping shut with a secret now I really don't want him to like me more than a friend because then my crush will obviously find out and then will respect his brothers feelings and stop flirting, talking, etc with me how do I turn him down nicely without sounding mean and still keep our friendship?

Tell it like it is. Say that you think that he is a really great guy and that you love being friends with him, but that you have a crush on his brother. If you don't tell him that you like his brother, then he is going to feel betrayed when he finds out. Leave everything out in the open. If you don't, then you can never have a relationship with your crush, because of his brother. If this guy really likes you, and you come clean about your crush, he will assure his brother that it is okay to date you.

Good Luck.
Sarah

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I'm a 17 year-old girl and I'm at my first job (I'm not going to name it). I love working at this place because the people I work with are fun, it's right by my house (which is good, since I can't drive yet), the rules aren't strict and I've gotten used to everything.

Here's the problem, I'm about to start my senior year in high school AND I'm going to be getting my driver's license in about a month. When I graduate, I'd LOVE to move out and get an apartment. When I get my license, I'd LOVE to get a car. Thing is, I don't get many hours which means I don't get that much money. I've tried talking to my boss about it, but he says that we have a certain amount of hours we're allowed to give out each day/week and when we opened (a couple months ago) we overhired.

I need more shifts and more money, but I can't get any! I've been looking at other job locations, but none of them seem as appealing and I REALLY don't want to switch jobs because I love my current one so much. But the car and apartment are VERY important to me and I can't make that happen unless I figure something out.

Any thoughts/ideas? Please help me out on this because I have NO idea what I should do.

The reality of it is, you probably aren't going to find another job that you actually like. Most teenagers I know HATE working. Consider yourself lucky to have a job that you like. I wouldn't quit. In time, people will quit and you will have more experience, so you will get more hours. Until then, get another job on the side. Theres nothing in the rule book that says that you can't work two jobs. Just tell each of your managers that you can work on certain (different) days.

Good Luck.
Sarah

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how is weed bad for you?
becides it gets you high and messing wiht ur mind

and health??
like my mom said smokeing pot [[dunno how much]] is equvlent to 10 cigrets??

thanks!
srry for spelling errors!!!

Yes, weed is kind of like cigarettes in the fact that it is terrible for your lungs. In that sense, it has much of the same effect.

It also kills your short term memory. It makes your reaction time slower, and it will slowly thicken the walls of your brain cells until you have trouble processing information. (Basically, it makes you dumber) When you start smoking pot, you will feel that you are not able to think as well as you did when you didn't smoke.

While weed is not addictive, it has been known as a "gateway" drug. This means that once you start smoking pot, you will want to try new, and harder drugs that are addictive. You may think that it won't have that effect on you, but that is kinda like saying that you won't get addicted to a drug. Pot makes you stop caring about things. You won't care about your schoolwork, your family/friends, your reputation, or your BODY.

You will find other drugs more appealing because you will stop caring about the bad effects of them. If you smoke enough, it will be hard to stop. While there is no chemical addiction related to pot, it is still a bad habit to break.

Not to mention the reputation that you will get by smoking, the bad decisions that you will make while you are high, and the legal aspects of it. Trust me from experience, when you are stoned, you don't CARE if you get caught by the cops and go to jail. You wont care that you are driving thirty miles over (more likely under) the speed limit.

Everyone, including myself that I've ever talked to that has smoked pot has regreted it. You will too.

I hope this helped.
Sarah

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i've had an on and off thing with this boy for two years. and we finally started dating less than a month ago. and then this other boy that i started to like less than two months ago hung out with me all night two nights ago. he has a girlfriend. they dated for six months then she cheated on him and he hated her. and about two weeks ago they started dating again. he says he loves her. but anyways, he was really drunk and i was pretty fucked up. me and my friends snuck him into my house one night so we could all watch a movie. the others fell asleep and then he came onto me. and ofcourse i went with it. he ended up sleeping over and we fell asleep in eachother's arms. i told him i really liked him and he said he liked me too. and i meant what i said. i REALLY like him. i don't know what to do...

Well, it sounds like you have a lot to think about. First, you need to decide who you have the most feelings toward. This is a decision that important to make quickly before drama starts and things get out of hand. Keep in mind that you have had an on and off relationship with your current boyfriend for two years. If you didn't like him, I don't think that you would be with him for that long. You obviously haven't gotten tired of him yet, so that is a really good sign.

