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Im thinking about getting a pit bull puppy. I was wondering if anyone has a pit bull and what they could tell me about their experiences and what advice they could give. Anything is appreciated!! (link)
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Both my dogs are half pit bull . they are very loving well behaved dogs and get along with my cats and toddler. Most any dog will be a good choice as long as they are raised right. I have known quit a few people with pure pit bulls and most were very good dogs but I have heard instances of a seemingly good pit snap and bite a child or person. my one friend with a pit that normally was good around animals but one day killed the neighbors cat. that could happen with almost any breed of large dog though I guess. Just make sure you do enough research before actually making the adoption/purchase. have fun with your new dog!
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here is a little about me and my situation
*18 female
*virgin
*been on birth control for about two years now
*i've had horrible discharge, it's clear but i have so much of it
*i've been to the doctor, asked her about it and there is nothing i can do
*i have to wear a tampon everyday AND a pantyliner because it's so bad
*i know using a tampon everyday is horrible but there is no other option, otherwise it will get all over the place
*i wear thongs all the time, don't know if you needed to know that but just a fact.
my question is, before i have sex i don't want to have a pantyliner on that just isn't sexy and if i don't wear a tampon my underwear will get all gross! i don't want to be like, i have to go to the bathroom because what if it just happens you know! even if it wasn't about sex and he was going to finger me or something i just hate having so much discharge and having that gross feeling in my underwear. and i don't want the guy to be like ok gross your underwear is all wet and nasty? does this happen to anyone else? also i don't know if wearing the tampon causes this but i have this weird smell from my vagina. i wash it with water everyday. it's not like HORRIBLE but i don't know if its normal? what are some suggestions for before i am "sexually active" i just don't know what to do.... (link)
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You could wear a pantyliner that day and just tell him you have to pee or just use the bathroom before things get intense, it really wouldnt be that weird because he would understand if you had to "pee" before sex or foreplay. then just take out the tampon/ pantyliner and wipe yourself dry or maybe rinse. Dont worry about discharge though, men like when you are wet down there and it is much better than being too dry anyway. He will be flattered if your underwear is wet because it will mean you want him. And the drinking water thing is a good idea so try that too. Don't worry it will be fine!
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im 13 and i really get horny sometimes and i no it aint a bad to masturbate but is it to early to lose my virginity ? ? ?
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You are sort of young. But if you feel you are ready and are educated on sex and pregnancy and STDs then you could be ready. It is important to be aware of sexual risks early on and use protection every time. If you are very horny all the time you could always do other things with boys besides sex that would make you feel good too. In other words, there is all the other bases before you get a home run! lol. Just be careful and make the right decisions. Some girls' first time is extremely important to them so make sure you choose the right guy.
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do nose piercings look trashy or slutty?
anyone with a nose piercing-- do they scar if you take them out, and do they get infected easily? (link)
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I do not think they look trashy. I have my nose pierced and it was never infected nor has it scarred. My friend, however, got her nose pierced and had problems with it. Her hole stretched larger than it was supposed to and did get infected once. Most people I know though don't have problems like that...I guess it depends on the quality of work the piercer does and how well you care for it.
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for about two weeks, my poop has been floating! its so weird! i havent changed my diet at all. i have actually been eating way better than i did in the summer. i looked it up on the internet and it said too much gas and fat but i dont eat much fat and my diet hasnt changed AT ALL so i dont know whats going on? please help me, this is getting on my nerves. thanks in advance! (link)
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I could be wrong, but I heard/read somewhere that if you are eating nutritiously your poop is supposed to float and it is a sign of a healthy diet.
