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How Can I Help??
ok...im 13 and so is my friend..but she has some..well..problems..heres how it goes..a few weeks ago i saw my best friend that i hadn't seen in 3 years..she ended up staying the night at my house a whole week two weeks later..she told me everything that happened since we had last seen eachother..she told me that she used to cut herself and had an eating disorder and she still did it once and a while..im worried that she might end up harming herself..she told me she had it under control but i dont beleive her..she said that it was addictive and i dont know what to do..i told her that i wouldnt tell no body so im not going to..so please dont tell me to tell someone..if you could send me some websites for her to look at or something like that it would be a LOT of help...or even give me a few things i could say to her..i plan on telling her how i feel next time i see her..but i need something more..help!
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Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship?
You ask for help, then restrec some of the options. If you truly want to hel your friend, you need to tell someone. As hard as it may seen ask a parent, teacher, guidance coinseler.. anything about cutting and how to treat it. Dont mention names.. just voice it.
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What is your friend interested in reading, watching television, movies, maybe you can recommend a book, tv show, or movie you enjoyed which relates to this topic and how to deal with it, although telling her how you feel is a great idea don't say it all at once because if you do you might scare her or make her go all defensive, and remember she told you this which means she trusts you a lot.
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ok well u plan on telling her how you feel next time you see her right. Well just simply say ok i need to talk to you. come out and say its about your problems you are having and the rest will come out trust me. And dont be afraid to cry if you cry it is so much more better for the situation because it lets her know that its hurting you inside and she will feel the pain as you are. also about telling someone well first tell her how you feel and tell her she needs to change if not you are going to have no choice but to inform someone on what you are doing. It is always best that you tell someone because if she gets really hurt all you will do is blame yourself and you will live with that for along time and we dont want that because you might do some really stupid stuff as well. And the websites are not really hard to find just simply type in what you looking for and it will pop up. GOOGLE it. but dont be afraid to tell her exactly how you feel whether it sounds mean or not. And if doing this means losing her friendship its better than she losing her life.
GOOD LUCK XOXOXOXOXO
let me know if you need anything more
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Maybe tell her that you wont talk to her untill she stops for good?.. if she really cares about your friendship, she will. I hope I helped<3
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Forcing infomation down her throat is NOT going to help her. It will only make her resent your freindship. You haven't seen her in three years. That's a lot of time apart. It isn't like you can act like you are a major part of her life. She knows the dangers of what she is doing and she obviously wants to stop. Just say to her "I know that you going through a lot and I trust that you are trying to better yourself. Just know that I am here to support you and please come to me if you ever need help." Then check up on her every couple of days. Pull her aside and privetely ask her how she's doing. Ask her if she is sure and if she wants to talk. Don't push it too much, but let her know that you care and that you are thinking about her. I'm afraid that this is all you can do. The ultimate decision for her well-being is left to her. You cannot change that, all you can do is offer your support and help if she needs it.
Best of Luck.
Sarah
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