This new boy, you have only liked for two months. The reality is, you don't know him nearly as well as your boyfriend. If you decide that you like him, be aware that there is a greater chance of you guys breaking up or you deciding that you don't like him anymore.

The second thing that you should take into consideration, is that this boy cheated on his girlfriend. Even though she cheated on him, two wrongs do not make a right, and he shouldn't have done it, no matter how drunk he was. If he was sober enough to come onto you, he was sober enough to know what he was doing and realize that it was wrong. Take it from someone who has a lot of experience... he was using it as an excuse to do something that he knows isn't right. You heard how he felt about his girlfriend after he cheated on her... do you really want your boyfriend to think that way about you?

If you choose to stay with your boyfriend, you are going to have to tell him. Stress the fact that you are sorry and you regret it, but do not use the fact that you were messed up as an excuse, because it isn't. You will lose his trust at first, but you will eventually gain it back. Think, that is way better than having him find out on his own six months from now... he will have way more respect for you if you confess to it and apologize.

Think of this, do you really want to start off a relationship by cheating? That would make a great "how you got together story"...not. You just have to think about what you want, and who knows if this guy is even willing to break up with his girlfriend. But if you really like him, and you want to be with him, then by all means go for it. But be honest with your boyfriend and this new guy. It always turns out better when you don't lie.

Best of Luck.
Sarah

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I really like to go out to the park.. I have one a few streets away from my house. So right next to the park has tennis courts and right behind it has a church. Every time I go there.. there's a little girl there that basically tells my boyfriend and I, that we are Satan worshipers or something.. that we are going to hell because we were kissing [not making out]. we are almost 17! we didn't say anything rude. she also tried to convert my 6 year old sister and ALMOST made her believe that I WAS EVIL! :( So we went there 2 other times and she kept stalking us!

What are we supposed to do? I don't want her to brainwash my sister OR follow us if it's just my boyfriend and me.

I'm afraid she will bring other kids or teenagers around to stalk us.

I always have to leave the park sooner than I want to avoid any problems.

Advice?

Ignoring her is the best thing that you can do. Keep an eye on your sister at the park, and if this girl starts to talk to her, just pull her away. If she follows you around, then just completely ignore her. Just say "okay" and walk away. Eventually, it will get old to her. If she absolutely will not stop, tell her that if she does not stop stalking you, you will tell her parents. Even if this is an empty threat, she will probably listen because that is scary to little kids. If you actually happen to see her mom at the park with her one day, tell her about it. Although, there is a distinct possibility that her mom is just as crazy as she is, so be prepared. Ask her to please keep her daughter from harrassing you, or you are going to have to seek assistance from a higher authority. Be bold about it. If you stand up to her, she will see that she is just a dumb little kid and that you are older and smarter than her. She will stop.

Good Luck.
Sarah

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15/f

I have a friend, who is the biggest ditz ever. I love her and all, and I can be a pretty big ditz myself. But, I do know proper english. I'm not the best, but I'm not stupid, at all. An example of how stupid she is, is the word 'rational.' She thought it had something to do with the goverment... see what I'm dealing with? How do I cope with her? Shes so much fun to hang out with, but when it comes to 'big words' as she puts it, its impossibleee talking to her.

What should I do?

You have to look at the good and the bad in people. If this girl just really isn't bright, then she can't help it and there is nothing that you can do about it. A lot of girls do just put on an act because they think it's cute, so don't laugh at her when she makes a mistake. Just act like she is being serious. If she is, then, well... she is legitamately stupid and you have to overlook it. If she is trying to be cute, then she will see that you don't think it's funny and that it is only making you think that she is dumb. Not many people I know want to be looked at as dumb, so she will probably come around.

Best of Luck.
Sarah

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i know this guy in school i have 2 class with him. im good friends wit his sister both of them now i like him he was a senior this year and i was a jounior. we hang out and talk, we talk more he called and asked if he could see me and i said yes him and his friend came over i talk to him and he told me how he was leavin at the end of augest to got to college. his colletge is like 1hr away and he like he broke up wit his ex a couple of months and that he was lokkend for a girl the he wanted me. but from wut i her from my friend that she is crazy but i dont know if i can trust her wit wut happen wit his brother and his sister also told me that she is crazy. i dont want to deal wit dramma but i do like him and i wanted to date hime for a while. i want to know if i should or let him go to college and prolly never get that chace again
~izzy~

