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boys. PLEASE HELP ME.
i've had an on and off thing with this boy for two years. and we finally started dating less than a month ago. and then this other boy that i started to like less than two months ago hung out with me all night two nights ago. he has a girlfriend. they dated for six months then she cheated on him and he hated her. and about two weeks ago they started dating again. he says he loves her. but anyways, he was really drunk and i was pretty fucked up. me and my friends snuck him into my house one night so we could all watch a movie. the others fell asleep and then he came onto me. and ofcourse i went with it. he ended up sleeping over and we fell asleep in eachother's arms. i told him i really liked him and he said he liked me too. and i meant what i said. i REALLY like him. i don't know what to do...
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You have a ton of things to think about here. The fact that you're dating someone & that you like someone else. Someone that just doesn't happen to be him.
I think your answer is obvious. Do you stay with the boy you're dating, or do you go for the boy you like? Well, the boy you like has a girlfriend that he apparently hates yet says that he loves. And you're dating someone.
I personally think you need to stay with your boyfriend. You've been on&off for 2 years & you're finally official. Why break it off for some guy who doesn't know how he feels about his girlfriend...or you? Yeah, he may have SAID he liked you, but sweetie, he was TRASHED. The things you say when you're trashed & the things you say when you're sober are completely different & you should realize that.
You need to sit down & have a talk with these guys about where things are going & you need to base your decision off of how you feel & what happens. If you do see that this guy was trashed & would probably say anything, then stay with your boyfriend. You need to make the right choice, and I can't tell you what to do, but I can at least guide you. If you'd like more help about this, you can inbox me, or leave me your sn in the feedback & I'll help through AIM. =)
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Well, it sounds like you have a lot to think about. First, you need to decide who you have the most feelings toward. This is a decision that important to make quickly before drama starts and things get out of hand. Keep in mind that you have had an on and off relationship with your current boyfriend for two years. If you didn't like him, I don't think that you would be with him for that long. You obviously haven't gotten tired of him yet, so that is a really good sign.
This new boy, you have only liked for two months. The reality is, you don't know him nearly as well as your boyfriend. If you decide that you like him, be aware that there is a greater chance of you guys breaking up or you deciding that you don't like him anymore.
The second thing that you should take into consideration, is that this boy cheated on his girlfriend. Even though she cheated on him, two wrongs do not make a right, and he shouldn't have done it, no matter how drunk he was. If he was sober enough to come onto you, he was sober enough to know what he was doing and realize that it was wrong. Take it from someone who has a lot of experience... he was using it as an excuse to do something that he knows isn't right. You heard how he felt about his girlfriend after he cheated on her... do you really want your boyfriend to think that way about you?
If you choose to stay with your boyfriend, you are going to have to tell him. Stress the fact that you are sorry and you regret it, but do not use the fact that you were messed up as an excuse, because it isn't. You will lose his trust at first, but you will eventually gain it back. Think, that is way better than having him find out on his own six months from now... he will have way more respect for you if you confess to it and apologize.
Think of this, do you really want to start off a relationship by cheating? That would make a great "how you got together story"...not. You just have to think about what you want, and who knows if this guy is even willing to break up with his girlfriend. But if you really like him, and you want to be with him, then by all means go for it. But be honest with your boyfriend and this new guy. It always turns out better when you don't lie.
Best of Luck.
Sarah
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