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Please do not judge me, or lecture me, just advice. 18/f
well i have this friend m and he is so sweet to me, and we text every freakin day, and he is always begging me to hang out with him, and if i ask him to come see me at work...he does :)
he's told me that he liked me, and is always texing me first and tells me im cute...blah blah...seems like things are going good right?...wrong, he has a girlfriend.
i always am asking him about her, like should'nt you be paying attention to her and not texting me, and he'll just be like nah, shes fine, or your funner to talk to anyways...and stuff.
well ive hung out with both of them, and she is ALL over him every time.
it bugs...
and he'll end up texting me the same night.
but i honestly dont know what to do.
i like him a lot...and i know he likes me, but i dont know what to do about his gf...???!!!
her own brother even thinks she's crazy...
should i go for it, give it time, leave it alone...anyone been in this situation??? (link)
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I'd say give it some time. You don't want to be the one responsible for the break-up of a relationship..it could cause this girl to make you her enemy and cause more unneeded drama. If he really likes you and not her, hopefully he will eventually realize on his own and break up with her. just continue to be friends with M and see where time takes you two. Good luck
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deal is that this guy i have known since 6th grade has liked me so much im in 11th grade now and he still likes me and im starting to like him little by little but i dont want to be with him till after higschool because if i was to ever be with him i would want it to last and i think that in highschool it will make things too hard and he says he wants to be at least friends with benefits but i dont really want to because that will make things harder..im scared to be with him hes such a good guy and hes not bad looking and hes the only guy i can really talk to cause he knwos alot about me.but i dont know what i should do.we have both changed alot since 6th grade and i dont know if i should be with him now or wait.we dont hang out we just talk everynow and then.its kinda dull when we do talk.maybe we dont have alot in common and im forcing myself to like him..i dont know..i needd helppp!
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How strong is your friendship bond? If you've already been this close for the last 5 years there could be a chance it would work out without ruining your friendship. It also sounds like you care a lot about the guy because it is pretty smart to not want to date until after high school, as most relationships don't last after those years. My best guy friend from middle school and high school and I became friends with benefits on and off until we were 21. (I'm 25) we are still close as ever and just don't have sex because we have our separate lives..so it is possible to be friends with benefits and maintain a lasting relationship of some sort. But there are sometimes complications and emotions that get too involved...so it really just matters on how strong your friendship is.
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what are the first signs of being pregnant? when do they usually start appearing? (link)
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Morning sickness is a first sign. The first sign that I noticed when I was pregnant,however, were sore breasts. I noticed this just about a week after my missed period. They also grew bigger right away.
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I have a Maine Coon cat and I've been feeding him Iams cat food since I found some Iams printable coupons online. He's my first Maine Coon cat (well, really my first cat) and when I went to the store I noticed that Iams had a variety of different cat food flavors. It made me very curious about what cats like to eat.
The Iams printable coupons I have do not specify which flavor I have to buy to get a discount (or free bag in a few cases) so I'm not limited to one particular flavor of Iams cat food. I really just want to make my Main Coon cat happy and healthy.
So, I was thinking about my Maine Coon cat and how I'd feel if I had to eat the same cat food every day. Basically what I want to know is if I should change his cat food every so often to give him a little change in his diet. Should I change brands or stay with Iams cat food? Should I buy two bags of Iams cat food and alternate them every other day for his benefit? Should I alternate between wet and dry cat food too or just stick with the dry Iams cat food I have been feeding him? Or am I completely wrong and they hate variety in what they eat?
Any information on how to properly feed a cat would be appreciated! (link)
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You could use one type of Iams dry cat food and every other day or so give your cat a can of wet food. That would give it variety and keep it on a steady healthy diet at the same time. I really don't think they get tired of eating the same thing..my cats are always happy to eat the food every day but are especially excited about the canned food.
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i really like this guy that is bi-racial. (black and white)
and i don't know if my family would accept it or not but i'm not sure that i care..
is there anything wrong with a white girl dating a bi-racial boy?
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no, there is nothing wrong with that. If you like him, then what does it matter the color of his skin? You already are attracted to him so looks are taken care of. Hopefully your family will see him for who he is and respect the fact that you like eachother and be fine with it.
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This is the first cell phone I ever got and the first cell phone anyone in my house ever got. It's Virgin Mobile. I'm on prepaid services (that means i can pay as i go right? I won't use it a lot).
On the box in the front, it says "Be up $50 on prepaid $35 and get a $15 credit when you activate online".
What's "prepaid" and "credit"?