Well, when guys go to college, they want to be able to have fun and go to parties. You know, enjoy the college life. He wants to be able to do his own thing, and this isn't a good time to be starting a relationship with him. Take things slow. Tell him that you don't want to rush into things because you know that he is going to college soon and is going to want to be single once he gets there. Untill then, just have fun with him. You can hang out with him, just not obsessively. Keep in touch with him once he leaves. He will be back on weekends and holidays, and you can go and visit him sometimes too. If you really like him, then there will be a time for a relationship. Untill then, just wait and let him have fun at college. As for the girl, don't let her stand in your way. If she gives you any trouble, just ignore her and eventually she will figure out that you aren't as immature as she is and that you don't care, and she will stop.

Best of Luck.
Sarah

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ok what's the best and worst you can get on a psat.female, in nc.. blah. lol

The best you can get on the PSAT is a 2400 just like the regular SAT. It doesn't count for anything until your junior year though. It's just practice. As for the worst... well you can get any number lower than a 2400.

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When a guy is drunk and you hook up and he act's like he's all touchy when he's drunk and stuff, but not when he's sober, is that just because he's drunk and he's doing weird things or does he like really want you, even when he's sober but doesn't act like it like when it's drunk. Sorry if that doesnt make any sense!

It is really hard to tell. Of course he isn't going to be all over you when he's sober because that would look ridiculous. If he flirts with you when he's sober and is really touchy when he's drunk, he probably likes you. If he wants to hang out with you when he's sober after you have hooked up with him, then he probably likes you. But he could just want to hook up because he is drunk. Guys don't think very much anyways, and when they have been drinking, it is exceptionally bad. If he doesn't even want to hang out with you when you are both sober, that probably isn't a great sign.

Good Luck.
Sarah

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my friend told me that if you think your pregnat you can take the morning after pill. and that should give you an abortion. is that true ? then she told me aftre i take the morining aftre pill i should take another prenacy test four days after. would this work.

If you are already prenant, no you cannot just take the morning after pill to get an abortion, you actually have to have an abortion. The morning after pill only works the MORNING AFTER you have had sex. It will kill any live sperm that is in you to keep you from being pregnant. It won't work if you wait too long after that. If you think that you are pregnant, you need to go to an abortion clinic. I'm afraid that is the only way. Take a pregnancy test before though so you are sure.

Good Luck.
Sarah

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15/F
I haven't started my period yet. But my discharge comes out in clumps, Recently, it smells really weird and is a yellowish color. It's not like it normally is. So is something wrong??

Yes, not to freak you out, but something is definatly wrong. If you aren't sexually active, then it can't be an STD, but if you are, then it could be. They can treat these things fairly easily if they catch it quickly, so you really need to go to a doctor as soon as you can. It isn't going to be bad, but it is important, because something is wrong and you don't want to let it go too long.

Good Luck.
Sarah

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im never gonna try drugs but what would it look like if a person was on lsd? like is there a video of like an example? 13/f

Yeah, like the person below me said, you see some pretty crazy stuff. I had a friend get his head stuck in a mailbox because he thought that there were leprachans in there summoning him to the rainbow. I had another friend that went to jail because he called the police reporting that there was a headless horseman following him, and the punched the officer because he wasn't getting him away fast enough. I could go on forever...

When you do a drug like LSD, you can either have a good trip or a bad trip. It all depends on the mood that you are in and what is going on in your head when you do it. Schycology is a funny thing.

If you have a good trip, you can see happy things and have a really good time, like the leprechan guy. (Still not reccomended because it is EXREMELY dangerous and will NEVER get out of your system. They will be able to tell that you did it forty years from now... scary huh?)

If you have a bad trip, however, you can see some scary stuff. People have gone crazy and killed themselves from stuff they have seen on LSD. You can totally get yourself into a different world. Once you take the drug, you have no control. It's luck, really.

Hope this helped.
Sarah


Haha, I don't think he actually could, but when you are that messed up I'm not sure that you're thinking that well to notice that it isn't logical. I never really asked him.

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well, i have tried like three diffrent deoderants/anti-perspirants and none of them seem to work. ive tried, suave, dove& ban. but everyime i wear a tightish shirt i get sweat stains, and its really embarrasing. and i don't know if its the dedorant or me.
thanks in advancee! :D

Try taking a shower the night before and putting a layer of deoderant on before you go to bed, and then when you wake up in the morning, put another layer on. This works really well. Degree for women and Secret Platinum work really well. I've never liked any of the ones you've tried, so don't worry.