I logged into my account on their website and under ACCOUNT BALANCE it says:
Top up Balance: $15.00
Expires On: 04/Sep/2008
"Expires"?! and where did the $35 go? (link)
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I have pre-paid virgin mobile as well. The 35 dollars was charged to your account to activate your minutes. The account balance is what is left over, which it sounds like in your case was a promotional thing. You can use that 15 dollars over the month on texting or ringtones or pictures, or if you go over your allotted minutes. If you don't use the 15 dollars you can use it next month, like on sept 4 when you need to top up, you only need to add 20 dollars if you pay 35 a month. Hope that makes sense. beware of hidden charges.
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In a few days I want to try salvia divinorum. Preferrably outside at night time and laying on the ground staring at the sky. However, my best friend is going to be my "sitter." She has made it clear to me that she is going to treat me like a stupid drunk person, which she treats like crap--cussing and pushing them around. She also said I couldn't go outside and that she'd lock me in a room. I have a feeling that would negatively affect my trip, which kind of messes up the purpose. I've told my friend that she's not even really supposed to talk to me while I'm on it, she doesn't care. She is very selfish and overbearing. I don't want her to be my sitter, but I think she's the one buying the stuff. I think I'll buy my own, though. What do I tell her in order to find a different sitter? Also, I don't have a pipe to use because she doesn't want to get the residue in hers...is there anything else I can do to smoke it (i.e., roll it)? Any extra tips ab salvia would be appreciated. (link)
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Well, you could just go ahead and get your own and not tell your friend that you are doing it. That is really not very nice of her to want to treat you like that during your experience, especially since it is nothing like being drunk. So i would say, definitely to not do that around her! If you do not want to hide the fact that you are doing it without her you could just be honest and nicely explain why you do not want be around that type of energy during your trip. Maybe you could convince her to be nice and not talk to you and just sit there quietly, which really would not be hard since it does not last long at all. You could tell her you will clean her pipe out really good after you use it so no residue would be left. You can buy a pipe cleaner solution or boil it clean. You probably could roll it up too, but it would be a bit of a waste since you only need a hit or two. anyway, good luck, make sure you have a clear head beforehand and a good attitude and you are somewhere safe.
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bulimia
ok how bad is it really?
i just want to loose weight really fast.
ive been doing it for two weeks now and i cant even stop anymore...i dont know if thats a good or bad thing. (link)
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The health effects are horrible and you do not want to go through that. google the dangers of bulimia and it will change your mind. and actually, most people who are bulimic do not lose weight because their body is still absorbing calories and you tend to eat more when you know you are going to throw it up. IT IS A BAD THING i have known people who have done it for years and it screws up your body big time, think tooth decay, estophogus problems and perhaps an eventual heart attack. stop now if you care about your health. If you want to lose weight quickly cut calories and exercise. eat fruits and vegetables and lean protein and don't drink anything but water or unsweetened tea. good luck
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I hear that guys like girls to be shaved down *there*.
Then i heard guys like the 'landing strip' better.
Do you like guys to be shaven? Do you ever shave yourself?
any input?
thnx! (link)
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most men's preferences are different. it seems though that most like at least most of the hair removed. However, some do not mind the "all natural" look. Personally I do not like a man to shave himself down there because it is too girly to care that much, and i am into the more natural man look, but that's just me.
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what are the names of dogs that are born little and stay small throughout their life. i want a cute little pup that will stay small and easy to deal with :) help! :) (link)
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any dog with the name "miniature" will stay small. for example, miniature pinschers, poodles, and more. also, chihuahuas are very small. Google miniature dogs and you will find a great variety
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hi everyone =] 16/f
soo for a month or so i was hooking up with this boy who was 21. its pretty bad i know. but anyway, then he told me he has a girlfriend (who is also 21)
i should have ended thigns between us right there but he was so manipulative that i coudlnt bring myself to do it. i always tell him no when he asks to see me and he tells me i break his heart all the time.yesterday i saw them both at the local pool and he was starring at me the entire time and acting weird towards her. i feel bad. should i tell her or is it not my buisness?