Good Luck.
Sarah

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Okay.I'm really stuck guys.I'm so mad and sad and frustrated with everything.There's this guy that I like.Let's call him Clayton.And Clayton is such a sweetheart and I can tell him anything and I know he'll listen.But me and him like..I don't know..he just doesn't like to make conversation at all.Unless I bring something up.And it usually goes like this:
Me: ...
Clayton: ?
Me: Oh nothing
Clayton: say it
Me: no
Clayton: why
Me: because
Clayton: just say ittt
And it goes on and on.And usually I only do that so he talks.Lol.Because otherwise, I really don't know what to talk about myself.And he doesn't like to open up to me..and it makes me mad.What do I do?

Haha well that's no basis for a relationship. Ask him questions. Ask what he did today. If he says nothing, say something witty like, "You didn't even eat? Wow!" That's bound to force him to tell you what he did. Then comment on something that he did. Tell him about your day. Then start asking other questions. About anything! If it comes to the point where you can't think of ANYTHING, tell him you want to play a game. A good one is "Never have I ever" take turns asking questions like... never have I ever been out of this country. If you have been out of the country, you lose a point. You start out with ten points and the winner is the one thats points last the longest. Suggest this to him. While you are playing, play off the questions that you guys ask. Ask him things and get a convo started. It sounds dumb, but it's a good icebreaker. You should try it!

Best of Luck.
Sarah

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ok...im 13 and so is my friend..but she has some..well..problems..heres how it goes..a few weeks ago i saw my best friend that i hadn't seen in 3 years..she ended up staying the night at my house a whole week two weeks later..she told me everything that happened since we had last seen eachother..she told me that she used to cut herself and had an eating disorder and she still did it once and a while..im worried that she might end up harming herself..she told me she had it under control but i dont beleive her..she said that it was addictive and i dont know what to do..i told her that i wouldnt tell no body so im not going to..so please dont tell me to tell someone..if you could send me some websites for her to look at or something like that it would be a LOT of help...or even give me a few things i could say to her..i plan on telling her how i feel next time i see her..but i need something more..help!

Forcing infomation down her throat is NOT going to help her. It will only make her resent your freindship. You haven't seen her in three years. That's a lot of time apart. It isn't like you can act like you are a major part of her life. She knows the dangers of what she is doing and she obviously wants to stop. Just say to her "I know that you going through a lot and I trust that you are trying to better yourself. Just know that I am here to support you and please come to me if you ever need help." Then check up on her every couple of days. Pull her aside and privetely ask her how she's doing. Ask her if she is sure and if she wants to talk. Don't push it too much, but let her know that you care and that you are thinking about her. I'm afraid that this is all you can do. The ultimate decision for her well-being is left to her. You cannot change that, all you can do is offer your support and help if she needs it.


Best of Luck.
Sarah

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17/f my boyfriend moved to florida and i live in texas. my dad said i can either visit him over thanksgiving break or christmas break. the other break we will take a family vacation. i know 3 of his friends are trying to go there over thanksgiving break. his friends are nice and all but it would be more fun if i could just hang with him. but if i went over thanksgiving i would have more time with him and it would be less expensive. but i spent new years with him this year and i would love to do it again. if you were me, when would you pick?

Christmas is a more personal time. His buddies won't be up there, so you can be with him alone. This is the time I would choose. While you know he's DYING to see you, he's also dying to see his buddies, and the bonding time isn't the same when you bring a girl into the picture. Let them have their guy time over Thanksgiving, and you go see him over Christmas. It is a more special holiday, so it should be spent with his most special guest, you.

Best of Luck!
Sarah

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Alright, so theres this girl who i really really like. The thing is its been a while since ive talked to her. So i have been talking to her recently, but im not sure what i should talk to her about? I told her how i feel, but i like her so much, that i just want to talk to her a lot, just to make her laugh, or happy, what should i do?

It's good that you told her how you feel. But don't be too crazy about it. A simple "I like you" will do. Don't freak her out. But besides that, just act cool. Be yourseelf, but don't be too over-the-top obnoxious. Just be laidback and sweet, and ask her to hang out sometime. What do you have to lose?

Wishing you the Best,
Sarah

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