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It is true that it is not your business, and they are the ones in the relationship and need to work it out themselves. But then, you have to ask yourself if you would like to know if you were in her shoes. whichever way you feel stronger about follow that lead. you could also tell this guy that either he can tell her or you will, and give him fair chance to be honest with her. good luck
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me and my ex of almost 2 years broke up about 2 months ago.. we talk once n awhile.. & i REALLY miss him.. about 2 weeks ago i told him that i really miss him and what not and he said he just doesnt think it can work. we dont really talk much, but i miss him SOOOO much. i think i love him.. how do i win him back. what should i do to show him how much i care instead of soundding so annoying & needy? please help.. (link)
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Yes, you do have to realize that if he does not want you, give it space. Women are always more desirable when it seems like they cannot be had. If there is a chance that he would want to be with you again, he would most likely realize it if you gave him distance. You can use this time away from eachother to grow personally, get to know yourself well and build up confidence. Do things for YOU and think a lot about who you are and who you want to be. When this is all said and done you will probably find out whether you two are meant to be together or if it is time to move on. Just know too that there are many fish in the sea
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Ok, so my hair stylist told me I shouldn't use baby shampoo on my kids. She claims that tear-free soaps and shampoos contain Novocaine or something similar.
Now, I'm no fool. I go home, first thing I do is read the ingredients listed on the bottle of shampoo. Nowhere do I find Novocaine, or any other "caine" type of ingredient.
So I tried looking it up online. Someone asked it on Yahoo Answers and said it also contains formaldehyde.
What the...? Come on! Give me a break, already, ok?
I'm not very internet savvy, so that's the best I could come up with. So please don't tell me to Google.
I don't need to have this concern about the soap that goes into the eyes, noses, ears, and sometimes mouths of my children!
Please! Somebody give me a FACT.
Solid Fact.
Links to reliable sources GREATLY APPRECIATED.
Don't worry that you may do looking for nothing- I do rate accordingly.
Thanks for your help...
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although I do not have solid info on your question, i would like to add something. You cannot go wrong with Dr. Bronners hemp soap. I use the baby soap on my son and also the rose scented soap. There are no chemicals and I feel completely comfortable using it on him and it causes no irritation or dryness. It may sting a bit if it hits his eyes, but I am just extra careful.
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Me and my best friend have been close for about 7 or 8 years now. We have had a pretty good friendship, with the occasional argument here and there, but very seldomly. Anyways, me and my boyfriend(my child's father) broke up 3 months ago and he moved out. 1 month ago, he moved back in and we are trying to work things out. Now, when my boyfriend was gone, me and my best friend pretty much talked on the phone everyday for hours at a time. Now that he's back, we don't do that as often. She used to come over every single weekend. She is also the god mother of my son. Now that my boyfriend is back, obviously, it is not right to still have her over every weekend. My boyfriend and her are fine with eachother, except my boyfriend feels she shouldnt come over every weekend because me and him both work all week long and weekends are more like "family time" and relaxation to him. I understand that, however, would like to see my friend as well. Even if I try and talk on the phone to her, and he just walks in from work, he gets upset because I don't stop to give him a kiss and say how was your day? Me and my best friend have talked maybe twice in 2 weeks, which is a DRASTIC change. She just told me tonight that she's done trying to call me and hear all my excuses lately as to why I don't call her or why we can't hang out. One, she lives 20 mins away and gas is expensive. Two, I work overnight AND have a 6 month old baby, so time to sleep and still get things done is precious at times. And three, I honestly do not want to argue or deal with the stress of my boyfriend and hearing him say he would like to spend the weekend spending time with me, but does it EVERY weekend. What should I do?? (link)
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WOW you sound a lot like me. I am in pretty much the same situation. my advice would be...do what YOU want to do. If you wanna hang out with your best friend, do it...and you still can find time for family time. I work nights as well and weekends are family time...but I always make time for my best bud. Stand up to him, let him know that you make your own decisions, you still love him and want to hang out with him but your best friend is important too, and you would like to see her more often. He may have problems with it at first, but eventually he will probably realize that to keep you he has to let you have your freedom. One thing I do is go out with my friend one night and have a great time then ask her really nice and maybe offer her some money to babysit one night so I can have a night with my boyfriend. good luck
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What do you do when the person you like a LOT is talking to WAY prettier girls? Do you keep liking them and pursue them anyway? Or just give up? :( (link)
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If you like someone, don't give up unless you know they never will have feelings for you. Looks are not everything. Even men and boys feel that way deep down. A really beautiful girl may not have much personality at all, whereas then they would chose the "less pretty" girl because they actually have a brain and a good fun personality
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